Yes, we had 2 beautiful children together (Boys) and I am always happy when I see them at my ex family house.
They asked why i was leaving and I explained my reason to them. I could not correct my ex on anything without her shouting at me.
Small disagreement which she caused o, she would be moody all day that I have to apologies before she would start talking with me.
On 2 occasions she was showing me something on her phone, messages from different guys came in appreciating her visits.
My phone is a open book, she had my passwords, even transfers money from my accounts before telling me she did, no issue was raised.
What broke the camels back was her bad mouthing me to my parents that I was unfaithful which she claimed she had no proof but sensed it.
And other stories to our close friend then that I hit her on several occasion which even her Dad said he doubts as there is no single scratch on her.
My delay in walking away had to do with what people told me about how kids suffer when parents are not together. That you end up getting married again and another woman treats your kids badly. However someone told me that my kids would learn how a marriage should be when they see how I leave with my wife.
I want to raise kids who would understand that despite mistakes make in relationships they could pick themselves up and move on.
That with the fact that my parents are married for 50years no issues and I looking like I had failed in marriage.
It was hell as some friends laughed at my back that I could not hold a home while they complain everyday.

I knew she lied a lot and would saying that I do not give them money for feeding even though she usually shared the outings I take her on on Facebook. She repeated same with my parents as one of the reasons she was always quarreling with me. So I told them that I would instead be paying my children school fees and giving her mom 60k monthly for the 2 boys. I would also get cloths for them whenever they needed new cloths. She should get her own money for her upkeep. Giving her the money would only finance her lifestyle.

I did not sell the house, I only told them I sold it so she would move out of the place. A colleague from work posed as the buyer. He is from another town so she does not know him. I am currently back leaving in my house now.

Marriage is something I would encourage everyone to go into. Would however advise that you open your eyes and take every little sign serious because there are lots of warning we feel that people would outgrow after sometime.
As for me, I currently am focused on raising my kids and would want to get my kids back from her parents when they are in secondary school (Boarding school) as it gets lonely sometimes.
Not considering going into marriage for now or anything serious as I want to focus on building myself to a level I feel I should be. Though her parents are still pleading on her behalf for 3 years now, she also keeps calling requesting that we talk, but the hell I passed through brings me back to earth every time.

Klass99:


This was interesting.
If you don't mind my asking did you and your wife have any kids?
Did wifey and her people come looking for you, to try and resolve things after you moved out?
Why did you delay the decision to walk away? Were you trying to work on your marriage or was it the fear of what will people say, that kept you there for much longer?
Did you actually sell your house, after you left? That part wasn't clear from your post.
Why send upkeep money to the mother in law and not the mother of the child instead, like you suggested?
If you could turn back the hands of time, would you get married ever?
Sorry about the 21 questions, I am just curious.

I only hope you take this very good advice.
In life, one makes mistakes and the major mistake one can make is who he marries. (Warren Buffet said that by the way).
I usually tell my friends that no amount of people gossip is worth someone's happiness or peace of mind.
It is in my opinion that you would not even make heaven if you are in an unhappy marriage as you would not be grateful to God for other blessings in your live.
I was in a similar situation, I walked away and am happier than before with my only regret been that I should have made the decision i made earlier.
My advise is this.
1. Go rent a one bedroom flat and move there for 6 months, if you own your house as i did, take your house documents with you.
2. Pay off the loan you took and put yourself in a good place.
3. Approach your Childs' school and pay her school fees. Send your wife's Mum money for your child's upkeep so no one would call you a debt beat dad.
4. Tell your wife you would call her when you are ready and take the time to clear your head if going back is what you want.
5. Put your house up for sale and act with one of your friend to make it seem he bought the place.
6. Request for full custody of your child, depending on the age you can get visitation rights.
7. Start dating again and be happy.

Just saw Dele Momodu's picture been used to describe feeling listing to Kanye West Donda Album on Facebook.
Accurate representation of how I feel about the album.

No one is talking o.
People's lives so not matter anymore.

Not to berate you or your Sister, you just mentioned the main issue, she is rude to her husband.
I almost got married to a lady who was also hot tempered and I must tell you that I passed through hell.
I was not coming home in time and rather stayed with my friends than going home. This gave room for cheating.
I left her eventually and met a lady I am married to now, and I must say that we have peace. I take her anywhere I go to and have not cheated on her for 5 years we have been married.
Ladies these days need to learn how to behave.

