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lurlah2014:
seriously afraid of making commitment and sacrifice

Afraid!

No o!

They are terrified. It is like Saddam's goons about to torture them.

Nonsense talk. Persin no want something, then you see women trying to challenging their masculinity with "afraid".

Black women with all their stinking attitude, instead of changing it, would say "Black men are only going for other women because they are scared of a strong black women". Their undesirable attitude is a sign of "strength"?

pansophist:
Women, una get wahala abeg. I remember when I asked a girl out in Nigeria and to my surprise, I was made to realize that I am responsible in paying the bills. Na girls with this mentality you want make I carry as wife? Mbanu

Naija girls specifically has a kind mentality that will always turn down intelligent men. Their dependent attitude, sense of entitlement and like sagamite said, pussi reward attitude puts off every potential man off.

And whether we choose to admit it or not, marriage is an old culture. Our current live doesnt fit the idea of marriage, na self made prison una de enta so

Those are some of the attitudes, behaviours, expectations and mentality I almost always observe from the very first minute I engage with most Nigerian girls and it just puts me off immediately. From that moment, it is almost virtually impossible for it to go anywhere because I find it insanely disrespectful and insulting.

Does this ediot really take me for a fooool that would do anything for pussi?

Do I look like if I have to drag myself on the floor for pussi if I want it?

If I want to pay or work for pussi what makes your daft arse think you are that valuable for such payment/work? Are you Amber Rose?

I just get pissed off.

They don't feel they have to be good at conversations, be fun to be around and be convivial. But yet, oddly, they have this expectation that you should be crazy and infatuated about them.

They just think "Ah, I have a pussi, this guy wants it so he must work like a slave horse for it".

And I am thinking "B.i.tch, are you reetarded?".

themodernman:
Unintelligent response. Try not to tell your bro to up his game so you can see him end up depressed and den make him desperate for a woman who will sense this and see herself as a jewel and him as d lucky guy.

A guy with game has ladies at his beck and call...d ladies see him as d jewel and themselves as d lucky girl. With a Sis like you God help your bro....

Women benefit more from Marriage dan Men. Na wayo una just dey use for us with reverse Psychology making it look d other way round.

Fcking well said.

zendy:
I fall into that category. I won't say I'm rich but I'm comfortable and I own the house I live and I'm 30+. When you get to that stage in life, you will think seriously about settling down but unfortunately, wife material is hard to come by. I don't want to get married just for the sake of getting married because marriage can be a curse. I know many guys my age who are married but feel like they are in a nightmare which they don't know when they will wake up from. Women can be strange creatures. Some of them are good at hiding their true nature until they are married. By then, it's too late for the man. Another thing guys like me have contend with is spotting someone who is there because they want to be there and spoting a Golddigger. Many Nigerian women treat marriage like winning a jackpot. After saying 'I do', they regard the mans role as being their own personal "genie" who is there to grant their wishes while all they have to do is pop out kids. There are actually very few women who realise that marriage is joint effort and any problem that comes along, they just blame it on the man. All I can say is that while they say that "Husband is scarce", I say that "Wife material" is even more scarce. Rather than being with a "Dragon tailed Witch" , I would rather stay stay single or just get myself a Baby mama.

You listed well some of the consequences of many Nigerian women's sense of "entitlement" and "my pussi is a reward" mentality.

omoharry:
I AM SURE HE IS RECOVERING FROM A TERRIBLE HEART BREAK I THINK.

Is that one of those lame attempts to attack his masculinity?

themodernman:
If he's stinkingly rich, handsome and highly intelligent and still ends up depressed and sad then he's prolly a Loser in Women matters...even broke guys dey play girls dey catch dr fun...

You ladies had better stop deceiving yourselves like you're the source of a man's happiness...in most cases d man actually is...we just dey make una head swell ni...

Fcking brilliantly said again!

Many women just love to, and are professionals in, self-deceit.

They will make an argument that you have a problem when the want you to solve their problem/insecurity.

themodernman:
You were making sense but rounded up speaking Nonsense. Prayer ko Prayer ni.

Fact is most Rich, Comfortable & Single men are not giving women what they REALLY want.. Men are so quick to think Women are all about money...

The women themselves fighting for empowerment but refuse to make themselves responsible with their attitude. By attitude I don't mean sleeping around but I mean being mature in dr attitude. Them just think sey once dem don fine...shikena.

A man will only respect a woman that respects him first not the other way round....that's why your man will cheat on you with a woman lesser in status dan you. It's in d genetic makeup of men to want to be respected. These single men haven't seen such so most of them settle for babymommas..

