₦airaland Forum

sarahade:
I read post like this and go crazy. do you think that men are so wonderful that their wives don't think of cheating on them. let me tell you an average Nigerian woman will cheat on her husband with anyone gateman sef you know why because african men don't know how to love a woman but want submission and peace of mind. be the Man your wife wants and see if she won't have 3some with you.

Toks2008:
I have seen many marriages break up and it seems there is a common ground for disintegration.Today I will be as real as usual and it will be in the best interest of any married lady or intending wife to take this piece seriously.

If you are a married lady reading this I want you to understand that these 3 facts are essential for you to experience a happy union.

1. Expect your hubby to cheat on you: I have heard many times that not all men cheat and I sincerely believe but nevertheless, to be on the safer side, expect that man to cheat on you.

By having this expectation, you will not be caught unaware and you would have developed a psychological shock absorber in the advent that he does but if he remains faithful to you then good for you. It is totally foolish for a lady to hinge her marital happiness on her husband's fidelity.

And the moment you start seeing those cheating signs in him,rather that start threatening fire and brimstone which may worsen the situation, i will advice that you simply warn him to do it as far can from you because what you don't know can't hurt you and warn him to use a protection to avoid bringing home STDs.

Once you tell him this, just switch to indifferent mode as regards his sexual faithfulness to you and choose to be happy regardless. Hard I know but this is just how the cookie crumbles and this is one secret to having marital bliss even with a hopeless philanderer.

[b]This is one big secret i want every married lady reading this to know; Yes cheating must be discouraged and guys involved must understand that it is a sure way to hell but no matter how long you preach against it,men who want to cheat will still cheat on their wives but here is the secret...98% of men who cheat on their wives still love their wives so dearly but only want to take advantage of ladies who have willingly offered their-selves as side dishes...NEVER EVER GIVE UP YOUR MARRIAGE FOR A SIDE DISH TO TAKE OVER because that is what she wants you to do and even if you leave your marriage, there is no guaranty that your next man won't do worse. Believe it or not, most men always come back to their wives no matter how many side dishes they take advantage of and many men suffer from mid-life delusion crises where they believe it is their right to be with as any ladies as possible but relax, that euphoria and delusion will soon wear off and you will have your man 100% to yourself...This is one big secret i just revealed to you.[/b]

2. Make your own money: Do you know that if you are really busy with your life and very financially independent, you will care less about who your husband sees, where he goes and what he does outside the home or even what he has in his will? Do you know that men respect financially independent ladies?

What I want many married ladies to know is that once they are married and start having children, the most important thing in their life at that point is self development and that of the child(ren). When you spend time developing yourself, even your hubby will give you great respect. Please don't ever settle to be a full housewife..at worst get a shop around where you stay and do something.

3.Perform your marital duties: Men do not joke with bedroom and kitchen matters. Do you know how to cook your husband's favourite meals? do you know how to make him go crazy in the room?

Most men who cheat are lured by either good food or bed-magics of another lady. While you refuse to go down on him and give him those crazy moves, one lady out there is ready to do stuffs that will make him have an attention at work just by thinking about her.

Many married ladies keep nagging about their husband's infidelity while neglecting those virtues that will endear their husbands more to them..most times when a man is drawn away by another lady, there is usually something that lady is doing that you are lacking so focus first on becoming a great wife before you complain of your husband's infidelity.

And for the man, be communicative and let your wife knows what you want so that she can do her best to make the union a better one.
And if you are so hell bent on cheating on your wife please do it as far away as you can because one of the biggest ridicule and disrespect you can bring on your marriage is to cheat on her to her face.

I believe that if married ladies understand these three points, they will always remain happy in their marriages and infact grow old with their partners till death do them apart. You just understand that no one holds the key to your marital happiness except you.