A brief background of what formed my opinion.
In 2017, a Corp member received double allowance from the NYSC. She came to the bank where i work and we were having a conversation around it. She told me that she was broke and needed some money to pay for some certain things. What she needed was above her allowance and when the double allowance was paid she knew for sure that her prayers worked as the money was enough to cover what she needed it for.
Also, that was meant to be her last allowance as she had passed out some days prior.
In 2018, a friend gave my number to someone in another bank that he erroneously transferred monies in millions to another persons account and asked me to help recover the funds. I got across to the customer after a formal request was sent to us and pleaded with him to return the monies which he refused. His claim was God worked in mysterious ways and at that moment he needed money and it came. I explained that this was someone's error and he might be in serious trouble if the funds are not recovered, he then proceeded to ask for gratification and I had to end the conversation.
In 2020, Someone sent monies erroneously to a customer's account and we reached out to him to return the funds as he had withdrawn the money. We pleaded with him to return the monies but he refused that he was pressed. The issue here was that the monies that appeared in his account was more than his 2 years salary.

How the stories ended
The first lady would not be able to borrow from any bank now until she settles NYSC as her BVN has been reported.
A court order was gotten to reverse the funds from the second person's account as he did not touch the funds.
The third person is in EFCC custody as I write wondering what he has gotten himself into.

Conclusion.
In as much as I would not want to comment on what individual believe to be true, please do not put yourself in trouble with EFCC because you believe money you did not work for can appear in your account and it is from God.
I say this because I was there to explain my role in the last case even when I felt I had no case to answer, and I cried in my heart.
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Are you seeking advice or validation of your actions?

It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.[color=#990000][/color]

This part got me. It shows that you have an African man mentality.
I do have a Job and my girlfriend leaves with me, I paid for the apartment with everything in it. Her monthly salary is not upto my monthly tithe.
That said, I do was the dishes sometimes and clean occasionally. We do have a washing machine, I load the cloths, rinse them and she drys them on the line ( i do dry the cloths too) every sunday. I don't see this as a chore.
That said, there are other ways to show you are a man.
I dont know what your skills are or would have advised you, but would say this. Get off the house and look for something. Even working at an eatery to pay your bills and you will be fine.

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Thank me later.

Saw this sign post during my last trip to Makurdi.

Desola: Are they meant to sit around while Jonathan kills all their people?

Tell us where your aligence lie. Are you for BOKO HARAM or for THE FEDERAL REPUBLIC OF NIGERIA? Sometimes people just say things they really haven't thought through. Your above statement is TREASONOUS if you're not aware.

I can't help but think this is the handwork of Governor Amechi to potrail The president as a POWER HUNGRY MONSTER. Why is the poster only appearing in Rivers State when the president started his 2011 campaign actively in October 2010. Just a thought.

I work in Adamawa(Yola), things are not as bad as most people outside here think. However caution is key to avoid long stories.

Just listen and be Amazed
Official single of IMMACULATE d 1st runner Up Peak Talent Show

http:///S95BOA
or
http://freshnaija.com/fresh-beats/fresh-beat-immaculate-jidenum-aka/

Evashinen: This is really very true and something every lady must take heed to. Sex is worth waiting for till marriage.

Let us stop decieving ourselves. Any guy who has ever had sex will always want it. The frequency is what matters. We should stop all this propaganda about PREMARITAL sex because trust me in MARRIAGE SEX IS VITAL and so you need to know the level of your partners' performance.
My Brother didnot Enduge in PREMARITAL SEX with his EX-WIFE although he was sexually active. However, SEX was the MAIN Reason they got divorsed.
So if someone is going to talk about marriage, do not single just one aspect, treat all aspects which include Personality, Attitude, Behaviour/Actions of the Spouse.
A girl once dealt with me, I really did like her, I was trying to wait till we got married while I paid her every expenses even though she was working(Not paid well though), By the time i wisened up, she was sharking-up with some other guy.
This is the TWENTY-FIRST century, Test all aspects of your spouse before commiting your entire life.

