₦airaland Forum

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AFONJA, THERE IS NO NEED FOR U TO BE HERE.

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Juliusmalema:
Cry me a river. Ogogoro no be achievement.

AniOmaa:
Besides militancy, beating your women and drinking shepe all day... what indices of achievements can the entire Izon boast of? I challenge you to name just one Izon person that is globally recognized and I'll list 40 from my local government area alone. Bros no need to compare the almighty Igbo nation to your useless tribe, that one be like comparing 2020 Massaesri GT convertible to 1999 Ford escort. Anioma alone, just small Anioma oooo a small Igbo subgroup will dust you clowns on all indices you can think of, I can't even think of a single Izon person of value that exists

Lipscomb:

PHijo:
When you are traditional cocaine mules in Africa how can I be higher than you on cocaine?

A lot of Igbo in the last 20 years have relocated from the North to Port Harcourt and its environs after the Northeners kicked your sorry asses out of their place.

You are right, Ijaw and Igbo are not on the same level. We don't don't have our sons in prison across the globe. We don't have baby factories nor our daughters chasing their ancestors across the length and breath of Nigeria. In this your little post you just exposed your ignorance on the places being discussed and you to claim to be from Rivers state. Like I said, no indigenous Oyigbo person will claim to be Igbo. All those resident in that area know where they come from in Imo or Abia state.

All Ijaw languages are related and what you call centralized Igbo today was created to ease the colonial administrative burden that was managed by colonial government appointed Igbo warrant chiefs.

godofuck231:
texas,

godofuck231:
in rivers state most, "most" mothers allow sex with their daughters for financial gratification and favours, especially from oil company workers, the fathers are unaware and this has been a problem to most girls, they gift them phones and more to pacify them, but in this case? 10 years, I doubt, he should be executed .

Lalissa:
lol....are you relieved or disappointed?

Dpharisee:
She has suddenly realised that she lives in America, at least the man will be paying Alimony and Child support.
My US based friend has been lamenting to me that he wants to leave and come back home to set up a business here, his biggest regret is having a baby from a black American woman, she abuse him, disrespect him and call the police on him and he continues to pay pay her.

After separation they pay her about $2000 from his salary of $6,000 every month as a University lecturer. If he calculates what $2000 could for his family back home in Nigeria he feels depressed, last time he visited his daughter he told me that he met his Baby Mama with a deadbeat guy enjoying themselves in front of his child without care about his presence.
Why has she been pretending all these year's deceiving many ladies who see her as 'role model'

Exc2000:
she won cash out after divorce

Seetto:
Hee be like say, this ijaw people na descendants of mamiwota.. everywhere there is water, you will find them there..

Lalissa:
That's just a picture..

APCLyingBastard:
[s]Africa, is an incredibly rich continent, so rich, it boggles the mind why there's so much poverty there..

The mind may indeed be boggled, the soul however isn't and why?

Africa's problems, like practically all problems, are metaphysical in essence and how so?

The problem of Africa is Nigeria..

As goes the country, so too the continent. If it develops beneficially, so too the continent, and if it does not, so too the continent and why?

Nigeria is the biggest negroid country on earth, but more than that, it's tremendously blessed with natural riches and more critically, Nigerians travel a lot, you'll find them in substantial numbers in every region of earth, they're natural born travelers..

But here's the thing, charity begins at home, meaning that what you haven't learned or imbibed at home, you can't export abroad..

This isn't strictly true however, as Nigeria has "exported", usually involuntarily, the cream of its talent crop..

Involuntarily for the country, voluntarily for the "exports" who sought other climes where they may thrive existentially..

Most went to the Americas, specifically north, and to Europe, specifically west..

This, the mass emigration of neurons, has resulted in an environment teeming with physical riches, while bereft of intellectual wealth to transform riches into prosperity..

And thus is Africa hobbled by the irresponsibility of Nigeria..

But what is Nigeria's problem beyond the observation that brainwaves don't thrive there?

Ha, this is the complex conundrum..

Nigeria has never been the same after its civil war in the 60s of the last century..

Folks in the East hate those in the North reciprocally, those in the West are suspicious of the North reciprocally..

Those in the middle are caught in a vise between the hating and suspicious others and crucially, they in the middle are the breadbasket of the country..

