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liberalchick:
He never filed a lawsuit. This is just a well known playbook of privileged men “intimidation by lawyers”. He should go to court to prove his innocence/get compensation for his besmirched name.

I thought it was pay 100M or face legal action from Dbanj? Meaning there will def be legal action (court appearance) since she can't pay that amount, or they settle for something less.

Also note that a SAN is his lawyer so I'm pretty sure they know what they're doing within the allowances of the law

Boss13:
I think in some states or provinces in North America, it is illegal to conduct a DNA test immediately after birth. Though some Men Groups are advocating for this right. However, it still does not absolve men completely from paying child support, but in marriage, infidelity is a strong ground for filing for a divorce and gives the man a SLIGHT EDGE such as not paying for alimony, and if DNA test shows the children in the marriage are not his, there is the possibility he may walk free without paying child support. Well, that possibility is dependent on the caliber of his lawyer, his negotiating power during arbitration, or the nature of the Judge if arbitration is not successful.

Notwithstanding, if a man includes the DNA term in his PRENUP and if the woman agrees and signs to this term, a DNA test can be conducted. Both parties can include whatever they want in the PRENUP. Even the woman can insist some terms in the PRENUP should be removed and it is left for both parties to come to a common ground.

DNA test illegal? These people want to completely strip American men of all rights o.

Well you're right still, PRENUP and DNA are damn important. Too many female hustlers looking to climb on the backs of men out here mehn

Boss13:
Morning Chief, to be fair, she is completely right. She probably did not articulate her thought process by putting it in the right context. However, I agree with her. Women are hypergamous in nature and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Everyone wants a great life. At least we cannot go to the market to purchase items of poor quality.

In the past and which still occur in Northern Nigeria, a man should have established himself before considering starting a family. This established man scans through various families and decides to pick out a family he considers suitable for his status. He visits the family and informs them of his decision to marry into that family. If the head of the family is okay with the potential suitor, the young ladies of marital age are brought out on display and he selects the one he most desire. I think there was a bible passage depicting this accurately - I cannot remember if it was Isaac, Jacob, or even both who utilized this method of selecting their wives. Please NOTE here - the illusion we now call LOVE was not a criterion.

Though society has evolved and is still changing, the same basic principles still applies. A man MUST be well-established before he considers starting a family. Nowadays, young men are placing the cart before the horse. Young men are chasing women instead of utilizing their youth to build a skill, career, business, or trade. They have completely forgotten about their DUTY - to acquire the means to take care of their family.

As a man's capability to provide increases, his options to access more women increases. A high valued man can get any woman he wants and women want high valued men. If you call that gold-digging, absolutely. I'm okay with that. No need to shame women. It is in their nature. Also, like she said only a man without gold shame women who wants gold. I will also add, only men with gold set up safety mechanisms to protect the gold from potential thieves.

My brother I'm in total agreement with you, I dey like your posts here as soon as I read them.

My only issue on the thread came when the chics came in and were getting angry at the OP for saying most Nigerian women once they know he is from abroad, they will gain interest. Na true na

Even some came later to agree they are golddiggers after the whole noise of earlier pages. The false humility and disinterest in hooking an obodo oyibo nigga was too funny when everyone knows naija women dey hustle man based on his pocket. Even St Peter of the rock at Jerusalem knows it, no be news.

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anslem04:
We don't av all day we all have super story

This slogan too funny abeg

PrimadonnaO:
I’m creating this thread because I’m so upset! When I read certain stories on Nairaland, I can’t bring myself to believe it’s real... like how can people be so stupid... and then so wicked?

Right now, I’m referring to the thread on front page about the 29 year old man who’s got his girlfriend pregnant and doesn’t want to marry her.

If you’re a young girl reading this, you’re meant to learn from the stories and experiences of other people and be wise! Don’t make foolish mistakes!

