₦airaland Forum

maxilly:
I think the beating was done by the stepmother while the father kept silent

na so, why not think the beating was done by the father while the woman kept quiet? your little brain just can't comprehend how the angelic man can beat up his son but can understand the woman beating her step son. oponu

Pavore9:
Most men turn a blind eye when the step-mom maltreat their children from previous relationship(s).

according to the post, this is not a case of the dad turning a blind eye but also being active in this inhuman treatment

Kendumazy:
Wicked stepmother.

and the dad? or in reading the post you only saw the "step mother" without the dad?

EngrMcDon:
Some stepmothers can be wicked shaa, it's like the slowpoke of a husband has no say in the family

did you see where they typed "dad and step mom"? you just want to blame the woman and vindicate the man, can you be fair for once and condemn both?

Pasima:
Yorouba ladies can cheat for Africa no wonder their marriage don't last 9 of the ladies here are afonjas. Useless people

this one is not normal, if at this age you can't do away with tribalism then you are not fit to be counted among leaders of tomorrow

sweetyme001:
Regina Daniels!! op this your list is inconclusive.

this girl matter just dey pain you, oya go marry the husband na

victorian:
You even have patience to wait til 10 months before requesting for money and he refused can u imagine?

If u tell him to wait 10months before he have sex with you? Won't he run?

Las Las he still behaved like the scum, he is.

Anyways my own is I'm celibate, you can keep your money if u don't want to spend and don't expect me to spend either. Let's see where the selfishness and stinginess will lead us to.

lol, sometimes you can be crazy but I like you

Davash222:
So, you’re saying it’s wrong to give women money But, you girls keep saying black men are stingy??Because he offered her money is now a yardstick for her to show her oloshoism

do you know the difference between begging and "oloshoism"? behave o

gabazin080:
nice one


When you build a house let your wife decorate the ceiling, she has seen more ceiling designs than you.. Am I communicating?

and allow the man choose the bed sheet, he has seen more design

[quote author=ubunja post=81370277][/quote]lol

KingRabota:
This thread has been a BIG time eye opener. Now I know why I'm constantly getting the rejection flag.
It's going to be a VERY :olonely road for me to walk on

not true, it will help you meet someone who will love you and your child. we are in same shoes

rubyjan:
Without kids, he is not a single father.
He is a single married man

i think such men should be avoided most, why did the woman move out? girls nor dey think at times

Korllami007:
So, we're many that see the hypocrisy. I want to ask you, na alien date wizkid, David, patoranking and so on. After like 3 or 2 baby mamas, chioma still wan die dia. Wizkid nkor? Despite the fact that they are calling wizkid deadbeat dad, girls still de die for him even if it's a drop of wizkid sperm, make e enter their womb . I can't even remember the number of baby mama wey 2face get before he finally married. If 2face no finally marry, federal government go don create state for him, his baby mamas, and his children.

When I saw the post I was like, "Which planet is Op from? Abi na me change planet wey I know ni."

The think weak me.

just the way some men don't mind marrying single mothers is the same way done women dint mind marrying single dads. or you think all the single mothers we have in this country dont get married? lol

Michellekabod2:
Am yet to see u discourage ladies from marrying single men...you see how mute and quiet you are now the table is turned round....look at the vibes you had when you called single ladies losers and argued vehemently against marrying them...
But single dad? You are quiet now.....it's ok

you should know ubunja is a misogynist, I read his miseducations cause it opened my eyes to alot of things, he is intelligent to an extent but I dislike his misogynist attitude. it's a free world, filter everything and choose what you want

weyreypey:
But love covereth all...why not focus on the man you're in love with?

will you date a single mother? it's same with single fathers

Mizwisdom:
Even marriage prayers are for only single ladies in most churches

because the men are not hustling for wives, neither do they see it as an achievement

