₦airaland Forum

Mrdrix:
A Successful woman does not necessary mean does who have made it to the peak in their career. There are other facet of success a woman can attain, like a successful wife, mother etc.

redhook:
.....Bros! Next time don't use YOUR point of view or those around "YOU" that you claim to have "HEARD" from to form a general opinion on a thread! Generalisation is either due to a lack of exposure or experience! No vex, Shalom!

Bluetooth2:
Stop being judgemental. It's part of an average man to want to provide for his wife and the African culture only made it traditionally conspicuous because almost all the responsibilities fall on the man.

In the west, the responsibilities are shared between the couples which remove pressure on the men unlike in Africa or Nigerai where the man has to do all the spending even when the woman has her own money. It's not really about inferiority complex but the feeling of damnation as regards not being able to perform his roles as dictated by African settings.

PS- if you want to know how it feels, stop working and let your wife takes all the responsibilities. Come back and tell us who's the boss.

benuejosh:
I think I love the other guys to be like me. One of my rules and conditions for marrying a lady is, She MUST NOT BE DEPENDENT. I can't be there working all alone to make ends meet. She MUST have something doing o. So I don't care if she is financially buoyant than myself.

IzonOwei:
I want my wife to be successful...but she should learn to be humble along with the success...that is all...

Tallesty1:
Married? I think No?

Dated an independent woman? I guess NO too and yet you are talking?

Isn't experience the best teacher?

Do you think wife and girlfriend are thesame thing?

Do you have friends that are married to richer women? Have you visited them at home to see how they are being treated?

FYI, Nigeria men are not scared of successful women rather they are scared of control freaks. The type of woman that only feels good about herself if she makes you feel less than her. These are the women that my brothers are scared of.

I have said this before and I will say it again, every man prays for his wife to be successful too. That's why most Igbo men I know open shops for wives once they marry them so that they will start hustling. Are you saying that they open shops for these women and then turn around to pray against their success?

You amaze me op.

Most men insist that their wife must be a graduate, why?

Don't just jump from nowhere and start writing stuffs just to get likes without researching your topic properly. Sha, you have given some half-baked-feminist on here something to talk about but who cares?

NOW LISTEN.

Picture a woman who has personality disorder, someone who automatically become enraged or sullen and withdrawn if she doesn’t get her way. Someone who needles you endlessly until you capitulate, someone whose mood becomes buoyant as she cuts you down. Someone who makes you feel useless, disoriented and helpless.

Then picture where this woman is richer than her husband.

What Do You See?

LISTEN AGAIN.

There are things one needs to succeed in business and work. These things are direct opposite of what we need to have successful marriage and most of these successful women do not know where to cut the line.

To succeed in business, you have to be stubborn, in control etc. Bring these things into your marriage and you are fuked. Some successful women would rather blow the house up and everything in it than compromise or take personal responsibility. Who Wants This?

Women Naturally want to exert control over everything. They enjoy to make those around them feel inadequate, insecure, nervous, angry, anxious and physically sick.

Go to married men that have richer wives and ask them, they will tell you that the message their women pass in everything they do is I don’t trust you to be able to do it right; I don’t respect your judgment; I don’t think you are competent; I don’t value your insight. I can do it all alone

Money brings out the demon in everybody and most women do not know how to control this demon yet.

I Have A Feeling That You Are Eyeing A Rich Sister.

pacino26:
I think the topic is over rated. And to your question I'll gladly do, you've to know your self worth as a human being then understand your worth as a man not tied to your acc balance.

Plus what's the definition of a successful woman@ Op

Naijaonlinegists:
Thank God you know! I'll never marry a banker.

Ralphlauren:
did you really type this You see nothing wrong in mocking a man's late wife and child ? Please speak for yourself and not for other Nigerians. How will you feel if you suffer such personal tragedy and then one idi0t uses it to mock you years down the line? Just to score cheap personal or political scores?

c'mon, they talked about his late wife and also his late daughter (his first child) that died of sickle cell.

that is the lowest of lows.

Jonathan's wife (Patience) is barren. Do you know how unfortunate that is? All jonathan's kids were fathered by other women ( a man that goes from one church, prophet, bishop, etc to another). Yet, APC never used this to campaign against him in whatever form.

Olaolufred:
[size=14pt]IF EBUN ALSO USE THE WORD, "BAN" AS THE OP CLAIMED,

THEN, THEY ARE BOTH IGNORANT.

BAR IS NOT SYNONYMOUS TO BAN. [/size]

dearpreye:
The dictator is back!

