₦airaland Forum

doyinwbaby:
Idiot! Because you know her personally abi? Fool! Go through her page. Shes none of those things! Ignorant people be doing the most! Go through her page and read what happened cos this OP just got a little extract and made up his own story!

And I commented based on the ops post u dvmb fvck !!!! Whts my biz with the slay queens page.

She dey form slay queen near armed robber ....na wa.. A lesson for feminists n slay queen.....the world is a jungle....survival of the fittest. Choose your battles wisely sometimes human rights have limitations. Guard ur body n life.

dunkem21:
Instead of Sowore, Buhari should continue abeg.

I detest liars.

anything but buhari plsssssssssss.....we youths have ptoblems... Is buhari not the biggest liar to rule naija ie certificates, herdsmen, fuel subsidy, rematketed his nation etc

The real politics tht got gej out .....

Glorygee:
call a pastor to pray and aniont the place before you move in..after all people are living in d compound before. all d best.

why is it that when ppl die, they suddenly become evil spirits?!!!! Africaaa .

chris31:
That u haven't experienced or seen it doesn't mean that it doesn't exist.

have u seen?!!! Plsss update us or else its folklore.

Hehe very wise move by the guy .....there's no risk in losing her kids....its the fact she can be kicked out if she misbehaves.... Evry guy shd tke this stance ..

chris31:
Don't allow education to take away ur culture from u
This is Africa things do happen like it or leave it

hehrh I lived six years in a hospital and my quarters was behind the morgue . In ALL those years with my encounters with D O.A , I NVR saw a single paranormal activity. Both night and day. So my Africa is different from yours, and because most of us attribute eery problem n solution to the spiritual , thts why our cities look like where monkeys hve taken over ...

Ugly endowed ladies are the hottest things on the planet. Fine girls are just trophies with too much walking on banana peels ...the latter is sweeter, n ohhh sweeter.

These bladdy feminists will defy science to prove their stupid ideology. First they claim wht a man can do a woman can do better(with no facts or statistics till today), then they say the only thing that differentiates man from woman is the vjay n dcK. Now its saggy boobs n vjay bksbkabka....
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When a pot bellied , non shaven, small dickie, one minute man is ridiculed its mans fault, and well deserved. But when a sagged boob(which has to be exposed by slay queens in the first place), or a fat obese, bore hole vjay is frowned at ,its called BODY SHAMING.

The irony, stil remains women are the biggest perpetrators of supposed body shaming sef. Op doesnt know breastfeeding slacks buubs!!! Even cats n dogs ...its so evident. Well what else WD u expect from feminists. Mentally deranged ppl..

Oyindidi:
Always faulting the blackman. Why bury someone in a place you'll give out for rent?

i understand not everybody's got gud command of lexis n structures, but from ur analysis , we shouldn't live anywhere on earth since ppl have been buried on nearly every part of where we live now. Waste of tym.

Ayoolajumoke:
I created this topic almost 4 years ago and the only thing that has changed is that my mum became totally incapable to shoulder any of our responsibilities (my brothers and I) so, I just have to be strong for myself.

I don't need to reconnect with him too, he is totally useless and he's not significant.
Thanks for the offer though, I am not interested.

so why then are u so hurt. Sorry bout ur mum. But u rmba she said exactly the same thing before she decided to try out reconciliation. Well its ur life, ur worries my dear .

This one doesn't know tht everywhere u go at some point somebody was buried there in the past. Perhaps 500 yrs ago sef. Blackman and stupidity. Always bothered about spirits tht don't exist in our dimension.

We've spent 48 yrs awarding concessions on our steel industry with no single beam produced . GOWON destroyed this nation . He set the template for all our problems today. Its s pity Nigerians aren't educated enough to realise he did the greatest damage to Nigeria.

I'll share a lil story here. True life .

