In that context, it is actually derogatory.

She just wan scare the guy, where the guy wan see 2billion?

If then hawk all him family members for sale sef, them no reach 2bil.

ELKHALIFAISIS:
but you supported Regina Daniel marrying another person's husband and evem form go girl gang I'm support of it


Fear God

Bring evidence or thunder will strike you.

Sermwell:

The stupid way you guys reason ehn! What do you mean by 'may God grant May the fortitude bla bla bla....What of Yul the father?

The uncouth and senseless way some of you pass a message is so alarming.

IyaebeTheGreat:
It's true, gistlover posted it, this is the end of their marriage. Ever since Yul brought in another strange woman (who was still married to her husband) their life has never been the same

The marriage was already over.

I can't imagine what it feels like to lose a child, a whole child that was healthy and just died, just like that.

May God grant May the fortitude to bear the loss.

To God be the glory.

You can't shame the shameless.

Let her mention the name of the guy so that his mother can take him for deliverance.

She should go and see a Gynaecologist.

Son of perdition.

May we not give birth to what will kill us in Jesus name.

DEFENCE4000:




You be mugu

As e say we no get sense na.

fixitbyjal:


Yeah my mom was cynosure of all eyes
Now she's an evening newspaper

Whether you like it or not
You will still be an evening newspaper

And I pray you even become suya newsaper.

Na prayer I pray for you so.

fixitbyjal:
That year this girl fine die

But now she has turned to evening newspaper

No thanks to the pilot husband for constant shagging

Now imagine someone saying stuff like this about your mum.

A lot of you on this forum just act like you were raised by apes.

Tarzan still better pass una.

Thank God for them

E dey blood.

The correction in the facility is not correcting.

maasoap:


That's going to be the end of her leaving. Both families will plead with her to stay and tell the husband to change which he will never do.

@dearlove2me
Never call family meeting before you leave, informe them after leaving. The person to inform before is the person you are going to stay with.

She didn't marry herself. Both families came together to marry her, it's wise for the families to be aware before she leaves.

millstone:

dude is already rock bottom. Just hasn't touched the floor

E never realize am ni

abbey621:


They can contribute and there's nothing wrong with it, when I said finances I didn't only mean contribution but other things like poor spending habits, loss of job, hidden savings accounts etc. Even those women with high paying jobs are usually saddened when the husband does not buy birthday gifts, anniversary trips etc. All in all, money matters, for a man being financially capable and loyal is an attractive selling point, after that na big gbola remain

You see all those birthday gifts, anniversary trips, etc, it's also a part of one provision. Not even financial.

That big gbola, na big lie o. No be by big gbola o. Blessed is he who knows how to use what God gave him o.

abbey621:


I'm not talking about a specific person I'm talking in general. Despite the recent trend of immorality, Nigerian men still remains more loyal and dedicated to the family when compared to Black Americans or Black Europeans. You said take away the money, that's like saying take away your beauty, you can't just remove an important piece of the arrangement and act like everything is normal, please stop living in fairytale world. I've had the opportunity to live in different societies from Africa to America and one thing remain constant, the factors contributing to divorce or unhappy marriage the most are finances and infidelity. So how can you sit here and type with a straight face and say take away the money?

Take away my beauty? When I'm not a bimbo.

Still, there are household where both husband and wife contribute to the home. Does it mean that these type of household doesn't also contribute to the divorce statistic?

The infidelity part, don't even get me started.

abbey621:


It's the number one thing a man needs to provide along with being loyal. Every other thing can be worked on or improved with time. Y'all always looking for a complete package without asking how do I complete my man. Same goes for men who wants a caring loving motherly wife but at the same time she must never get fat or old........DELUSIONS UPON DELUSIONS

Now you're trying to belittle me and my opinion.

What time? Did it look like she didn't try her best to make it work?

Take away the money, a lot of Nigerian Men can't provide anything else.

That's why y'all feel emasculated when you can't provide financially anymore.

elipheleh:
Madam you were fine and looked younger on the before picture. The other difference is you used bad camera to snap the first picture.

When these young wives see their husbands grinding to provide for their household, they think it's easy and their females selfishness start acting up. This man is not giving me time, he is not spending time on me. Blah blah blah.

When they now leave they can't even woman up and bear their loads.

See the frog above saying she is worn out providing for her own children plus career.

Learn to respect and honour your men

Una dey always think say "financial provision" is all a man needs to do to be a good husband. With this line of thought, the rich wouldn't be divorcing.

There are married households where the wife is raising the children alone.

How that one take different from single mother?

freddie009:


Exactly my thought, funny he can't take her to the hospital till he receives the next month's salary. Some people just put themselves in unnecessary problems, some things can be avoided.

