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mhizgracie22:
"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.

Now that's a front page material

~Words crested on a Marble~

Do we have any thing like broke person,under this Corona epidemi

My brother just got dumped for saying the truth,and some lady had opened a thread on how ladies should never date "a broke dude".
So my question is.............
Was he broke?
Was he not faithful?
Despite being a mere security man,he made sure his lady's not lacking anything,yet brother got ditched.
I still remember her words the day she said "you are too nice to be a man,no woman deserve such a man"
My brother get yourself another girl and don't keep for too long to let her know your kind of hustle,if she's not into it swerve
THEM NO KNOW WETIN DEM WANT

bigpicture001:


I hate sti by women with passion ...am doing my own part in self building and achievements...

I know wit I need ,unlike a confused fellow like u who don't have direction nd waste all his time on social media....

Wasted sperm

some people do not deserve your sincere reactions, especially someone who's distance far away from you in terms of location,a person who in reality,if he gets to know who you are ,physically would wish he would go back and correct his words,a person who is not sure if he is a guy or a girl, imagine such person in reality and reply them the way you would reply them even if they're standing before you

Greatzeus:

Oh my,you should put everything about you on the net just for a shot at getting pussy and eating your own out of her money? You are a disgrace to men everywhere.

life's all about luck and you of all people should know that..........,and risk is pretty much involved. There's nothing to be ashamed of man,in life you apply and and it works fine, and if doesn't good

DenreleDave:


She is right u r fvcking Shameless gold digger. Who cares to know u

Paxie55 ur bro again

you are not going to receive a different reaction, I still deserve worse than this, please can you do another better than her ?, and I don't even wish either one of you would know me

Paxie55:



Shameless gold diggers.
You won't see the so called Alfa men advisers here to advice their fellow leeches here.

thanks a lot I will swallow it, keeping it in mind you don't know me,nor know my motive, neither would you know my personal life experience thank you once more

Phadg:
Hi guys i just joined NL and from what have been reading on here bfor i sign up i feel i might get a response from nairalanders

Am a lady that believes in building with a man and not looking for an already made guys am also an independent lady so i dont really need your money,i work for what i spend, Atimes i end up giving out of the little i earn to my partner, now this is the sad part these guys take me for a fool some just start acting up like some1 with psychosis{apologies} but it the truth well i just broke up with my boyfriend cause i cant deal with his bullshit anymore. now my question is
1. IS IT BAD FOR ME TO SHOW YOU I LOVE YOU?
2. IS IT A SIN FOR ME TO WANT TO BE INVOLVE IN YOUR LIFE{I BELIEVE WE ARE SUPPOSE TO BE THERE FOR EACHOTHER}?
3.IS ASKING FOR A LITTLE TRANSPARENCY A SIN?
4.WHY DO GOOD GIRLS HAVE BADLUCK WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING A GUY?

APOLOGIES FOR THE LONG POST.

kelvin Onyebuchi,5ft6, Electrical technician,27yrs,0812 427 8540, you are never wrong I have been I a similar situation as you, just that different strokes for different folks

Rebuke:
Reading through this thread, it just dawned on me how painful it's for non virgins to accept the truth.


Yes, I will agree that virginity doesn't guarantee a happy home but it's far far more guaranteed than a non virgin would.

It's like comparing a new car with an old car.

Sorry, if you have lost yhur virginity as a woman or as a man.


Let's be honest with ourselves here, most men here will rush to marry a Virgin than a non virgin.

If a woman or a man can keep themselves till marriage - staying faithful is far far easier compared to a non virgin.

All these dustbin and sperms donors ranting all over the thread consoling themselves and trying to impose a non virgin sit on us should go and hit their head on the wall abeg.


Stupid people who have no respect for their body, they enter any hole that opens for them and their dustbin partner too will receive any dirty cane ready to enter them.

Imagine the thought of yhur wife being tossed around or flipped over under some dirty morons before yhu met them.


Shame on all of yhu defending fornication (sex before marriage).

may the blessings of the almighty God and heaven never depart from what ever that involves you my brother, you are as bolder as I or anyone who truly tried their best to let these ladies know that it is only the Grace of Christ Jesus alone, that is the reason they are having a pride in exposing somewhere that the holy Spirit of God alone should be dwelling.bros you just made my day

ojonugwap:



Nothing special about so called virgin cuz I don't value it neither wish to marry one

I wish you good luck my brother

drnoel:


Not true bro, virginity I not written on the face of the individual. I once knew a guy that could swear he can smell virgins, maybe he could cos all his girlfriend's in school were virgins. He broke all of them; in his words, he opened their ministry.
Well, he married a non-virgin. A runz-girl to be precise, who came from wealthy parents (both parents were divorced hence the children were left on their own for years). The lady he married was wild, he gave him stress for years with her lifestyle but he actually really did love.
Anyways, his madam has finally cooled down. She has mellowed life ice water and has concentrated her energy on him. The guy is a rising star in the firm owner by the wife's mom, her father is now late.
Anyways, life has a way of doing a fast one on us so the issue of virginity or not is just a no go.