I hope this makes sense

oyegbe:
The person that wrote this trash is an international award winning fu! . seun is not every thing you should post because this is a very big, bad and worst misinformation. TSA is not responsible for the recession, No money is lying dormant in the CBN. TSA is just a chanel instead of having multiple fake FG account. The sudden drop in government revenue with lack of savings is responsible for the wahala, no nation will survive when over 60% of its revenue source is not functioning couple with less savings. FG is looking for money to pump into the economy but that cash could only be available by concessioning and sales of FG properties and increase in oil output. if The NDA stay calm like this by december we will get positive growt. Listen to minister of national planning on Channels tv today on sunrise daily. all the necessary question needed to be asked were asked and answers were giving acordinly.

deliveryboy:
Get over Jonathan's loss and the fact that Igbos completely lost out in the last election. Dem wan DIEEEEEEEEE OF PAIIIIIIIIIIIN EEEEEEE!!!!!!

mazimee:
Channel your frustration to your president and his dumb incompetent ministers.
Your hatred won't change anything about her.

QuotaSystem:
[b]Left to wailers, they'd be thrilled if elections could be next week so they can finally force it down everyone's throat that "PMB has failed!". Unfortunately that dream declaration will never come to pass, just like their dead, buried and decayed GEJ till 2019 chant.

President Buhari remains the best choice we had in the 2015 elections and I remain absolutely confident with logical reasons, that PMB is the man to pull Nigeria out of the downward spiral that the failed, defeated and dying PDP put it in before handing over the reins of leadership. There is this creeping belief that even the wailers and triPODS know that Buhari has the integrity, experience, resolve and determination to make Nigeria work which is why they are in a haste to declare his administration as 'failed' just one year into his 4 year tenure.

With the Dangote refinery and gas plant coming into operation in 2018 solving our petroleum and power supply issues, the agricultural revolution going on across states particularly in the North, the ongoing tax reforms and efforts to develop our steel industry and the exploitation of solid minerals etc; it's only a half educated and severely ignorant bigot that will fail to see that Nigeria is moving in the right direction and Buhari's presidency is on course to be a resounding success.

Let them wail, time will tell . [/b]

QuotaSystem:
[b]Left to wailers, they'd be thrilled if elections could be next week so they can finally force it down everyone's throat that "PMB has failed!". Unfortunately that dream declaration will never come to pass, just like their dead, buried and decayed GEJ till 2019 chant.

President Buhari remains the best choice we had in the 2015 elections and I remain absolutely confident with logical reasons, that PMB is the man to pull Nigeria out of the downward spiral that the failed, defeated and dying PDP put it in before handing over the reins of leadership. There is this creeping belief that even the wailers and triPODS know that Buhari has the integrity, experience, resolve and determination to make Nigeria work which is why they are in a haste to declare his administration as 'failed' just one year into his 4 year tenure.

With the Dangote refinery and gas plant coming into operation in 2018 solving our petroleum and power supply issues, the agricultural revolution going on across states particularly in the North, the ongoing tax reforms and efforts to develop our steel industry and the exploitation of solid minerals etc; it's only a half educated and severely ignorant bigot that will fail to see that Nigeria is moving in the right direction and Buhari's presidency is on course to be a resounding success.

Let them wail, time will tell . [/b]

manny4life:
Let us see how they source their $$$$ for operational functions, I'm definitely not saying this isn't good, just saying that there's more to this. Who knows, they may get special $$$$ waivers from the CBN like Dangote does.

pippimp:
Yes women are very maternal. But it does not mean they are glued to the home permanently. Like i said before, your perspective is that of a Nigerian who has not seen a different way and is used to the same thing. Move to an organized society and come and tell me this again.

Pavore9:
There are things one do not make noise about and everyone has a role to play. The formation an individual has been exposed to influences how they work their relationships and no marriage is a straight line as there have been marriages where the wives have been very submissive to their husbands but never got the love in return rather their husbands exploited that to being insensitive to their spouse feelings.