So many people do silly things because they didn’t know better, and they never had anyone to advise them.
Let me tell you this for free today! Abstain by all means! Life is safer that way! But if you must have premarital sex, don’t you freaking sleep with a broke man! Don’t! Date only people who have shown a sense of responsibility. Work on yourself so you can attract better people to your life biko! Don’t sleep with a person you can’t marry! Don’t sleep with a person who lacks a sense of responsibility! My dear, it will end in tears! Because it’s either you end up having (an)abortion(s) at some point in your life, and run the risk of ruining your chances of having a baby ever again... contracting STDs, or you have a child out of wedlock! Having a child out of wedlock is double trauma... your chances of marrying a single responsible man reduces, you’ll be saddled with expenses you didn’t prepare for. An irresponsible father will still fail to cater for his child!

How has a girl of just 22 had multiple abortions in just a space of two years? Ah ah! Some people will just learn their lessons the hard way in this life!

Be wise o! This life is not balanced at all! You have to look out for yourself and do what’s in your best interest per time! Just look at the man she probably thought loved her! What manner of human being who loves a woman would make her abort babies after babies? At 29 his father still sends him money steadily! Mtcheww!

What do you think about Chioma and Davido's situation?

Lol, this kind desperate attempt to regain some rep after saucecode gave SystemSpecs KO, is just too funny

Mariangeles:
Nne dis nairaland ehn....o gworo mmadu ike maka Chukwu

Where and how did you learn Spanish please?

anslem04:
Yeah !! i share your perspective, infact naa the reality, imagine a whole pocohantas settling for a man that has no private jet
I am just playing along with mrs obim on her very own perspective, my greatest worry right now is my babe .. she dey wait number

Or a mansion in VI or Banana Island. Golddigging sef get levels. You can't compare Toke Makinwa or Caroline Ekanem level of golddigging to these ones here.

Every woman's golddigging capacity still has very realistic limits

nkwuocha1:
These are things that tears family apart. Kids growing in environment that is questionable.The only thing I can do is for them to go on hols once a while to see their mom,step siblings and step dad.So every go get their respect. See finish no go dey...morale go dey intact.They grow up with love from both sides because the foundation started with not being thoroughly a burden on a particular side... Simple.

No be say pikin go stay step father side as if he no get where him come from.Na that kind thing dey cause many psychological ills for adults when them mature.

It's not a situation I would want anyone to be in honestly. Even though there are times when it may very well work out in the beginning, what about later in their lives?
One of my bosses married a single mother of two boys, I'm talking far back early 90s, boys are men now. Then he has two other boys and one girl from the woman after they married.

Everything dey good for beginning, but it wasn't long before some little disputes here & there began to show face. His wife just jejely begged the man & they put money together and sent the two boys from her previous marriage out of Nigeria to start another life, she told them straight to comot eye totally from my boss and his wealth because they are not his biological sons, she knows how naija culture can be & she does not want trouble.

No be everybody get dat kind financial capacity, most will just remain inside boiling pot until one day everything will explode.

Rozz:
i pity your fiancee,weldone lol

Lol, why? We can't be friends because I have a woman in my life? Oh come on dear.

Rozz say something

Rozz:
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It's not what you think babe. I'm playing with her

pocohantas:
[s]Not forgetting your signature move of trying to befriend some people when the heat is on you. Everyone needs love after all...You need to always have someone to quote when you enter a thread you have nothing to contribute to, except instigate trouble.

Your two accounts are on ban, you didn’t wanna look defeated by opening a third. What do you do? Fall back to your alternate. Your bitterness and pettiness has this strong odour, no one can ever beat you to it. Maybe Saucecode.[/s]

False accusation is against the rules. You can use my personal life with my fiancee to insult me all you want, at least you can't shame the shameless but just don't accuse me of being someone else. Thank you

anslem04:
Does "ratio" ring a bell, dangote as been most richest man for over two decades, madam your obim akinkoju is not hard working enough
Lets tell ourselves the truth no matter how much we all desire good,not everyone wil be a recipient, every gurl wants a ned nwoko buh how many Ned are out, how many hushpuppi are out there for women to share. i like that you are a plain person, you mean well for your sistas buh since men with gold are limited i will advise you let these less privilege ladies share your man, if rich men wives could allow there husbands re-marry as much as possible only few ladies will av to stay & suffer with mal nourish guyz my babe say she no go mind obim contact o !