I had an intern work under me last year, really nice good looking damsel but behind all tht smile I sensed a sense of trying to belong. I'd noticed shed hardly mentioned her dad on matters concerning the home front. Ibe day u asked where's popsy?!! Ofcos I heard every type of abuse, how he'd abandoned her, was a wicked heartless man, infact he hadn't dropped a kobo for her from birth. I asked if shed spoken lately to him, she replied " she NVR wanted to see him, and wouldn't be there at his burial".. Well to cut the story short, I advised her to drop her ego and call him up, introduce herself, and see his reaction (since the last time she saw him she was 7). She viciously rejected this advise but the next day came back to say shed pondered over everything and decided to call him. That same day she came back almost skipping that he was so happy to hear from her and even arranged that she come over to ondo state(he'd started a family there). He even wired some cash to her in minutes. Now what amazed me most was, this was a girl professing hatred and demonizing her dad, who was a gd for nothing broke man, etc here she was so full of joy. Anyways she went to see him, the new wife ironically welcomed her. Now she' didn't even need to hear his own side. She's smply ovdrjoyed she reunited with her dad. If you really want to know how she did this I can give you her number (DM me) only her can describe the feeling of finding out her dad actually loved her but had to let her go for peace of mind. Just wondering hw being an Intern under me saved Her, she's so gratedul . Now this may not be the story for everybody, but it's imperative to always srsy neutral until ur directly hurt by a parent. Op u are entitled to be cared for by yr Dad, if he's capable it's your right. Reach out you might be shocked at how this turns out. Let him directly show himself to you before u decide. When parents fight the children suffer.

[quote author=Kanwulia post=27720277]That is the point! YOUR FATHER NEVER LOVED YOU! He walked out on you! HIS CHOICE!
The problem is YOUR FATHER, not "a broken home"!

Nothing wrong with broken homes, if the children are LOVED AND CARED FOR BY BOTH PARENTS!
WE ALL LEARNED SELF-RESPECT AND HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION!!! LOVE IS NOT BY FORCE!

There are "MANY UNBROKEN" homes were the children are ABANDONED by both parents who still CLAIMED TO BE YOLKED BY POVERTY OR POLYGAMY(PSEUDO-MARRIAGES). . . . .aka SHIARRRRRRING TOTOS AND BLOKOSES!

I will still prefer my situation 100%!!!!
The 4 children are THE ONLY CHILDREN FROM MY PARENTS!!!!!!! We grew up to be EMOTIONALLY-FORMIDABLE. . . . . .AND LEARNED TO LOVE ONLY THOSE WHO LOVED US!!!!
We did not miss NATIN!!!! Amen!!!!! [/quotetalking bullshyt!!!! Yr dad n mum were probably still lovers.....some father's get frustrated out of their children's lives. I don't think any sane man stands up and abandons kids. If trying to be in a child's life is met with blackmail as most angry women do...then its better to leave the children and live king for em. @op get in contact with your dad now you're older and let him tke care of his responsibilities. I'm pretty sure when you talk with him, a lot of things will mke sense and that deep feeling of rejection wikk go. The real culprit may just be your mother. Just saying. Hear both sides.

All feminazis deserve to die. Killed brutally

Isn't this the one that invented bribery for contracts by government. He brought Julius berger by earning kickbacks from bribes on federal contracts. Im sure bulk of Nigerian youths don't even know the man. He was killed cos of his super influence and wealth, plus corruption. Think he was the first massively corrupt public officer. Pls if u don't know history don't quote me to talk nonsense.

ultron12345:
its because our engineers know absolutely nothing....... that is how one of them opened a thread and they all began fighting our gallant and amiable doctors. Useless people.

na wa o

Why the fvck do we need Russia or any oyibo to run out steel industry. Are we truly second class humans?!!!!!! Goddddddddd.

Delivar:
I have said it several times that over-population will choke us as long as we don't do anything about it. Over-population is not just about numbers. It is when the available resources is not enough to go round everybody irrespective of what the numbers are. We should give birth to what we can care for and not overbreeding and bringing unecessary humans to the word.

this Is the simple driving force behind eugenics. And it's worthy , to note, eugenics build developed societies. Esp in northern Nigeria, there are too many unwanted humans. We need to start breeding the wanted traits in our society . that's the only way Nigeria can be saved. Population control

GuntersChain:
The only head of state that wanted to liberate the nation from the grip of the western world.

are u drunk or u simply dont omow history. This is one of nigerias most nepotic leaders of all time. A hot tempered brutal killer. His death was well deserved. The only leader that died a deserved death.

Ladyhippolyta88:
You can lie.So one should be prepared to live independent at old age nawa.

yez msam. The kids WD be occupied with their own families. The west has accepted this fact... Thts y they hve old ppls homes.

Ladyhippolyta88:
See them nairaland guys as it is a woman let us hear the other side of the story but if it was a man who reported this all of you would crucify her.How do you know she is pained and the man is innocent of the accusation?

that's y I said hear both sides instead of judging. Moreover I've NVR heard a MSN complain about this nonsense. I'll so abuse him. Who's expected to tke care of kids financial needs ? The man, if the woman decides to carry his responsibility.... Mke she no complain.

makydebbie:
Speak for yourself and not all men. I've seen men abandon their kids and I'm reacting to this story not even looking at gender. You all should leave me alone, if the table were turned, we'll hear how women are heartless and so on.

