Hate to say it poster, but you are kinda right. I love football - mostly english premier league ,championship and champions league football. I even watch reserves and coca-cola cup matches. We have a soccer school in London and sponser a football team in Ghana. But for some reason, girls football has never interested me much. I don't why. I will make more of an effort to support our female footballers too, because my husband has mentioned the same thing to me recently - I need to work on that.

Evra is obviously the best left-back in the world, followed closely by Ashley Cole. Some one mentioned Baines - he is pretty good and we have been watching him for a while , just looks daft at times.

@ Jennykadry, NICE ONE.

I live in London, and I can't understand how much the place has changed since I was a kid, before smacking was outlawed. Disgusting is an understatement. The kids are literally crying out for some direction, some discipline, anything which doesn't involve the 'let's all be friends' lectures that parents, counsellors, teachers and mentors give out to them these days.

My parents smacked us when we really pushed our luck. I was smacked more than my siblings because I pushed my luck more. I have to be honest and say that I am really glad for all of the discipline that I received. It really does set me apart from many of my peers who were not disciplined in the same manner. Fear is certainly an integral part of growing up: Fear of fire, fear of beatings and fear of death. People without any kind of fear are either stupid or daft or both. There are things in the world which must be feared. Some call it respect, I say , which ever description makes you feel better.
Some things don't need too much explanation, for example if you touch fire, you will probably feel the heat before it burns you. However other things, like the scenario mentioned by mutter : the potential for her baby girl falling off the bunk-bed and sustaining an injury, that cannot be explained. It is not realistic to go around explaining every last detail on earth. Doesn't make sense. Therefore, mutter gave her daughter the best possible explanation at the time.

I do prefer people who have grown up kids giving ideas on child-rearing. I just do not believe that people with small kids can really make full judgement on how well they have coped as a parent. The proof will be in the grown up 25 year old 'kid', how that kid behaves at home and in the wider society, and also what that kid has amounted to. For thse with kids under this age in my opinion, it's still 'a work in progress'. That is why I think it is always good to look to ourselves and think about the way in which we were raised and what we have amounted to as adults.

It doesn't make financial sense for our government to clean up our country. The monetary aid our countries in Africa get from G8 countries etc, will cease. If we become a developed nation, Aid will stop coming to Africa and instead be sent to truly poor countries.

Those in charge of our country cannot benefit if we stop getting this money. When governors and senators return to Africa after holding meetings abroad in some of the most beautiful places on earth; they step back into their air-conditioned mansions. They cannot empathise with the rest of us who are not eating the money with them.

[b]This explanation completely ignores
the fact that when the government
“borrows” money from the Central
Bank that’s exactly what it does. It
creates the money out of thin air and
gives it to the government to spend in
exchange for Government debt (i.e.
IOU’s).
Not only that, but through the process
of fractional reserve banking private
banks use the Central Bank’s “new
money” as the basis for increasing the
money supply by an additional 1,000%
(10X) through private lending.
Adding insult to injury, not only does
the current system multiply the
inflationary impact of government
deficit spending (10X as much as if the
government had simply been honest
and printed the money itself), but it
also requires the government to levy
additional taxes on our children to
“repay” the principal and interest on
the original “loan”.
The fact is, if the government cut out
the middleman and used seignorage
(i.e. the government’s power to levy an
indirect tax on its citizens by simply
printing more money) we would all be
much better off (at the expense of the
bankers).
[/b]

@rhymz
Wow. Mehn, You are very intelligient indeed. What you said makes a whole lot of sense. Inflation seems inevitable, but our way of doing things adds debt to that inflation. Why be saddled with both? In that sense, printing more money and worrying about just inflation seems like the lesser of two evils. Did I read you right? Let me know please. This stuff has just started to interest me, wow.

I'm glad that Monalisa got out when she did. She sounds pretty sincere about what happened - she could have regurgitated the whole story from start to finish, but she didn't. She just stuck to the relevant bits and then revealed some facts about her childhood. Nothing wrong with that at all.

For the guy who managed to knock his wife out with one move of the door, if wifey had died, you would have been charged with manslaughter, and in my opinion u would have deserved it. Not one time did u mention that ur wife knocked you out with all her slapping and hitting, but from just one move you managed to make her 'faint'. I can just imagine the amount of force that you used to 'move' that door.

