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Mariangeles:
You'll love to be that kind of a husband wouldn't you?
A man his wife does not depend on for anything.
Answer honestly: how would you feel as a man if your wife does not need you for anything?

Ybaby:
Ise lago ma se ku.

My concern is why she is even letting her hubby pay for anything at all. She is a strong donkey sorry i mean woman.

This is how she announces to everyone that she is the bread donkey... sorry... breadwinner. She is probably built like a man too such a muscular capable woman who can pay school fees when the father is alive.

A strong women

I pray she gets a job soon.

All na patience, because that thread of I pay all the Bill's but hubby has impregnated a village girl is coming soon..... eleya awon donkey o kin pe na.

As it is her hubby is spending his money on another woman.

To each is own!

SpicyMimi:
Yes ooooo! Marrying right is key, and we all know that bad marriages could ruin one for life. So I couldn't just marry anyone.

Nooil:
But you like the side chic idea because you can always go back to God and say, "I don't know what got over me Lord, forgive me for I have sinned against you." Right?

Rozz:
stop calling somebody's wife baby

Nooil:
No, it's not. You're just scared of divorce probably because you're still connected to your roots or religion. You're not totally "emancipated."

nobone:
Hubby is into biz, while I did a bank job.
I pay the nanny monthly. 90% of times, i paid the kids school fees before hubby would even know.I make sure I stock the house with toiletries and some groceries every month. I buy clothes for my kids, when I see their uniforms/ school bags, shoes and food flasks/lunch bags aren't good enough, I change them straight without looking back. I buy my clothes. Sometimes hubby does. As I do all these, I wasn't ever compelled. I wasn't either asked to. Out of my church mind I do these even more.
On Hubby's side, he stocks the house with foodstuffs every time. He doesn't give me money as most times I don't need it. I have access to all his accounts and most times we run his little business together. When I lost my job, I didn't have need for a nanny again, I paid her off cos she was a nice lady. Hubby took every responsibility 100%, but I still feel bad cos I don't want the biz money to run down.
As for your question, it depends on understanding. Be sincere to each other and in that way, you won't mind who pays what.

Meanwhile, I'm an applicant o! I can do any genuine job.

SpicyMimi:
I met him while shopping for atarodo (red pepper) at our local market lol he was a bachelor, just got into the state mins ago, then bumped into him. He is an extreme introvert like myself.

It took me the Grace of God to say " Hey I know you" lol apparently we attended same Higher institution, but he was 2 years ahead. I was able to recognize him because he was the former Mr BAM then. Lol

Anyways, it was all planned by God...i prayed to God so much to meet my God ordained husband that year and that exact month using a vow, also promised to pay another vow at the beginning of next month if I can meet him that very month, and just towards the end of that month as I was about giving up, but the God of 11th hour, the God that answereth by fire, the Only True God brought him into my life. God answered me...i am still amazed!!! Like God really really cares that much for me.

Amaaak:
I am only 19 will turn 20 in October 7 , and I can’t stop sleeping around. I started being sexual active at 14 and I’ve slept with 22 or more guys. I am trying to stop but I can’t help it because I can’t go a day without having sex. I feel like a slut . I think I have the spirit of lust . Please I need your help and advice on how to stop sleeping around . I am very serious

Mariangeles:
I love how you reason.
I'll not find it hard submitting to an understanding man like you.

MFerrara:
If the man is already rich and even just decent looking, he'll have such a big pool to choose from that any entitled, poor chick is not gonna make the cut. Sorry but choosing works both ways - if a woman is attracted to me just due to my bank account, why in HELL would I want to have anything to do with her? On top of it, if I'm rich enough that she's interested in me, I'm rich enough to afford the most beautiful women around without the need to tie myself to any of them.

Nooil:
At least you didn't say divorce her

Klass99:
Hhmm, when people show you who they are believe them! That proverbial saying - the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, rings true here.

There was a 34 year old man insisting on his thread that he must marry a woman not older than 26 years. See wetin a 26 year old don dey do?

