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focus7:
Op if you konw the woman tell her that if she does she will be spending her sweat to send the lazy opportunist of a man to hook up with another lady abroad.

DollyParton1:
The fuckery do u mean by the bolded parts? I am not a male, sambarry is not a male. How did that get into the issue being discussed?

Yes the wife behaviour is enough for him to go find someone else outside. I am of the school of thought that says "once you are unhappy in a relationship, you should leave irrespective of your gender". Your happiness should be your utmost priority. So that guy should have left her or divorce her. Whatever he could have done to make the woman know that he could no no longer stand her attitude and that the marriage is over. Instead of staying in the marriage while cheating. Only cowards do that.

Owliver:
funny how you interprets things. Am not surprised you are not a male after all.

rogerdat:
come make we sere oge.

rogerdat:
Liar! Liar!
Pants on fire!

Owliver:
so your point is "what the woman did should not have been capable of making the husband a cheat" why would you even imagine that? People are wired differently my dear and people react differently to situations. Yopu are not even a male and this is what you argue. Abeg park well jare smh.

zeb04:
I guess you will be writing part two from the cemmetry.

lovelymam:
My dear I have pass that stage of moi moi puff puff. He is capable of a good business but he don't want until the last kid who is still in PG class enter secondary can you imaging that. All he want is for me to sit at home before you know it I will become mama iyabor mbanu. Being woman does not make us less human from men but sure to accord them their respect.

Platnum1:
Forget abt part two, go down on ur knees and pray for your home. They say the first few months/years of a marriage comes wit too many challenges. Pray,u need it.

fem29:
Aman beat you up whilst pregnant with bucket and different implements causing you to almost miscarry and you went back there after leaving hospital. Don't you have parents?

Platnum1:
Lovelymam,
Sorry u feel this way. he wants u at home. I suggest u either act like u have forgotten all abt it,make him feel happy until one day u catch him in a jolly good mood after eating his favourite,then u be llike "honey,can u blv d wonderful dream I had abt a shop that was just attracting customers....."
The second option is that u work from home.u can make puff puff or moi moi or zobo,or queen cakes,appoint a sales girl who will come pick it up fRom home n market for u then u pay her a salary. This too need permission from ur husband.

We women can complain but just try to control/stop it. Be his safe haven.
All the best.

DollyParton1:
I have read this article over and over again. Yet to understand the morale of it.

Rachaelfrancis:
it is no movie or a joke pls. this is what I am going tru right now..believe me the story is so long,I need time to write all this. about the sex part,he even doesn't want pre-intimacy,all he wants is just sex and when I complain about de pain and that he shd do a little bit of pre-intimacy,he would stand up and leave,saying that the doctors said inshd have sex for gud labour that day..when I don't complain and I end up doing it,I get sores around..I even fot herpes from him but it is treated now..u guys shd just watch out for part II of this story.

DollyParton1:
So you mean the article is teaching that if I do all the things the lady did, my husband will cheat on me. I feel thats a justification for cheating.
It would have been better if the husband got separated at least, before taking the infidelity highway. Just look like the man went for the easy way out.
The man is as guilty of number 4 as she is. She did not chose the right way to fight. Instead she chose silence and pent up anger resulting in occasional burst of fury. The husband did the same, instead of fighting, he chose keeping to work and cheating.

No tangible lesson learnt here.

Owliver:
she's independent now na. Freed from the shackles of her cheating husband

cococandy:
Stay there and die first.
Your ghost will come and finish the story.

Owliver:
both of you and also sambarry missed the point. The article only stressed on what happened that lead to the cheating. The article never justified the cheating husband. Learn from that its a good one

Ewuro4:
No I wont cool temper.



itumo??

I just don't respond to any adulation biko.mon she iya oko bournvita oh.

NemzySeries:
So dis few lines of words pain u like dat? U sef no go marry,kip wearing cap,sagging ur trousers & chains feeling fly till u bkom a frequent visitor redeem camp 4 prayers u hear......(rubbish talk 4 1 who finz his an adult)

bukatyne:
I agree 100% that the wife was wrong

I still cannot get the relationship between her wrongs and moderness or empowerment.

Ewuro4:
Bottom Line : People should learn to Respect other Ethnic group culture doctrines. The fact that 'for the life of you' can't grasp the logic/reason behind that practice doesn't give you the audacity to rubish it. Period.

There are countless external cultural practice I don't understand too and asked myself 'why'. I don't go ahead and call them names.

bukatyne:
What is modern about the posts? Are the vices new?



I thought her vices were:
1. Putting the kids first: very ancient vice
2. Not setting boundaries with her family
3. She emasculated him: over talking to her friends
4. Keeping mute at issues till she is So bitter and over reacts.

I am honestly trying to understand the relationship to women empowerment in the listed vices.

And independence is a state of self sufficiency; I think the word you need is lonely.

The wife saw herself as a dutiful longsuffering wife.

I doubt 'women empowerment' or 'Mrs. Independent' was onher mind.

Omotayor123:
see D'banj PA oooo
I laugh in China.