MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

sassysure:

Icant remember when last I ate morning meal.
Have tried it but still go back to brunch or lunch.
Now let me school you a bit.
Forget what oyibos have been telling us.
When u eat breakfast, chances are you will end up eating something for lunch and will def have a hearty dinner. That is how our system rolls.
Those days in the villages, our parents hardly eat in the morning. U will see mothers wake up early to prepare food for the children and off they go to market. My mum will put any small thing in her mouth. According to her, to wade off worms( lol). A spoon of rice or lick soup.Then she will eat whatever inside market.
Once she is back, she will eat to her satisfaction and that's that.
No obesity and that's how all of them were.
The daddies will even leave before we wake up. But be sure to have a feast at night.

I followed the oyibo "eat well" in the morning and ended up eating 3 times in the day and was adding dangerously even though it was a controlled eating. Before I wake up, I'm already planning on what to eat and if I don't eat, it will be like I will faint. At a point I discovered I have gone back to my usual way.
Just make sure u know the right kind of food to eat at any particular time u are supposed to eat.
There was a time I ate only once a day for 3 months. Nothing happened. It's psychological and body training. As a very busy person, I never felt it.
My husband eats once a day and that's in the evening and funny enough he still need to exercise else he will be on the wrong side.

Feed children well for optimal growth and the elderly for body regeneration.
As for us, the less we eat the better. It's even better the less starchy food we eat the more healthier we become.


The body need a certain amount of calories to function each day and most times a meal we eat the Nigerian way has double of that. Now add twice of that and dp the maths
The rest will be just waste of food.
I hope you understand me now

sassysure:
Get a small deep freezer. Make soups, stew and beans. Endeavour to always have dinner at home.
If you have power problem, get I pass my nebor for the freezer.

U can actually do without breakfast and lunch. It's training and with time your system will adapt to that.
Onceafter work, have a hearty dinner.
Treat yourself during weekend.

U eat to live not live to eat.

Children and old people can eat 3 times a day.
Or, are you having pregnancy craving?

Diospropio:
You sef your chop chop too much.

For breakfast, I take bread and tea. I buy the milk every month, so it's more cost effective. So, I spend just 120 for bread.

For lunch, which is usually my last meal for the day, I either go to the organisation's cafeteria where food is quiet cheap or eat outside. I spend a minimum of 300. And that solves my hunger for the day.

So, try to discipline yourself. No be only food you go work go do nah.

Proffdada:
Mixed race for sure.
She must've bought white man sperm

OJLion:
Help us phvck the right pvssy
Not pvssy that will still complain after 2000 dollars monthly

emmie14:
You would have bought Turkish airways. They are on promo. Relatively cheap like 200k economy.
And you can pay $20 to Turkish immigration and enter Istanbul -turkey and shop. Am also travelling to Vienna in matter of weeks. Am first going to Milan before Vienna.

PUSSYBBQGRILLS:
TTT smash am tire.

kapelvej:
Obviously I have described you

kapelvej:
Well, some ladies are feminine, but their character is that of a tomboy, those are the type that control their husband and thier husband's father

techcruncher:


Man! I have been using Infinix for about two years now and still fine... You are either unfortunate or something.... Are you basing your decision on just your one-time experience? I have had two Samsung devices that didn't last up to a year each... Am i gonna say Samsung is bad? Obviously No

heffem:
...and if I may ask, whats wrong with inviting comedians/celebrities to the Church/house of God?.. after all Christ said he came not for the righteous but for the sinners. Dont you believe that these people might change for good? This "holier than thou" attitude is killing us really and until we change from it.......

Who gives the gift of comedy? Are the comedians pagans?

shedy03:

blackview p2
oukitel k6000 plus
ulefone power 2
umidigi c note 2
gionee M7, A1, A1 plus
etc, etc.

Giddyperson:
lmao are you Brooklyn theatre

alosiby92:
#celebrations in accordance
*buys ogogoro for the elders in the land
*buys Palm wine for everybody
*buys fanta for giddyperson

*dances atilogwu and sekem unto the village square


Ladies and gentlemen the moment we have all been waiting for has arrived...