TheFreeOne:
A yoruba adage says "A kid standing will not see what an elderly saw while sitting". Its unfortunately people accused Ait of lying with those documentaries.

oloyede252:
mr rap.people have thier set standard so if a man those not want that,it doesnt mean he is scared or have low mentality.it simply means he want what he is comfortable with..so if you are comfortable with that good for u..
So ladies who prefer to date rich guys is that low mentality or are they scared too.

Medley:
its a welcome development,according to APC.

In this 21st century if this is the way wrong journalism is corrected,then the media will be gagged to only pass news and information that must favour the presidency. This may be the beginning to lack of press freedom and FOI. Lets be careful in praising this step

TheFreeOne:
When some of us said Gmb is not fit nor qualified to lead a complex nation like nigeria his gullible followers replied with insults.

Buharis mind is still trapped in the 80s military era and decrees. How can an intelligent person keeps making such serious mistakes so early except his mind is warped

Didn't he promised not to gag the press

AllenG:
Guys, this whole tribalism on both sides is getting out of hand. Nigeria doesn't need this. My worry is that it extends beyond social forum into homes & offices.
GEJ is a good man as a person; he's done his part & he's on his way out. Let's not begrudge him the statesmanship he achieved by willingly conceding, even if we do not like him.

I am not from the North but I believe Buhari will move Naija forward. And when he does tackle Corruption, everyone including Igbos and Yorubas will benefit. He was right on Christianah Amanpour "if Nigeria does not kill Corruption, Corruption will kill Nigeria". He probably won't perform a miracle but he will do enough for each Nigerian to feel it.

Back to the topic, as Nigerians we must try and do our research very well before issuing a statement of fact. OP, the White-House took a bit of their frustration back on Fox news (follow proper news please). It happened early in the administration; the other White House correspondence even complained. Did you also know that CNN & probably MSNBC were going to do a documentary on Hillary Clinton this year or next and the RNC threatened not to invite them to their conference if they ran the documentaries. Let's always get the facts right please.

I am not supporting the President-Elect's decision but let's respect it. Guys, let both losers & winners be gracious (even on this forum)

iliyande:
Sorry, not tribalism, but Igbos are trying so hard to find a fault from buhari. Why? He will assume his duty in may why in hurry? For now he have every right to his privacy.

Tradesrunner:
Haters go and die

mulattoclaro:
Bottom line is that nigerian girls are hungry girls. I got married on Saturday. I got married to a Brazilian lady. Nigerian girls are the exact opposite of their white counterparts. A relationship to a Nigerian girl is like a financial bail-out from poverty. Marriage is the achievement of every nigerian girl cos they're very lazy and want to remain parasites all their lives. How many of them try to improve their lives by furthering their education? Nigerian girls have lost it. My bro if you want to find true love then look for it outside Nigeria.

An0nimus:
That's good to know.

yhusiee:
A woman should be successful, no doubts. It is an orderly procedural thing starting with her family. Especially her husband. If she can adequately take care of her family and handle her job, then it's not a problem; but that is not the case in most cases, we women tend to focus more on one more than the other. Most of us are just not that strong. Kuddooss to the strong ones anyway!

Twaci:
There was this story I heard one time, a guy saw a girl in a shopping mall and approached her. They talked...gisted was more like it and even exchanged numbers.

The guy didn't call back and refused to pick her calls later on. Why?

"She paid my bills -" he had replied.

And I asked myself, so what? But then he finished his sentence. "- it was worth N52, 500"

More to that, another thing that had got to him was the fact that the girl drove off in a sweet ride while he had hailed a taxi.

Thanks for the info Rapmoney, hope guys read and understand this.

elantraceey:
oh really, it's not just in words you know.

okotv:
Thank God for the church I was raised up in.

DahtzFestjayz:
Its true.

bukatyne:
Absolutely!

Their reasons might be:

She will be heady
She will be uncontrollable
He will not have a say
Etc. Etc.

All back to 'headship'

elantraceey:
Well that didn't answer my question, you're a part of the nigeria men remember.

cococandy:
my dear you will only feel inferior if you're really inferior as a person compared to Your partner. Money or not.
So if a guy feels inferior to his woman, he's probably truly inferior.

If you're a great quality person, even the one with money will respect you willingly or unwillingly.
You will just command the respect without trying to.

oloyede252:
so if your scared of something it equally mean you have low mentality abi,,,,,,op I tire for you o.....

elantraceey:
will you get married to a woman who is far richer than you without feeling inferior at times?