Personally, I know that women can be irritating and troublesome - but men are just as irritating and troublesome - and unfortunatley our culture only has clauses which assist the men to cope, i.e:

irritating and troublesome women: Be humble and submissive to your man, or else
irritating and troublesome men: mscheew, abeg what is all the fuss about, carry go jor.

This is an absolutely unfair and ridiculous equation, and that is where the problem lies.

Women are not equal to men, and men are not equal to women. In the same way that my car is not equal to my tv or vice versa.

They have different roles to play, different requirements, different specs, they are even wired and built differently - I can not subsitute one for the other. They are equally important to me (important because I like having them, but I can and have gone without both).

Men and women are 'equal' in their opinions and feelings, and that is about it.

it is quite sad what happened to you but believe me it is a lot more common than many nigerians would care to admit.
whether that is what has made you lesbian/bisexual is debatable. generally there is a certain mindset that many victims of sexual abuse have. this mindset operates at a very deep subconcious level and so is not one you can reason away with logic. it is almost like a virus on a computer.
a very common idea in this situation is that you were somehow to blame,that you are a bad person and your subconsciousness mind would work very hard to confirm this idea.
much of this is theoretical and theories are not always true but the mind (subconscious part) has a way of repeating patterns. kind of like a scratched cd. so you might see some very young ladies who prefer to date guys twice their ages and money has nothing to do with it ditto for some men. the theory is this may be a result of that gender of parent being absent. absent is  a psychological concept here.they may never have been physically separated. on the other hand when that parent is actually absent there may be no difficulties if there are appropriate role model substitutes. it is quite complex
another theory has to do with why women choose to be with men who beat them or abuse them in preference to nice guys. again ditto for men. i think a recent interview by the singer rihanna is quite revealing.
some people accept themselves that ;that is the way they are and get on with their lives. if you are not satisfied with the way things are you need to create an alternative  vivid image in your mind what you want to see in your life. it might be helpful for you to find somebody to confide it but it is quite tricky if the person is not professional. a clergy person normally would have been ideal but these days there are too many bad eggs. it is necessary to get reassurance that what happened was evil and wrong but not your fault and you are as good as everyone else. ultimately you must believe this in your core to move on,
best wishes

@ aribisala0

That was the best possible advice, thanks for the post.
Peace

@poster

I am so sorry, and I do know how u feel, it's going to take a while for you to work all of this out in your mind, and I am not sure there is any particular method that is guaranteed to help, you just have to try whatever u can.  Please do accept aribisala0's advice, it is the most straight-forward so far.  Take good care of yourself.
Peace

All

Any takers for a £400 non-refundable ticket from UK to Lagos?

Date: Wednesday 21/10/09
Time:08.30am
Airport: Heathrow

Short notice, but my friend has had to cancel and cannot get a refund on the ticket.

Contact: dillinger@london.com

Peace
x

JJYOU

lol @ "would being Nigerian pass for an excuse",

Actually, yes, I'm scared to say that you may be right because I don't want to acknowledge the fact that it may be true,

@MRbrownJAY

That was a very intelligent and well-constructed summation. Each point made alot of sense.

@Poster

Sorry my sister. This is a hard one, but luckily all the replies you have recieved are sensible, intelligent ones. Please take the advice you have been given. I am also pretty sure that you knew what to do before posting and just needed clarification. Well you have it.

Your husbands attitude is one that appears to have been bred from a careless upbringing. He is in a very comfortable situation, one that most men and women would be very happy to be in. He is so ungrateful to the point where he can physically assault you rather than be thankful to you for putting up with this situation for 6 years.

Even without the hand-outs given to him by you and your mother all these years, physically assaulting you is just disrepectful and completely unacceptable. And in front of visitors, ?? What is that??

Make yourself a plan first

a) Where are you and the kids going to live, and how will the three of you be catered for:
b) Start saving every penny of money you can, he may start arguments with you, but you are on a mission, so keep focused on that
c) Make a quick list of emergency friends:places that you and the kids can go to if things get out of hand
d) Please talk to your mum and dad, ask your mum about the best way to approach your dad. Dont worry about how he will behave at first, he will get over it. Just make sure he knows that you are not just upset about your husbands behaviour, but also worried about the safety of you and the children.


For your own piece of mind, and your kids too, you must seperate yourself from the situation, dont wait for something life-threating to happen before you do something about it.

Peace.

