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one thing i hate most is online bullying i dont care what the issues are but when you put someone pictures on the net over a case that has not been judged in any court of law or proved i can not stand it,thats mob justice and i see it is fast becoming a trend in nigeria,i have seen people being labelled all sorts of names on this nl and their names and pictures pasted and nothing happens,they walk scotfree,no one sues them,nothing .

Anyway for those who have been victims,relax there is good news,remember the saying"no one has monopoly over voilence"?the same rules apply too on the web,if anyone throws a stone at you you can also throw one at him or her too.this is how it works,let say for example xx paste your picture on the net without authoraization from any court of law labelling you anything,you do your own digging into xx life,trust me there is always dirty somehwere ,get his or her real names and pictures,you too upload his pictures with any label you like scammer!!!! or whatever tittle you like,create an allegation too against him or her,make sure google picks it up,you too forget about proofs or order from court remember it is all about the scandal and drama too,you can do this on many traffic catching sites on the web.
So it becomes do me i do you!!!!!simple

Alfa Seltzer: I was going to help you but you wanted christans only.

Ki-Katanga:
The Bible shows that GOD's word is law and those who transgress are condemned without mercy. Those who are homosexuals are condemned in Leviticus, but those who are thieves and take that which is not theirs are condemned in the ten commandments. In Proverbs, it is written "Lying lips are an abomination to the LORD" so he will burn in hell.

It was for deception that man was thrown from Eden to this cursed Earth, and no amount of repentance is enough to make GOD forgive us even for the sins of those others.

He will burn in hell.

from the above comments it is very clear this fellow is not a christain at all,see the way he is misquoting and presenting the bible,sorry to say these are the types that raise extremists,from the sound of his name looks like a cultist or a traditonal or something

@neksummi please i am very much interested in your empowerment programme,i currently have a blog but not making any money from it,would love to learn more from you,have sent a link of your blog to mine .here is my email collisaimi@yahoo.com

fb is also a place i see as very dangerous if you are not carefull,i know marriages that have been broken because of facebook,fb in itself is not bad it is the way folks use it especaily nigerians,imagine someone who has a grugde against you insulting you on your wall for your friends,fake ones,family,inlaws to see,i tell you anyone can bring you down by just writing lies on your wall.
even if at the end of the day the lies are proved to be lies,who goes back to tell your friends friends and so on,the damage would have been done

i have tried calling her on the phone so many times to talk with her but she doesnt pick my calls and when i tried calling her with a hidden number she droped the phone as soon as she heard my voice,the texts she sent to my phone,she called my wife a "a dirty smelling woman"called my two kids who are both under 5 years stupid,called me a pig and so many unprintable words,i almost had a heart attack when i first read her texts,i just couldnt belive what i was reading.she told my mum that my wife is an evil woman and so many things,it even came to a stage i almost had problem with my wife cause i was really insiting that something must have happend between them when i was not at home,she cried her heart out that she never did anything to my sister,a day before my sister left my house she told me that my wife and i are very close so u can imagine how i felt when she started sending those texts.
ok lets say for a moment she doesnt like my wife or my wife offended her in my absensewhy insulting me and the painfull part of it all why rain curses on innocent kids?what do the kids know?is she not supposed to be an aunt to them? but one thing i thank my stars is that i am alive to witness this,what if (GOD FORBID)i was no more and ihad entrusted the care of my kids to her,that is the part that would be difficult for us to ever come back as brother and sister again,to me children are the boundary,you dont wish kids evil whether they are yours or not
If you have a problem with me or wife,what has my kids gat to do with it?i dont know where all this hatred is coming from?even my mum had to beg me to be calm over it all.

Honestly never in my wildest dreams did i ever think i will be in this kind of situation,and honestly i dont know how to handle it because i have never belived things like this could to me,i alwys belived such things only happen in nollywood movies.let me start the whole story like this,i am married to a lovely and very supportive wife whom i thank GOD everyday for having found,we have two lovely kids and our home is always happy me and my wife understand each other so well,anytime we have problems we quickly resolve it till date she remains my biggest fan,so you can imagine our joy one day when my junior sister called that she was coming to visit us for a week,we looked forward to her visit (if i had known i would have asked her not to come).she came on the visit but one thing i noticed was that my sister had developed an habit of complaining about people calling them all sorts of names,infact i stopped asking her about people we uded to know cause of degratory remarks about them from her,nevertheless my sister played the saint while in my house,my wife did everything to make her stay pleasant,i had even instructed my wife to make sure my sister didnt do any chores in the house throughout her visit,depite all what we did,we recieved insults and abuses back in return from my own sister.throughout her stay in my house we didnt quarrel ,we even escorted her to take transport back to her place,so you can imagine our wildest surprise when a day after she had left,she sent very abusive and unprintable insults to me on my mobile phone,she pratically insulted me,my wife and my kids calling us all sorts of names,up till today i am still trying to reach her and ask her what exaclty we had done to her,when i call her she would not pick my call,only sending abusive texts to my phone till i had to block messages from her,also she started calling up my parents and saying terrible words about my wife.but thank GOD for the kind of parents i have they saw through her,i later sent her a text that she can never scatter my family,she cannot come between me and my wife,never!!!!!!