Lol,but does the man really need to have gold?

For example, a girl who grew up in a two bedroom bungalow with 3other siblings and parents all sharing one toilet, will definitely see a man who has a good car, good business or job, and living in a small duplex, as gold catch.

I believe with majority of naija golddiggers, it's simply about perspective from where they stand. Aspiring to date and marry a man who is on a financial level that is higher than theirs, even if he's just one step higher

Mariangeles, I am not donstan. Take note please

nkwuocha1:
Simple!As long as the bride price is paid.
God forbid it!If my inlaw happens to remarry, she is going nowhere with my brother's kids. NOWHERE!If she must, the day the step dad raises his hands on my nephew or niece, I'm very sure I will spend time in jail.

I admire your spirit brother

Mariangeles:
Apparently, it's my turn today...

Your turn how? Didn't I tell you that I started crushing on you after our short argument on my thread, and you type in Spanish sometimes. It's sexy.

nkwuocha1:
That idiot insulted me first.
I can't imagine my sister going into a marriage along with kids from previous marriage,For what?!? Where is the family of the man who birthed them?If they don't want to take up the responsibility,no problem!But to impose those kids on an innocent man is bullshit. In my tradition of those kids are born out if wedlock,she is going NOWHERE with those kids(child).

I finally understand what Mariangeles meant when she said children belong to their fathers. They really should be left with him or his family

Mariangeles:
Well said.

Thank you dear, single mothers really ought to keep their children away from a new marriage. Leave them with the biological father or with his family

I like it when they agree to be golddiggers.

Guyinthemirror, saucecode, and Boss13, you were always right about naija based females and most of us know it. But more men desperately need to be aware of these things so they can employ safeguards for themselves.

Well Mariangeles once said that children belong to a man and she got plenty support, so NO, she should leave the children with their biological father

Mariangeles:
It is not a woman's duty to bear children for the man and still provide for them.

Boss13:
You are welcome. Don't forget to seek the advice of a divorce lawyer before you marry. The $500.00 per hour would save you a lifetime of financial difficulties, emotional distress, physical stress, and even jail time. Yes - I said JAIL TIME. If you do not pay child support, child protection services can call the police, take you to court and the judge will send you to jail. I forgot to inform you that you MUST include in the PRENUP who gets to keep the children, custody rights, amount of child support to be paid per month, and alimony in the event there is a marriage dissolution.

I guess you now see the importance of a PRENUP. It is not just a tool utilized mainly by wealthy people. It is an important document for a marriage contract. Do not neglect the alternative option of having your parents pick a wife for you. In my opinion, I think it is the best and fastest option to get married. The Indians and Chinese or Asians utilized the form of marriage (Arranged Marriage) and it works perfectly well for them. When there are disputes and SURELY there will be marital disputes, you can rally around your family for support and also extinguish the fire.

I will repeat again - do not let anybody, including your OWN FAMILY, talk you out of not getting a PRENUP. if she does not want a PRENUP, find someone else who will. If you do not get a PRENUP, you relinquish ALL CONTROL to your wife and automatically become a SIMP. You would live in constant fear throughout the duration of your marriage and only or mostly do things to PLEASE the wife.

Also, utilize your bachelor phase with making friends with the married Nigerian men within your community and seek their opinions, including their marital problems. Though many men don't speak about their marital problems openly, if you are close to them, they would advise you greatly. I wish you that best of luck. If you implement what I outlined, you will enjoy your marriage in the western world, and even if you divorce, your life will not be miserable, at least, not financially. Also, your wife will be committed and submissive because she knows the consequences which are outlined in BLACK and WHITE in your PRENUP.

