Dexy4yah:
I dated this lady for few years... doing our courtship we had unprotected sex.
I later relocated to another state because of my studies....that's how the relationship died.

She later got married

After about 13years of not hearing from eachother....one day my phone rang and behold she was the one...she called to tell me a secret...she said her first child is mine and not her husband's.
That doing our courtship she took in, she tried to abort it but it didn't work out for her, she didn't tell me about it because she knew that i was not ready to father a child at that time.

It was at that moment that she met this guy who is now her husband...the guy hasten everything and got married to her...she made him believe that the pregnancy is his own whereas that's was not the true...the boy is 8years old now.
She said her conscience has been disturbing her that's why she opened up to me.

I told her never to let the husband know about it and let the child be the husband's own....let her just forget everything about me being the father of the child so that her marriage won't crumble.
She has a loving husband and she is blessed with three kids aside the boy.


But she made one comment that when the boy reach 22years she will tell him who his real father is....she insisted. But am against it, i told her not to try it because if she end up telling the boy about it there is every possibility that the husband will end up knowing about it and i wonder how he is going to react towards it.

(Women can keep secret sha)
Please i hope i did the right thing??

How can the child be 8 years after 13 years of not being in contact with each other

FreeStuffsNG:
This thought flashed my mind few days ago when I read something similar somewhere and my mind went to my friends who did not have that privilege while we were growing up. I just waved it aside that they may sometime later in life adjust or 'upgrade' to getting it.

I later realized it works throughout one's lifetime. You also need to pray that you don't lose it and that you must pray for your children to inherit that grace too.

There's something good and refreshing when people see you as pretty inside and out. It's a form of God's grace in action too so no one should take glory for it I always find the privilege humbling so I give the thanks to both the people and God most importantly. I don't have the entitlement mindset so I know who should take the glory for the privilege.

My thoughts exactly

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Olasyke:

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jara:
There is nothing wrong with frying akara but as a graduate she should have done it with class. It does not have to be exactly like our mothers, she should have put some ingenuity into it. Like organized chairs and tables, more decent place or make her little space more attractive. There is so many things she could have done differently and still fry akara with class. That is what education is all about, not just to be employed.

Did you know if the capital she started with could afford all those things you listed??....From the story, it can be deduced that she just started the business. I believe with more profits she would take the business to a sophisticated level.

juman:
I wonder why he travel with such small amount of cannabis.
It seems he is weed smoker.
If you are weed smoker, you can get weed to buy in any country of the world.
You dont need to take weed with you when travelling.

He might be considering the fact that he is a pastor, and he might not be able to source for weed in the country he is traveling to without attracting suspicion

wizonlyson:
..who are his mumu illetrates boys..abeg, goodnight..go sleep..

Guy....he was just being sarcastic

When you are upcoming atheist

BigDawsNet:
Waiting Obviously

My grace has not been d fast track like some other people...

Proposed projects or plans around me seems to delay while people close to me like fams and colleagues sky rockets...living me behind...

But hav noticed something about my grace! "It's doesn't want me rush" (it usually tells me "boy you need to relax and wait" and I will be like ...ehhh but my frnds have moved to the level...why I'm still here...the grace will speak again "if you wanna work with me and receive what your deserve or hoping for...you need to relax"

So I begin to relax, work hard, prayerful and hopeful... Eventually when everything clicks...it's surpass the people that left me behind... sometimes they come to me like how did you go about it...

Makes me remember the common saying...he who laff last, actually laff best ....

You need to discover yourself!
It will really help you!!!

I can relate, cos it's the same too with me. It took me long to realize that. Infact some people wey no know me go even dey think say I dey slow, say I no sharp. But when everywhere go burst, dem go con ask, "How u take do am?"

otokx:
Uzere - Asabase more like it and that is a federal road built many years by Julius Berger during IBB rule.

Exactly what came to my mind when I saw the topic, cos I was wondering how Uzere and Asaba take link??

I am currently in a relationship with a lady that is older than me with three years plus, and to be sincere without being sentimental, she gives me respect much more than all other younger ladies I have dated..
She is so plain and doesn't have time for games and cheating, always straight to the point, which I really admire about her. Yeah I know she sometimes want to act like a mother to me which I understand, and I always let her understand that I can take care of myself. Even when we quarrel and I tell her it's enough, she knows it's enough and she doesn't say anything further. If it is beauty, she has an ageless beauty, even younger ladies can't stand close to her in terms of that.
We intend to get married this year, or latest early next year. So guys don't let talks about age let you make a wrong choice and deny you the chance of a happy marriage.

Priceless007:
Hello Nairalanders,

It's a long story, but I'll try to keep it short and to the vital points. Please endure the length.

There's a girl i met at a theological college in where I was studying to become a clergyman and also learning a skill under the civil engineering department of the college. She was my junior in the course, as I was a year away from graduating from my first course, while she was just a fresher. She was always having issues getting through her courses and projects and would always ask for my assistance since I was the course rep in that department. It was forbidden to have any intimate relationship with your course mate or anyone in the college for that matter, the penalty would be expulsion. But unfortunately for me, out of sheer lust and seduction on her part, and gross indiscipline and lack of self control on my part, I got intimate with her and we ended up committing fornication during one of our semester vacations. And it just happened once, of which out of deep regret and remorse I confessed the matter to the college Admin when the next semester resumed. We were panelled, after which I was suspended, while she was expelled.

