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Rozz:
Anyways we have nativeDoctors too that's likely where he belongs

Lady Rozz wif the big bumbum bay.

sheDD:
bro code are unwritten which means its ingrained in every bloke whether successful, or not. Just as long as you are a real bloke who knows how to apply your manly instinct in every thing you'd do.

Noteworthy here is that "bro code" are not written laws to be followed but just "code" amenable to the man's brain makeup. You don't hear your bro talk abt it becoz bro code are not like Nigerian constitution that could be given inference from. But you bro apply it in their everyday livings, not like they will call you upon when they apply one in their romance terrain.


Ohhh! Sorry you wouldn't understand , the mystery of bro code is meant for the humans with three legs.

Sorry Mrs comely ,it wouldn't be an easy crack for you to understand. Once again cheers !!

Oh my grosh, you are letting female manipulation tactic get to u, so tay you com dey explain yourself
Don't do eet again o. Niggas dont explain themselves to Ps

And when a poosie calls a man a little boy, you should know she's very upset and desperately trying to get at him.
Young forever is the code bro, no one sef likes to get old

Nooil:
Of course. He had his brother-in-law and brother staying with him. We've all hanged out on various occasions. See, this friendship was not a do in the secret one. It was open. I told my Reverend in the military church I was attending then about him. They were in the same Airforce, but he had a higher rank. Don't worry, I'll write a story on Sunday, it will give you a bit of insight into this man. I know you love reading my stories.

Okay

Nooil:
We didn't not hang out alone. That is why I made reference to the Leo male. If you've ever had one as a friend, you'll understand me.

So it's a no then, you won't like it. Okay

He invited me to his house one day. When I got there, I saw him outside his house talking with a postman.

He wore a singlet and joggers, exposing his muscles. He was tall, fair, had muscle, both on the arms and legs ( not like all these boys that will gym only their upper region and their legs will be looking like toothpicks). In my mind, I said his wife is lucky o.

He served me watermelon and red wine. I finished eating. I asked where his kitchen was, and he pointed it. I dropped the plates in the sink and came back.

After gisting, he dropped me home as usual. I noticed he didn't call for a day. He always called to check on me. I called him, he wasn't picking. Called him continuously, no response. Ok o. Then after a week, he finally called, asked me to come over. I did.

When I got to the house, he took me to the kitchen and asked, "So you came the last time, I served you, and you went and dropped the plates for me to wash, knowing that I don't have a woman in the house." That's when I realized my fvck up. "I'm sorry, " I said, "It completely skipped my mind".

He was like no problem, "Just pointing it out to you because someone else might not." And then, he wanted to assume that the solemn position of someone who just gave advice. I changed it for him o.

With my hands akimbo, I asked, " So this is why you didn't call me? Like seriously? Something you would have just said and we'll sort out?"

He then turned his face away, smiling shyly. Wait... Is he shy? I asked myself. So this hard man can be shy? That moment melted my heart. He was like, leave me joor, and left to the sitting room.

Was there someone else INSIDE his house with both of you on these two occasions?

Nooil:
I've never dated a married man knowingly. Why? I feel it's wrong. But have I fallen in love with someone taken? Yes, twice.

The first one was after secondary school. I attended this preparatory class for University, and that's where I saw him.

This man was nothing like men I'll crush on a normal day. In secondary school, I had crushed only on tall fair guys. But this guy was dark (not too dark) and average height. Why did I fall in love?

The way he taught literature made me imagine him reading the poem, "To His Coy Mistress" to just me. I never missed his class.

I managed to get his number, and I started calling him. I'll call, and immediately he says hello, I'll cut. His voice was like my daily dose of sanity. When he calls back, I won't pick.

There was one time a popular musician died, I called him and said, "so so person is dead." Then I cut the call. Thinking back, I realized I was a freak!

One day he gave us an assignment to write two poems. I put my soul into those poems.

The day he finally asked for the poems, I was the only one who wrote them. I finally got his attention. He was just shouting wow wow wow, like an ambulance after reading the poems.

Then we got talking. I let him know I was the one who has been calling him. He was shocked. "So, it was you." He said. He was speechless. Anyway, that was the last day of the lesson, so that's where the story ended. I got the attention I wanted.

Second

The other man was a military officer that had given me a lift in the barracks. He was somehow young too. Got married the previous year. He later called, told his marital status, and asked if I could be his mistress.

I told him outrightly that I don't have the calling to be a mistress. He sounded disappointed and cut the call. Then he called back again, and said, "At least we can be friends." I said no problem.

If you've ever had a Leo male as a friend, you'll know these guys don't sit down one place. They like hanging out, and they must drink and smoke. This one doesn't smoke.

I liked hanging out with him, he was funny. We would talk and gist about everything. And then I got to drink different wine, Bailey, and Smirnoff. I'll never outdo myself.

Now being a military man, a Group Captain at that time, he had this air of superiority. But being the kind of person I was who will look anyone eyeball to eyeball when talking, I was never intimidated, and he liked me for it. You see, his wife was faraway and he needed company.

