@ sisi-kill,
Too much cartoons. "Despicable me"
Lwkmd.

@ safeact,thanks for officially welcoming me to NL. I "pledge" to guard the name with my thumb.

@safeact,yes I am seeing it.
Maybe they are one and the same person....lols.

Thank you @ debrief. I wish I new the lady personally,I'd print out your comment and ask her to read it like the bible every morning. Maybe she'll grow a little sense.

@kobojunkie,obowunmi,safeact,blank..thanks for the matured comments.

@ify,no be small thing my sister.
But maybe the last time they did it,they didn't know she was pregnant. It happens naw!
@blank,even gays would be nice out of sympathy for the wife.

@ chanchit,You don't have to comment. Just view and move on.
How many stories do you think the real victims are here. Some member could learn a thing or two from ther posts,don't you think so?

You don't have to comment. Just view and move on.
How many stories do you think the real victims are here. Some member could learn a thing or two from ther posts,don't you think so?

E be like say na 'new-couple-na-our-marriage-go-sweet-pass syndrome' dey shack some of una. For just how long can a normal couple keep up with these hugs and kisses and yummie-yummie love-wan-tin-tin gimmicks as a matter of routine? I reckon it would all feel fake, perfunctory and downright annoying after a couple of years when the drudgery of marriage inevitably sets in.[/quote]

Ah ah,we have to enjoy it while it lasts naw.. Every 40yrs old marriage also went thru the first couple of years too na.. At least until God finishes moulding my babies,I'll pet him na..

His office is about 20mins drive from our home so he gets hope pretty early,say 6.30 latest.
I (always) go downstairs,hide behind the door so as to startle him when he goes in..but we are so used to that routine that each time he's opening the door,he says "I know you are behind that door".
Its really always fun to have him back home cos,we gist from the stair case into the room..

I got this from facebook and thought I should share with my beloved NLDers. Debrief and CC,,,please your inputs will be hightly appreciated.

I need sincere advice from your readers on my issue. I have been married for 2 and a half years with a child and I'm 5months pregnant expecting my second child. I'm really unhappy in my marriage - I think its leading to depression, I don't get to sleep @ night and I cry a lot. My marital problems started practically on the second week after I got married.
He was a different person before we got married, he was sweet, understanding and caring. But after we got married I saw a different side of him. He was my first and only sexual partner. I discovered I had an std 2weeks into our marriage, it was really a difficult time for me and that same time he was seriously toasting his colleague in the office. I have since forgiven him. He has really hurt my feelings deeply in the first one year of the marriage, I remember when he asked a girl to snap her nude pix and send it to him on his bb, and many more hurtful stuffs he did in our 1st year of marriage. After he lost his job, I ve been the one taking care of everything around the house. He is currently running his business and which I still support him that I ve nothing left of my salary for myself. He comes home late, he doesn't help me around the house - instead he helps to scatter. I work a 8am to 5pm job,I have no one helping at home, I pick our child up from daycare on my way home. The only time I rest is bed time, while he has a lot of time, which he prefers to use on the internet and he likes going out late at night. He doesn't take me to his functions, recently his cousin’s wife put to bed and I had parcelled some things for her but my husband didn't take me along he only collected what I had for them. I feel really sad. I get scared at night when he is away- I don't sleep when he goes for his night outings, when he comes back around 3am I act as if I'm sleeping cos anytime I try to talk to him he walks away. He never talks about anything, we don't gist, I lost most of my friends after I got married. I'm always feeling lonely, all I do when that feelings come is to play with our child. We haven't made love for 5months now, I try initiating it but he said he wants to sleep. Majority of the time he sleeps in a separate room. I think I still love him, I wish my home can be normal for once. I tried talking to him when he was driving me to an atm to get money to buy things for the house, he parked and got out of the car - he said he doesn't want to talk about anything. I have no one to talk to. During the first year of our marriage, I wanted a divorce but my parent kicked against it. I have no support. I am emotionally down, he doesn't even care about my condition-he hasn't even asked how the pregnancy is. That's if he even knows how old the pregnancy is. He seems happy when he talks to people on the fone. Its like a loveless marriage. I miss being loved, begin cared for,making love, discussing with someone. I'm so confused. I don't know what step to take next.This man took away my smiles, joy of being pregnant, joy of having children.I feel lonely and emotionally stressed- can't just stop thinking. I need sincere advice, I need to hear some positive things to move me forward.

