₦airaland Forum

The first thing you should address is if she's level headed and well brought up with strong values. How do you treat her, do you treat her as an equal or do you treat her as a subordinate?

Cause the cases of wives "becoming something else" after relocating abroad with their husband that I've seen, I've realized that these women were just enduring the men in Nigeria. They got abroad and found their voice that poverty and "what people will say" (if they divorce or leave their marriage) kept hidden.

What type of woman is she, what kind of family does she come from, what are her values? (practical values that you've seen her demonstrate). Does she respect you, are you two Christians (not just the church going or the form filling type). I'm asking if you're christians cause if you both are, it means you share the same values as regards marriage.

Are you secure in the marriage/relationship, either you relocate abroad or not, does she respect your role in her life?

Are you ready for the culture shock that awaits you abroad? In the abroad, marriage is a partnership, not a "I'm the man of the house, you must obey me" type of marriage.

She works, you work, you two contribute to running your home, you two must work together to achieve tasks and goals for the family. You two will have conflicting work schedules, you two must learn to manage expectations abroad, the things that you use to do in Nigeria might not work abroad and if not managed properly, it can impact your marriage.

Be ready to cook, clean and look after the kids while she works and you are at home cause in the abroad, these tasks are not just for women, na two of una go do am.

So if your marriage will will stand the cultural shock awaiting you, please be prepared to face these realities. If you're an African man to the core, kindly stay back in Nigeria and have an African Marriage.

PS: it's obvious you don't even trust this woman, please leave her alone.

Sliding in a prenup without her knowledge is fraudulent and will cost you more in a developed country.

You better save yourself the trouble and do the needful.

I no know why una dey always need advice for wetin dey obvious.

Organ harvesters are on the prowl. I pray she's found safe.

NLC done turn to those small inside dogs wey people no dey too send.

People will rub their head, carry them around and say "awwn" when they even attempt to bark.

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You married a materialistic woman. Slay queen extraordinaire.

MrSensor:
lesbian has been spotted.

If I insult you now, you go begin cry.

What did I say there's now that has made me a lesbian?

The chicken has come to roost.

Aklee4994:
Is this your alternative moniker @Romanoff is been a while

I don't know that handle.

I really wanted Angela Bassett to win for best supporting Actress.

It's not a ground for divorce. Separation, maybe, if the man has refused to do anything after the wife has tried everything she can.

But a man like that is probably frustrated and not comfortable about his current state. He needs therapy and counseling to get through whatever is eating him up.

I haven't withdrawn any cash in close to a month now. Anything I can't pay via transfer, God no want make I buy an be that.

Lightway:
It's like you want to beat me now..

I just wanted to know why you don't wear a ring... Since he proposed with a ring...

Well, enjoyment follow you....

Thank you.

Lightway:
Where's your ring? Why are you hiding it at home? Are you trying to catch more nairaland bachelors?

Which Nairaland bachelors?

The women hating ones or the broke ones whose only achievement in life is to troll people?

Person dey big pass ring na. Does wearing the ring bring happiness to marriage or does it guarantee a happy marriage.

Any man turned on by my profile picture needs more help than the book of proverbs can provide.

See wetin Obidients done turn Sanwo Olu to.

Lightway:
I thought I saw a post about you on nairaland where a man proposed to you when you both went hiking.

But in your profile pic... Your hands are bare.

Or are you not the one?

Yes I am the one and I'm still very much married to that same awesome guy.

No light since morning. We could boast of 12 hours electricity before but thes days, na by God's grace we take dey see 6 hours. Thank God for Solar as back up.

Make una dey open una children books so you'll know what they are consuming in the name of whatever kind of education.

julybaba:
Thanks for your contribution. Do LAPO ask for collateral, if the person borrowing is not a salary earner?

Depends. They have a loan product for business where they cross guarantee each other. The product is for women.

I don't know if they give it to men.

Na you do yourself

LAPO loan is mostly for salary earners or business people with daily turnover. Payment is either weekly for businesspeople or monthly for salary earners.

LAPO doesn't take any excuses when it comes to repayment.

Ashawo regular done drop quote.

Isn't 4M the price of a tokunbo Toyota Uber?

Tannhauser:
For how long?

Till the next dry season.

Generalwoodz:
E go spoil

I have my ways.

saintrow1:
thats an assumption not facts. why will any bank want to disclose clients account/information with the public.

What bank disclosed anything with which public?

Make I buy store for freezer.

saintrow1:
but you don't manage all bank accounts of every trader but you just assumed that since you manage many of the ibos bank account, they are more than any tribes there.

They have more businesses there. Take this info to the bank.

saintrow1:
did you count them?

Cause I managed many bank accounts from Igbo traders in that market

Kagd10:
APC vice president elect state market was razed down!

APC president elect state market was raided down

Now the President's Abuja market was raised down!

What you OSU Ipob are looking for, you will get it!.

Igbos have more businesses in that market.

Wetin you dey yarn so?

PDJT:
-Who dey wait for me for front?

Wait till you reach there o.

PDJT:
-Okay. So it's real men that make whoring "attractive" . Where is that Nairaland chap that said; women hate taking responsibility for their actions.

-See it's a freeworld. Unfortunately, you can't eat your cake and still have it, i.e you can't lose your hymen (the god of marriage) and still have it back intact.

Again, no real man will pay a bride price for a woman that has slept with different men and probably used her mouth to suck those men's bits as well. Yuuk!!

Rotfl.

E dey wait for you for front.

PDJT:
-It's a transaction, those cheap women get paid by real men for sex. It's a win-win for those women of low virtue. I'm sure you got adequately rewarded by the man who took your virginity.

-Meanwhile, hundreds of thousands of virtuous women make entry into adulthood everyday.

-It's free world. You will find your Simp.

You're failing to understand me.

We are all a product of our society. If y'all make whoring attractive, where una wan see the virgin woman marry?

You lots will not stop fornicating but you expect to marry virgins. Make it make sense dakun!.

Rayban25:
My dear...before a man can have sex with you I believe you must have given him consent...most of you ladies got disvirgined by choice...so yes we will have more virgins if you all stopped opening your legs wide

So the men who sleep with these ladies aren't accountable in any way abi?

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E dey wait for una for front.