₦airaland Forum

MzzTega:
Alright. So,what do you want to eat?

Egusi and fufu with cow leg. I'm a local bloke.

What are you gonna eat?

Cutehector:
she no sabi cook?

She does just didn't fix something tonight.

MzzTega:
Alright,will buy for you. But will eat on your behalf

Be ready to have me eat from your tummy then. No way I'm going hungry tonight when I have you around.

MzzTega:
Going to a restaurant.

Better. Buy something for me o. Mesef dey hungry.

MzzTega:
Death was recorded. According to him,he was the only one that came out sound.

Oh really. That's very providential of him. Thank God for preserving his life and rest in peace to those who couldn't make it. He sure must be traumatised from the collision impact. Sad one.

What do you intend to have for dinner since you couldn't cook?

MzzTega:
Nothing really.

Got a distressing call that my bro was involved in an accident.

I did not cook. No strength,Came back from class not too long.

Hmmm sorry to hear that. Hope it's not serious. Where did it occur? Have you been briefed about his stability after the accident?

Many people are now focused on what's in for them in a relationship than what they can contribute to it success. People don't want to commit as much as they expect or actually receive.

Relationships take a lot of work, compromise, and understanding. A lot of people are misled into thinking that the best way to avoid having to deal with dispute is to end the affair, not realizing that they will have to deal with the same issues in the next relationship.

We'd form much stronger bonds with one another if we each could show our partners that we cared so much for them that we'd be willing to experience anything as long as we experienced it together with them.

The foremost issue is for one to sought for inner happiness of one's self other than waiting for someone to provide them happiness. Everyone is responsible for their happiness so if you can't derive happiness within yourself no one else can secure it for you.

MzzTega:
I'm good. Was missing you.

Awww nice of you to check on me. I do miss you too. What's good? Wetin you cook?

MzzTega:
Ronald4 lif.

Hello dearies, how's you?

Nicely written.

It's not friend zoning since you never asked her out. It's more of NSA - no string attached relationship. Nothing new.

Toks2008:
Nope its not about you requesting but in some eastern part,a list(including bride price) can cost as high as over 1million and this is no joke and even for those who claim there own is not like that it will interest you to know that the list alone can go as high as 400k and as i will always say, this is no big deal if the money is available because i can spend millions on a lady i love but at the same time, these greedy elders and family members must understand that many of their daughters are been ignored because of this madness.

This is why i wrote that if they can reduce the bride price and the list to be around 200k generally and any man who wants to go beyond that is free to do so then we will see less of unmarried beautiful and decent igbo ladies above 30yrs.

Lol @ I can spend millions on the lady I love. Sounds like you're remitting the money into the lady's account when you're actually spending it on fanfare and to conform to society idiosyncrasy. I understand what you meant by that though.

Everyday we complain how there are husband scarcity and how the number of spinsters keeps skyrocketing when we know clearly the reason for this occurrence. Marital rights of many ethnic groups in Nigeria is high and many struggling bachelors are finding hard to afford it. How do they expect someone who has 500k capital for instance to fund matrimonial rites that could gulp 300k. A money that might have took him years to save up goes just like that?

I even find it foolish for a guy with a 2million net worth to spend up to 500k for a wedding. Heck, it's just a day ceremony why not save up when the kids start coming up. Go to a marriage registry and wed there. It's cheap and serves same purpose of a marriage.

wristbangle:
Lol @ precision.

The thing is some ladies think the way film scenario is, so it is applicable to real life scene.

Good luck to anyone that tries such to a no nonsense fellow sha.

wristbangle:
Lol. Exactly na. Wait.. u mean oyibo bobo guy go slap back?

Depends. I can't say precisely how the majority of them would react but I'd expect any sane fellow to return the slap with precision.

ApexTitan:
Please direct my attention to any one research that says cohabitation is better than marriage.

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http://www.wsj.com/articles/living-together-may-be-even-better-for-your-health-than-marriage-1424145641

http://www.today.com/health/couples-who-cohabitate-are-happier-marrieds-1C9382221

http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/1248423

The above are just three among other links of research that suggest cohabitation is better or same as marriage. For the record, I don't submit to these research even as I don't agree anyone is better and it's subjected to individual's perspective. I'm aware there are also many studies that posits marriage is better as either is derived from the pundits and the community/individuals whose opinions were collated.