First class in Chem Eng..abeg,chop knuckle @OP.

claremont: @OP: I admire your courage and resilience if your story is true. I admire intelligent ladies who know what they want and are ready to go for what they want regardless of what society is telling them to do. You have absolutely nothing to be afraid of; you are vastly intelligent, financially self-sufficient, fiercely independent and goal-oriented.

The ladies who should be afraid are those bunch of expired junks who have nothing to bring to the table; they are jobless, depend on their boyfriends for basic sustenance, already in their late 20's to early 30's with nothing to show for it, pray all day for the right man without asking themselves if they are right as well, and then they spend all day roaming on Nairaland (and other social media sites) seeking for one gullible young man to devour!

I don't have any problems with self-made ladies like yourself choosing to live a life of solitude if that's what makes you happy and gives you inspiration. Intelligent ladies like yourself have my utmost respect.

You said it all @clairemont. And to think that more than half of the posters calling the OP names actually secretly wish they had a quarter of what she has.
I admire the OP too. I'll advice her to follow her heart and not be pressured into marriage. Whoever said marriage brings happiness.
Kudos girl. In fact,I wish we could meet sef..

Whatever rocks your boat@ OP. I am proudly ada owerri but born,bred and brought up in Lagos. I speak,read and right yoruba as well as igbo.
I lived in the midst of yorubas all my life,but CAREFULLY chose them as friends. Reasons?I know them. I know what it could be like living with a yoruba for a long time. Marriage is serious business. Forever is a looooog time. So,when marriage came calling,thank God my hearthrob is a fellow Imolite. I didn't think twice. Like I said,if she makes you happy,go for her but I can't advice a female non yoruba friend to marry a yoruba guy (drama o). No sentiments please. My2cents!!

chucky234: What a scientific way to justifies the fact that your hubby is extremely ugly,poor you.

Here we go again with the childishness. Must you say trash? Please show some respect or face your studies.

Typical example of poverty property. Come home and let's teach you art of "fishing" and stop oogling at another man's sweat. Aturu igbo!!

moderatorr: poverty infected brain makes people think all big money is stolen money

Its really unfortunate. So many of these so called diasporans actually think Nigeria is one huge slum where absolutely nothing works. When they see something nice here they think its owned by one rich politician or a corrupt businessman.
Please my dear abroad dwellers,there are still a lot,and I mean so many honest and hardworking Nigerians who actually live,do business and progress in this country.
Even UK and US has slums and crooks. They also have their own version of the rich 20% of the population. Even the poorest countries have a few rich people who still invest in their countries.
You guys need to come home and see things for yourselves instead of seeing Nigeria through nairaland or even the internet.
If you work hard and be honest and truthful to yourself,you will make it here. Ask Jason Njoku or Seun Osewa or even me(winks)..
Nigeria is blessed and I am extremely proud to fly my flag and show my green passport at heathrow of JFK whenever I visit inspite of all the negative publicity.

texazzpete:

Jason Njoku? He's the MD/CEO of Iroko group. The guys behind IrokoTV and Iroking. He's got exclusive rights to online broadcasting of Nollywood (and I think ghana movies). Pretty big deal.

As Forbes put it



So unlike you, he's a real billionaire

Don't mind them o. The guy was also named one of the richest (if not richest sef) entrepreneurs under the age of 30 in Africa by one of the quoters.
He has made a good name for himself and is still under 35,if you ask me that quite comendable.
Jason is from Imo state and Mary is Akwa Ibom. I wish them the very best of marital life.
Instead of wishing them well,one phantom NLer is call the guy 'ugly'..na wa o.

