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Auntyesther:
Say you want a sugar mummy nobody wee beat you.

u are funny girl

Bro her sex drive might not be too high,maybe your's is too weak,I think that's the kind of woman every guy would want,why don't u work on your own sex drive to please her since she has been doing everything possible to make u happy...

Because sex has a spirit that controls a person when he indulges too much in it, to form in him or her a habbit just like people addicted to smoking or alcohol, marijuana .etc..

mimimile93:
Mine, I told my employer to pay my salary into my partner's acct.

that's foolishness and stupidity in the highest order if she is not your wife,please stop doing that no matter what cos is not worth it...

xendra:
mtcheww wetin una know

Gaggi so if the reverse was the case and a wealthy woman asked for your number wouldn't you atleast want her to have it if anything good might come out of it? even if you are not into sugar-mummy

only jobless,cheap and gigolo guys could do that;I have personally turned a lot of offers down from old women cos I can't imagine getting my thing up looking at a woman old enough to be my mum..how young girls do that is alarming,I mean does these older men not irritate?

Girl you need a high self worth and emotional stability,learn to love yourself and respect yourself.. someone cheated on you, please he never loved u, forget about this dude..u are just carried away by his looks and charms outwardly but seriously inwardly he is just a jackass..

KISSMEAGAIN:
It is far, far easier to remain CHASTE before getting married avoiding FORNICATION than remaining CHASTE avoiding ADULTERY after marriage. It is a very great CHALLENGE. The temptation is high unlike non virgins who have seen it all and are ready to settle for no more. This is the simple truth most of us may not know except by those who married as virgins. HONESTLY, THE SEXUAL URGE IS VERY, VERY HIGH AND UNLESS YOUR PARTNER IS MOST WILLING TO SATISFY THAT URGE, WHICH IN MOST CASES IT IS IGNORED, YOU MAY BE SO PUSHED TO DO WHAT YOU HAVE AVOIDED BEFORE MARRIAGE. VIRGINS MALE OR FEMALE SHOULD BE AWARE OF THIS GREAT CHALLENGE IN MARRIAGE. Hmmm......alot of people don't know this TRUTH I swear!

hmmm have never seen it like this but I think you are right, because those of us who were never chaste could easily become chaste after marriage because we have seen it all,done it all unlike the virgins who wish to use the avenue of marriage in fulfilling their sexual fantasy and exploits who might totally get disappointed by a boring partner who might never satisfy their sexual urge thus leading them to commiting adultery, wow u just thought me a lot right now,..

To your own self be true,don't live a lie bro,let her know who u really are,if she will stay she will by so doing u must have given your mind freedom,there is no foundation if u build a relationship on lies...

Chizuru01:
On the bolded, You are very right bro but the probability of cheating is high too.

Seun lalasticlala dominique

maybe,but
compared to people who are already into sex,who can't do without it as ladies,who's already had too many partners,what made the virgins stay chaste in this corrupt world can still make them not to get wayward,not in all cases though cos the virgin might after having sex discover she was missing a lot before hence might start over doing it..so she might also cheat on her spouse as well..it is 50/50..

KISSMEAGAIN:
Hence, women who cheat never were once virgins?!

Your theory doesn't added up there except for the fact that you said in the beginning that it is all about choice.

I think if she kept herself from all temptations of furnication she might as well be faithful to her husband when she finally has one..it's just my thoughts..but still it is a matter of choice..

Samuel1402:
No issue yet bro

so what is your consolation?she leaves you alone I guess to even do the house chores since she goes out early and comes back late,you go to work and come back to stay alone,one of the reason God made woman was to be a helper and a companion to man,these two are lacking..you don't have a relationship at all, please do the needful since u guys dont have kids after 8years,are you sure she is not using the job as an excuse because of your child's issue which might be her fault?please go for medical check up asap and if possible file for a divorce cos you are not her priority..

nnamdiokoro:
Where is the free coming from? Did you read the initial lines at all?

More so marrying her shouldn't be manipulative as you sound. If she decides to hold on to her paradise, that wouldn't hurriedly make me rush things up. Were talking of red flags here, you're talking of sex. But she can all the while collect my own money abii?

Bro,what we can all do is to suggest but you are the one to make the decision here,if you feel you are fed up with her,u really don't need anyone's help to eject her,but if you feel she is still worth it then fight for your relationship,non of these dudes advicing u to leave her will be there if tomorrow u loose the good thing u have built with her,think of her good qualities too while u punder on letting her go,you can't get all free asses unless you subscribe properly, She is not yet your wife to fully perform all wifely duties to you,plus sharing all with you,I understand your woman..the reasons you gave are not enough to end a relationship, this is sth she developed which u can stand by her to help her unlearn them once again..