*drum roll

#giddybaby has arrived

the B/A was sometime earlier today. can't believe I missed it

Congrats babe @giddyperson. Welcome to seggzy mamahood.
We thank God for his awesomeness and your safe delivery. very sorry they tore your nether regionals. Hope you are doing good and ready for the pumping.
our baby must not starve o. Oh and try rest small.

*patiently waits to hear when they will book her flight for omugwo

fratermathy:
I have decided to write on this at the request of a fellow Nairalander, Efewestern, who is also a namesake to Efe Ejeba, the recent Big Brother Naija winner that broke the airwaves and the internet on Sunday, April 9th, 2017.

Warri City
Warri is the most populous city in Delta State and the second largest oil city in Nigeria, coming only after Port Harcourt. It has had a rich history through the years from its modern manifestation as a small GRA in Agbassa-Warri area to its explosion as a metropolitan hub covering areas such as Okere-Urhobo, Okere-Itsekiri, Pessu, Otovwodo, Ajimimogha, Ogunu, Ejeba, Ugborikoko, Enerhen (suburb) Effurun (suburb), Udu (suburb), Ekpan (suburb), Osubi (suburb). Warri is mainly populated by the Urhobo people of Delta/Bayelsa/Edo States. However, the Itsekiris and Ijaws occupy significant areas in the city and both lay claims to ownership of Warri. Since this write-up is not on which tribe owns Warri, I won't go into it here (however, I have written about this earlier on so you may search for it). Warri also houses an annexe of the Delta State Government house. It has a very good nightlife, a large population of youths and a unique brand of Pidgin, influenced by Urhobo-Isoko, Ijaw and Itsekiri languages.

It should be noted that although Warri refers to the city of Warri as explained earlier, the term is now being used to identify with people from Delta Central and Delta South. Warri has become like a ubiquitous term to refer to all Urhobo-Isokos, Itsekiris and Delta Ijaws, whether or not they are from Warri. In fact, the Delta Igbos are beginning to identify with the Warri brand as it is now.

The Urhobo-Isoko People
The Urhobo-Isoko is an amalgam of two related ethnic groups, Urhobo and Isoko, with Urhobo being the larger and Isoko being an offshoot of Eastern Urhobo. They are constitutionally regarded as different ethnic groups but they are one people in everything else, hence my usage of the compounded term, Urhobo-Isoko. The Urhobo-Isoko people are the 5th largest ethnic group in Nigeria (2006 census). They number over 5 million both at home and in the diaspora. They are the 2nd largest ethnic group in the South-South and Niger Delta regions, coming only after their ethnic neighbour, the Ijaws. Urhobos occupy 12 LGAs in Delta State (8 in Delta Central and 4 in Delta South), 1 in Bayelsa State (Ofoni, among others, in Sagbama LGA) and 1 in Edo State (Oghara settlements in Ikpoba Okha LGA). Urhobo-Isokos also have faraway village settlements in Ikale, Ilaje (Ondo State) Oro (Kwara State), and other areas in the South West of Nigeria. The Isoko people, who are ethnically Urhobo and politically Isokos, occupy 2 LGAs in Delta South (Isoko North and South) and have an estimated population of 1 million at home and in the diaspora. Isoko and Urhobo are regarded as one people and the Isoko can understand Urhobo clearly. In the colonial period, the Isoko and Urhobo were both regarded as the Sobo people. However, the Urhobo Progress Union, under Chief Mukoro Mowoe, fought hard to change this name to Urhobo. Isokos were a part of Eastern Urhobo until 1959 when the Western Regional House created an Isoko division from Eastern Urhobo. That marked the beginning of a separate Isoko identity.

