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NwanyiAwkaetiti:
I can give a friend gas money. It's no big deal

continue ur good work.
I need money for gas tho

I hate ladies begging for alms.
Go n work dammit

Retrace ur step now!
U r very very lucky at least for now.

Sex will destroy this generation.

LewsTherin:
Ok, got that.

Now like I said, normally, I am all for playing the fool in a relationship but your husband has set a bad precedent. First, he changed a joint agreement meant for your joint family in favour of his own family. Then he kicked you out of his house (as he thought it was). Then he insists you use your share of a joint decision, a decision that he reneged on, for his own benefit. Insisted on that twice ie before he knew it was in yiur name and after he knew it was in your name.

That is not good. Basically he has shown he is willing to abandon you and your kids if he “feels” like it. Sweetheart, no offense intended, but you don't have a good husband.

My advice to you and those in similar straits is
First, pray for your husband. Pray for God to change his person, to change his ways. If he claims to be a Christian, he sure as heck isn't showing Christ-like characters

Plan for your kids. Not to the exemption of your husband, but until he shows he can be different, plan to be able to live without him for your kids. I didn't say leave him. I said to be able to live without him. Different things.

Like you have been adviced, get an independent third party to mediate and see how that goes. I understand why you don't want to let your family know but it is dicey if they don't especially as he has involved his family from the beginning. I don't agree, but I understand. Maybe a compromise will be to tell your dad. Not your mum, not your sisters. Women by nature are very emotional and they can let their emotions overwhelm them. Tell your dad in confidence and ask him to keep it that way.

Finally, under no circumstances whatsoever should you add his name to that document. In mediations, the best you should do is to place the property in a trust for your children. Children! Not you, not him, not Mr and Mrs. Put it in the names of ALL your kids with a caveat that it cannot be sold by any one until all kids are above 18 years old.

Most of all, seek mediation and pray a lot for him.

My own advice.

stewpeed advise with stewpeed likes

HEseesall:
The property only is in my name but we built it together

wait wait wait. U r beginning to change ur story like its common wit women.
U said u used it part of d money to build a house n now ur saying u both built it togeda.
If I get u correctly, do u mean u bought a land wit ur part of d buz proceed n d two of u build on it?

HEseesall:
He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

u see, if u had done dis ab initio, all dis issues cud av bn avoided.
Kip begging him to accept this option. I dnt support that u take ur name out for his either. Mr n Mrs is very ok.
Tell him it was unwise for u to tink the house belonged to u alone.
He is just angry u were selfish n centered.
Apologize profusely and let peace reign .
Dnt listen to all dis single n frustrated pipo advising u to let him stay out oh.
They will just destroy ur home for u if u take their unwise advice.

HEseesall:
I used my part of the money which is not wrong, i expected him to know that

u r a very wicked woman.
So u still hav wat u can term ur money after taking vows that the two of u have become one till death do u apart?
U lived with him wit an individualistic mindset.
If he used his part of the money for his parents for anytin, one shud expect that the two of u did it for his parents.
And since u also decided to build a house wit ur part of d money, it is also expected that the both of u did it as well.
Having only ur name in dat document is wrong as a married woman.
U can only do dat wen ur single.
Anytin n everytin u acquire during marriage it's on behalf of the family for peaceful coexistence to be assured.
Dnt bring unhealthy competition into ur home.
If I was ur husband, it's either u include my name in dat document or I renaged on my responsibilities to u as a husband.
I cannot be working to take care of u with my money n u will be amassing wealth.
U r selfish woman!

Very unintelligent move by security handlers.
U got info that 100 bht gathered somewhere.
And u know it's raining season and there cud be possibility of mud n unsafe condition with the roads.
A good war strategist wud opt for air force attack jet.
No foresight at all.
And I also noticed we used air force jets more during GEJ regime and it was hugely successful
Why is buhari bot using jets to attack bht from the air.

Too bad

Ziggylady:
Nicely applied Euphemism.

hello ziggylady

BOWOTO:
A woman's mind is very complex, they often do things we cant even understand. In every relationship, always have control of your emotions, or-else it would crash. Having control of your emotions enables you to make the right decision when the need rises.

AND NEVER EVER TRUST A WOMAN.

why r u turning dis issue against d woman Mr. Didn't u read where he admitted fcckin around? It's high time u guys cut our ladies some slack. Stop attacking dem every time

I am happy the way france welcome african francophone citizens and give them opportunities to actualize their dreams.
Britain on the other hand, is hostile and denigrates anglophone citizens from africa.

dis babe is on fire sha

emelda86:
I just dey look you na.....

but na true i talk. they r loud and boastful

e nor suppose dey bother u bros, its a normal tin
u sef go shag other pipo own
no victor! no vanquished!!

webincomeplus:
Nice development. But what's with the hype in the topic? Only a dunce would mistake that for Germany, US, or UK in the first place.

igbos are naturally very boisterous, its in them

This is a battle between;
light vs darkness,
south vs north,
christianity vs islam,
PDP vs APC and
EKITI is the battle field

how did u manage to give birth to elephants sir?

emelda86:
Hmmmm...

boo na lie?

Most ladies that marry late or never gets married are just stubborn and arrogant
M.I don beg this RITA DOMINIC taya for marriage but she nor answer am.
Keep waiting for Romeo Dangote

see how divorce peaceful
tiwa, tonto, mercy aigbe need to learn the art of divorce in 21st century

whoever get opportunity to comot from naija wey return back on his own na FOOL

after heavy pounding, majority of them fall asleep, a very deep sleep i mean
talking from experience

she is an emotional fraudster

old news
tell us sometin new

Simplep:
Some parents sha
Am jst 23 nd mum is already hinting on marriage
Me dat still want to enjoy my singlehood till am 28
Who marriage help?

let me advice u like an elder bro, date a guy u love and stick with him weda he's rich or not. wen u r 28 marry him. how abt dat?

the south and middle belt should unite and restructure this country.
the north is a clog on the wheel of progress
resources from other regions can no longer be wasted on the north ! this is anti development
we r in 21st century for pete's sake, nobody has time for religious B.S anymore
lets leave them alone to serve whichever god they want tru their preferred doctrine
we need to focus on better things cos we want development for God sake
south south, south east, south west, middle belt, wake up!!!!

babyfaceafrica:
I am.less concerned about whether the president holds a chat or not...I want action!!...who presidential chat help?.. will it reduce poverty and the killings?..will it reduce the price of rice and garri in the market?.. why do we just like shows and feferity like this?..is BBN not enough?...bubu should get up and make naija better. make I no forget
.where is the light and time to watch the chat sef?

this is so unintelligent.
the person u r hoping will stop the killings n poverty, reduce prices of food in d mkt tru action does not have the brain to develop such policies.
keep waiting for a ship in a bus stop sir.
keep waiting

BUHARI owes no one any explanation.
Presidency recently warned us to be mindful of the comments we make concerning him.
Go read about Military Regime, you will understand this CHANGE better