Wow, this is deep, and I really feel for you alot. I sometimes ask myself what would happen if the unexpected happened and I found myself in this type of a situation. I can't say that I came up with a good solution as to how I would deal with the issue. Still working on that one.

There is no logical explanation for what your husband did, so there is probably no logical solution for handling the situation either. My advice is to work through each bit at a time, for example:

1)Your husband, asides from his indiscretion and the outcome, is quite a decent human being in that he cares about his children, yours and the other child, he loves and takes care of you, and doesn't appear to have any other negative traits attached to his character.

n/b- such people are hard to find. I find it unusual that he cares for all parties concerned, many men take care of / care about one or the other, or they neglect their wives, home life etc.

2)Yeah, he definetly should not have kept such a fundamental piece of information from you, as that is part of the hurt that you are feeling: it makes him seem devious and deceitful, almost a different person to the person you first knew. It is like he had a whole other side to his life that you were not part of, and it is probably part of the reason that you are finding it hard to move on.

n/b- Once the deed was done, (remembering that your husband is not into abortions), he probably felt suitably trapped when he heard about the other pregnancy. Telling you might have meant that you would have ended the relationship with him.

You were unsure about getting married for the sake of the pregnancy, maybe you were right and he actually wasnt ready for the marriage in the first place. I'm assuming that later on into the marrage, the more the two of you were enjoying your marriage, the less he wanted to rock the boat, (just imagine yourself trying to release such information to him, how would you have done it?)

3) It is unfortunate that the little girl is not being well catered for in her current environment, and it would be nice if she could live along side her father, her stepmother and her siblings. Your own children (and everyone else) will definetly commend you when they become old enough to realise the hard sacrifice that you made, and hopefully you will be proud of all of the children that you raise.

n/b- You will probably end up agreeing with your husband's decision (unless you are thinking of leaving with the kids which is what my mum did, ).

However,there should be some serious ground rules put in place and any issues that you can think of which might cause you irritation in the future, must be raised and confronted (speak now) before the little girl moves in, for example, your role in raising the child and what will be expected of you, the things that you will be willing to accept and those that you will not.

Like terms and conditions. Your husband must make you happy in every possible way and pacify you (you have really tried) unless he wishes to bring up the children alone.

None of this is your fault and I commend you for being so strong about this. And remember that you built a home for the family that you have raised, therefore, it is okay for you to compromise to calm a situation down, BUT, there is no rule that says that you must be miserable to make another happy. Decide as a woman which line of action is best for you and your children and go with it.

4) Your mind has made you hyper-sensitive to any mention of the little girl and her mother, I totally understand this, 100%. I cant imagine you feeling any other way. It probably feels like a thorn in your flesh each time you hear about them.

n/b- So that you dont loose your mind, try and desensitise yourself. Mention their names alot more. It will remove the fear and anger that you have attached to their issue. Also remember that the little girl is a sister to your children whether we like it or not, so it might be better for you to get used to it now. My mum still cant stand the thought of me getting in contact with my other siblings from my dad, and the situation is quite unbearable sometimes.

5)Your husband should not assume that he can make these kind of mistakes in the future and be forgiven so easily. So ensure that as a woman, you deal with that side of things. The mistake was too expensive and must be treated as such.

n/b- Ensure that your husband realises that what ever secrets he has, it shall surely come to light, so he should speak up if there is anything else, so that you can absorb/deal with it now, and he should make this his last, you are not a mugu and your kindness should not be mistaken for stupidity at all.

Take Care of you and don't be too stressed, life can be very mad like that, this is just a test for you to see how you handle and live with the situation.

Peace.

A couple of things I would like to contribute on this one. I think that marriage has turned from couples professing true love and committment to each other, into a traditional ceremony of rites that is performed when two people have been together for a while and do not want to be seen as 'living in sin', etc.

1) How disputes between the couple will be settled:

lots of people are not very good at expressing themselves properly, either they were not taught or have refused to learn. They may feel the need to
/shout, swear and become aggressive to get their point across, or
/they may go silent, and become miserable
/become passive aggressive and calculating, just waiting for a good opportunity to revenge.
/or walk out.
/shake with fear and stay away from the argument because they fear confrontation.

None of these behaviours is appropriate and none of them can work on a long term basis.

