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Frenzy007:
Jesus so Tu face is now broke.Eeyah.

Every body is diversifying. Except me
What's my talent, self?

Why are Igbo's always the third largest group?
When will they be first?

I heard that many Igbo criminals were also exiled to Panya which was seen as a better option than killing them.
Op is it true?

Very interesting thread.
Let me weigh my options

Beauty and the.......
No hating. Happy married life

There is already a problem if both parents are refusing. Women don't ever forget or get over this initial rejection. She will continue to feel vulnerable and insecure knowing the man's family didn't want her. Men usually cope better.
I know an Igbo man/Yoruba woman marriage of 21years. On the outside, you can rank them as happy but even with four children, the woman is still feeling unwanted and a perpetual stranger. She makes her children feel so too. It gets worse when they have the smallest normal marital misunderstanding.
These things can be complex but love is never enough.

msylva2147:
but I have not seen the so called investment in the north with my eyes.

NGO work is booming in the North.

I don't really understand the book.

OK. I'm grandma

ebbo:
Christianity and igbo traditions oppressing female children right from time memorial

Try to avoid generalization. How is Christianity oppressing female children? It teaches that before God all souls are equal.

Even the Igbo culture differs from community to community. The only properties that Igbo daughters don't generally inherit are the ancestral homes. It makes sense because she and her husband can't pack into her father's house after giving her out in marriage.

I don't even like this will business. How about empowering the children when you're alive? An Igbo family gave their daughter a block of six flats as wedding gift.
Fathers who have sons like Emmy should settle them early and not cause confusion with a will.

paBuhari:
Glad I'm not a Zoogerian.
Vegetable breaking records left right and center Anyway, for a vegetable who believes chasing IPOB will make zoo, a world economic power, you will expect him to milk the zoo dry through his lieutenants in NNPC.

Biafra my country!

And you think insolence and confrontation will achieve Biafra for you?
Think again. I don't want to derail this thread but I wish Igbos can learn negotiation and diplomacy. Hausa/Fulani are 65m. Yorubas are 42m. Igbos are about 31m. How can you confront people who far outnumber you with insults and criticism? How can you confront Nigeria to let you form your own country when you haven't even succeeded in convincing your own people of the need to have their own country?
I think if there is a referendum today, Igbos that don't want Biafra will carry the day

plaetton:
Who is surprised by all these revelations ?
This is how typical Northerners perceive and rule Nigeria..as they want, with great disdain for due process or Democratic norms.

You're so right.
That's how Arabs behave too. Once they're more powerful than you or have authority over you, they treat you with disdain and nonchalance.
It's sickening

vingeophysicist:
God punish all our leaders and even the idiots who almagamated Nigeria.

Don't curse!

For all you know, YOU may be one of the problems with Nigeria.
I didn't say that you are. But maybe....

Dex4:
Well, I'm currently in the GTBANK now along mile 2 and they don't have network to enable withdrawal both on their ATM and inside the bank. Guy/girl....I'm sorry but there is absolutely nothing to be proud of in this country. The enumerated list are old glories, do you have new ones to be proud of Education-BAD, Health-BAD, Roads-BAD, Security-BAD, Infrastructures-BAD....Ministers,Senators....-Clueless and Selfish.... Please, what else functions normally in tbis country!

Our humour. Our passion. Our diversity.
Sorry about your experience with GTB. They sent an apology text over the issues they had today. I hope they sent to you too.
BTW, I'm not their staff

NigelCundy:
cursed nation

Not Nigeria! Na over-blessing de worry us!
No earthquake, hurricane or tsunami.
Just a bunch of ingrates and laid back people who will not exert themselves to exploit their full potentials.
God has so spoilt us that we are lazy

MrHenshaw:
Sense fall on you.

Why na?
I'm an incurable optimist. I still believe that this contraption of a nation should and would work.
Thanks for stopping by

hardbody:
Where is the beauty

Look everywhere. The hills of Enugu and Abuja.
The warmth, the hustle, the sheer human energy of Nigerians.

I love this country and I believe in her

jpphilips:
you nearly made sense till the bold part of your post, i see no wisdom in that. why will you live your life for your children? if you should live and work for them, what do you expect the kids to do?

are you not worried we have a generation of over grown baby elephants whose self reliance are at its ebb? thanks to that mentality in bold.