Life is getting harder...no man wants a woman that will add to it so we go just dey SOLO. If women know d way men of nowadays are thinking they'll either quickly change their behaviour or remain adamant and actually don't give a fuuuccck as they're doing now.

Fcking well said.

I can NEVER date a woman who does not respect me. Any woman thinking she has a chance while being disrespectful is only fooling her life.

I have always told guys on NL: The minute a woman becomes disrespectful, move on.

A woman can't love a man she does not respect.

kodded:
I cannt engage in any serious debate with a brainwashed slowpoke like you

...Now go on... go and suck a dick

You are a cretinous fuuktard that cannot debate at my level.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKHRdZCi0I4

LAX89:
Marriage is an OVERRATED dogma and expectation of society. You should also look at the world-wide odds of divorce. Individuals now have the courage and self conviction to decide if they actually need, want and desire to get married, rather than just following societal dogma and expectations, devoid of any independent, individual analysis and thought process. Put simply, marriage should be an individual choice, and not a rule of society.

Fcking brilliantly well said.

I have always said, at the end of the day, it is women that would keep fighting for marriage as they are the ones that benefit from it most.

carboblanko:
You are on point here. Our society puts to much pressure on unmarried people and cauese a lot of them to make mistakes. This is why we have a lot unhappy and broken marriges today.Singles really need to be prayerful and trust in God to lead them to their life partners.

Even in societies where not much pressure is put on unmarried people there is still a lot unhappy and broken marriges today.

MSItachi:
When you marry and you are so conscious that you are married... You are married .. To the wrong person.

If you constantly feel your shoe it's either it's big or too tight.

Marriage is an awesome union but most marry the wrong persons for the wrong reasons.

Nonsense!

Freedom is an awesome status.

Sweetlemon:
From my experience, most of them have issues.
1) The ones still hurting from a past relationship
2) The ones who didn't have babes around them when they had nothing but suddenly finds many babes dying for their attention. They now don't trust women.


But hey, there ain't no specific age for marriage. Some people are very particular about what they want and what they want is what they are getting no matter how long it takes and guys with money have high taste in women,. Not just anything goes it's not like the broke/regular ones who are just looking for any woman that can love them the way they are.

You missed out (3).

3) The ones that don't see the importance of any woman in their lives (in the form of marriage) as the net benefit is negative and inferior to being single.

mmsen:
Praying has never resolved any issue or questions - besides, perhaps, how to waste time in the worst possible way.

Choosing a life partner is difficult because women are well versed in the art of deception.

STANDING OVATION!!!

kodded:
ok I give up..... You win , are you happy now ?

...now go suck a dick

Shut the fck up, cretinous fuuktard.

You are so dumb, if you ever engage in a debate with me, your God, ........


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ukBOeHcMH_g

kodded:
fooolish baboon ..... Stop thinking through your anus..... It sucks

You are a cretinous fuuktard!

So worshipping criminals dishing out money is what you were thought as thinking from you head in your failed school, fuuktard?

Was Patience Jonathan the Director in the Education Ministry your school was under?

Orikinla:
I feel for the majority of younger men in Nigeria today who cannot afford a decent accommodation even though they are working and well paid by local standards.
In the early 1980s, at 18, I was already earning N400 monthly and that was a big income then, because return ticket to UK was only N300.
I could afford a two bedroom flat, a small car and even take care of a wife and two children. Nigeria was a better and safer country then for young men and women. Young graduates in the 1980s did not suffer what the present graduates are suffering now in poverty.

Then IBB and Abacha came to destroy it all.

Jollyjoy:
Why will responsible and mature guys want to marry when ladies has lost their value by giving their assesst to the highest bidder..
Beside who want to purchase wat he can easily borrow,

the fact is that majority of those decent girls are anti social now tell me who want to marry such a lady?

With rampant cases of divorce here and there no body want to settle than because marriage is now endured instead of enjoyed,,, before those ladies finally want to settle down, they might have been in their late 20 or early 30. And maybe those responsible men would want to marry early 20s.

Now tell me why a wife material would nt be difficlt to find..

You said a lot of sensible things but I need to correct you on the highlighted.

Marriage, by and large, has mostly been something endured throughout history, not just now.

Most of the people that say they are enjoying marriage are either those in the early phases or just pure liars.

Very, very few people enjoy marriage. They just want the societal benefits and security that come with it.

kodded:
[s][/s]

Child of hate and anger take it easy o

Child of stupidity and failure use your brain o.

anonimi:
Re-populating the world with children brought up by both parents.

What is your point?

They have a responsibility to repopulate the world and they are not?

Or

They have a responsibility to bring up children with a partner and they are not?