I'm not backing cohabition but saying that whichever of the two anyone finds suitable they should grab it and care less about objections and what the greater populace thinks. No one should rub in their opinion on others. Just accept which you think is right for you and let others theirs.

She slaps you and you respond with a kiss means expect more slaps any time there's a disagreement. I think that only happens in the movies sha and it's no way a romantic gesture. Even oyibo no go do that one.

adahgold:
is not only d cert my sister,they blessing from God is included if you think is a lie try cohabiting with out the blessing from God and see whether it will go well.

I don't know how to react to your comment sha. But hasn't it occurred to you that some people are unreligious, even doesn't believe in the existence of a God?

TV01:
. Have you read up on the subject? All empirical studies clearly show that marriage is far superior to co-habing and non-cohabbing domestic realtionships. Especially where children are involved. up to x6 better than the former and x10 better than the latter.


Yes this is true, but how does it make co-habbing better? And better for kids? You haven't even scratched the surface. You are just throwing out unthinking postulations to justify your opinion.


Again, you are making false/blind assertons without having studied the research - just to feel secure in your erroneous position.


But true marriage properly entered into gives a better shot than co-habbing and is empiracally better for women and children. No one has said don't go for what you like. Just don't claim what you like, or go for, is as good as marriage when it is not.


And you maintain that because; 1. You do not know what true marriage is and 2. You have not given adequate thought to the matter. After all, the only difference between a WAEC holder and a B.Sc holder is a piece of paper, no?


TV

I don't get it. What research are you talking about as I can't find any attached to the OP's post. If you're talking about research from scholars and educational institutions then there are as many which disagree about marriage being better than cohabitation. And I also fail to see why you concluded my postulations are erroneous and yours factual by the argument you submitted.

A WAEC and B.sc holder are both accorded certificate so that doesn't correspond with the discourse.

MarvellousGod:
Nawa oo, I said I don't want to cohabit because as a christian I think it's wrong, so?? That's my believe because I think parent's blessings/family consent matter. . Whatever you believe isn't my business but please leave me to my own belief. ..
Did I say my decision is better
Did I say ceremony is the key to happiness

Read my comment again because your reply doesn't relate..


Meanyl, I don't understand what you people are advocating. . That man and woman should wake up and start living together without any kinda official performance? With nothing to show for it? No certificate or whatever? How do people know you're married? People need to know you're married so that they can commot eye for your husband or wife .... How do you obtain a visa? In the occasion of any disagreement, how does the court settle it when they can't even ascertain whether you're married or not?
Even in a job appointment, an appointment letter is issued..

Generally, it doesn't make sense to me because people will start living together indiscriminately. ...

Sure your belief isn't anyone's business neither is anyone's belief yours. However, when one attempt to attach markers on what is wrong or right based on their personal belief/principle then it becomes the business of anyone who doesn't subscribe or view issues on premise of established doctrines to clarify it. Individual beliefs and principles doesn't delineate right choices. That was the drive behind my response to your comment.

I'm not advocating for cohabition neither am I marriage. I'm for everyone adopting what makes them happy and only pointing out the differences and not so much of a difference of the two stages of a relationship.

Why should what the society address loving and happy couples as bothers them. If they like they can call them whatever they like it's their headache. The husband or wife designate doesn't change who they are and stand for.

I don't know about Nigerian laws but some develop countries like many in Europe recognises cohabitating couples and accords them same rights as married ones. They can secure visa and residency under civil partnership rights. In the UK, civil partnership couples and women in cohabition relationship are also accorded equal alimony settlements in the divorce courts.

TV01:
As NL' M-I-C , I simply couldn't pass without addressing this;

1. If you think marriage is merely a "piece of paper", you - to put it as politely as one can - simply have no idea what marriage is
2. That same faulty thinking is what leads you to tie marital success to a marital certificate, and believe that the difference between both arrangements is "a piece of paper" - really?

