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Alexgman1:
How & why?

excessmon:
You don’t need to answer him, wen a child grows where there’s no female love you know from their posts..... God will bless all men that remember appreciate the females in their lives.....

Bloooody:
I'll say it again you're a foolish man for mentioning my mother.
Not my fault yours is a harlot

ijesuoboikxp1:
1. There is nothing that threatens the
security of a wife than the thought of
another woman competing for the
attention and affection of her husband. Nothing is more painful.
Nothing is more disrespecting.
Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is
more belittling and degrading.

2. Marriage flourishes when the couple
works together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning
together is more important than
keeping score.
Good marriages don't just happen.
They are a product of hard work.

3. Your children are watching you and forming lasting opinions on love,
commitment, and marriage based on
what they see in you. Give them hope.
Make them look forward to marriage.

4. Husbands: The reason why other
women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them.
Grass is always green where it is
watered. Instead of drooling over the
green grass on the other side of the
fence, work on yours and water it
regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true
gentleman to make a woman
admirable and beautiful.

5. When a husband puts his wife first
above everyone and everything
except God, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife
hungers for.

6. A successful marriage doesn't
require a big house, a prefect spouse,
a million dollars or an expensive car.
You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A
successful marriage requires honesty,
undying commitment and selfless love
and Jesus at the center of it all.

7. Pray for your spouse every day; in
the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. Don’t wait until there is a
problem. Don’t wait until there is an
affair. Don’t wait until something bad
happens. Don’t wait until your spouse
is tempted. Shield your spouse with
prayer and cover your marriage with the fence of prayer.

8. The people you surround yourself
with have a lot of influence on your
marriage. Friends can build or break
your marriage; choose them wisely.

9. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is
committed to destroying it. Marriage
works when both husband and wife
work together as a team to build their
marriage.

10. Don't take your spouse for granted. Don't take advantage of your
spouse's meekness and goodness.
Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for
desperation. Don't misuse or abuse
yours spouse's trust. You may end up
regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.

11. Beware of marital advice from
single people. Regardless of how
sincere their advice may be, most of it
is theoretical and not derived from real
life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing,
impartial and prayerful mature couples
whose resolve has been tested by time
and shaped by trials.

12. Dear wife, Don't underestimate the
power of the tongue on your marriage. The tongue has the power
to crush your marriage or build it up.
Don't let the Devil use your tongue to
kill your spouse's image, self-
confidence and aspirations. Let God
use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless and praise your
spouse.

Bloooody:
[s]You're a foolish man for mentioning my mother[/s]

chocolateme:
Have you ever felt too burdened that you just don't know how to unburden your heart?
Like that moment that you don't have or know exactly who to talk to on very pressing matter.

I am so heavy with load of life and its occurrences that I don't know where to drop it a little. Sometimes, I tried to type things here to offload my pains and sorrows but when I remember that encouragements no longer come from here mostly instead its mockery and jests that comes out of one's story, I just restrict myself from typing.
It keeps getting HARDER by the day for me like I am going to explode soon, I feel chest pains so much now due to constant thinking, I pray my blood pressure do not rise with the rate I feel embittered.

In all, I come here often to read some stuffs and smile to feel better.
I know that I have not stated any particular issue here but I feel a bit relieved right now to have written this. I know someone will read it and truly understand my plight even without knowing any particular thing.
All I need now is words of encouragements and a little push to be ok.
Thanks kind reader.

TechExpertise:
Mods please don't take this to frontpage biko.

So guys I created a new account so as to air this issue and solicit for you guys advice.

So I'm a 30 year old student currently in my final year in one of the universities in the North (Ahmadu Bello University) studying an Engineering course with a 4.0 grade.

So after I couldn't graduate due to a health challenge I had back then, I finally got healed, took jamb again and got admitted at 25. I was about to round up my studies before the COVID-19 pandemic disrupted us.
So I've never had it in mind to date any lady as my priority was channeled towards graduating successfully with good grades and culminate to the zenith of success in my career endeavors before I look for a successful lady to settle with.
So during this pandemic I got a job with one establishment, while on my way back home from work i came across this beautiful and gorgeous Lady, I was tempted to initiate a conversation with her, observed she's smart and educated and also a finalist in the university, so we exchanged numbers and communicated on phone via calls and WhatsApp, we met about twice and before you know it we got attracted to each other and boomed she confessed her love for me after I told her I love her, so now we've started a relationship.

Now my worries is that I'm 30, whenever I realize my contemporaries are married while most of 'em have settled careers but I'm still in school at this age, it gets me worried that a girlfriend shouldn't be on my agenda.
My Christian brothers are also asking me to withdraw and break off the relationship cos its a sin (I'm against premarital sex so our relationship is devoid of sex) but at this age I'm i not supposed to start a relationship with a lady and build a career and relationship with her so when God blesses us I can get married to her and not some random stranger.
Nairalanders what's your own opinion?
Should I break up with her cos my church members sees it as a sin or should I continue the relationship?

Bloooody post=93439635[s:
]For years now we have seen and read various news on nigerian women being beaten by their husbands.
I honestly support it, nigerian women are very stubborn and sometimes foolish creatures.
If the money doesn't make them act in the right direction then surely a rod or slap will correct their faults.
This is not an opinion but simply the truth!
The average nigerian woman Is very useless [/s]

kukusdot:
I don't agree with this. OP, don't assume she likes you. Don't assume anything. Just talk normal, and take your mind off it. Also don't get caught fopping, if you doesn't like you in return. Learn the courage to move on. Not every girl you talk to will like you. Some have other desires they look out for in men, and if you don't have it there's no chance in hell they'll like you.

Takumino02:
There's a girl that I have been friends with.
I lost my job 4days after I asked her out
I was gutted by this.
I have been searching for a new job. But you know how Nigeria is.
I didn't call or text her for like 3 days she called and told that no calls or even text from.
I didn't because I felt embarrassed that I lost my job and felt a jobless person shouldn't think of a relationship.
I so much love this girl but I fear I have lost her alongside my job.
I was heart broken by that fact.
I can move on as fast as possible tho.