Don't generalize,it is probably one or two guys that has hurt you,this does not equate the entire men in the universe,just as all women can never be the same,the same way all men can't be the same,all are not nice but some are nice,all are not wicked but some are wicked,if you are attracting the wrong ones,you need to check yourself very well to find out why,the answer is not far from you but in you..

What if she is a ghost bro?instead of discussing important issues,you are only interested in fucking and fucking, nawaoh..you don't know her friends,her house,her family?try to contact anyone that can help you get to her asap..

Cheating has to do with choice,it has to do with a person's moral standards, principles and discipline and has nothing to do with a virgin or non virgin..A virgin has more probability of not cheating because women fall deeply in love with their first sexaul partner and she is free from ties and attatments caused by having different or many partners which lead to emotional instability n inbalance..A virgin will always have more probability not to yield into cheating than non virgins,but it all depends on personal decisions n resolutions.

Maybe you are too free,flirty,open,transparent,it has everything to do with how u talk,behave,stare,dress .etc.
watch how you dress,dress decently and limit the way you joke and laugh with the opposite sex around there, respect yourself always..Actually what you have inside your mind always find a way to reflect outside,so if everyone around you think you are a prostuitute then there must be things you are thinking and doing consciously or unconsciously to portray the image, character and attitudes of a slut..

chibuike65:
no you know what this site has been infiltrated by all this unreasonable small boys and girls so when you see the ones that are genuine and have good advice you have to appreciate them, check my profile you know when I joined this forum so you can imagine what it use to be and what we are having now so many fake profiles, I was touch to bless that fellow but is like the spirit don leave me now

hehehehe,sure I have been in the site too for long but mostly read comments especially when am less busy but have decided to come out with some piece of advice as well,not only reading comments..

chibuike65:
ple ase give me your account number let me bless you small

thanks bro for that comment,you got me smiling widely..

You speak (comment) like a woman



@Tonye,That is your opinion,you have the right to think what u want with your mind

TonyeBarcanista:
I am very sure that you are a woman

hmmm what has been a man or a woman got to do with the subject at hand,I still repeat I am a man and I know the struggle that comes with a woman in a relationship,that advice I gave was practically what I have experienced,the problem with we
Nigerians is not just the female folks,we feel comfortable to mistreat them and abuse them then expect something different,it doesn't work that way for what you give is what you receive,and bro I am entitled to my opinion,all u should do is respect it, accept it or reject it, whichever way,the guys woman is not the worst of Nigerian women, Remember women always seek attention,he can teach her how to be mature gradually,this is not an automatic process,it takes a while but if anyone is seeking for an already made woman,he is making a mistake..who says people can't change?change is the only thing that will remain constant..

Godoverevery:
So whatever she turn out to be am responsible and whatever I turn out to be
so does men that there wife turned out to be killers dey are responsible....do u no wat u saying at all.
Not surprised women will always play victim in every situation.
lol am responsible for how an adult turn out to be .....what a joke

Bro whether you like it or not,the glory of the wife is to the husband and her unclothedness is to his shame..in the community where I come from,when we see a well behaved woman,we always ask,who is her husband,and when we see a bad woman too we ask the same question because as a man,you are the head of your home,you are to be blamed if things are not right and to be honoured if things are right not the woman..there is a reason men are the head,they are there to take the lead,protect and shield the women,if the woman in your life is having these issues,u got to take a look at yourself first and change things the way they ought to be...

Godoverevery:
ds d issue I have with ladies....u are advising d Guy to be Patience and not condemning the lady behaviour.
Is like u ladies are just wired never to speak the truth to each other.... d guy sud always be one to be Patience while d lady misbehave.
am very sure if it was the other way round u will say d guy isn't matured bla bla but i guess a lady is permitted to be immature.
why will I have a issh with my fiancée and d next thing she does is ignore me and pack all her stuff off so I can't use do u no wat D's really means.
Bro if u marry dat babe .... anytime u have issh she won't cook for you...she will watch go hungry.
ds how it start.

please am not a lady ooo,the lady is still childish as you can see,that is why we date girls younger than us so we could always teach them and correct them..but you have a point..

Godoverevery:
ds doesn't make sense to me***a toxic man attract toxic woman*** like are u so ignorant to d fact people change.
u can be a dove and marry a dove ....few years on d dove can turn to be a loin.

it all depends on how you handle the dove,a dove is gentle,loving and kind,a lion is strong,bold and fierce,if you handle a dove gently it will remains a dove,if you handle it fiercely it turns to even a dog.. so you are equally responsible for what the woman in your life turns out to become,instead of putting all the blames on your woman,the question is what have you done?what did u do to change things?

nnamdiokoro:
Thank you man. i quite appreciate your constructive comments. I have been so considerate to the best of my ability. Of course I can't bring all my family issues here on NL to make you see what issues I've waived and forgone, but bringing this means it has come to a frustrating level. I've done so much and sacrifice so much to make sure we both live happily as one, several talking, several communications, several love and romance attempts, all turned down. Mind you, up there I said what pains me most was that posted, during this period she also changed Access to her phone but I wasn't even moved with that.