He invited me to his house one day. When I got there, I saw him outside his house talking with a postman.

He wore a singlet and joggers, exposing his muscles. He was tall, fair, had muscle, both on the arms and legs ( not like all these boys that will gym only their upper region and their legs will be looking like toothpicks). In my mind, I said his wife is lucky o.

He served me watermelon and red wine. I finished eating. I asked where his kitchen was, and he pointed it. I dropped the plates in the sink and came back.

After gisting, he dropped me home as usual. I noticed he didn't call for a day. He always called to check on me. I called him, he wasn't picking. Called him continuously, no response. Ok o. Then after a week, he finally called, asked me to come over. I did.

When I got to the house, he took me to the kitchen and asked, "So you came the last time, I served you, and you went and dropped the plates for me to wash, knowing that I don't have a woman in the house." That's when I realized my fvck up. "I'm sorry, " I said, "It completely skipped my mind".

He was like no problem, "Just pointing it out to you because someone else might not." And then, he wanted to assume that the solemn position of someone who just gave advice. I changed it for him o.

With my hands akimbo, I asked, " So this is why you didn't call me? Like seriously? Something you would have just said and we'll sort out?"

He then turned his face away, smiling shyly. Wait... Is he shy? I asked myself. So this hard man can be shy? That moment melted my heart. He was like, leave me joor, and left to the sitting room.

We hang out a few more times. One time, he asked me, am I ugly, or is it I'm not your type. The next time, he called me a lesbian. I laughed loud and long. I get him though. How can he have all he had and I still maintained my stance?

He later got posted to Abuja and wanted me to visit him there. But nope, not possible. I can't take that risk abeg. I'm more comfortable in my environment.

But in all the time we hanged out, never for once did he behave inappropriately with me. Very respectful man.

My love was one of respect and admiration, not lustful feelings.

Have you ever fallen in love with a married man or woman? Let's hear your stories.

If your husband spends time and hangs out with a single girl like this in the name of company, will you like it?

Nooil:
I grew up thinking men are stronger, logical, and understanding than women. It was when I was in university I realized they can be jealous, insecure, and petty. The first time I discovered this, I was truly surprised. It changed my perception of men.

Sweet pea

After ending the last comment with blessings

Fountainofyouth:
Men, very jealous emotional beings, but they like to guilt trip women of same, all the things we can withstand in marriage, they can't withstand one tenth of it, weak selfish beings,

Op thank God you were quick to reflect on your actions and see the light, God bless your home.

She comes back to spoil it with

Fountainofyouth:
Op is lucky his wife desperately wants to continue being called a "Mrs", some wouldn't stay up to one year before they divorce your cheating, disgusting, evil ass.

What disease do we call this now?

sheDD:
you are breaking the bro code!! What's your problem

So quick to forget the okafors law

I'm very sorri brother but the way I see it ehn, even with all dis my revelation, bushmeat must still fall mugu

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pocohantas:
Oga stop bursting arteries trying to defend your “ring” talk, it is dumb. Not everyone will marry the one they love and not everyone would leave their partners to be with the one they love. Not like marriage is even the ultimate proof of love.[/s]

Give it a break already.

Stop me from typing as the mata dey pain you

lilyheaven:
.......
I have so much questions on my mind,
But, let me just chill .

Lol,okay. You could still ask sha

Mariangeles:
Just like that?
The way you people play around with the word divorce eh? It's...

Exactly, divorce is not easy so what kind of love and inability to get over an ex should a married man or woman be preaching of and then u will na believe it? It's tales girl
I mean, where does it lead to? Second wife or second husband? Divorce must enter las las if they're that serious about getting back

Theconglomerate:
Nna I tire oo.
Which kind love be that?
Untop something weh be like juju.
If you get money in Nigeria,forget abroad else you go dey see this kind nonsense tire.
I bet say if na Naija dem no born this lady to dey try this thing else body go tell am.

Lol, you noticed. See her face with voice like forest amphibian

xendra:
Exactly! yet unrealistic men will look at their broke ass self in the mirror and still expect a pretty girl to fall for them....SMH

Sis, a broke guy sef has a thousand girls wey broke pass am that will still fall for him. Maybe not u, but others, and all have the same punni

lilyheaven:
This is a very strong decision to make.

I read a chat on my husband WhatsApp, between him and his ex, the lady was lamenting how she can't get over him, she still loves him, bla bla, my husband only sent a smiley face to her.
Next morning, I gathered courage to ask him what about it, he said long story ooo.
They were in so much love, the babe became pregnant, they aborted it, second pregnancy came, he decided to marry her, but her mother said over her died body would her daughter marry a son of nobody.
She had a suitor at china , that has been throwing enough cash for the U.K. family.
Her mama practically took her to remove the pregnancy. He felt bad and humiliated that she couldn't fight for what they believed .
She got married to her China based suitor.