Which irresponsibility are they guilty of?

dlux:
Who wants to commit to the kind of ladies we have in the society today? 90 percent of them won't add value to your life. Deduct from your account & think fucking u is a huge favor when they give it to a higher bidder anyway. How many babes will visit their bf house & cook with their money, do his laundry or fall in love with a broke guy with prospects? Shey after we hammer them think say we go easily forget? Many are called but few are chosen. Most of these ladies have slept with married men, random dating & seek refuge where they did not invest. Yes men disappoint but your best bet on getting a husband is building a relationship & being submissive. Invest your time & make a few sacrifice if the guy is nice. I no say make u sponsor am ooo.

Fcking well said, especially the highlighted.

That is one of the huge issues I have with most Nigerian girls and their mentality.

Right from the minute you meet these fooools they think they can control you with the carrot of possibility of them giving it up one day and you are suppose to do their bidding to get this "reward".

And after they are giving it, they think they are doing you a favour you need to be grateful for.

And it is not like if they are any good in bed.

anonimi:
Or hyper foolish dudes that are IRRESPONSIBLE like most of us who want to eat our cake & still have it.

Are they virgins themselves abi nor be dem burn the gaskets of the condemned vehicles wey dem dey run from

Hopefully they have no single sisters, cousins, nieces and will NOT have daughters. Fair

What a stuuuuuuupid statement to make?

Are you their landlord?

They owe you money while living large?

Are you their employer?

They are late to work or don't do what they were hired to do?

How did you come up with the rubbish of "irresponsible"?

You know about a responsibility that is their obligation that they are not undertaking?

eleshin:
The major problem is our 4kedup society. The huge pressure that comes with the importance we attach to marriage makes it less attractive to some of us. Op should ask his friends what really is the problem, this is not about scarcity of wife materials but it's majorly about guys not ready for that trap.......staying with one person for years, having sex with one person for years is a trap! We r bn dishonest with ourselves cos I know 95% of. Present days couples are unhappy. There is nothing wrong in getting along with some1 that u av feelings for but do not trap ur self under any matrimonial title... Av a good career, Av lots of sex with the babe/'s u r feeling , make babies, stay together but have your own apartment incase shitz bore you out. Most of these girls get married cos they wanna become a Mrs, from peer pressure to family dictates. Well this is just an opinion of some1 sha..... Nothing serious

Fcking well said!

Nice to see some young people coming with some thinking that is against the herd.

Marriage is a failed and nonsense institution and set-up.

All the records show it is.

LuvSwollenPussy:
Op. I have such friends too. Most of them have dia mind fixed on young girls still in sch. They don't want ladies of late 20s and early 30s like themselves for reasons ranging from promiscuity, desperation, pretence just to get a man and then change later, out of control exposure and most of all disrespect among others.

Smart guys!

kodded:
[s][/s]I wanted to skip your post but you are too stup!d to be ignored....


The people you mention are those people governing the state ?...

....You expect them to provide jobs for the people of osun when there is a governor in that states ?

...The likes of Tinubu, kwankwaso, fashola, lai Mohammed and those who preached change in osun states are no where to be found !


You see a good gesture from a opposition party member in a ruling party state, instead to praise such acts you are busy criticizing them..


...Shame on you

You are a cretinous fuuktard!

What kind of moronic and stupiiid question are you asking, your moronic product of a failed education system?

You expect me to join your daft arsse in praising a criminal looking for good publicity? Do I look like a product of the failed institution that produces cretins like you in Nigeria and you turn around feeling like Einstein, mooooron?

richidinho:
AND YOUR SAINTS AREGBERASCAL + TINUBU ARE OWING WORKERS FOR NINE MONTHS?

DIARRIZ GODUOOO

You are a cretinous fuuktard!

Is this how you lamely plan to divert from your stupidity?

"My Saints"?

You are trying to strawman your God?

Secondly, fuuktard, what has this got to do with your dumb arsse worshipping a criminal?

asha80:
lol.

You don't fancy loquacious akpabio I guess

I have always said the cretin is just an Amala politician without vision.

He builds a bridge and cretins like pendusky gets excited.

No policies, ideas, strategy or vision!

Just engage in white, black, green, and blue Elephant and Hippopotamus projects with the huge pot of money in your custody and see how fuuuktards say you are the greatest thinker ever.

aderonila18:
Fashola did the same in his time,he fired Tinubu's people and appointed those he felt he could work with. they already know after 8 years their time is over. They are not career civil servants but appointments, he needs his own people he can trust with his plans. Best move

Can you show me where you saw Fashola sack "ALL" heads of parastatals?