The Urhobo-Isoko in Entertainment and the Warri Brand
The Urhobo-Isoko people, though regarded as a minority tribe in Nigeria, have attracted the attention of the majority tribes for various reasons. One of the reasons that the people have attracted so much attention is in the people's natural knack for entertainment. The Urhobo-Isoko language is very musical, demonstrative and filled with innuendos, humour and vulgarity. All these have aided the people to excel in the domain of entertainment. Over the years, Urhobo-Isokos have produced great giants in the Nigerian entertainment industry. So much that we have created a Warri/Urhobo niche for ourselves. The Warri brand is so strong that every entertainer from Delta State, and some from Edo/Bayelsa State, identifies with it.

The Warri brand manifests strongly on the Nigeria's stand-up comedy scene where Opa Williams (also an Urhobo-Isoko) launched the A Night of a Thousand Laughs show and gave voices to the many clowns and comedians from the Warri region. We have Urhobo-Isoko comedians such as Ali Baba (regarded as the King- Ose - of comedy in Nigeria, I Go Dye (one of the richest and most creative comedians in Nigeria), Bovi, I Go Save, Maleke, Gordons, A.Y. (Warri by association), Akpororo (Warri by birth/association), and many others.

In the music scene, the Warri brand has strong voices like Yung6ix, Erigga, Shun Bebe, Orezi, Dr Sid, Sammie Okposo, Kefee (now late), Harrysong (Warri-Ijaw), Omawumi (Warri-Itsekiri), Oritsefemi (Warri-Itsekiri), and many others.

In the movie industry, the Warri brand has pioneers like Fred Amata, Jeta Amata, Chico Ejiro, Richard Mofe Damijo (forget his name, he is a core Urhobo-Isoko from Udu Kingdom). Other actors include Bovi Ugboma, Isokoh Stanley, Joseph Okoro, Justice Esiri (now late), Ayo Makun, aka AY (by association), Omoni Oboli, Ufuoma Ejenobo Mcdermott, Sophie Okonedo (international actress), Balogun Fathia (forget the name, she is a core Urhobo-Isoko), Karen Igho, Peggy Ovire, and many others.

In the Reality TV series, the Warri brand has produced two Big Brother Winners: Karen Igho and Efe! Efe has been the man of the moment since he won Big Brother Naija on Sunday April 9th, 2017. He has attracted so much attention to the Warri brand through his down-to-earthedness and humour. Efe received massive votes across ethnic divides because he was considered to be "real", just like most Warri people usually are.

Features of the Warri Brand
I have been saying "Warri Brand" over and over again. So what exactly are the features of the Warri Brand in the Nigerian entertainment industry? Let me just outline some so that anyone can identify them:

1. Humour: The Warri brand in entertainment is filled with laughter and humour, whether in the movie, music or reality TV shows. Anything Warri people just makes everyone laugh. It's as simple as that.

2. Language: The way Urhobo-Isoko people speak English is very different from that of every other Nigeria. In Urhobo English, the accent, intonation and pronunciation of words usually elicit interest from every other person in Nigeria. When Urhobo-Isokos speak, they tend to demonstrate a lot and this makes their communication very effective and humourous. Discourse particles such as "Shuooo!", "Ewoooo!", "Oghene Biko!!!", "Okpetu!", "Ibabo!", etc, and the way they are pronounced, usually make other Nigerians reel out with laughter.

3. Warri Pidgin: The Warri people speak a unique type of Pidgin which, together with Sapele Pidgin, forms the Urhobo-Isoko dialect of Nigerian pidgin. This pidgin is influenced by the Urhobo language, as well as by Itsekiri and Ijaw languages. The pidgin is innovative, humorous, and expressive. Warri people can speak certain types of pidgin that no one else can decode. i.e. "Kasala just burst for area as men carry shaka bula commot from Ekoro. As we observe them, some men just Va, me and my kidney just perm small so that my blood nor go boil egg. Oniovo, the omutan and opata wey Akpos de throway go put am for voicemail soon and na okpetu go end the kasala". I challenge others to attempt at decoding this (mind you, this is a VERY LIGHT Warri pidgin expression). Erigga, an Urhobo-Isoko rapper from Warri, as well as Shun Bebe, are known for using the Warri dialect of Pidgin to rap.