Not that the others are not engaged in agriculture, but that the Middle has the most fertile soil..

The economic problem, is a lack of infrastructure to transform fertile soil into value added products..

The dependence on a single resource, oil, for foreign earnings, has withered the erstwhile capacities of other potential sources of earnings..

That dependence has engendered rent seeking, corruption, suppression, marginalization, domination, destabilization, and most egregiously, indolence amongst the governing elites..

The country, while claiming to be a federalized republic, is anything but..

The federating units battle the federal government for republican autonomy while resisting according the same rights to their constituent localities..

This schizophrenic rigidity has collapsed the civic ethos of the nation, as every political jobber or opportunist now clamor for the spoils of political office, either in the center where practically all the fiscal power resides, or the state capitols where residual fiscal power resides, ignoring the constituent localities that require good governance..

Concisely, the economic order of the country is top heavy, bottom deprived..

The political order is similar, with the attendant deleterious effect that governance, as in largesse distribution, is for sale..

Worse, the country is united in nothing but name and paradoxically, true unity only arises, when their national sports teams, specifically soccer teams, which ironically are generally reflective of the populace, is engaged in international competitions..

This reveals then, that the average citizens, despite their myriad differences, are capable of unity so where arises the problem then?

From the status quo of political and economic lopsidedness are who sow divisions and dussensions..

The strengths of the country are thus..

The Eastern parts are generally industrious, the Northern parts, generally entrepreneurial, the Western parts, generally contemplative and intellectual, and the Middle parts, generally adventurous..

Generally being the key word, considering that admixtures of the traits can be found in all the country's regions..

But what really hobbles the country, is in the social economy due to the fact that the country is generally divided between Muslims in the Northern parts, and Christians in the Southern parts..

The failures of the country's leadership has to do with inability or insincerity in managing the heterogeneous cultures resident in the country and there are lots of them, religion being just one component..

The most probable solution we can discern, is neither the American style Republicanism currently being claimed to be in effect, which it's not, or the erstwhile parliamentary system it practiced, which unraveled in civil war, but a hybrid system that looks inwards to its diverse cultural governing systems and outwards to efficient governing models..

In that case, a country with similar combination would be Russia, especially with its revamped constitution which distributes and balances power and responsibilities amongst all governing apparatus, at the national, regional, and local levels, with the national apparatus acting as referee, guide, and director of national momentum..

This way, performers can be cogently identified from mediocres and thus, challenges and weaknesses can be cogently revealed, and appropriate measures applied harmoniously..

Another benefit of that, is that instead of deterioration engendered by SPOF (Single Point of Failure..) governance model, is the resilience acquired through the thriving of performing parts of the country and why is this a benefit?

Because energy to fix undetperforming parts, can be sourced harmoniously from the healthy parts..

And when the governance and developmental model is demonstrated as harmoniously efficient, then when Nigerians travel abroad as is their imperative to other parts of Africa, they can export charity and with it, the cross cultural fertilization of economic and social development..

Via osmosis..

Concisely, Nigeria cannot give what she doesn't possess and neither can she obtain what she needs, without reality acknowledgement, recalibration to harmonious development and most critically, the creation of environments that instead of involuntarily exporting talents, attractively imports talent..

If they can do that, then Africa has a fighting chance but are the governing elites capable of recalibration?

That question, is left for them to answer as the paradigm transition speeds up, with consequences or rewards..

As they choose.[/s]

Lalissa:
I relocated to Ibadan not too long ago and i would love to meet good people around. .....You can be male, You can be female....Preferably from age 26.

Sexually starved men....please stay away
If u have nothing of value to discuss, please stay away.
Married men forming single .... please stay away
Come to my house geng....please stay away

Not all relationships should be sexual...There are still great minds on nairaland you can share ideas with and learn from....so who needs a friend in Ibadan. just pm me, and I'll reply you.

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

MelaninSkinGirl:
The same thing they accept from Nonblacks, they will never accept it from Nigerians. The self-hatred is deep. In overseas countries, Nigerian girls have discovered that they have been abused emotionally/physically/psychologically in Nigeria and they discover their rights and these Nigerian men cannot handle it.

As you say many are undocumented and will marry 75yr old Oyibo grannies for permanent residence.

Yenefer:
the Op is Igbo