Stillthebest:
How did our father pushed them to it?? Mind you feminism started In the western world not in Africa. And the most empowered women championed it thinking what men can do, they too can. Meanwhile nature has placed them to be fend for not otherwise. And what men use to fend for them is what they crave for.

its obvious you really don't know. plz go and read, books don't bite, google is your friend

Jayslicky:
If you want to find the most useless Nigerians, please look at the ones in uniform, the Nigerian security force has individuals that are highly uneducated, egoistic, disrespectful and corrupt.

give any Nigeria citizen uniform and you will see the same attitude. what does that tell you, the average Nigerian is corrupt to the teeth, stop talking as if uniform men are not from the Nigerian society

Stillthebest:
Never a war. I don't hide what I feel. This is exactly how it appears to me. I only ask for women not to Harbour "complex" but to see any opportunity they have as leaders as a vehicle to help both men and women, boys and girls. Not just for girls n women as regards the content of the discourse..

As per the death, never talking about how any gender is being treated. I only cited how nature has favoured women already!

no my dear, nature have never favoured women only except you are not exposed. go ahead and read what lead to the rise of feminism, it was our fathers that pushed women into this. now they are over doing it and we are crying, we just have to tame them and try make things right.

traihit:
You're very correct. What I have in mind is far greater than my reach now. I like this challenge, so I'm going to work on it. Thanks.

my brother, the way women are pushing for right of the female child have increased the productivity of the girls in our society (only the sensible ones sha) I believe if same effort is put in for the male child too, our society will be close to perfection. just come to Benin and see for your self, most of the boys (10-20years) are bus conductors and their dream is to own their bus and become drivers one day. they steal from passengers, join cult groups, carry out robbery at night etc. it's a shame, I just wish I can also do something

Stillthebest:



Women are always known selfish ones both in the home fronts and public spaces.

When a man is married he takes up the responsibilities of both himself, the kids, running of a home and that of the woman totally. Even during weddings, a man must take care of certain things relating to the woman personally apart from the bills that would come from her family.

A man have se.x with a woman, cu.m in her, be on top to do the jerking, still gives her money to take care of herself... Who really needs Milk and maltina here...eeh eeh?

People talk about how women are the real deals In children's lives. But quick to forget sacrifices men take too.. A man can come home last night with the last 5k, and a child comes to him in the morning for school bills of #4500. A father gives the Child the money.. meanwhile,he had planned to fuel his car with 2k prior... Can he now?

At home, a woman will prefer to come back and ask for her #1000 she added to the groceries money because what u gave her isnt enough. Imagine! Won't she or her kids eat from it? This n more.


This has transcended. A man impregnates a woman, takes care of the resultant kids from day one to securing Jobs for them after versities, what next... "A ti gbe baba rele"(the man died) leaving the woman to reap the fruit of his labours

In a public office, a man takes up the responsibilities of both men and women, old and young. But their wives create special programs for women empowerment and girl child alone. Starting NGOs relating to women alone, supporting only woman... So men should leave the Earth for them Abi?


Society hasn't been fair to men and boys. Women are to be pampered, but they are already misusing the opportunities. Sometimes, I want to attribute their issues to lack of self esteem. Let them too think out of the box and have all encompass programs once they have the forum to do so.. being a first lady doesn't mean the wife of a governor should be liable to women alone. Or aren't their husbands not first man too?

i am also tired of the girl child thing but you have turned this to a gender war, we still have some funny things here in Nigeria that is a no no especially when it comes to women. I believe both gender is to be treated equally in all things, given same opportunities, no pampering of any body. the way a woman is treated when her husband dies is different from that of a man, in some issues especially in the northern part of our country, a man is seen to be superior to a woman, the women are raised that way and behave that way. not until children are brought up with the right mentality, these stereotypes will continue.

omoadeleye:
No be your fault na, when you are also holding first lady office which is illegal you can also talk... Mumu womna

if you don't agree with her speech, criticize without sentiments and insults. you are just angry and envious of her position

traihit:
You wrote as if you read it from my mind! I'm tired of people shouting girl-child, marginalization and those similar terms. What about thousands of homeless uneducated boys on the road who have no one to care for them, no activist to invent a mantra to help them, no foundation to secure their future. Yet, the number of thugs and kidnappers are increasing.
I'm an advocate of education for both genders but when we weigh the consequences of illiteracy for the two genders, it's more terrible for the boys than the girls because a lot of social nuisance and political thuggery today is caused by these illiterate folks. So let them tell us something else. We've already seen what women can do in power.

why not start one for the boys, women are doing it for the girl child, men should wake up also.