Sir louis ojukwu made so much money at a young age and before he was in his late forties he was already making money for his children, it wasn't long after his death his younger son Emeka used the same wealth to fight the govt whom his father (the wealth owner) revered. till date his progenies of two generations have not known peace.

outside Aliko who happen to be a subset of the Dantata scion, where are the rest of the Dantata dynasty?
where are the kids and how well have they transformed it to bigger empires?

when i was growing up, i used to think that Ekene dili chukwu is the only man that has the right to Transport business in Nigeria, in my naivity, i convinced myself that the others were working for him, premised on his plethora of luxury buses, today where are they? as much as he has bequeathed them to his children.

much emphasis cant be laid on Abiola's dynasty. in my opinion, i don't subscribe to making money for children or living to see or adore generations, it breeds laziness and acrimony.

what i believe is reasonable you owe your children are thus;

1 decent education to be competitive in the society you have put them forth
2 basic health care plan till adult hood
3 decent accommodation till adulthood not a lifetime
4 save for your burial expenses of your yourself and your wife so that the burden will be off their shoulders
5 teach them morals to be able to differentiate from right and wrong.
6 ensure they have a start off playground

anything outside the above is just encouraging laziness.

why should i wish to marry early to have someone take care of me while i am old? that sounds insane, what becomes of a child who spent the better part of his or her life nursing old grannies? does it mean the child wont have have a choice in life? what if the child decides not to take care of me or perhaps decide to marry early like some people here advocate and face his or her family squarely? or dies early in an accident?

those lines of reasoning are generational blunders that my lineage is fighting hard to abrogate.

a reasonable man should make his son or daughter buy whichever investment he is leaving behind not give it out as inheritance except when he or she is either physically or mentally challenged.

there are loads of examples to buttress how lame that line of reasoning is, why should i be eager to see a grand child, is the grand child eager to see me? what if he is the one that will kill me in the end? what life changing impact does he have on my life?

a wise man lives his life for himself and impact on other people's lives where he can.

it is wiser to sell my company to my son at a competitive price then take the proceeds to charity or some struggling extended relatives, by giving it to him as an inheritance, he wouldn't vale its worth. what motivates him to work hard? where will his inspiration come from?

the Ikwerre as an ethnic group has lost almost 5 generations to this insane mentality, about 5 generations ago, the average ikwerre man, knowing how close they are to water take land as a priceless possession,they operate a form of communism which gives them a unified influence in acquiring farm lands, (the ibos felt a little of that influence in the Abandon property saga.)

less than 5 generations on, most ikwerre people have no regard for land anymore, they can sell their great grand father's lands for pieces of silver, they don't work because the industrialization of their community has presented forth an opportunity to price higher their ancestoral lands.

As early as 7am, men are lying idle drinking beer and targeting the next empty plot to sell, i always ask my self, what if these fathers never left those lands? the children could have been more useful till date. however, there are still some who eke out living for themselves.

bottom line; any sane man will not marry in a hurry because he knows he owes his kids a lot conversely, he shouldn't marry having kids at the back of his mind just to carry on with his name after he is gone, if i will have kids, i need a better reason than that.

i believe where im going to in death must have its own challenges, looking back or struggling to effect change or influence in the world i have left behind is the peak of insanity. if in doubt, what influence do you have in the world we left behind before now?

my post does not in any way undermine family support rather, we as Africans should make a conscious effort to draw the line between family support and encouraging laziness.

i will not hesitate to donate a house to my child who has made a conscious effort to marry as a tenant, also i will not hesitate to donate a land for a child who is making a conscious effort to expand his business,conversely, i will never include any child of mine in a will to inherit anything when himself has nothing at the time of my death.

i agree with the rest of your posts though

I came back to re-read this thread and was impressed with your analysis. Between the time I opened the thread in 2013 and now, my children attained adulthood.
I need to re-strategize

I still enjoy reading this thread

easyboss1:
The majority of us have experienced the moment when we realize a relationship is in rapid decline.

Although such a slide often ends in a breakup, it doesn’t have to. In all likelihood, there’s some behavior undermining the relationship’s foundation of love and friendship—and if you can identify it, you can save the relationship.