hello mr banji,i can see you are doing a great job,keep it up and may the lord contiune to bless you.please i would to wish to confrim something from you.you see i export cars to nigeria and i have this clearing agent who has been clearing cars for me but the last one i sent was really on the high side,the last one i sent was green in colour and my agent told me it was seized at the wharf,according to him that there is new order to seize all green colour cars coming into wharf by the army,i was like what!!!!!the green is not even military green,i had to cough out 100k to release the car in addition to the clearing charges.
what i want to confirm from you is is this,is it true that green colour cars are being seized at the wharf now?

mr banji,i can see you are doing a great job amn may the lord contiune to bless you.please i would wish to confirm something from you cause i have been thinking about it a lot,you see i export cars to nigeria and i have this clearing agent who has been doing it for me but the last cars i sent were really on the high side,i sent in a car with green colour and he told me the customs seized the car that an order has been given to seize all green colour cars coming to the wharf according to him,i had to cough out 100k in addition to the clearing charges.
please what i want to confirm from you is this,is it true that green colour cars are being seized at the wharf?cause i smell a rat,thank you

miinmum cost of going to europe?by land naw

The father has every right to cry out if his son life is in danger,haba even prisoners can not be killed anyhow in prison,i am one who doesnt tolerate corruption but like i have always said 80 percent of the people writing here will do worse than bankole,we need to a total overhaul of our moral system as a nation,my staff are always trying to cheat me out of my money infact most of you guys writing here if you meet this bankole in person will ask for his own share.the father has every right to cry out

the average nigerian is corrupt,80 per cent of the people writing here will do worse than bankole if given such a position,the only way to rid corruption is that we have to be true to ourselves and tell ourselves the bitter truth,a gateman will look for ways to collect money from vistors before they can see oga,a teacher will ask for bribes from students to pass them and the list goes on but we all come here shouting hoiler than thou! once a man is given offical position his family and friends put presuure on him to get rich seeing it as their time.corruption prevails every sector of our society so what are we saying here?in your office or whatever you do for a living are you totally honest?these politicans we love to blame for our woes,did they drop from the skies?abeg make i hear word!!!

i am interested in the cold room truck,so when is it going to land lagos?i am ready with cash but that your price need to come down o,can i see the pics?hope its automatic and full option

i beg make una no vez o for the spelling errors ,i no preview before i send am

na wah o, this whole thing is becoming a talkshow,nigerians we too like to dey insult ourselves sha,from what i can see over this issue,larryshow and and benvin had a deal and somewhere down the line things didnt go as planned, please i would beg both parties to come to an amicable settlement,life is too short to be having enemies all over the place,i am sure if you guys met face to face you would laugh over this matter.@larry4show i am sure you will pày into the account today,pls dont debate over the amount with anybody,just pay the 25k,you owe nobody any explaination,your integrity is tied to this for now,see the word,for now,you will still do many other business just use this as form of experince in business,it shall be well with you,@benvin i understand how you feel but as you can see the man has explained his own side and even apologised to you,no one is perfect, i am sure he never intentionally wanted to hurt you,am sure you understand,it shall be well with you@at the moderators you guys are great,you know what i think i like this people court on nl,it would give people more confidence to do business here cause i have not seen amy case that has been brought here that has not be settled,try the poñice and you will see their form of settlement wayo all the way,@busybdy i appericate what you are trying to do here but i want you to know that this world is deep,you and i were not there when thye started this deal so we can not throw judgments based on our mind skills or whatever,even in the court of law all the facts would have to be present before the judge can make statemnets,pls desist being an alarmist,it would only bring more fire to the issue,na solution we want.,it shall be well with you.

please i am in search of a moneylender,i have things i can put forward as surties for the loan,pls i need a loan to start a little business .thanks

i dont understand this thing anymore,i thought you said he had paid you 250k before and now you are saying he paid in the 250k just yesterday?

@poster meeeeeeeeeeeeen how do you guys do this?am a dealer from europe ,getting and shipping a camry 07 to lagos will cost over this price you are selling it now,how una take dey do am?e be like say i go come dey go america go check myself cause its so unbelievable ,a camry 07 in europe costs not less than 15,000 euros convert that to naria we never talk talk of shipping and clearing o,you guys in america make una no come collect our customers in nigeria finish o,my fellow europe dealers we should do something about this o,lo!

kids being deported?

