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Your use of English in that mail was
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Idaytesj29:
Hello my people, I am so happy to find this lounge even though I have been on nairaland for a while.

I am an introvert, no questions about that. As a guy in early 30s, I have never asked more than 3 girls out for a relationship and I had never slept with more than 2 ladies, my wife and one other. It became so strong that my parents were considering matchmaking me, but I surprised them after I introduced my fiancee now wife to them.

I have a very brilliant mind, I enjoy being alone, indoors, not too much people around, have very small circle of friends and after school time, we are hundreds of kilometres or nautical miles apart now
I enjoy watching TVs alone, playing indoor games or video games.

But, I have a problem. Some people tend to think I am stupid or mumu cos I don't talk much and if I am not very close to you, I cant be free around you.

How do I make people see me as not mumu cos I don't talk or talk much?

How do I make them respect my decision or if I have not acted on something, not because I am dumb, actually most times its because I am intelligently considering major angle that they are too fast to think about or they had rushed their decisions and as a result overlooked or missed vital point especially at work.

How do I change their outlook?

This is because it has to do with work, if not as an introvert, I don't think I care much.

Emmynator:
Thank you for your reply, you made alot of sense, i do make conscious effort to be romantic but it weighs me down sometimes, i feel some what guilty or bad that i may say "i love you" without feeling up to it.
I have a very low emotional intelligence, but i have grown more this past year, I am just a stage of trying to convince myself that doing it is enough even though i don't feel up to it.

Emmynator:
Hello everyone, i have been following this thread for quite sometimes as a guest, i am an introvert but i want to put forth a problem which has been bothering me a bit.
The thing is i have an issues with emotions, i don't have them especially romantic ones and i also have difficulty imagining how people feel, and so i end up hurting people sometimes without even knowing it, i am not insultive at all, but i have difficulty screening out things which can be a bit sensitive.
Relationship wise, i am very unromantic and bland, i try to be different but it is difficult for me.
Have anyone been in my shoes and gotten out? please offer advice on how i can overcome the problems i highlighted above, i anticipate your answers, thank you.

Riele:
Lmao.
Break?
Not until i find that special person.

Riele:
About what ? dear.

Riele:
Awww.....

Never been on a date..

I'm Patiently waiting for that special nairalander .

olabrinks:
Yawns.

I hate when introverts question themselves, like they are some special kind of species that invaded the planet earth. I am an introvert myself, I am very happy and content with my personality and I don’t give a flying monkey about what person a or b thinks. People are going to talk about you regardless. You can’t change your nature, you can’t change how you naturally are. Accept it and stop looking for ways to modify your behaviour, everybody cannot be social butterflies. Get over it and live life.

Forgiveson86:
Confirmation bro.. Whatsapp me 08138423275

lilmax:
Smh

This is how guys have been conditioned to over think because of a woman

KiingShay:
Very interesting piece, I've never been the type to bother myself about persuading my love interest. If I express my intentions and you don't reciprocate even in the most little way, I'm gone for good. The feeling has to be mutual for it to blossom, if it's just one sided, it becomes very toxic for the party that's putting all the effort. Most times, It only leads to sadness, regrets and exhaustion. The earlier you wake up and smell the coffee, the better for you.

Ajoboss:
what manna of man are u?

strangeworld:
I like ur write up which inspired me. Pls if u dont mind u can pm me, i wld ve called u but i dont ve ur no. Thanks. Email is arogdamola@yahoo.com

Rosarie:
u are a fool

Ladylite:
I have not had sex in 11 months

ringi82:
Based in lagos. In need of a serious relationship with a matured lady, preferably Muslim. Let's chat on 08119975431

ezzylee:
Based on this statement “While the candidates who were successful in their Assessment Centre are still being contacted by the Bank in phases for on-boarding and Training School, the on-boarding for those who are yet to be invited will resume in due course.”, I feel people are still gonna be contacted for other batches. The people who got the first mails stating that they’ll be contacted for the next batch, in my opinion would most likely be called for the next batch. Then people who haven’t gotten any mails at all but are already shortlisted by FBN would get mails for the next batch after this coming one.

Just my thoughts. These are not facts.