Profkenny1:
You saw the plights of underprivileged women, what of plights of underprivileged men?? Men are far more oppressed by the society than women. Men have no one to cry to when oppressed hence the rate of suicide in men is four times that of women.

The specie called man has also being faced with challenges that helped him in helping the woman to survive on this cold planet.

Caring about empowering women while forgetting about men is detrimental to the development of the society.

Caring about the girl child while ignoring the boy child will lead to a dysfunctional society.

this is a woman calling for empowerment of female child, let the men in power call for empowerment of the male child na, who is stopping them? women are forming different NGOs for the female child, you are a man oya start your own

chachanga:
Who voted in the current women in power, foreigners or Nigerians?

Is it not the same Nigerian women who'd usually vote in men and guys over fellow women except where stipulations are sacrosanct and specifications explicit?

Women should cease being their sisters' killers while blaming men for every little one of their phuck-ups pls.

thumbs up

Xisnin:
I don't deal with emotional stunts. stick to the topic.
I don't know what will happen.
It depends on what the police are looking for. Guns or cultists? the men
will be targeted but if they are looking for prostitutes, only the women are targeted.
I am sure you already know why.

It is the same thing that happens to black suspects in the US.
But in their case, their oppressors are mostly whites and they can point fingers.
However

You see nothing is really black and white as you think it is.


I don't know really. For a neutral object, it is the men because it is common
sense to suspect risk takers in such situation.
But if it is a gendered item. The right gender will be targeted first
before others.

You see if I go to a farm and found all the crops destroyed, I won't suspect cheese hawkers, it is herdsmen
with cows that will be my primary suspect.

Do I really need to explain how this work?
Don't you do something similar every day?


Stop using generic examples.
In Nigeria, the accuser is mostly believed by the mob.
If someone shouts "thief" in the market, you will be lynched regardless
of the accuser's gender. That is how it works.
Perhaps, you have a specific example in mind?


So many missing information.
Who cheers such a person?
What is their relationship?

You may protest that is how things are. Humans operate based on hierarchy even if
we pretend not to. It is this hierarchy that determines primal reaction to conflict judgment.
If a senator slaps a fellow, very few will care but the case will be different if a laborer was
abused.


This is getting ridiculous. Asking this question is itself a big problem because it shows you cannot see what
it is in front of you.
You don't know about the
slut/olosho tag
weak
Too emotional
irrational
dumb
and so on.


I don't know if you are raised in a family or on the street but I know from birth that
several people care about me but society doesn't owe me anything aside normal social
behaviors from others.
Your problem may be that you cherish people's approval too much and have become
slave to it in the process.
Nobody is brainwashed to spend on women. They willingly do it to get what they want.
When it happens, it is pure capitalism.
If I may ask, how were you brainwashed to spend on women and who did the brainwashing?



This is enough
So many lies and distortion in one post.
The man who claimed men are more oppressed is also angry that women are
entering politics. What an irony!

Let us assume you normally pick people along the way to work to help them.
Now picture yourself driving along a narrow path at night in the rain and you spot 4 people waving
you down.
Who are you more likely to stop and pick 4 men or 4 women?
How about your friends, who are they more likely to wait for?
Do you think they are stupid for weighing their risks?

For me, I see nothing wrong with most stereotypes and I won't cry about them because it is what it is.