I concur and I am also not in anyway saying that the non-virgin lady should not be a blessing to her man, but come on bro with the rate of paternal drama we have been seeing of a recent shows that our generation needs to be encouraging virginity on both sexes because my brother we have failed Grace, and we are at that point of abusing it already

delishpot:


Funny enough most sisters and mothers don't involve themselves with the condition of their brothers babes vagina. They look at character not whether her vagina is sealed, open, pink etc. They might be happy if he tells them she is a virgin but they don't put it as a must. They don't advise their broš and sons to marry based on virginity. Na character dem dey watch out for

Sweetheart in this part of my own world where I come from,honey no be everything wey eye see mouth go talk, but hence we're all here on this platform to learn,my dear things are happening and I just wish we're related just by chance alone you will understand, this is the reason when ever an Igbo man decides to settle down there is something they call "iju ese" after then things you never knew or heard about your own family traditional practice would start playing out, like my mama dey always tell us say "no be I love you on the road be final one, until she follows you to come and visit me" ;Nne things are happening

iswallker:


Ayam still not understanding..
That's why I ask for further clarification.. Sorry sir..

Don't get me otherwise brother,read again

SoNature:


My point is that they both have pros and cons.

BTW, who says a virgin cannot cheat?

Note that every girl is a virgin for a reason... it's now left for you to find out why. The same goes for a non-virgin

For me, I prefer a non-virgin anytime, any day

I hope you read the story of the man, here on this platform who never knew his three kids are not his own until it was time to go for "Canadian visa" where he had to take take a compulsory paternity test on all his three kids that was the particular time he knew he had been taking care of another man's children, my point here is that even if a virgin woman would cheat on you,there is a 95% chance the first of the child would be his own

SoNature:


You are right

While it is a good thing to marry a virgin, it's a disaster marrying a circumcised irgin. Those ones never enjoy it... never...

Of course, she has never done it before, and she's waiting for Mr. Right to be first guy.

Sure, you will never enjoy sex with her. If you are a guy who enjoys sex, you are so finished. Funnily enough, there are many girls who are like that out there.

But you are rest assured that the seed, she brings into your house is your own, not the seed of a handsome, broke ex

Lamanii22:
Can we say that "virginity" is an added factor coupled with good character...

Sweetheart I have never seen a man who married a VIRGIN woman doubt the paternity of his children

Vega100:
no bro... far from it... u rarely hear parents discussing that with their son whether his bride is virgin or not, no one does that.

With all due and kind experience,my brother they do

iswallker:


So they were asking if she's a virgin or not... Be uase I am nkt understanding..

next time you try to quote/correct me, please make sure you, might have read through and understand the topic and my own personal opinion which is expressed in the comments section.And if you don't understand my opinion keep on reading it until you get there.

ImaIma1:


In this day and age, do men discuss with their siblings and mother about whether their babies are virgins. Even the mother will ask him if he's a virgin and why he thinks he deserves one

Yes they do sweetheart,and that's why premarital sex is not encouraged at all, from where I come from and what we believe

SoNature:



This is FALSE

I believe in all the paternity and the "DNA saga, that men have been falling victims to,off lately have never come from marrying a virgin.

Korllami007:
There are millions of non virgin women giving their men wahala by fvcking their exes a day before their marriage then probably give you someone else kid to train. There millions of non virgin women a cross the world that they characters can turn north pole to desert. Most infedelities in the world are mostly perpetrated by non virgin women.

I would rather marry virgin with wahala and enjoy my tight pussy than marry a community sperm depot with wahala.

It's a food for thought.

Omo nothing cracks me up like the "community sperm Depot" part ,baba you bad gan

lastly no sister would encourage her brother to go for a non-virgin,and no mother would encourage her son to marry a non-virgin

at the sound of "Kenya" you know what you are about to read

After going through what the OP has posted for the benefit of saving so many families,then come down to read all the comments,mehn! You will just be disappointed that n'landers abi Nigerians don't want the truth

Hmmmm

If you have attended a state government technical or science boarding school here in the northern part of Nigeria,you will know exactly what this man saw,I remember we ate a meal in which I live agama lizard �,fell inside the soup we still ate the food just because we had no other option ��

Just kuku avoid all men, and you will be accomplished

we are bringing it home, just the way Liverpool fc is also bringing it home