I asked him why he didn't reply her back, he started laughing, that I like gist too much. That she is married already, and there was nothing to love about her again.

In this scenario, that the lady is still loving, is she expected to divorce her husband?

YES.

Love is a strong decision, not a feeling

She can't get over him,she still loves him, etc so how is the love supposed to manifest? If I were your husband, I'd tell her to divorce her husband for me to be sure she's really serious before I can consider it.
I am not just saying this out of thin air,I did it to someone so I know wat am saying. She also had the same talk of love and dreams and destiny, I simply told her that I understand her feelings but everything she's saying is entering one ear and flying outtaa the other as long as she's still married, unless she just wants us to be fcking.

It's the same thing when it's the man that is married. Someone above mentioned Instagram stalking and how it could be real love and I just laughed. She should test it na & start visiting the man and spending time alone with him, it won't take long before he will begin shifting her pant and fck will happen. And guess what, once he knows that he can have sex with this so called love of his life who he could never get over, all without getting divorced from his wife, then that's the end. Latest sidechic in town has been inaugurated.

liberalchick:
Why should she face a legal action I thought we all agreed to be neutral until proven a rape occurred or not?

Is there proof she’s lying?

She has accused him. He has the right to clear his name via social media or the civil courts. The state where the alleged rape happened have a choice to investigate and take the crime (rape) to court if there is evidence.

Qué Sera Sera

We'll see how it all ends.

If not for the fact that she was so desperate for a man and was easy to play, why will she ever think some young hustler from naija will be interested in her and not her papers?
Does she not look at herself in a mirror at all?

lilyheaven:
Engagement ring?
What if both are married already?

The one who desperately wants to get back with an ex so badly should divorce who they're married to since they're not happy in that marriage, this shows seriousness.
Talk is cheap

Ishilove:
Not really. It's a looooong story and ancient history I'm not willing to revisit.

Ok then, I respect that

Ishilove:
He's not available. We are two parallel lines.

He's not available, meaning he's in a relationship or marriage with another woman?

Ishilove:
My ex still keeps mine. Nigga can't get over me after almost 8 years. We're still tight

Hope he has seen your parents & proposed marriage, so you can be sure he's damn serious about not getting over you after 8 years?

Hathor5:
What?

Can the shameless be shamed?

https://www.nairaland.com/5670899/sterile-father

Hathor5:
I didn't mean to hurt anyone's feelings. I was having a bad feeling responding to this thread because I didn't want to appear as someone whose exes can't get over her, not what I think anyway, but because it is Maria's thread, I came.

In the spirit of sisterhood I have no regrets but wish some people get over themselves and Maria owes me a fruit bowl.

Hathor5:
I know who you are.

Have we dated before?

Hathor5:
Poor me.

Please don't believe those tales, I'm helping you out free of charge for the culture, though I'm seriously breaking the bro code.
Any ex who is not over you and wants you back should say it with an engagement ring.

JONNYSPUTE:
....Hmmm. I didn't agree with you in the other thread concerning abortions but I have to say that you are right about this.

Yes some guys will want to counter it due to ego but all you said here is the truth.

To be honest, once in while I do call my ex's and the funny thing is that whenever I do, most will still want us to do the do even though they know I'm married.

Bros, na the direct opposite of wetin she talk you just yarn so o

Mariangeles:
My people, this might seem like a funny question but I genuinely want to know; Do men purposely keep contacts of women they've had close relationship with?
Like, do men, one way or the other, keep "a collection of exs"? If yes, what is the reason behind it?
I asked someone and he was just going round in circles which led me to believe that it might be true
I need honest answers and no insults please
Let's try to keep it civil, while having fun

Sexy, how far?
Men don't purposely keep contacts, we just don't delete numbers of an ex over a breakup. There's no physics, chemistry, or general science involved. Normal life.

Hathor5:
From personal experience I can tell you that they keep the numbers. Some will even ring you up years later. My friends keep saying the same thing. One of my friends told me: "Nigerian men will keep coming back again and again as long as you let them." I had to change my number in the past so that someone would let me be. No matter how long or short the relationship or only a date or a few dates, they will contact you again sooner or later. Sometimes they can't get over you, sometimes they have no better option, sometimes to stroke their ego and see if they can still have you.

Lmao Goddamn, I respect those niggas that worked on you. Their playboy game is really off the charts for you have believed this and go on announcing it.

If an ex is not offering you an engagement ring straight up minus any bullshiit talk, every other tale he's spinning like the ones above, is simply to gain express access to the space between your thighs again.

liberalchick:
You can’t compel an individual to pay any amount, unless it’s an amount stated in a civil judgement.

The only way you can compel someone to pay any amount is to win a civil suit you filed against them.

Okay, so will she face legal action as the alternative?

Heavensent01:
you're naive. ladies are many to pick, as a man you can pick 300 wives in a day


I can't be sex starved and you will stay under my roof when many ladies are on mountain praying for husband

On mountain