Since have being dating my fiancee going to 3 years now, I have being doing almost all her parent responsibilities.
I was the one that sent her to school -ND1 and ND2, I paid all the semesters school fees.
I also paid her 2 years rent, when she was in the school. All her handouts and school bills were paid by me. Even till feeding.
Her parent are just to poor, that they can't even provide what they'll eat for themselves.
I did almost everything within my power to provide for her and help her parent atimes with some little I can afford.
Now she's done with her ND programme, am planing to enrol her for a professional Catering Job, which is amount to almost 250k.
At times she come to my place and spent like 2weeks, 3 weeks or even 1 week with me.
So of a recent her mom asked her to come home and spend some days with them.
She now called and ask me for feeding money, but I was angry and I asked her, Can't your parent provide basic needs? Like feeding, clothes etc. You'll be in my house I'll provide what you'll eat and when you're in your parent too, I'll still be the one to provide what you'll eat. Didn't your dad go out every morning to go and work?
I just told her, that if her parent can't provide basic needs, I don't think is proper.
And again she's the type that want to wear what other ladies are wearing and want to up to standard.
And I didn't send any money to her.
I just want to know if am wrong for asking her that. because her dad is alive and mom is healthy, but they're always broke and no money, that they hardly feed 3 square meals.
pmoye: This is advice is really for Nigerian ladies. Please and please do not marry a man that is not rich. Your very life will depend on it. You heard me... How long you live as a woman may well depend on how rich your husband is. This may seem like an over-generalization, but a very needful one. Quite a troubling percentage of Nigerian men can not handle a woman who is more financially buoyant.
Ideally it shouldn't matter how much each person earns, because I believe that the husband and the wife should be one financially. That the home should be planned like a company with budgets, financial planning, sound auditing and all... But from the much we have seen around the average Nigerian family is far from this ideal. We often have what increasingly looks like a union that appears more to serve a cultural/societal expectation, a union that is sustained just so that the society can think you are happily married, while between the man and the wife it is more like between US and China, between Northern and Southern Nigeria, a perpetual cold war and bitter jostling for resource allocation and control.
I have seen women who have died because the husbands couldn't afford antenatal care and used ego-motivated argument to keep the women from accessing timely medical care... And of course, few years or even months after that those wicked men would later bring in other wives into the house.
The poorer the man, the more wicked, the more angry, and the more deadly he generally is in Nigeria. Do not let any man or any woman convince you to marry for love. There is no such thing as that, just a queer surge of hormones that makes you think you are in love. If you marry a poor man for love, hunger and suffering will soon reset your thinking, and by then most women feel too culturally compelled to remain with the toxin of a husband they have. Take a cue from evolutionary development in animal kingdom generally where females select the most suitable male for mating.
Do not simply believe in a man's future plans and dreams. If he doesn't have money now, he is not ready to be a husband. No matter how much you think you love him, treat him like the case of AS genotype (yours) marrying an SS genotype (his). And this is something I respect some Igbo men for. They will never think of marrying a woman unless they are economically ready.
If he is earning N30,000, or N40,000 or N90,000 per month he is not ready to marry. These are just examples from posts I have seen around here. Do not be fooled, the amount on the payslip is not always available for taking care of the home. But that's the talk for another day.
Some of us are probably never going to get married, I personally find it very scary to read about how men because of poverty increasingly turn against their wives in marriage... I may be too traditional though, because I do not fvcking care the money the wife is bringing into the house. Her role as a mother and a wife is already supremely more than you need to compensate for as a man. If you are a man, do not get close to a man when you are still poor. It is wickedness. It is dishonesty. It is crime against humanity. Do not sell her a future hope of becoming a pastor and other popular silliness.
Marrying a lady when you cannot completely and single-handedly take care of her is gender violence. Stop it.
Iyaebe: Majority of Nigerian youths are cultists, them plenty for nairaland here sef,I no dy fear una.Dare me and I will start calling out their monikas.