Oh before I forget - NEVER marry a woman who is above 25 years and try to get a virgin and surely you can if you implement the option of utilizing your parental assistance. Also, to avoid deceit about virginity, include in your PRENUP that the marriage will be instantly dissolved if upon consummation of the marriage you find out she is not a virgin. Oga, don't forget, NO JOKES HERE. This is your life and nobody will live your life for you. Also, consummate the marriage in Nigeria and if she is not a virgin - waka peacefully.

Lmao. Hopefully, sensible niggas will pay attention and not be getting carried away because one woman told him I LOVE YOU.

You didn't talk about compulsory DNA tests for children, also very important please

Boss13:
I think I can advise you on this. When you say North America, I believe you are in Canada. Americans don't say North America. Anyways I will say without mincing words, you are not old at all. Even at 40, you are not old. Men age like wine, but women get to hit the wall as they get older. All your options are risky, but option 3 is less risky than others. However, whatever option you choose, do not fail to get a Prenup. You are in the western world where women's rights are recognized more than men. Regardless of the option you pick, have it at the back of your mind that WOMEN CHANGE after marriage. Hence, you MUST PROTECT YOURSELF. Many young men in North America and even Europe are no longer considering marriage and I am sure you have heard of MGTOW or REDPILL and if you haven't, please do - study up quickly and get updated.

Marriage is good, don't get me wrong. However, western values have bastardized the ideals of marriage and replaced it with Hollywood fantasies, add feminism into that equation, what you get is women and men with the wrong beliefs of marriage. You HAVE TO SEEK THE ADVICE OF A DIVORCE LAWYER before you get married. The hourly rate in Canada is between $250 - $500 per hour. Spend the money to listen to how you can protect yourself from marriage before you sign the marriage certificate. If you do not protect yourself you will lose all control regardless of the option you choose.

Also, do not forget the PRENUP I mentioned above. When you start courting your potential wife, ask her about the idea of PRENUP, and listen to her response. If she refuses, move to the next one. In your PRENUP, have your lawyer draft EVEN THE BASIC NECESSITIES such as SEX, the timing, frequency, favorite position, and even hour. Include the consequences, expectations, and financial responsibilities in the event of the dissolution of the marriage. Do not JOKE about this. Inform your potential spouse to have a lawyer review the PRENUP before signing and sign and include her initials on all pages of the PRENUP.

My brother, even after a PRENUP, you are still not safe from a devilish woman. Next, you must set up a mechanism to protect your assets such as incorporating your assets either using an incorporated company or an LLC and transfer all your assets to that incorporation - your house, your car, your investments, and even your savings and have the incorporation borrow these assets for your utilization. For example, if you have purchased your home, transfer it to incorporation (a numbered company is easy to create) and have the company draft a rental agreement recognizing you as a tenant. You pay your mortgage as rental to your company and your company pays the mortgage with the same rental fees from you. Do the same with your car and other investments. Your lawyer can assist you with this. In this situation, no woman can take your property from you. Your company can eject her after the lease agreement is over. These mechanisms MUST have been implemented before you even dream of courting any woman. This means you should have these mechanisms like YESTERDAY.

Don't get twisted with LOVE. Marriage is not love. Hollywood and Advertisement companies created the ILLUSION called LOVE. Marriage is DUTY and RESPONSIBILITY to your family. I am saying this so you don't get stupid picking up your wife and stay stupid in your marriage. Once your wife does not live up to her expectations in the marriage, the consequences in the PRENUP kicks in immediately and you seek redress. Both the PRENUP and SAFETY MECHANISM provides you with a safety net to avoid losing CONTROL in your marriage and lose your asset in the event of a divorce. Oga, don't start saying your marriage will not end in divorce in Jesus's name. That's bullshit and a recipe for DISASTER. You have to plan for it and protect yourself. Even in Nigeria, I know politicians and business moguls who implement the SAFETY MECHANISMS I outlined above.

