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whitelexi writes like those Geico cavemen.

Im assuming it's cos of the white dress.

why didnt you just type the word out? oponu.

It's amazing how much i tend to piss people off with my mere opinions. yet Im the one who's "vexed"?

Never had typhoid myself.

just drink Bottle water only. even then make sure it's name brand. when I'm in Nigeria, I usually get a case of Cola's Eva water.

all this "Jesus Saves" water will just send you to your grave.

uyai:
Most of the guys who go back are taxi drivers and mental health workers who do three jobs to survive. A guy like that is intimated by well made young girl who is making more than he does by just having one job. They go back home and spread their hard earned dollars knowing very well that the girls will jump up on any dollar bill.

My other uncle went to nigeria and did this very big high class state of the art weddding to this very tall 'sand beautiful out of the world woman. SHE WAS SHOCKED WHEN SHE GOT HERE. Not only were they living with in one room, they were living in his sister house married to my uncle above. can you imagine that.

Most of the time it has to do with self worth. A lot proffesional nigerians marry here. It mostly those mental health workers and taxi drivers who go back home at least from what i've seen and heard.

Lol. I've seen a few cases like that myself. A cab driver wont get a wife here but he'll definitely get one after showing off a few George Washingtons in Nigeria then pretends that it's cos there are no good girls aboard. hahhaa

fromuk:
Red_Lips

if u don't care u will not be writting with vexation, from your post you are not happy, be a goog girl and somebody wil bring liquor to your family. Gaskiya.

Speak English. Vexation isnt even a word. Who's vexed anyway? I wrote out my opinion. I just think it's lame that people are making up excuses for themselves because some dorks decide to go home for wives. again, who cares?

and what the hell is a "goog" girl? Is that a new breed of women? Btw I'm taken so please comot from my face.

babyosisi:
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"My husband gave me a card emblazoned with heart-shaped egg yolks on top of shattered shells which read, 'Thanks for donating your eggs.' "
— Mary, Maryland

Lol this is funny though

lol so it's next Sunday? Thank God. Thought it was this Sunday.

a girft card is usually enough for mine.

I guess all the weddings done outside of Nigeria are a sham then.

Oh he has smoker's lips.

See the difference is that is you, guys were yelling that he should leave his wife of 7 years for lying about not having a degree. Point is it's not only the girls who are cynical on this board

What does that have to do with anything? What concerns the Nigerian movie officials with her personal business?

Makamiyaki:
@ j-girl
Manipulation and feminity are two different things

They go together like wine and cheese.

Educated or illiterate, if a woman wants to nag she will. So I dont know what you people are talking about.

and what does "challenging" mean? If a person disagrees with your opinion, they should keep quiet, is that what you mean? Why dont you just cut out the tongue and get it over with?

What does that even have to do with education?

Yes I am the cause of the divorce rate of the entire United States of America.

When do I get my award/medal?

Perhaps you can also tell me who's behind the Aids rate in Africa?

j-girl, why are you even entertaining these local champions? Lol I can't even take anything they say seriously.

want authority? go open a company and hire some employees.

Oh Please.

Like I expect you to agree with the females.

Denial obviously works for you guys.  Have fun  

having ugly children vs well to do husband.


That is indeed a dilemma. 


btw you just happened to ignored the part of where i mentioned that the guys here do the same with advice and i gave that example of girl who lied about her degree . So how about we stop making it seem like it's just a "girls of NL" thing.

depends on the situation.

It's a hard thing for kids to watch their parents break up and pretty much live separate lives but if the situation is one where one parent was violent and horrible to the other and the kids had to witness this day after day then I personally believe divorce is a better option. Watching a parent go thru domestic abuse would have an even worse effect on a kid than having to watch them join other people.

Woman are freaking stupid is all.

Lmfao. osisi, you sure love going on about this deodorant madness.

I would put you to the challenge but I wouldnt want you to get in trouble for off-topic.   

what else can 1 + 1 be if not 2?

Lol David, I suggest you take a look at that blog of yours. Looks like some faceless imbeciles who didnt have the guts to put up their names have decided to turn it into a childish battle ground.

It's quite embarrassing to see, really. 

Not even sure why any girl would even care.

If they all want to go back home and marry, na their problem be that.

If those guys had any common sense they'd know the ones who are independent wouldnt be so impressed if another guy with more money came around trying to impress them. The ones in Nigeria, sure they are with you but if another guy from "yankee", she's more likely to leave you as opposed to someone who is used to seeing such things.

so if they want let them go and look for this so called "good" girl. Who cares?

Dude, in the real world you will hear worse from people who disagree with your opinions. At least I wasnt being personal. I was referring to your comment. Should even be glad i stopped at bull and didnt write it all out.   

texazzpete:
I've never made any wisecrack about girls seeking ready made husbands. Please confront me on this if i'm wrong.

Yea, ok, funny dude. You should do stand up.