[b][/b][b][/b]Pls let me know the number of cycle days you had before last July.Was your cycle days regular before last July? May be you furnish me with some symptoms that you have seen since last month or anytime.And of course do not worry about it.You will be ok.

Thanks doc.
Before july my it has been a fairly regular 28 days cycle i.e + or - 2days. I haven't had any symptoms at all except for some slight headache from time to time.

SmoothCrim: Are you talking about Naija??

Oh keep quiet my friend. What even gives you the right to talk when Nigerians are talking? Fear no dey catch you? Or do you want us to declare "e-ghana must go" on Nairaland?
Besides read my post properly and stop displaying your typical ghanaian stoopidity on the internet.

philips70:

Doesn't negate the fact that you look up to us for everything. Go and ask your presidents and their wives who their mentors are. While I was in ghana my colleagues in the Takoradi power plant hang around just to hear me speak. Your girls will not let Nigerian men rest. My friend, live with this - ghana will forever be a second class citizen to Nigeria every day in this current world. Maybe in the next world that can be negotiated with God.

I tire o!
Who are these ghanaian spokes persons on NL,petrodola and smooth criminal sef? No be this kotoka kitchen,sorry,airpot wey I dey pass every ther week. You can't even begin to compare it with Sam Mbakwe airport in my village. My gawd.

The first time I walked thru kotoka,I covered my eyes in shame,so that one too na "intanashonal" airport. Bull-dung!!

And all those born throway,akata Nigerians typing away their miseries abroad should swear that they even know where Africa is located on the world map. Lost souls.

Crap!
The fact is that a lot of Nigerian men are insecure including the so called educated ones. Even a lady young lady who earns a little as 100k from her bank job is considered rich and therefore are not marry-able (if there's a word like that).
Why do you think so many guys don't want their banks to work but to stay home and breed.
@OP,abeg eh,pls tell her that if she doesn't need the cash,she can tell me. My business needs some fuel ( money).

Chrisbenogor:



Twist ke?
But which action do you want the woman to take now?

IMO this is the easiest form of cheating to deal with, from what she has written its purely physical fun for the dude, and he uses condoms YAY!
We just need to make sure no more pesky skin to skin takes place between him and those leeches outside. Plus he has to start manning up and treating her with respect by not doing it to her face.

Like my people say in warri...... "Dem nor dey fit chain guyman"

Ok o! Nsogbu adiro.

Chrisbenogor:
You are looking for a form to join the cabal abi?

Na only cabal? I just like the twist those pple add to a thread..

Where are the NL veterans naw?? CC,Jennykadry,Tpia@,davidylan,dayokanu etc..we need some drama on this dramatic thread .
@OP,have you gone for AIDS/HIV test? Hold on to your dog of a husband and keep praying. When you test positive to the above disease,you can then take action.SMH.

Oh pleeeezzeeee!!
Am 5'6 and hubby is 5'7..and whenever we go out,I rock my sky high stiletoes and hubby's hands never leaves my waist.

Good day docs,thanks for this good job. Hubby and I are trying for a baby. I noticed that I had my flow twice last month (2nd and 5th week of july). I also noticed that right now,I am still having some bloody dischage/spotting. I am trying not to worry about it. Pls what could be the problem?
Thanks

honeric01:


Sure everyone's got her/his dream but is it advisable marrying someone with an opposite dream?

What are the cons and pros that can be associated with it?

Na wa o..
Which one is opposite dream? Must madam leave the security of a paid job to join you in your aim to build castles in the sky?
I think in a marriage,one party should have a secured job while the other can pursue his/her business dream. Savings have to be made towards raising kids and building a home and that can only be achieved through a regular income.
When those same kids you are planning for start coming,school fees will need to be paid,feeding and all. FAMILY TIME could turn out to be a mirage if there's no regular income.