Here are 5 of the most common relationship killers, as well as quick remedies to heal the hurt:

1. Blame and shame.

Aside from all-out abusive behavior, blaming and shaming may be the fastest way to kill your connection. Both behaviors communicate contempt for your partner, displaying that you view him or her as beneath you or deserving of scorn. 5 Quickest Ways to Kill Your Relationship

This point of view has toxic effects not only on the person receiving blame but on the person doing the blaming as well. Quick Remedy: Start every disagreement or conflict with the presumption that the problem is not caused by a character flaw in your partner. This will help both of you deal with the problem at hand without hurling personal insults at each other. 5 Quickest Ways to Kill Your Relationship

2. Kill the fun.

This behavior, while damaging to a relationship, often sneaks up on couples unawares. A husband will wake up one day, look at his wife and think, “When was the last time we just had fun together?”

Deep in the trenches of an ongoing fight, a wife will turn to her husband and say, “Can’t we ever just have fun?” Once all the joy and lightheartedness is gone from the relationship, it becomes a struggle just to stay together.

Quick Remedy: Identify one thing the two of you used to enjoy doing together. You don’t necessarily have to resurrect that exact activity today (or you may not be able to), but the memory of that joy can inject hope for future fun into the relationship. 5 Quickest Ways to Kill Your Relationship

3. Use breaking up as a bargaining chip.

When you threaten to break up with someone (or divorce them) during everyday conflicts, your partner will develop the impression that the relationship doesn’t matter very much to you.

These threats don’t work very well for getting what you want; worse, they imply that you don’t value the relationship—an implication often far more damaging than the source of the current conflict itself.

Quick Remedy: Simply put, use something other than the relationship as your leverage. Instead of threatening, “If you go to Vegas with your friends, I’ll break up with you,” try, “If you go to Vegas with your friends, I’ll be worried the whole time.”

Not only is the second statement probably more honest, it opens the door for you both to addressing the deeper issue at hand.

4. Conjure the ghosts of exes.

Everyone knows that talking about exes is a minefield. If you remember them with too much fondness, your current partner may become jealous or insecure. If you speak of them with too much disdain, your partner may wonder if you have anger issues. Past relationships are an intractable part of your life story, but if you constantly conjure the ghost of an ex, your current relationship will start to feel haunted.

Quick Remedy: Communicate what you liked (or disliked) about an ex-behavior without mentioning the ex himself (or herself). For example, instead of saying, “My ex always cleaned up after himself,” try, “It would mean a lot to me if you cleaned up after yourself.”

5. Keep one foot out the door.

This is the stealthiest relationship killer on this list. A relationship could be going well, by all accounts, but it somehow feels…off. It feels shaky.

You wouldn’t be totally surprised if your partner broke up with you tomorrow; alternately, the idea of ending the relationship yourself sounds plausible.

These are the symptoms of keeping one foot out the door. This relationship killer is not a bullet, like blame and shame; it’s a poison. 5 Quickest Ways to Kill Your Relationship

Quick Remedy: Be more transparent in your thoughts and actions. There’s no need to commit yourself body and soul to every relationship you enter into, but relationships become painful when you never know what’s going on. Ask questions—and reveal your own honest answers.

If you feel your relationship is suffering from one of these killers, give it a healthy dose of behavior change. It may recover quite nicely.
https://dailyfamily.ng/5-quickest-ways-kill-relationship/

Good if both are committed to the relationship

laudate:
@salt1, who told you Nigeria we hail thee was not popular which was why the anthem was changed? Who is the liar?

I showed you my source: GTB

I saw this on GTB website and being a patriotic Nigerian, I decided to share. I hope you enjoy reading it and that it inspires some hope in you about the future of our great country.
Nigeria: Good people Great nation!

Nigeria at 57: 7 Moments That Will Make You Proud

As we celebrate Nigeria’s 57 years of Independence, we look back on seven special moments that would make anyone proud to call this great nation home.