I've never in my life heard a man complain tht the woman left the kids for him to cater for. Even if she's wealthy. Women are built to always expect something from any sacrifice they mke. Little wonder I keep reading the kids will care for me in my old age and the man will be be put in his place...I ask how many of us are caring for our parents these days...the kids will hve their families and all resources channeled tht way. Better prep for an independent old age

VANENON:
Do the needful to his children and ignore her.
Your/his responsibility is to your children and not to her. Irrespective of her action pay/pay part of the children fees send her feeding money. Keep the evidence of transfer to her account or to children's school and show the evidence everywhere she goes to shout.

And how do u think the man would feel? Children are visitors o. No mans life should be made sad because of children by an estranged spouse. He's more useful alive than dead(which fan occur if he continues the drama with the woman)to the kids, whom will eventually grow and probably gain some real life lessons when theyre older. When they return.

shaybebaby:
He lucky he is in naij, try that shit here and claim it's the new wife with money,she'll pay for the upkeep of his children.

If he is cash poor but asset, the law will take a portion for the children. Except he wants to live with nothing in his name and unmarried, nigga will cough up. Nonsense!

like na only you dey live for Yankee....... There are more irresponsible dads there that here. Enforcing the law will need constant litigation by the woman. Plus I very much know that only applies to white collar/blue collar workers. Its better tp settle these things amicably. Ok what happens when the new union brings forth more kids? The first one will be given priority in ur head abi?

shaybebaby:
No, so the time and resources required to raise them should be shared equally.

by sharing you mean custody inclusive abi? Or typical of women ud expect to hold on to the kid while he trains them for u and they barely know him

hairyman:
Now this is the woman's side of the story, the man's side is rarely heard. But first let us explore some scenarios, did the man attempt to take some of the kids with him? Most probably he did but of course the woman resisted vehemently, if the children are young, the court will most likely grant the woman custody, so she keeps the kids, has what might be called a stable family, and expects the man to maintain that family while he wallows in loneliness. This isn't about child support, this is unfairness to men, if the woman is incapable of taking care of the children then she should give them up to the man, rather than expecting him to do all the duties from a distance while gaining nothing out of it given that with such duties, he will probably be unable to start another family somewhere else.
This brings us to another usual.scenerio, in which the woman also teaches the children to dislike their father or, often, threatens to do it. What use are children to a man if they hate him. Logic demands, in this case, that he starts another family. Support for the other becomes a matter of discretion, thus he might "support" as he seems fit or as is directed by the court and leaves it at that.
Anyway we rarely hear the man talk, the woman always plays the victim. More often than not though, she is far from that.
We get the picture of a nice considerate woma who refused to bother the man because she thought he wasn't financially stable. A grossly illogical picture because men do not seperate from nice, wonderful women!!!

some ppl will call u wicked (feminist birches), but as u get older as a man , ure eyes begin to open. Blackmail only gets you sympathy, it doesn't solve probs. I dnt understand y they always pop up when the mans bout to remarry

Ladyhippolyta88:
I don't think she is pained she can move on as well that is if she has not moved on already.It is not about her but the kids.Madam since he does not want to invest in his children you can do it and you alone would reap the benefit when they are much older.I am sure by then your husband would remember he is their father and want to also benefit from them when he invested nothing. and your kids would put him in his place .

how do u know the woman wasn't using the kids to blackmail him as pained women usually do and the guy decided to hands off? Have u heard the guys own side. Do u really think a man would leave his kids for no reason. She's a eking sympathy like the saint , when ppl dey warn am make she calm down she probably was forming strong woman. Anyways goofluck to her.

NeeKlaus:
What do people enjoy in "forced sex"? I have asked myself this question severally.

Awon Fifty Shades of Gray.

still CNT figure out how somebody will be banging a lifeless body or a girls thts crying in pains or begging or even frowning sef. When women full everywhere.

opomulero101:
So this guy can be tamed?

he's not tamed....he just shot his country up to world power status. Now hell be invited to sit on the g5 table. The black man thinks respect is earned by playing bandwagon. Your military might is what determines your political status as a nation, and by military might I don't mean, arms purchased. Arms manufacture is the only way respect comes. That's why its irritating no African leader has championed any form f manufacture. Buhari ofcos dullard NVR run economy na science e wan enter. Speaking of true black monkeys.