2) How to settle family problems as a couple (the following are just examples):

a) People in the village need money, should they be put on an allowance, how much is enough, how to budget finances to cover this. Is it cheaper to set up the younger family members in businesses of their own, so they can feed themselves in the long term.

b) What will happen to elderly parents when they are no longer capable of taking care of themselves - will they live with the couple and if so how will they be catered for, or,

c) A sibling is starting a work placement near the town where the couple live, can the sibling live with the couple, how will annoying behaviour
of the sibling be dealt with, how will the sibling be expected to contribute to household activities and finance. Will they have a seperate living area to host their friends, are girlfriends/boyfriends allowed to spend time at your house.

d) Husbands family members (mother/father/brothers and sisters) are becoming rude and insultive to wife or vice versa, how will this be settled?

e) When does a family members help get to the point when it becomes interference, this concerns issues on wether the couple decide that they want children, how the couple will bring up the children if they decide to have them, how the couple spend money, wether they intend to build a house, etc.

f) Do the parents have a family house in the village. Is it necessary for them to have one. How will the siblings share the responsibitliy and what is the couples role.

3) The main and most important one is:

A lot of couples have children without genuinely wanting the children. They may do it to:

a) compete with their family and friends who have children,
b)they may do it because their own parents have stated that they "want to see/hold" their grand-children before they die,
c) some couples may do it because they are not doing anything tangible and are bored with their current situation,
d)some women have children because they do not want to be talked about or labelled as 'barren' or as their husband's 'fellow man',
e)others have children because they want an heir to their empires (although their is no guarantee that the child will run the empire adequately, or even that the child would want to run it at all).

As , you can see, none of these reasons incorporates the ways in which the children will be guided through life or how they will be fed, clothed and protected. None of the reasons that people give for having children ever includes, "we want to teach our children about loving other people, having empathy for other people", or "we want to teach our children about Thomas Sankara and how he tried to change the course of history in the face of huge adversity", their reasons are futile and non-reasons.

These are all quite useless reasons to have children and accounts for the large numbers of badly brought up children that we see every day. Kids behaviour usually follows them into adulthood. This is always as a result of bad parenting, or parenting from afar , (most of my naughtiness occured while my parents were at work or away on a business trip,).

It is hard for anybody to visualise the concept of 'Forever', but they must try because that is what having children means.
This is why giving birth should not be seen as 'having a baby' which is a very short and limited period of time in a humans life, it should rather be seen as 'bringing a human being to earth who you will always be responsible for'.

This decision is more simple than it looks. It just requires honesty. If the couple are not doing very well in certain areas of their lives despite trying their best, then something as profound, important and life changing as bringing another human being into earth is probably not really for them although it might seem like a nice idea.

4) Some people like their own space/company to think and be at peace with themselves. How will this time be set aside.

5) What happens if one of the couple develops an incurrable problem like snoring. If ear-plugs dont work, will the offender be made to seek surgery to rectify the problem (surgery doesnt always work), or will they have to sleep in another room. Couples have been known to get divorced over this issue, as it seperates the couple during crucial hours of the 24 hour day.

I feel as though I may be putting people off, and that is not my intention, However these issues and others will be the ones that cause real stress that will inevitably affect your health and the way you feel about yourself and life. So it is best to get them ironed out before embarking on marriages to people that you have no realor actual control over. There will always be problems because that is the current nature of earth, however as with anything it is good to have some guidelines that have been agreed upon which can be followed.

Peace.

Individuals are different, so while it would take some people a week Max. to snap out of a tired relationship, it took a friend of mine two years. Although I initially had sympathy for my friend, she began to get on my nerves after the first year.

Your friend probably has reminders of the guy around her, or she is doing alot of the same old things that she did when the guy was in her life, so it makes sense that she is reminded (as opposed to thinking loving thoughts) about him alot.

She may not be idle, but she certainley needs to change things up a bit. Suggest some new things to do, and new places to see where, hopefully, there will be new people to meet,

A good way to do is this is to ask others what would brighten them up if they were in this position. Then try a few of the suggestions out on your friend.



Peace.

From my own personal view point, once people are married, friends of the opposite sex MUST be mutual friends to both the husband and wife, any alternative to this is completely unacceptable.

My reason for this is: the male and the female in a marriage cancel out the need for additions, they fufil the role of all friends and non-family relationships of the opposite sex, period.

Your husband or wife is supposed to dot all the i's and cross all the t's in as many different departments as possible, otherwise it is not by force to get married, and then start looking for amusement and comfort outside.

People are human beings and not all of us are responsible or have complete control over our emotions and behaviour. We also know how strong temptation is. So there is no need to tempt fate. Your sister is fully justified for her reaction. Wumine gave particularly good advice.