You would then need to define "success &/or failure; If it's the staying - happily - together and raising well-adjusted children, marriage is anything from x4 times more likely to produce positive outcomes than co-habiting.

"Co-habees", are more likely to split up and split up earlier - most especially where children are involved.


Absolutely "one" can - indeed, any individual co-hab arrangement may be better than any number of individual marriages - but in most cases they don't. Marriage is in fact a better decision and a superior dpmestic arrangement - especially for women and children.


This bit is not even worthy of a response.


TV

I'm sure consensus wouldn't agree that marriage is more likely to produce a more effective outcome than other forms of relationships especially cohabs if the survey is focused on married couples. People could be married and have kids but still doesn't mean they're contented and might just be stuck in the union to avoid being stereotyped.

Marriages collapses on an almost equal scale as cohabs couple nowadays so I don't see the sentiment and certitude than one is better than the other. Just like marriage cohabitation doesn't also secure happiness, however, whatever any feels would guarantee them contentment they should go for it.

I still maintain that a marriage cert is the only distinguishing element between a married couple and cohabs ones and your discountenance couldn't dispel it.

mutter:
Tick tick tick tock!!!!


Do you hear that sound? The biological clock is ticking.
So wake up fast.
Of what use is money and fame if you can't share it with husband and children.
The greatest joy of being a woman is that after being the boss outside and making an impact you come home to your husband and kid's
A husband and children are the most valuable treasures.

Without a husband you are buying the foot mat without having a house Same advice for the men.

All what you said here can also be experienced by unmarried couples who are cohabitating. Children are the most valuable treasure anyone could afford whether married or not.

While I subscribe to the marital institution and won't discourage anyone who cherish it, it's pertinent one points out that couple can still live happily without a ceremonial piece of paper christened marriage cert that doesn't effect any thing useful.

MarvellousGod:
Sorry, I believe in marriage ceremony. . Can't cohabit..

Whichever way though, I believe man and woman should desire to come together. ..

Without your parents coming together, would you have been in this world? You should desire to build your own world/family too just like your parents. ..

The difference between a married couple and a cohabitating couple is the marriage cert, a piece of paper which doesn't determine the success or failure of the union. One can build a family and live happily too without nuptials. That you can't cohabitate doesn't make your decision the better one to those who does. The keyword is happiness. Not what society and organized doctrines believes to be right or wrong.

KashyBaby:
i dunno…I'm happy now, i dnt worry much about tomorrow

Good response to that dumb question. You don't need marriage to be happy. Happiness is the most important thing in life and even if you're to stay single and happy forever without marriage doesn't make you any less of who you are. Fxck social norms, societal stereotypes and it rules.

castroevans:
Marriage truly is for everybody that's y God made Eve, to be Adam's companion. Now civilization is turning things around, drifting away from on of the major reasons we are created.

I beg to disagree sir, marriage is not for everybody and your analogy is groundless as Adam and Eve themselves never got married. Or if you have any biblical reference that said they had nuptials let's have it.

pcguru1:
It's already happening the era of baby momma or baby daddy is at dawn. Marriage would soon be more of a concept what a shame.

True.

Things dey happen for Facebook o. This woman just dey run ashawo biz for there like sachet water. Relationship/marriage nowadays is getting more scary. Safe for procreation the marital institution might soon run into extinction.

No doubt Oshiomhole is a loquacious clown and a fatuous jester but I'm surprised this is coming from Orubebe the international lunatic. Kettle and pot sha.

sonofananimal:
I SEE AM NA. HE NO FIT SECURE VISA THAT'S WHY HE DEY TALK LIKE THAT.

I DEY SURE HE DEY AMONG THOSE DEPORTEE WERE DEM BRING COME NIGERIA

Lol! Maybe e follow for those wey dem deport from Cameroon o. Abeg teach him the difference between team foreign girls and Naija babes.

No women in your hood, campus, workplace or city

Not a problem provided no one compels the other to change their faith. If you want to date her you must be ready to allow her practice her religion and likewise she too. Maybe it's just me but religion is the last thing I consider before embarking on a relationship. Go for what you want mate.