During this time I was learning a skill sponsored by the college, of which I use to get paid some weekly stipend. After I was suspended I was also stopped from continuing my apprenticeship, because I was not to associate with any of the students or lecturers in the school while my suspension lasted. So I was without a job and without a source of income since I wasn't yet mastered on the skill. The condition that was given to me to resume my studies and apprenticeship was that I should go and get married before I could come back to college, so as not to be tempted to repeat my error. But I wasn't ready for marriage whether financially or any other wise for that matter. So while I was contemplating my next move, this girl came to me that she was pregnant, that she needed us to go and see her parents. I told her I had no money neither was I ready to father a child at this point in my life. I pleaded she should give me time to think about what next to do. Two weeks passed, and I called her to enquire about her welfare but her number wasn't reachable, I decided to go to her place, but I was told she had travelled a week ago to go see her family. A week later, I received a call from a woman telling me she was the girl's mother, that her daughter came home with a pregnancy, and she asked me if I was responsible for the pregnancy, I answered her in the affirmative. She then asked when I was coming to see her family. I told her I wasn't sure about coming to see them that I needed to speak to the girl first. She said okay, then later that day the girl called me, and I told her to come back for us to talk deliberate on the way forward. When she came she told me her parents (who are by the way divorced) will not accept her nor the pregnancy without me coming to see them for marriage arrangements.

I explained to her I wasn't ready for any such thing, that I have a calling to answer and a course to finish, that what happened between us was just a stupid and careless mistake that has been as a setback for me to achieve my goal, and that I was ready to overcome the trials and get back on track, and I explained to her that before then I had neither dated nor been intimate with anyone for over seven years, and so any kind of relationship or marriage was not even in my nearest future plans, and besides, I didn't even have a job, not to mention having enough money to embark on a marriage plan. She said she would never accept such excuse, that I should look for whatever means to make sure I come see her parents before her pregnancy becomes obvious. She also said that she needed money to move her belongings back to Imo state where her family resides. I agreed to raise some money for her. I went to do some menial jobs and raised some money, about ₦20k, which I gave to her and she traveled back to Owerri. From then on her parents kept calling and pressuring me to come and see them for marriage arrangements. I told them I was going to come, but just to introduce myself to them as the person responsible for their daughter's pregnancy not for any marriage arrangements. But they disagreed, that if I wasn't ready to come for marriage that I shouldn't bother coming. I pleaded with them to give me enough time to look for money to come and see them, but they instead started threatening me with court cases and arrests, at one time they brought the girl and some soldiers to my family house and harassed my family members including my mother.

So I later traveled to Benin city to go look for money. After one week of my arrival in Benin, I lost my phone and I couldn't retrieve my number. I lost connection with them until I got back to Uyo where I got her phone number from a friend of hers. At this time, I was told that they came to my house several times with police officers claiming I raped their daughter and impregnated her then absconded. At this, I established contact with the girl again and she told me that I should not bother her that she wasn't in the mood to talk to me, I kept calling her but she often ended up abusing me or we often times ended up in quarrels, so I left her alone for sometime.

Two weeks ago I related the matter to one of my distant uncles, who advised me to gather some money and go see her, I called her and told her I wanted to come and see her before she puts to bed, which is expected to be sometime next month (August). But she told me that she still stands by what her parents had said, if it's not for the marriage issue that I should not come, that I should rather send her the money I would use in coming so she can use it to buy the baby clothing and buy some hospital requirements before she puts to bed. I called her parents and they told me the same thing, and said if I don't come for the marriage agreement before she puts to bed, that after she's delivered of the baby I should forget ever coming, and should never mention that I have a child anywhere not to mention coming to claim it ever in the future. And that I should just forget about her and the child.

The issue now is this, I am a bit frustrated because I seem to have lost everything at the moment because of this issue; my calling, the skill I was learning is gone, I have no job aside the menial jobs I do at construction sites which isn't available regularly. Now the little I have saved so far, I am contemplating on whether to use the money to pay for my skills training and continue with it and start my life afresh and forget about her, the child, and her parents, or use the money to support her in her hospital requirements for her delivery. Because I don't want to be seen as abandoning her when she is in this condition, and I also don't want to give up on the child, though I'm not capable of taking care of the girl and the baby right now, and probably, I might end up getting married but not under my present circumstances. I know I've made a grave mistake and this is the consequences for not being true to myself and my calling, and I deeply regret it, and I've suffered for it in any way I can possibly imagine, but I also need to put my life back in order, because right now I'm so devastated that I'm contemplating terrible alternatives to survive the storm, I'm at a very critical moment of my life and I just feel like giving up on life altogether. Please I need your help and advice on this issue. Thanks.

PS. Please if anyone is willing to teach me any skill, I would be very grateful and willing to learn.

Good evening, please since she and her family has refused to be reasonable in this issue, just let them be. My advice for you is to be focused on your school and skills, okay? Leave them and build yourself. Thank u.

Sleeknigga:
more like pigeon shit pls speak english and leave pidgin..does what u wrote even make sense to u?

Ndewo nu....English teacher Does what you wrote sound right to you sir

This life no balance ooo....

Guy I would tell you this, and I tell you once, dump that girl, she doesn't love you. A girl who truly loves you would damn any money she wants to make just to be with you at your weakest state. Yeah you heard me right.
Good women are naturally caregivers ( mark the word "Good women" cos it's not all women that have such attribute).
Sometimes when I am a bit ill, I don't tell my girlfriend cos she would worry herself so much that she even fall sick as well due to worries. She leaves everything she is going to be with me when she hears I am sick, sometimes she even take days off just to be with me even though I tell her not to bother sef. So what I am saying in essence is that your girlfriend doesn't love you.....kapish.