OP, if all you've shared is the truth and people already know their lifestyle back home, stop stressing and move on with your life. Leave her daughter alone with her, taking her in, will be you courting more problems into your life. Take the child in, only if mother and grandmother die.

Why does it matter to you so much, that the village head knows your side of the story? Please listen to your mum

jornwhite:
Now i am 100% sure a woman is behind this moniker every guy not on there side is either poor or jobless ... poverty no be soup tii e ye e ! thank God obim rescued you

descartes400:
When I read that part...I felt angry! The man's right to find out if the child is biologically his must be his prerogative...the cheating woman has no right to negate that.

Limitededition10:
what's your point

pmoye:
Several open questions remain, many of which will not be answered unless the country and different states evolve laws to manage this grown explosion. Such laws should consider managing the need for the woman's consent with the man's right to find out if the child is biologically his. And these have to be balanced against the interest of the child. A better and more practical way to achieve this balance is to incorporate paternity and maternity testing as a compulsory part of hospital delivery services.

In other words, right at birth samples should be taken from both parents and the child and paternity and maternity testing performed. This has the benefit of drastically reducing the twin evil of child swap and paternity fraud. Secondary benefits include the fact that the sense of loss felt by the husband/boyfriend will be low compared to when he has spent his life getting psychologically attached to and raising another's kid. This should help the society in managing men with latent criminal insanity. With maternity/paternity testing becoming basic part of postnatal care, more women will be forced to reveal in some way the identity of the father even before delivery. In fact, more of them out of the fear of impending shame may voluntarily choose to end the scam of a relationship with their visible partner.

Limitededition10:
This is why Alexandre7 dumped you. Don't go and be managing yourself with the little you have, be waiting for Dangote's son to come and expose you to the good life.

Pray you don't wait out your whole life.

Since Before the birth of Jesus Christ, you have been on nairaland, waiting for Omo baba Olowo that will marry you, are they not still forthcoming Abi what are you still waiting for to get married.

People are getting married every Saturday, while you remain here as nl regular customer tagging yourself and your fellow sisters.

Since, we dey wait for your pre wedding pics to that imaginary rich man, we never see.
Aunty how we go do

Palema007:
You don't have to be combative when people point out errors in your reasoning. You can't know it all, be humble enough to learn. You don't have to be right all the time.

Yes you can only watch (expect to be surprised) pray (seek guidance from God who sees it all) and be wise ( be ready to adapt or confront situation). Like I typed earlier you don't know it all. My last response to you on this.

bukatyne:
If you are a true leader by example, you will weed cray cray a lot.

Personally, I like young relationships before both sexes have fragmented souls through multiple sex partners and have become hardened and stiff.

efosky1246:
Context is important.

efosky1246:
I keep saying it that most dysfunctional marriages, not all(before they come for my head) is usually the fault of the man. From a surface point of view, it might seem like it's the woman. But most times. The woman is reacting to the deficiencies in the man.

When you treat a normal, healthy woman right and act like a leader, set the tone in the relationship. Not just shouting "I am the man" up and down. There is no how she would not submit and respect you. Men need to be held more accountable.

efosky1246:
I really don't know any Nigerian man that wants to treat his wife like a doormat. or control her like a bull. most men just want to lead, albeit with love and then respected and cared for in return.

efosky1246:
Why the f do you need the world when choosing a partner?

bukatyne:
Like a woman, any man that leaves emotionally healthy women and settles for a cray cray has himself to blame.

efosky1246:
Change your circle.

efosky1246:
My brother, you almost brought tears to my eyes with this your write-up. It's a pleasure to know good men still exist.

I keep saying it that most dysfunctional marriages, not all(before they come for my head) is usually the fault of the man. From a surface point of view, it might seem like it's the woman. But most times. The woman is reacting to the deficiencies in the man.

When you treat a normal, healthy woman right and act like a leader, set the tone in the relationship. Not just shouting "I am the man" up and down. There is no how she would not submit and respect you. Men need to be held more accountable.

We should grab a drink together if you're keen. Would love to connect in person.