The Day We Ended Ebola – September 2014

The Ebola Virus Disease outbreak in Nigeria lasted for 64 days, and while the first 63 days of that period was filled with panic, pain and sorrow, the 64th day– that is, the day our country was declared Ebola-free, was one of pure joy. In the end, 8 people tragically lost their lives, but it could have been much worse, given that more than 28,500 people died in worse-hit Liberia, Sierra Leone and Guinea, whose combined population is not even up to a quarter of ours. This was thanks to the collective effort of everyone up and down the country, especially the late Dr Ameyo Adadevoh, who has been credited with playing the single most important role in containing the spread of the virus. No doubt, the way we defeated Ebola–fighting the fear with faith and facing the panic with collective resolve–was one of our finest moments as a people and as a nation.

Agbani Darego, November 2001

From time immemorial, we have known our country as the land of the beautiful, but it was extra special when the crown of the Miss World rested on the head of our own Agbani Darego in 2001. An 18 year old sophomore at the time, Agbani entered the running for Miss World as the reigning Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria. No one expected her, or any other black African, to go far in the competition, and her long-shot odds of 66-1 seemed to confirm this. Yet, the dark-skinned damsel defied the odds, as Nigerians always do, to become the first black African woman to claim the crown. It was a great moment of national, cultural and racial pride back home, one typified by Agbani’s victory declaration of “Black is beautiful!”

Return to Democracy, May 1999

After 19 years of uninterrupted military rule, Nigeria became a democracy once again in 1999; the feeling was beautiful. In many ways, the years of authoritarian rule had distilled the belief in the great potential of our country, but our return to democracy brought with it an amazing rebirth in optimism. Now, 19 years on, there’s no doubt that looking back, we could have done a lot better as a nation. Yet, at the same time, 1999 inspires us to look forward to a brighter future knowing that the dark days of military dictatorships are over for good.

Olympic Gold, Atlanta 1996

Perhaps one would have to go back to prehistoric times to find a moment greater than this, in our nation’s history. Not only did we become the first African country to win the Olympic Gold, we did so in grande style. First we unbelievably beat Brazil 5-3, after trailing 3-1 in the semi-finals and then we magically came from behind to win Argentina 3-2 in the finals. What’s more, from the Atlanta 96 dream team sprang our golden generation of footballers, among them Kanu “papilo” Nwankwo and Jay Jay Okocha, who was so good that they named him twice.

Wole Soyinka Nobel Laureate, October 1986

Wole Soyinka is arguably the greatest personification of our literary accomplishments, and no moment proves this better than his Nobel Prize in Literature in 1986, whence he became the first African laureate. Soyinka was described by the Nobel Foundation as one of the finest poetical playwrights that have written in English, and at home his Nobel prize lifted the hearts and minds of every Nigerian who wielded a pen. His works, among them Dance of the Forests and Death and the King’s Horseman, thrill till this day, just as his ‘86 prize continues to inspire a new generation of literary geniuses to make us proud, as Soyinka always does.

Introduction of “Arise O Compatriots” 1978

This is one of the least known moments in our list, but it was a very special moment nonetheless. Our National Anthem right after independence had been “Nigeria We Hail Thee” which was not quite popular because it had been written by a foreigner. This perceived wrong was corrected 18 years later, when the late Benneth Odiase in collaboration with fiver other Nigerians created our present anthem, “Arise O Compatriot.” Since then, our anthem has been sung everywhere, from the platforms of our national events to the assembly grounds of all our schools, inspiring in the old and young the patriotism that continues to drive our nation forward.

Nigeria’s Independence, 1960

The very reason this article even exists. Our independence 57 years ago heralded the birth of a nation so richly blessed with every form of resources known to man. Since then we’ve fought, made up, toasted to successes, banded together to build institutions, quarreled some more and, most importantly, remained One Nigeria. Our nation is still very much a work in progress, but every day, through the individual successes of our country men and women, and the collective progress of our society, we continue to defy the odds and move towards fulfilling our great potential.

Source: http://635.gtbank.com/2017/09/nigeria-at-57-7-moments-that-will-make-you-proud/

Ksslib:
I just tire. I don't even want his stupid credit. The mods should delete this thread completely.

Not to brag, but that thread sparked the meme revolution on Nairaland, so it should be preserved and respected by kids like crixshiit.