Finally, I know you are pressured and concerned about marriage. Don't worry. You are the PRIZE. You appear to be well settled and doing well for yourself. Many young women will rush you even in North America but don't be fooled. I don't know if your parents are alive, if they are alive seek their assistant in picking a wife for you. Give them your criteria - Age, Shape, Height, Educational Level, Religion, Tribe, and Skills which includes the ability to cook, clean, and sticking to traditional values. Also, the woman has to be from a stable family and that means both her father and mother are still in their marriage and they are doing well financially, including all her siblings. Do not be an avenue to alleviate anybody from poverty. You might be shocked I said you are the PRIZE. Yes, you are. Women are the PRODUCT and men are the BUYER, if you do not put a ring on her finger, she will NEVER BE MARRIED. Many men do not know this and they keep on SIMPING. Now, do you want to put a ring on someone who would DESTROY you?

You can hit me up for more advice. Don't mind the excessive emboldened words. I want you to note them. By the way, I live in Canada.

Please what's your favourite drink, I want to ship a carton of it to you

Every real nigga should read and imbibe this no matter where he lives

GuyInTheMirror:
I am not happy with the trend this thread has degenarted to, I see a subtle men versus women fight which I honestly did everything to prevent.
When we enter this mode it inhibits our capacity to be objective or provide objective suggestions.
This your post is a typical example of someone responding from a very subjective perspective, the sad thing is I kinda feel if you were more objective you'd have provided a more balanced and helpful response.

There is nothing wrong with people having a preference including both genders. Lets stop making it sound like when a person has a preference for a type of partner they are being condescending about the people on the other side thats not true.
If I am attracted to a particular type of person, I should not be afraid to mention that because people who are different from that person might get offended.

There are men who prefer those kind of ladies I do not find attractive, its nothing to fight about. Its just what it is "preference" and we should be able to accept that without feeling inadequate or making the person feel inadequate.

And when I say majority of the ladies I am relating with in Nigeria from the diaspora are pretentious, it is my experience I am sharing. When a lady tries to fit her image to into the personality she expects me to like that pretense and thats what I have seen on a couple of occasions I have attempted to get some conversations going.

It doesnt mean this is the way every lady is, some will argue majority of ladies will behave like that, maybe, but the manner a lot of women have taken an honest discussion as a battle and attack is very discouraging.

Lets learn to be more respectful and objective when we interract. No one is perfect so I accept I could use some corrections and I am happy to but when you come out in this manner of approach you erase every possibility of developing a robust and meaningful interraction cos the impression you give is that you are up for a fight.

Cheers

Okwaya. you want to spoil work for them na. Why won't they vex Deep down bro, we all know you're right with the stereotype, it's not even a stereotype but a fact.

Rozz:
yes I did but it's nothing

Lol, tell me

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luxy44:
Save business chats dear. Forget sex, premarital sex will kill your destiny.

All chats are saved automatically, iCloud or Google Drive is not separating business chat from sex chat.

Hello Rozz

Rozz:
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Lol, did you edit your comment or what? Why?

saucecode:
I don't want women like my mother because they are not available. I like gold-diggers who are proud of golddigging. They are the best to have as wives like Ybaby who is always hyping her provider husbands for being totally responsible for her.

Now that a true woman, it's better to have day than to have una wey dey pretend say una no care about money, but will start eyeing your bf, disrespecting him when he can't buy u birthday gift, or even fcking it boss for car.

Please we prefer proud gold-diggers, thank you. At least u know what you're getting

Lmao

Boys, guys, men, MAKE MONEY OO. These girls on nl are only trying to appear like they don't care about it but we know wetin dey sup

Even the op must have received enough PMs because of this thread. It's not today we know naija women. They will tell you not all women care about money but just believe that for one second and your life is finished.