please guys in holland,beligum or germany please could you give me the direction to any good used car market in any of these countries,where i can buy a good used car and if possible ship to naija the same day so i can return to my base,i would be so glad if anyone can help me please with this information,GOD BLESS

when you ask a general question like this,you will get different answers from different people based on their own situation because you cant really sit down behinde a computer and know whats going on in the world,sometimes you to have to see for yourself,well i i live here legally in spain,i have been here for 11 years so i will advise you based on my own experrince,mark my words oh,i said on my OWN EXPERINCE O,when i got here i had no papers but within a year i got my work and residence permit, permiso de trabajo y residencia as the spainish call it,today i hold a spainsh passport,have almost completed payment on my mortage here,have been able to build a befitting house back home in naija,but having said all this.it was not a rosy jounery like that,they were ups and downs but by the grace of GOD i pulled through,right now as you know europe is experincing economic troubles and spain too was seriously affected but the government is beginging to put measures in place to control the situation,i know friends who have lost their jobs and i also have friends who have never lost their jobs,thats life for you,for me personaly spain has been good to me o

@usewisdom its ok bro,no hard feelings,maybe i misunderstood you,am sorry,make we no overheat ourselves jare afterall we are from the same country,one love bro

on second thoughts for the benefit of others reading,let me say this,NO WHERE IN THE WORLD IS A PARADISE,YOU WORK FOR A LIVING,NO FREE HANDOUTS ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD,i am based here in nigeria but business takes me reguarly to europe and the us,i notice some nigerians are making it over there while many also are finding things hard,one thing in life is that all fingers are not equal,if things are hard for someoneyou can always come back home to set up a business no matter how little,great things start with a little step,i have to come to know that LIFE IS A MYSTERY ONLY GOD KNOWS IT,I KNOW NIGERIANS THAT NEVER LOSE THEIR JOBS EVEN IN THE RECSSION,I KNOW NIGERIANS THAT ARE DOING GREAT JOBS IN THE US ,i also know nigerians that are doind cleaning jobs but they are still living,my advise to anyone who wants to leave the shores of nigeria should do so with the right visa ,my advise always to people is this if you are here in nigeria and you cannot travel out legally then stay back home GOD can still bless you and for those our brothers and sisters who are aready out there may you all come back with blessings and prosperity @usewisdom do i make myself clear to you now?

This is one of the reasons i dont make comments on nl because some peeps always take things too personal and out of context,no maturity whatsoever most especially when you disagree with their views@usewisdom why dont you act like your username says or maybe i hit a nerve with my question ba?anyways i dont have time to waste making further comments on your thread .cheers

@usewisdom if things are that bad,why are you still there?

thanks for ur offer,pls am going bald and i am still ath the prime of my life 25,and i cant seem stand the jeers i get from people cos of my situation,even from my girlfriend and this hairloss has really affected my selfesteem

please i am a young man of 25 years and i have aready started going bald,i know its not a big deal as some people might say but its causing me pain,friends are beginging to make fun at me pls is there any remedy or solution to to male baldness?

@poster i dont know if i can state my problems here o cos am a man but i belive u can still advise me on what to do,am a young man of 25 years but i am starting to go bald and this has become a big source of pain to me ,my friennds have started jeering at me cos of this condition,and this bald condition is completeing changing my appearacnce is there wigs for men cos i have not seen anything like that for men,pls do advise me on what to do,thank you so much

@poster man i can understand perfectly what you are going through,the same thing happened to me,i used to think i was the only one in such situation but i would want you to try and work on your marriage and let it not end like mine(divorce)try and look at the good side of her,learn to tolerate her more and please dont compare her to anyone else,do try this and i am sure u will come to love her at least little by little,but let me ask does she love you?if she does my man,thats gold

it is all over,idont know what lessons to draw from all these but i wish her in the best in her future marriage as for me i guess it is time to move on with my life

please my fellow nairalanders i am back again,u guys really helped out the last time,i am sorry to report here that my marriage has broken up honestly i tried everything as you all advised me to but painfully alas three days ago my wife called me up and told me she wanted out of the marriage in the presence of my parents and her parents,as i write this we now live aparti have decided to leave my apartment for her though she wanted otherwise,as for the kid we have concluded plans on how i would be providing funds for his upkeeping.
so the the thing i had always dreaded when i was a child has finally happened,i am now a divorcee with a child,i have tried begging her to reconsider but her mind is now made up,cant blame her though,we had been in a loveless marriage but i will still wait for her,she said she wants to keep the baby though my parents and i kicked against it but then i have decided to respect her wish

@tpia thanks and 4 u all who have responded thank you all,well i am beginging to apply the maxim which says "if you dont marry the one you love then love the one you marry"i came across this in a book,i want to belive that things will work out good for me,those things i didnt like about my wife i am begining to accept cos there is nothing i can do about them than pray and encorage her to change.
once again i have decided to accept my responsiblites so pls those insulting responses which i have noted from some members should pls stop,i know i messed up but then i have paid d price and still doing,i make sure my wife lacks nothing materially,i also take care of my inlaws very much,infact my faterinlaw said i am one of the most responsible son in laws he he has ever seen,so pls nobody should insult me here,i only stated my feelings which to me is not a sin,so please all da beefers get off my back,once again peace to you all