True oppression involves unreasonable deprivation from what others get from similar scenario
or forcing someone to do what they don't want.
He didn't allow me to play with his bike is not oppression, it is an individual choice.
Any stereotype that doesn't limit finance, freedom or power should be trivial matter
in this part of the world.

In some parts of Igbo land, women cannot inherit their father's land.
That is oppression.
Would you want a female king in your village?
We already know the answer.

Not. Hey SARS raided our house took all the men and left the women.
Or some religious police arresting only women in some Kano streets for prostitution.
Claiming geder-based oppression in such scenarios is foolishness.
Of course, the problem needs to be solved but it won't happen through misplaced gender war
but the sweeping ban of such actions.


I understand why you hold these erroneous beliefs. Most people who live in the shadows
usually think their ideas are a reality because they have never been challenged but when
they go outside their comfort zones, they are usually shocked.

this is why I love nairaland, you have explained it all, if he doesn't get it after this post, just forget the guy

olu77:
Marginalized to za other room. Weep no more. I believe that women have power and men only have authority. It's fair enough.

funny enough, a wise woman will use her power to manipulate the authority of a man

Nbote:
Stop weeping and do something now U are in a position to do something about it in ur own little way..

let her weep all she wants, I am an advocate for women right but I hate it when they make women look like handicaps, women are not weak, they don't have physical strength but they have strong minds. orientate a girl as you would a boy and watch her blossom. we have brainwashed the female generation to think they are less than men, that they can't hustle like men. you don't see people crying for men right and all that but men struggle and break grounds but the woman wants someone to fight for her and present her with opportunities, not until women understand that they can also fight for opportunities and active it without much propagander, men will continue to treat them like underlings

Brightest04:
Honesty i pity the lady, considering the pains mothers go through to bring their baby's into the world.But it's another lesson to those who leap before they look.If you want to marry,marry from where you share the same things and from those areas where they do not attach their lives to extreme religious ethics.God created us to be free,but it's a pity we jail ourselves to man made rules and laws.

there is a thread trending now that asked if religion should be used in choosing a spouse instead of love, most of them are saying love love love, lol, marrying someone who don't share same ideas and belief as you will surely end in disaster.

IamCharles123:
Do u think its possible for her to forget that child, that's impossible jor, even if she end up having 10 children i doubt she can forget this one.

when I say forget, I didn't mean to erase but to allow fate decide. that child is her Achilles heel, they will continue to use the child against her. maybe cause I'm not a woman but the only solution I can see her is letting go so the guy will loose his hold on her hence she will remain in emotional torture and bondage. the guy might not care about that child but is doing this just to punish her, not until you give your enemy the opposite reaction of what they are expecting, you can't win. it has always worked for me, it's just mind games

aaaaabbbbbccccc:
This guy is trending today in Nigeria not because he’s a criminal but because Nigerians find joy in seeing the downfall of their country men. ~

you have said it all

pcguru1:
Seems Religion has a new face back then killings were carried out in the name of Religion and still. As much as I am a Christian, I find myself seeing this religion thing as a form of control. That thought cant shake off my head anytime I seel for answers I'm told to take things by faith , what does that mean ? To believe without questioning ? This is why religion is very hard for me. I just go to church and pray because I grew up that way, but deep down I have reservations about religion. I'm definitely confused and yet it's hard for religion to give me an answer not shrouded with more questions.

ithink we are experiencing the same thing, but I have found a way out. the religion being preached today is false and a scam. I am a Christian, I'm Christ like, anything that goes against the teachings and examples of Christ to me is wrong. I treat everyone equally with love irrespective of your tribe or religion, I won't take what's not mine, I try to forgive when I'm offended but I don't forget sha so that story nor go repeat itself. I don't do these miracle pursuing things, all those God will punish you if you don't pay tithes nonsense, just get it out of your head. live free, live simple, be wise, love all. that way, you will be at peace with God and man. do you think they Abraham, David and Co did all these things Christians of today are doing? yet God love them, just live happily