Sorry man,I did not see that last part,but if she changed access to her phone that means she is standing with one leg in your house and the other leg is somewhere else,so do the needful and let her leave,she is probably seeing someone else with that phone stuff,no need of wasting your time housing her since you have not paid her bride prize,tell her pump and clear that you want you guys to end your relationship based on her actions,let her know you are not happy in the relationship,if you mean something to her,she wouldn't wanna leave but fight to make ammends,just tell her you want you guys to break up simple..

ranmoor:
Of course relationship is about 2 different people trying to blend together, as expected there must be some dramas but the basis should never be compromise. How can you work on someone that is unwilling to change her attitudes? Attitude is everything. There is no cowardice in quitting! Ability to quit toxic relationship is the beginning of widsom...

There are two sides to every coin,this is his own part of the story,There is no way I can be showing you love on and on and you will show me hate on and on,at a time,u will get tired and start to love me, forgiveness more forgiveness, corrections more corrections..a toxic man will attract a toxic woman,cos likes attract, instead of focusing on women,focus on yourself to be better and all her toxic nature will gradually drop..if she is toxic,how are you responding, this is the most important..

ranmoor:
Seriously? Is there any good thing that can come from the devil?
Bros, that behaviour is highly toxic! I don't know where people see all these drama queens these days

Trust me everyone u meet will cause you drama at one point or the other,if you don't want drama then u don't need any woman,for as long as you will be with a woman,there must be drama,just make sure the person you are fighting for is worth it..Based on the little info he gave,I think his woman is stingy,an Introvert, bitter, self conservative, unforgivable and moody,it is not the end of the end,it could be worked on,there will be no light if there was no darkness..so he need to stop complaining,man up and work on his woman,not to end it bro,is he gonna be ending it with every woman just because she got an attitude?He did not notice this attitude before introduction?Now she is partly his wife and he wants to back out,for me is cowardice..

nnamdiokoro:
I didn't tell her anything to warrant all those. it's just her random way of behaviour. Love doesn't have to bring about all this. In fact I have endured her all in d name of love. As I wrote above, I initially ignored it all in d name of na woman way, but now it's getting out of hand

Bro no woman is and will be perfect,in as much as a relationship is meant to be enjoyed and not endured,but we grow when we learn to overlook some things women in our lives do,if she need one mile,give her 10 miles,if she need cuddle then cuddle her,she might actually be going through some inner pains and hurts you need to iron out and trash out with her, please don't give up on her,the devil u know is better than the angel u don't know...

Don't tell your Dad,Don't tell your sister,if you tell your Dad,he will tell your mum even if you beg him not to,your mum will tell someone else..they will see the man finish..if you tell your sister she will blame you,best scene scenerio she will path your back for telling her her husband is cheating,worse case senerio she will be pissed at you for poking into her business..Meanwhile I believe you are beautiful that's why he is attracted to you,and the absence of his wife plus his sick kid might be causing him stress which is making him to react in such a manner.Why don't u wear Jeans to sleep to avoid him touching you and shout at him boldly never to try such again,lock the door to the room when u want to go to bed.You can't run away from him because u can't run forever,he is part of your family now,face this as a mature person,if possible slap him when next he tries touching you..

Why don't you mind your business?Are you the man your sister is bossing?Are you his mouth piece?
Please let them be,go and check any home the woman is not bossing is because the man has enough Money to make the woman keep shut..your sister will be loyal when the husband become man enough,both emotionally, financially and spiritually,they don't need your help to do that..women respect money not their husbands..

Be patient with her,that is because you guys have not properly married,maybe she is keeping her things well incase you do what you wrote up there!!Besides what have u been telling her that makes her pack her things like that,maybe you have been telling her u will send her out of your house,hence she is not feeling that your home has totally become hers,..The home of a man belong to his wife,its hers not just yours,now you are talking of ejecting your wife??Bro are you sure you are ready to settle down with her?If yes then there is nothing love and communication cannot solve..

Sure they can fall in love genuinely cos they have feelings too,what she was doing was her profession but beware cos marriage is full of ups and down, challenges might come in the form of hardship,will she stick with you in such times or will she not rather go the way she was used to before?start meeting up men to get money.. Remember when u want to marry you are looking for a life partner and a role model to your kids..am just saying,is just my opinion..

Focus on your marriage and forget this useless feelings,love is more than feelings..this feelings will destroy your marriage,give this emotions to your husband instead and watch your love with him grow with time..That u did not end with your ex means you were not meant to be together,allow it to be past,burried and forgotten..