As I always said, Akpabio is an Amala politician.

https://www.nairaland.com/2377269/list-states-owing-salaries-6/8#34855978

NgeneUkwenu:
The Punch reports that Abia, Akwa Ibom, Bauchi, Benue, Cross River, Ekiti, Imo, Jigawa, Kano, Katsina, Kogi. Ogun, Ondo, Osun, Oyo, Plateau, Rivers and Zamfara owe their employees salary arrears of at least 6 months, citing a task force report by the Nigeria Labour Congress.

This state has no excuse of owing workers salary.

Akwa Ibom gets the HIGHEST allocation out of ALL states in Nigeria from the federal government. The Federal Allocation is the biggest source of funding/revenue for virtually all states in Nigeria, hence it is like the main salary for a state.

Its allocation is so high, it is more than 3 times that of all the other states in that list bar Rivers. THREE TIMES!

In a quarter, Akwa Ibom once got N136bn from Federal allocation. The next highest (bar Rivers) on that list was Kano with N43bn. All the others got less than N35bn, with Osun being the lowest at N20bn.

And Akwa Ibom has one of the smallest populations by far. So way too much money to cover a small population. A population less than half of some of the states on the list and not on the list.

So why are they owing workers salary?

Because a fuuktard like Akpabio is more interested in buying and flying private jets for his personal use?

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2015/06/gov-emmanuel-to-auction-a-iboms-private-jet/

I have always said this cretin is a useless politician.

https://www.nairaland.com/1916418/how-elected-governors-performed-sagamite/1#26543806

spenca:
This is not good, even those who are effective ? You are on for a loss sir

This just confirms what I have head through my connections in Politics.

Ambode is a cretin! He lacks a sharp mind and is not clued up upstairs.

What this cretin just did is appalling!

You just wake up and tell all heads in the civil service they are sacked. They have no income coming in anymore.

Basically this is an outright signal and statement to any appointed civil servant leading an organisation that "once you are appointed, you have 4 to 8 years to steal as much as you need for your future as you cannot expect a career in this role. Once a new politician comes in, you could lose your job irrespective of your performance. Just steal to be safe!".

This guy is a pure cretin!

morefire:
now i dont know what to say...


drug money or not at this point I just want to say thank you to Senator Kashamu

Dorrobucci:
.

No APC member should be given more than 6 cups of rice.

If you vex make you no collect.

chimerase2:
Wat a kind hearted man

Dollyak:
God bless you senator.

richidinho:
this man is a Goodman

That's why Obasanjo Senatorial district voted him to represent them

Mind yhu that's Tinubu's state, when is he donating?

Lobolintin:
Walai... I admire buruji

Brightology2:
A very big tanks to u sir

collins011:
Senator Buruji Kashamu. the man way floor Baba even in his Otta Farm polling unit.

Thank you Distinguish Senator of Federal Republic of Nigeria


Haters...... You know whats up na

idu1:
Kashamu my guy....

Dino2002:
A kind hearted man.
How many APC members av seen this way,all they know is noise making.
Imagine this donation yet the haters don't appreciate.

Am waiting for d pix anyway

Cyriloha:
very good someone should please connect me to that man I wouldn't mind serving him up to one year but I will never carry it to any Asia country please most especially INDONESIA

coputa:
Are you an enemy of progress,what will you gain if he is extradited.watin concern us with united state drug laws,when dey use us as slaves,who them pay.Buruji repatraited the money here and his people are benefiting from it.One mans meat is another mans poison.How many cup of rice your legislathief don buy for you.wise up, man.

Popemax:
Kashamu my man...keep doing the good job for ur people

These just shows how destitute and hungry some Nigerians are.

The corrupt politicians have destroyed the country and their lives to the point only the thought of feeding their stomachs is what primarily matters. They don't care if it is done by the Pope or even Satan on Earth. Anyone that does it is automatically a GOD to them.

Stomach Infrastructure!

Thieves and thugs like Kashamu, Patience Jonathan and Fayose understand this.

"Give them rice and you shall become the greatest person on Earth."

Even a known criminal that goes to their churches and donates money is prayed for and praised by their pastors.

Their brains are so starved of nutrients it is incapable of any ratiocination activities. They just think of survival.

The lack of nutrients for the brain has degraded their brains back to its most primitive level, which you find in any kind of Ape.

They are now moronic fuuktard Black Monkeys!

cao:
You do remember this is based on a series of books that are still being written, right? Infact the fans of the book appear to be pissed off with changes that have been made, especially with the absence of several plots and the modification of others. It's gotten to the point that I'm now tempted to read the long ass books myself. So all in all, you really should be thanking George R. R. Martin for the world he created.

I am aware it was written by George R. R. Martin. I am not aware of the rest of the information.