I am not advocating cheating of any type, however the committment your sis and bro in law both made to each other should still stand and if your in-law has forgotten about it, it would be a good and explicit reminder for him if your sister was to re-instate one of the friendships that she had before (I don't advice her to start a new one as this is taking a different direction altogether).

This will also help to remove some of the focus from your in-law who is attempting to have his cake and eat it too. It appears that he liked the idea of getting rid of all the opposite sex friends before, however it is possible that he changed his mind at some point.

If he really wanted to wish this girl a happy new year, he could simply have included your sister in the greeting, they could have called the girl together, and wished away, , so why did it have to be from him to her only?


In all honesty, if your sister did not feel this girl to be some type of a threat to her marriage, she probably wouldn't be this bothered. Women are usually more perceptive to other women who have alterior motives, so your sis should not feel too paranoid. Threats like this young lady are a no no, and your brother in law should not be given the opportunity to encourage this girl (knowingly or unknowingly).



Peace

From my own personal view point, once people are married, friends of the opposite sex MUST be mutual friends to both the husband and wife, any alternative to this is completely unacceptable.

My reason for this is: the male and the female in a marriage cancel out the need for additions, they fufil the role of all friends and non-family relationships of the opposite sex, period.

Your husband or wife is supposed to dot all the i's and cross all the t's in as many different departments as possible, otherwise it is not by force to get married, and then start looking for amusement and comfort outside.

People are human beings and not all of us are responsible or have complete control over our emotions and behaviour. We also know how strong temptation is. So there is no need to tempt fate. Your sister is fully justified for her reaction. Wumine gave particularly good advice.

I am not advocating cheating of any type, however the committment your sis and bro in law both made to each other should still stand and if your in-law has forgotten about it, it would be a good and explicit reminder for him if your sister was to re-instate one of the friendships that she had before (I don't advice her to start a new one as this is taking a different direction altogether).

This will also help to remove some of the focus from your in-law who is attempting to have his cake and eat it too. It appears that he liked the idea of getting rid of all the opposite sex friends before, however it is possible that he changed his mind at some point.

If he really wanted to wish this girl a happy new year, he could simply have included your sister in the greeting, they could have called the girl together, and wished away, , so why did it have to be from him to her only?


In all honesty, if your sister did not feel this girl to be some type of a threat to her marriage, she probably wouldn't be this bothered. Women are usually more perceptive to other women who have alterior motives, so your sis should not feel too paranoid. Threats like this young lady are a no no, and your brother in law should not be given the opportunity to encourage this girl (knowingly or unknowingly).



Peace

Many people find that cannabis in its pure form can be very theraputic , while others feel the euphoric/relaxing sensation caused by the plant to be too extreme, causing them to occasionally become paranoid and anxious. Cannabis is apparently very effective in the treatment of Glaucoma.

With regard to the legalisation of the plant, not sure that this is necessary, the govt will ensure that value added tax is applied , perhaps even reduce its potency for the 'benefit' of its consumers .

Personally I am amazed at the way in which 'authorities' decide on the 'harmful' substances that society are 'allowed' to consume, For example, why are cigarettes, alcohol, sleeping tablets and all manner of over the counter drugs that have possible harmful side effects from increased asthma in children to fatal liver damage acceptable but cannabis is not?



Peace

Horus and other contibutors,

Thank you very much for posting this thread, it is very interesting indeed. I have recently started to research into the Annunaki as information has become more accessible - our parents certainley didn't have access to the type of information that we do now, and I believe strongly that we no longer have the excuse of ignorance due to lack of exposure / brought up in the faith, and we need to make serious use of this information. I have recently bought the book called Biggest Secret by David Icke and am finding it to be a very informative read. Hopefully the discrepancies in people's interpretations will iron themselves out.

Peace.

I'm from Umuahia, Abia State. I think we are supposed to be really nice people

Peace.

Man U obviously.

amaka1

Furthermore, may I commend you on this brilliant thread, I love most of these dishes but can only cook the basic egusi, okro and vegetable soups. I can't cook my favourite foods : Isiegwu and Ubwa with smoked crayfish and garden eggs and enough pepper to remove the roof of my mouth. Spend so much money going to Nija restaurants/ Nija Take-aways. So I am gonna scan the previous posts to see what I have missed. Again, thank you.