4. Slangs: Warri people are known to have some very funny slangs and expressions found nowhere else. These slangs are found in both the English and Pidgin spoken in Warri. Warri people even have their own terms for many things. i.e. "Sun too hot nor mean say fowl go lay boiled egg", "no matter how rough they drive motor inside TV, e can never jam you wey de watch am", "Warri nor de carry last", "at all at all naim bad pass", "kpata kpata na draw", "anybody wen de dull na odonyo e be", etc. Again, Erigga expresses these in his music alot.

5. Simplicity: The Warri brand is known for simplicity and "real". You hardly find people forming "posh" or what they are not in Warri. Even RMD, with all his money and class, is still that confirm Warri boy anytime. The Warri brand is simple and real, no complications, no scandals, no stress!!!

Warri and its Future Potentials as Nigeria's Ultimate Entertainment Hub
I have written on the Warri brand already and its position in the Nigerian entertainment scene. However, much is left to be done. Warri has gained its niche largely through stereotypes. There are many divergent artists, actors and entertainers that are yet to be discovered. All they need is support. This is why I am very glad about the way every Nigerian (regardless of tribe) voted Efe, a simple Urhobo-Isoko boy of the Warri brand. Many people said that Nigerians did not vote for Efe but voted for the Warri Brand and I agree with this in a way. Warri needs to take a large share of Nigeria's entertainment industry but this can't do this alone. Warri needs support to get to this stage. Below are some of the reasons why Warri can be the next entertainment hub in Nigeria:

1. Warri has a large population of youths who are very creative and need a platform to show their creativity. In fact, the average Warri youth can act, sing, rap, dance or crack jokes with ease. Most of the shows in the Warri axis are done on a very low key. Warri and its environs need more shows and more support from sponsors.

2. Warri has the potential market for entertainment. With an estimated population of over 1 million residents only within the city (not to mention those in Sapele, Ughelli, Abraka, Oleh, Ozoro, etc), Warri has a good market for entertainment. If sponsors key into this population and the people's love for "flexing", they would realise that Warri is a good market.

3. Warri is an oil-rich city that attracts lots of people from all over the world. These people need places to relax, enjoy and express themselves. If the entertainment tourism potentials of Warri can be reached, more and more people will flock to this city and the boom will continue.

4. Warri has the potential wealth to keep the entertainment industry running. With young billionaires and millionaires dotted across the city, Warri has the wealth to keep showbiz afloat. All that is needed is for show promoters to look for good sponsorship from these big names and use this to encourage Warri-based entertainers, as well as to bring in other entertainers from all over the country.

5. Warri has a large swathe of celebrities who would be willing to work with new entertainers from the region provided they are provided with good platforms to market their music and carve their own niche. The older celebs are very open and willing to help the younger ones. All that is needed is the encouragement and show promotion by entertainment gurus.

Final Words
Warri is a brand! Having evolved from a modest Government Reserved Area to a metropolitan city, it has become a hub for latent talents in Nigeria. The Urhobo-Isoko people that populate Warri and its environs have a solid representation in the entertainment industry. However, there is more to be done. Warri can be the new Lagos, the entertainment hub in Nigeria. With just a little push and encouragement, the Warri phenomenon can explode to entertain and delight all Nigerians!!!



Congratulations to Efe Ejeba on his success at the Big Brother Nigeria show. He has done Urhobo-Isoko, Warri, Delta and Nigeria proud. I also wish to thank all Nigerians, be it Yoruba, Igbo, Nupe, Igala, Tiv, Junkun, Anaang, Ibibio, Oron, Efik, Baruba, Hausa, Fulani, Kanuri, Itsekiri, Ijaw, Ogoni, Ebira, Gbagyi, etc, that supported Efe and the Warri brand. Keep supporting us and we will never let you down!

Warri!
Warri!!
Warri!!!
Their .........!

Urhobo-Isoko Wadoooo!!!!
Misiagware oooo!