And he's not even 30 yet.

onumadu:
First of all ... eeewww!

On a more serious note, @OP, you want to get medical advice from doctors in the house.
I can understand, because Nigeria is HARD.
Please DOCTORS, could you kindly advise him on what medication to buy (since in Nigeria you can buy medicines over the counter just like that)? This family may not even have money for labs.
This woman needs help URGENTLY.

No doctor will prescribe medication without doing a swab on that woman to know what kind of infection she has.

Obavoh:


Our midwife prescribed it. I will tell her to sto p taking it. Thanks

Google it.

Doxycycline isn't a drug to be used in pregnancy.

The colours of the discharge shows she has an infection.

Please, take her to a proper hospital.

Una still dey born up to 5 children with the way this country dey go, una get mind o.

Dearlove2me:
But his families are in the village, I can do that with calls right?

I guess that will work. But would have been better if it's a physical meeting.

Note that the period of separation is for you to better yourself and the life of your kids so your husband can sort out his issues, it is not a time to be unfaithful to your husband.

My hand no dey for that one o.

Dearlove2me:
Alright. I'm thinking maybe going to spend some time in my family house but I'm thinking of going with all my things

You don't have to go with all your things and before you leave, call a family meeting with him present so you can explain to both sides why you're separating from him and what he needs to do for you to come back.

Don't just leave like that, let your families be aware.

You need to be sane for your kids and for that marriage if you want it to work.

The thing with men like your husband is, if they haven't reached rock bottom, they'll never change.

You can either separate from him so you can have a clear head to better your life and that of your kids while he gets his life together.

He has two sisters back in Nigeria, why can't they take care of their mother?

Since he loves his mum so much, why can't he leave everything he's doing in Germany to go care for his mother?

If his MIL was sick, can his wife ask him to take care of her mother?

Blessed is he who knows the difference between submission and control.

brian91:


To give further answers to your questions;
Yes she was groomed in a morally inclined, home as we met and fell in love in church. She graduated from one of those church private university in Nigeria. She is modest to say the least and I TREAT HER AS AN EQUAL and respect/give room to her views/opinions cos my mother trained her boy even though she wasn't rich. I ain't a religious guy since i hardly go to church but i have a good standing with my creator in prayer and supplication.
My just fear is the cultural evolution over there knowing fully well it does not favor men. I only wanted to be on a safer option perhaps else i am considering prenup!

The reason you think it doesn't favour men abroad is cause you're use to the privilege that patriarchy gives to African men, especially in marriage.

No sane woman will treat a man who loves and respects her badly.

This is what I know.

If you're already seeing red flags now, I'll suggest you don't go any further.

It's not the worse thing to happen to anyone. People lose their jobs every day.

I hope you have savings?

Now is not the time to pout about your loss, it's time to start job hunting again. Reach out to former colleagues, tell them you're looking for a job, remove the cobwebs from your linked in profile and give it a makeover.

Look through job vacancy sites daily.

After six months of searching, if you're unable to find one, offer your services for free by volunteering to avoid too much gap in your CV.
Or

Take up a training or course that will improve your CV or make your skills and experience more sellable.

The first thing you should address is if she's level headed and well brought up with strong values. How do you treat her, do you treat her as an equal or do you treat her as a subordinate?

Cause the cases of wives "becoming something else" after relocating abroad with their husband that I've seen, I've realized that these women were just enduring the men in Nigeria. They got abroad and found their voice that poverty and "what people will say" (if they divorce or leave their marriage) kept hidden.

What type of woman is she, what kind of family does she come from, what are her values? (practical values that you've seen her demonstrate). Does she respect you, are you two Christians (not just the church going or the form filling type). I'm asking if you're christians cause if you both are, it means you share the same values as regards marriage.

Are you secure in the marriage/relationship, either you relocate abroad or not, does she respect your role in her life?

Are you ready for the culture shock that awaits you abroad? In the abroad, marriage is a partnership, not a "I'm the man of the house, you must obey me" type of marriage.

She works, you work, you two contribute to running your home, you two must work together to achieve tasks and goals for the family. You two will have conflicting work schedules, you two must learn to manage expectations abroad, the things that you use to do in Nigeria might not work abroad and if not managed properly, it can impact your marriage.

Be ready to cook, clean and look after the kids while she works and you are at home cause in the abroad, these tasks are not just for women, na two of una go do am.

So if your marriage will will stand the cultural shock awaiting you, please be prepared to face these realities. If you're an African man to the core, kindly stay back in Nigeria and have an African Marriage.

PS: it's obvious you don't even trust this woman, please leave her alone.

Sliding in a prenup without her knowledge is fraudulent and will cost you more in a developed country.

You better save yourself the trouble and do the needful.

I no know why una dey always need advice for wetin dey obvious.