Peace.

amaka1

I went to school in Nigeria from age 6 to 7 (more of an accident than anything else) in Port Harcourt and the food sellers outside the school gate sold this delicious savoury pancake type snack. It was very flat, round, cream coloured, or sometimes it was the colour of moi-moi. It was hot (spicy) and very tasty. I can't explain the actual texture because nothing comparable comes to mind.

Please tell me you have a recipe for this. Some people appear to know what I am talking about when I mention it, however they always tell me that it is the type of food that you will only find outside school gates in Nigeria, for kids and not adults.

Peace.

Please chew your rice properly, a number of my cousins and friends have developed this habit, and then complain about indigestion and acid reflux problems later on. Rice is not eba or ground-rice (softer and more malleable) and therefore should not be eaten as though it is. I personally think that the individual grains of rice need to be broken down before swallowing. Food that is not broken down before swallowing will sit in your digestive tract and emitt gases of its own, (I'm sure you know the kind I mean).

Peace.

I am really glad that you post in this forum, you have some very valid points to make.

Peace.

Severe itching, change of colour, change in texture (shrivelled), soreness and pain may be symptopms of something sinister, however many women in UK (me too), Canada and the US get itchy right-nipples without any real problems being diagnosed,

Apparently (according to my doctor) it's normal for many people (men and women) to get itchy nipples because the nipples are one of the most vulnerable extremities of the body and therefore are succeptable to many conditions inlcuding change in weather (windy, dry, cold, air moistness), plus all the breast nerve endings meet at this small point (as someone else pointed out).

There is a cream which is said to elimiate this problem: Aveeno Anti-Itch Cream - I have never tried it, I am going by other peoples testimonies.

It is important to rule out a number of medical reasons first though:

Thrush (yes you can get it on your nipples)
Pagets Disease of the nipple (rare form of breast cancer usually found in people over 50yrs, only one case documented under this age - 20 yr old girl)
Eczema
Allergic reaction to soap powder/washing detergent (just because you were not allergic before doesnt mean you havent developed allergy now)
Breast Cancer

Best to check it out if it is bothering you/developing from itch to something else.


Peace.

nwankee

My sister is a Bio-Chemist (London School of Hygiene and Tropical Diseases) and my uncle is a Micro-Biologist and an Immunologist (Professor at Maryland University, US). They have both had very strong views about this for decades. The 25+ year old research is now being made public and medical journals that have been largely ignored have been revisited and made more accessible.

People do not realise that vaccinations are very dangerous and that they open up your immune system to all manner of attack during your life time. The principle here is a very basic one: an infants body is relatively new to the earth and it's immune system cannot be dosed with different strains of diseases, without some health problems arising in the future. Artifical Childhood diseases are being given to children in advance. Children have no choice in the matter so they rely on the good judgement of their parents to decide what is best for them,

My mother is a Senior District Nursing Sister, so she did not allow any of her children to be immunised, as she felt that the above was simple common sense. Unfortunately, immunisation is still compulsory in many countries, the Australian Govt have apparently realised the error of their ways and have stopped this compulsory practise.

I do however think that this advice should go hand in hand with advice about hygiene. Diseases are usually caused by poor hygiene. People hate to be told that they are dirty because obviously it is not a nice thing to hear about yourself.

However there is no point in complaining about Malaria (for example) when you live next to an open gutter that is filled with putrid and smelly,rotting suage water where mosquitoes are not just breeding families but entire nations of mosquitoes ready to infect their human neighbours.

Note: I noticed a thread concerning 'why are we (Nigerians) getting so many sicknesses/diseases', (asides from all the other reasons, like the toxic waste that is dumped in and around our continent), I was tempted to answer the question, but would need to go into details and scientific facts that I know people will dispute (with or without evidence). I came to the conclusion that as Africans we were one of the last nations to recieve this 'innovative' medicine, so I guess it follows that we will be one of the last nations to stop using it, while the original inventors will be the first to stop.

Peace.

Then this a good time for you to learn how to lay down some ground rules in your house. It is up to you to decide how visitors conduct themselves in your home. Don't be afraid to tell your sister that if she can't be nice, then she should converse with you via the phone only. This will help her to understand how important your wife is to you. If she intends to cause problems between you and your wife when she comes over, then I don't see the essence for her visits.

Sorry not sure what the hell happened there: Mum is from Umuopara and my dad is from Umukabia in Umuahia.