Kslibb my man, when I saw this thread I remembered you. I thought you were the one recreating your old thread using a new handle. I haven't been seeing some of those old friends that made NL rock: Yuxedo, Okija juju, Afam and Aboki, Baby osisi etc. I thought you all have changed your handles or taken a break from NL

Very annoying!
The man cheats and you blame the girl who doesn't owe the wife any loyalty.
I forget. No man cheats of his own accord. It's always the side chick's juju that influences him

Why call it a clash? An armed man clamps down on an unarmed one and you call it a clash?

I hope Igbos learn. They should learn tact, diplomacy and negotiations.
Politics is a game of numbers. You can't just win your case with social media war.
RIP to the dead. They will find out too late that a coward points at the grave of a brave man
Enuf said

MrHenshaw:
Some people are like that,both gender.Their "sorry and thank you" mode was deleted from birth.So u need to download the app and reformatt their brain with 100gb slap weekly @night. Or walk away from such toxic relationship b4 d delete u from ds earth.

Lol

Lol

Very sensitive matter.
An eye for an eye makes two blind.

People must choose how they react to provocations.
Unfortunately our choices have ripple effects: your Mom isn't just revenging on a cheating husband. I wish that was the only issue. But in having random men and sharing her nude pictures, she's hurting and shaming the other people she loves. Which adult child will be happy seeing his mom's toy boys?
She's also opening herself to diseases.
Silence means complicity. It doesn't mean op supports his Dad. As it is, he has already lost his Dad to a younger lady because most men abandon their children when they abandon their mother. So he has just one parent: his Mom.
Please lovingly protect herself. She's hurt and vulnerable. Be a steadying influence in her life.

I love the conditions. You must have run a successful business before aspiring to run a nation.
How I wish.....

Is the 2002 model still available?
Where can I come and see it?

Serious buyer

fratermathy:
If we are talking about the worst type of English names, turn your eyes towards Ijaw. Ijaw people dey answer anything, I swear. Urhobo funny English name dey learn for Ijaw one.

You see Ijaws answering names like Pepper, Pepple, Goldwater, Heneiken, Wine, etc. These are not even their native names yet o!

Urhobos by far dwarf the Ijaws in funny native names though.



There is also one funny Igbo name I came across one time but I don't know if I remember it correctly:

Azubuike (back is front?). Am I right?

Azubuike: I have strong backing/support. Beautiful name acknowledging family or friends

freeDR:
Please, how much does it sell?

I bought mine for about N25k. I've used it for nearly ten years.
Seiko is the wrist watch almost all my family members use

wolesmile:
Interesting! The Bible and science? It's better you don't start what you can't finish, don't you think?

If you mean getting into controversy and argument, then you're right. I don't want such.
I was just sharing some posts that I agree with.
Thanks for stopping by.

Science proves the Bible true 6


‘Build a large boat…450 feet long, 75 feet wide, and 45 feet high.’
Genesis 6:14-15 NLT


The Bible detailed the original blueprint for shipbuilding. In Genesis, God told Noah to build a 1.5-million-cubic-foot ship and fill it with enough people and animals to repopulate the earth. And the specific dimensions God gave Noah turned out to be significant. In 1609 in Hoorn, Holland, a ship was built in the same proportions and it revolutionised shipbuilding. According to Lloyd’s Register of Shipping (see The World Almanac), by 1900 every large ship on the high seas was inclined towards the proportions of Noah’s Ark. And by the way, if you think it’s not sophisticated or educated to believe that the world was once destroyed by a universal flood, think again. About 85 per cent of the rock surfaces around the world are composed of sedimentary rock, indicating that at some time in the past the world was covered by water. Consider also the Bible and meteorology. Solomon wrote, ‘The wind goeth toward the south, and turneth about unto the north; it whirleth about continually, and…returneth again according to his circuits’ (Ecclesiastes 1:6 KJV). The air around the earth turns in huge circles, anticlockwise in the northern hemisphere and clockwise in the southern hemisphere. As a result, your local meteorologist can tell you with a high degree of accuracy what the weather will be like so you can dress accordingly. The Bible - there’s simply no other book like it! When you believe its central message of salvation through Christ you have peace and joy now, plus you get to live in heaven with God for eternity when you die. It doesn’t get better than that!