Soljaboi44: A Nigerian lady identified as Annabella Joseph has taken to a Facebook group known as Rant HQ Extension to narrates how she slided to a guy's DM, calling him her crush and subsequently get married to him
Iyaebe: Shameless man that is sleeping with a married woman and cheating with another single lady.Shame has left all these men and this is somebody's future husband ooo,where are we going in this life like this? I pity the unfortunate lady that will eventually marry this shameless yahoo boy.
Foreverdope: A woman named Cristal is currently trending on TikTok after she shared photos of the horrifying injuries her boyfriend inflicted on her.
Cristal is trending because the video she shared showed how her “caring and attentive” boyfriend named Jordan turned into an abuser and inflicted horrific injuries on her.
When the ‘going was good’ in their relationship, Cristal spoke about how much he’s changed her life and how talented and smart he is.
However, on November 24, an altercation occurred and he beat her up, leaving her with a bleeding nose and swollen eye.
God1000: Some guys have done unimaginable just to get a lady's attention or please her, some fight over women, steal money from their parents or engage in crime and criminality all to Impress girls, yahoo guys spend all their money on ladies. I have a neighbor (a bike rider) that wasted all his money and energy on ladies for almost ten years, eventually he borrowed huge amount of money from cooperative that he was gonna buy a bike but instead he went home to marry a wife with the money, I don't know who advised him to do such a thing, he's into serious debt now, he doesn't have anything, he doesn't have his own bike as well, I just pity the poor woman he married, they've taken away all his property in the house including the mattress and cooking gas. He's now using my gas everyday to cook.
So many guys would have made it big in life if not for ladies that ruined them completely, and the funny thing in the end is that they end up not marrying such girls after everything. So guys should learn how to control themselves and be responsible.
So ladies, what crazy thing has a guy done for you all in the name of love? Or what insane thing have you made a guy do before?
Supreme145: I was on my own chilling jejely when my next door neighbor knocked on my door, he said I wanted movies so I let him into my room reluctantly. I hardly relate with my co tenant's beyond hi hi greeting so I was kinda uncomfortable letting him into my room.
He sat down and had this bewildered look on his face, the next thing I heard was, Bros omo you get mind dey stay inside this kind empty room o, so na ontop this kind flat bed you dey run all these your babes wey dey come see you ehhn....nawao you be badt guy oo. So na ontop this bed that one wey get big nyash dey even lie down with all slay queen shakara. He kept blabbing while I kept silent, I asked him so even if I want to buy a better it should be because of ladies baa, and he said ehhhn now, how you go dey run matters on top this mat. This someone that I gave transport fare to go and meet someone he said was owning him.
He kept quizzing me on how I'm able to attract ladies despite the vaguely furnished room, I went on to tell him that girls are not my problem now. Moreover I'm not dating most of them, I run projects for people so some of them are people I'm working for.
Even though I've developed a tough skin to this kind of negative comments, I was upset though I masked my embarrassment. But why do some guys feel everything must be to impress ladies, I for one don't have time for them and I'm fully focused of sharpening my programming skills in order to get a job before the year runs out so I can renew my rent by January. For someone that was once homeless and slept in lecture halls, this my current place is like a duplex to me, and how I got this place is still a miracle to me.
Hence my question is the room really that bad? I've visited some friends and my room is nothing to write home about. Is it so bad that the guy feels I am not worthy to have a girlfriend just because of it?
Ladies can you date or marry a guy living in this kind of apartment?
I don't understand, don't women too have future? welcome to Nigeria that a Nigerian boyfriend have responsibilities,than a father of 4 in Europe
Ogaga87: For men, aborted babies comes with masturbasion..
I once had a dream and GOD revealed it to me.. I woke in that dream to ease myself and on entering my bathroom, every where was filled with premature babies.. It was much that even the needle won't find a space between them.. From that day to date, I knew the act of masturbasion is a sin of death.. I do it and am praying for deliverance..
Romance › Re: Does Body-count Matters ?? by Richvibes1997: 4:05pm On Dec 08, 2021