JOHNBULL4040: TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN

MY NAME IS JOHNBULL. ONE OF MY COUSINS WAS AMONGST THE FOUR YOUNG MEN GRUESOMELY BURNT ALIVE IN ALUU.

AS GOD IS MY WITNESS, I INTEND TO AVENGE HIS/THEIR DEATHS!

WHAT HAPPENED TO THESE YOUNG MEN IRRESPECTIVE OF WHETHER THEY COMMITTED A CRIME OR NOT, IS BY EVERY HUMANE STANDARD, VERY DISTURBING AND BEYOND BELIEF.

WHAT THESE ALUU PEOPLE DID TO THEIR FELLOW HUMAN BEINGS CLEARLY SUGGEST THAT THEY ARE A VERY SICK COMMUNITY.

FROM THE VIDEO WE ALL WATCHED, NOT EVEN ONE PERSON RAISED A FINGER TO HELP THESE POOR BOYS.

EVEN ANIMALS ARE NOT SLAUGHTERED THIS WAY.

I HAVE ASSEMBLED A 30-MAN SQUAD TO GO INTO THE ALUU COMMUNITY AND MASSACARE EVERYONE IN SIGHT.

I HAVE ALSO INSTRUCTED A SPECIAL TEAM TO FIND AND SHOOT THE VC OF UNIPORT FOR SUPPORTING THE BRUTAL KILLINGS OF THESE BOYS.

I AM ONLY GIVING THIS ADVANCED WARNING TO THE VC OF UNIPORT, AND THE ALUU COMMUNITY, JUST TO TORMENT THEM, THE WAY THEY TORMENTED THESE 4 YOUNG MEN.

I WILL ADVICE THE POLICE AND OTHER SECURITY OUTFITS TO PLEASE STAY OUT OF THE MATTER DURING THE OPERATIONS, THE WAY THEY MADE THEMSELVES UNAVALIABLE DURING THE MURDER.

ANYONE WHO DELIBRATELY INTERFERS, WILL BECOME A LEGITIMATE TARGET BOTH DURING AND AFTER THE OPERATIONS.

FOR THOSE WHO DOUBT THIS WARNING, PLEASE WAIT & SEE!!

PLEASE DIRECT COMMENTS TO : johnbull4040@yahoo.com

What they did is Unforgiveable, So is going to kill Innocent people who didnot partake in the KILLINGS. If you attack go attacking these INNOCENT ONES' as you Promised, ARE YOU BETTER THAN THE ALUU COMMUNITY?

In a developed country like America, He would be Arrested for carrying an AK47. Here in Nigeria, they fluant it. What a pity.

Series22: HIPOPOTAMUS

It is obvious u didn't attend my Primary school. Its HIPPOPOTAMUS.

Lagbaja, the Afro-beat singer, song writer, instrumentalist that has been inspiring minds with his powerful style of music since 1993 till date “finally reveals the face behind the mask.”
According to Lagbaja, his mask is used as an icon of man’s facelessness. Lagbaja is a Yoruba word that means “nobody in particular”. It depicts the anonymity of the so-called “common man”. The mask and the name symbolize the faceless, the voiceless in the society, particularly in Africa. He is also known as “Omo baba mu’ko mu’ko”
Often his music is purely instrumental- an interplay between traditional Yoruba percussion, drums, chants, western instruments, and especially the saxophone. When there are lyrics, they are primarily sung in Yoruba, English or a blend of the two as is colloquially spoken in Yoruba cities. Many of his songs dwell on serious social issues, while others simply entertain.
If truly this is “Omo baba mu’ko mu’ko”
He is indeed handsome..
Lagbaja's face behind the mask.








source: http://septin911./2012/10/02/lagbaja-finally-reveals-his-true-face-without-mask/

Una elf and this kind story. Sheybe person don first post this Picture say na LOKOJA!

As a guy let me advice u. Tell him to look for a job for u. Keep the one u've got and let him know that u will move to Abuja wen u get one.
This is because after awhile if u keep asking for money from he will gradually start pissing him off.
Let me tell u a secret, men these days are attracted to women who are FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT.

Giving ur girlfriend gifts and outings is highly encouraged, but being a fool about it is absord.

It should be removed joh! Abi them never tire to dey thief nah?

He things life is a bed of roses. I always said he was not a great coach, well we see it now.