What will be the perception of a girl child growing up in such family setting?

pippimp:
You are thinking like an African. My wife will cut you down with her glock 19 in a blink of an eye. And she's an expert with it. Your first thought was security because you are not used to it. Security is a very easy thing to manage. Nigerians just don't know how to manage it yet. I have jumped out of Airplanes countless times. Guess what? So have tons of women in my unit. Bigger does not mean stronger. I know a lot of women who will take you down before you can say, WTF?, just by using combatives 101. The African mentality is yet to evolve and understand this fact. This is why you all are always amazed when you see women who are plumbers, mechanics, barbers, pilots, soldiers etc. Where i'm from, it is a normal thing. Move to an organized society and you will completely understand what i am talking about

pippimp:
Go back and read what i wrote. I said "traditionally". Which means the role can be reversed.

Ubenedictus:
let ur friend or his chairman come out and refute wwhat the other chairmen has. What u have above is call beer palour gossip, its truth magin is pretty low.

Ubenedictus:
let ur friend or his chairman come out and refute wwhat the other chairmen has. What u have above is call beer palour gossip, its truth magin is pretty low.

pippimp:
For you to understand that, you need to understand what leadership is. I am a leader and my organization's definition of leadership is "the process of influencing people by providing purpose, direction, and motivation while operating to accomplish the mission and improve the organization.” It is a very targeted definition. To answer your question, you are expected to lead in order to achieve desired objectives. Whatever that is. At the core of it, is being the standard. Do as i Do, not as i say. It also means being at the beck and call of whoever you lead. Because as leaders, we are expected to serve our followers. Not the other way around.

ifenes:
Unfortunately 90% of men need guidians themselves. How can a woman be submissive to an abuser,drunk and manipulator? Religion is a curse indeed.

Pavore9:
Your post l quoted tied the husband's authority to the fact he is paying the bills and the woman should reciprocate with submission, In the family unit, everyone has a role they ease into. I grew up knowing issues my father has a final decisions on and the ones my mother has the last word. Though my mum was a strongly opinionated person it did not distort the family's essence rather it strengthened it.

Couples have their unique ways of handling the issue of submission.

pippimp:
Guy. The fraudster/pastor is talking rubbish. Husband means "PARTNER" not master. They both compliment each other. What he should have said was, traditionally, the husband is expected to "LEAD". It is normal for one of two partners to lead. That's just how it is. But to claim that the man is the master is just stupidity on his part. I wonder why people listen to people like this?

Catalyst4real:
Best Read
The quest for equality is what is killing marriages in USA.
There can't be two masters in a home. That position can't be shared.

Pavore9:
What if it is the woman's income that is taking care of the rent, school fees etc?

ifenes:
It meant a woman shouldn't speak or give a speech in a church! Any woman who wants to be free should boycott Christianity. It isn't for them.

The opposite of Master is Slave. Women are slaves according to the bible.

Ubenedictus:
this is what happens when u swallow propagada. the edo local govt chairmen who have the info are very clear tha osho doesnt touch there money, what u have above is propaganda
www.vanguardngr.com/2015/06/edo-algon-defends-oshiomhole-over-misappropriation-allegation/
www.nigerianobservernews.com/2015/06/statutory-allocation-oshiomhole-does-not-interfere-algon/

Jay542:
Wrong. What if there are complications? All you advisers won't be with her. Whereas, she can give birth to the child and her mother would take care of the baby and she goes to struggle for Life. A year + would and her mum will accept but it will be worth it.

Ubenedictus:
Actually local govt in edo are autonomous their allocations are untouched, even iyamu didnt contest dat, his issue is dat state govt is collect more direct revenue that he thinks belongs to d local govt.

Majesticniyi:
Well, if you say I don't know how to drive a manual.....who am I to argue, oh omniknowest?

I happen to be a mechanical engineer tho....ND and B.Sc so I'm sure there's very little you can tell me about cars