N.B. I noticed that after Efe won, even Hausa people in far away Sokoto were claiming to be Warri people .
Igbos in far away Enugu started updating their status with ChukwunEFE,
Even Yorubas were claiming "area" like say dem bam from Agbassa
Even Lalasticlala and Seun de post Efe threads go frontpage since like say dem relate to Efe
Is ok, is ok!

- Iroro Orhero

PrincessKab:
Good morning, Beautiful People.

I had to take my time, sleep and wake up from a dream(thought it was) but reality that Efe won(saw that coming) the BBNaija 2017 by such wide margin(Didn't see that much coming, which was the dream; rendered me speechless, dumbfounded, short of words...). Just came to terms with reality this morning...

Before I leave this thread/forum, I'll like to thank everyone who stood by me on this thread, encouraged me and appreciate(d) my little input, I appreciate you all. If I start mentioning names, the list will be endless, as there are so many who have mentioned me on this.

I also want to congratulate my fellow Team mates, Team Efe, you are incredible. I'm glad I was a part of this family and movement. Together, we stood stronger and did it, no one/group did it alone.

I must commend the supporters of our sister from another mother, my second favorite, Efe's loyal, true and mutual friend, Bisola. You did an awesome job.

To other Team mates, you were amazing. It was no small task supporting and getting any HM to the final.

Hmmm...
Efe was my favourite from Day 1 of the show.
I've never been on this forum before now, but joined in February because of this show/thread.
I joined after I observed, as a guest, the height of discrimination against this guy's economic status and against people perceived as such generally.
I voluntarily chose to be an Advocate for fair ground/chance everywhere. I was determined to stand by Efe, and give it my best...
I am glad today because my mission is accomplished as regards this programme, and all our efforts weren't in vain.

Before I take my exit, I'll like to say/reiterate that...
We shouldn't look down on people, no matter our status(Both the made and poor should have equal/fair chances, no discrimination..).
We should be true to ourselves, real..Not fake living...
While you think having DSTV or explora and some 10's of thousands of Instagram followers is a achievement in life, many others have them as plus, with 24/7 power supply (PHCN, Solar, Inverter with Standby-Gen), are Landlords with cars, and much more, without making noise about it.
While you thought you were spending 100's of thousands voting, some were spending more, giving out souvenirs, and mobilising, voting without any publicity(Those same people you called poor, illiterate, jobless...).
While you boast about being rich, but still work under a stingy Boss, in a company, some are their own Bosses, they do Locum, professionally, in their spare time, and have several investments/businesses generating money for them on a daily basis; they can take breaks and go on vacation anywhere and as long as they want, but still be having income.
While you think you're the "Omniknowest", there are many who just sit back and let you display and get fatter in your ignorance, arrogance...
While you abuse many people's family members or parents, there are many of them, to whom your parents can never stand in their presence, or while greeting, during salutation, or kneel while talking to them, you may not even be able to look them in the eye.
Ultimately, we need to be/stay humble...

In life, we keep learning, I learnt some more on this thread, from both young and old, I suppose. I came across people with some attitudes, some condescending, I've never encountered in my entire life...
*No one knows me here, except one person, but till date, he still can't believe I could be updating on this thread or ignoring insults and not throwing tantrums.
*Some people that know me outside this thread couldn't believe I could support and go all outta my way for Efe.
*I thought respect was meant to be mutual, and people's opinions respected, but I learnt more on this thread, and built more tolerance with patience, no one is gullible here; but I kept saying, not until you know me in person and say all those to me, then we can talk about it, but till then, for now and always, over the internet, I'd surely ignore..

BBN '17 has finally come to an end. I'm glad people believe(d) in Efe and gave him a chance. I'm happy I met you all on this thread and we'll be parting on this note, with all HMs hale and hearty, sound.
All the Best to you all and in your future endeavours. Till some other time...
I'll miss this thread and miss you all. Love you all, Beautiful People.
#Based on Logistics..

PrincessKab !