Do you mean you couldnt find this comment you made?

texazzpete:
And just because YOU, like most other Nairaland babes (apparently!), don't like the idea (and have marriage-ready suitors dangling from trees in your compound)

Anyway. I'm getting bored with this thread but I see you wrote out a sermon thus so as not to make you feel bad for writing so much. I guess I'll respond.

I'm just going to be general and go straight to the point. You obviously don't get what I'm saying. Whether she stays with a dude who has a kid isnt even the issue. I wouldnt stay in a situation like that but that's me. The topic is really just the lack of honesty. If she wants to accept the baby mama situation, that's her problem. The issue is he didnt give her the respect to make a decision. He didnt tell her so at least she'd know whether or not she wants to deal with such a situation. That is what we're talking about or at least that what I'm talking about.

You keep whining about how girls are so quick to say this and that. the guys on here e nko? The thread about the girl who kept the secret that she didnt have an university degree. all the guys were like do away with her and this one was actually married. So what are you whining about? It's ok for guys to tell another guy to do away with a dishonest person but it's wrong for girls to say the same to other guys? Where's the logic? We shouldnt talk because the almighty Tex doesnt think the men are the wrong, is that it? as for the call or no call, that's your girlfriend's problem. you want to continue to do things despite the fact that your girl hates it. lol what a catch you are.  

I read everything else you wrote and im not going to bother because like i said it's not even about him having a kid, it's the fact that he kept it from her and she ended up having to hear/read it on her own. How pathetic. Also, The whole "didnt want to lose her" bit is so juvenile/cowardly and such a lame excuse for lying.

Oh the sweet Irony.

anyway it's cos they feel emasculated.

texazzpete:
@Red_Lips,
Look, all i'm doing is trying not to automatically demonise the guy. Everyone has their reasons for keeping secrets (even the big ones!) and the sooner the girl in question works to pry these reasons from the guy, the better.
Not telling his fiancee about a baby he had for his ex doesn't make him a cheat or wife beater or anything evil or terrible. Perhaps the guy has plans in motion for the upkeep of the boy. If he's as nice and friendly to the ex as the poster says, why would there be an all-revealing bust-up with the ex? Also, don't forget that in very many cases, impregnating someone means marriage. If the guy didn't want to marry the ex and he chose the poster, doesn't that mean she's his choice? I mean, why didnt he marry d ex, especially since they remain pretty close pals?

marrying a man with a child from another woman isn't something every women would want, but it sure isn't an untenable situation. And just because YOU, like most other Nairaland babes (apparently!), don't like the idea (and have marriage-ready suitors dangling from trees in your compound) doesn't mean she has to dump him without at least taking time out for a loooooong bout of soul-searching.

It could be a deal breaker. . . but then, it may not be!

and im not even going to bother with your cynical remark about how girls go around looking for ready made. I didnt know wanting to be the  mother of your husband's first child was a horrible thing *rolls eyes* I didnt know you had to have children outside first to be considered a "marriage ready" man.

Of course you're not going to "demonize" the guy. I've noticed that when you go on your tirade about how "cruel" the females of Nairaland are when it comes to certain topic.you always do this in threads where the topic is about a guy being in the wrong, that's when you come to the rescue but when it's a female you're either no where to be found or you claim that they hang the girl up so like i said earlier give me a break with that bull

You are right. Everyone has the right to keep secrets just as I and others have the right to believe that keeping such a "secret" is horrible. You've said it many times that it's not a deal-breaker for many girls and I already said I agree with you which is why he should have mentioned it from the beginning. A relationship should be based on trust. What's the point if it isnt? Why be in a relationship with someone when next time you wont believe a word he says? Anytime he says something you wonder "is he telling me everything blah blah", that's a horrible way to live.

and people are only saying leave now so she wouldnt be miserable. It's one thing to have a kid outside, it's another when the mother is still constantly on his jock. Everyone knows how most Nigerian females are. That's how they are all happy in their relationship and all of a sudden one afternoon the woman could come out of no where screaming about how his first born needs food or school fees etc aned making her (the new girl) feel bad because she had his kid first. I don't know about you but i wouldnt wish such a situation on anyone.

My aunt's friend, her brother was in the same situation, he tried to keep it away for a while but after 7 months when the boy was talking about how serious he wanted to be with the girl, the family made it clear that if he didnt tell her about his kid before any kind of engagement arrangement that they will do it for him. He told her and the girl stayed. They couldnt bear to have her around not knowing the whole situation. THAT is what I call a real family. Real parents. Parents with common sense. I find it odd that no one felt to tell the girl before. Whoever said that if she were indeed close with the family, she would have known sooner is right.

The weird thing is they reacted to her worse than they do people whose main intent actually IS to bash Nigeria like Elody and Ammensah.

Lmao just look at the passive aggression at work.  usually accompanied by sucking up to the guys of nl.

Sorry to hear that choogtin.

Parents need to be alot more mature about things esp concerning ex spouses and stuff, ends up messing with the kids big time.