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jesusjnr2020:
Sexism Or Feminism? Which Is Worse?

For me, it's clearly sexism, because it's discriminatory and has led to the abuse of most women and also much domestic violence against them.

Even before a woman is born into the world, and still in the womb, she already faces discrimination and rejection from men and also some of her fellow women, like her inlaws, when they get to know find out that she's a girl not a boy as most of them desired her to be.

A girl child is more or less being treated as a second class citizen, with no rights or real value just for being female, while a male child is usually treated as a king and being accorded with much respect just because of his sex.

What a woman goes through in this world just because she's not male is better imagined than experienced.

Men still crucify and blame the woman for all their woes just as Adam did, because of mistake she made in the beginning, as if Adam was a nursing baby that was forced to eat the forbidden fruit. But even nursing babies are able to reject food they don't want.

She was punished for her sins, and that has resulted in a lot of suffering and bondage on her part, but the coming and death of Jesus was meant to also change that and redeem the woman from her sin and its consequences. However that seems not enough for men who want to still keep her in perpetual bondage forever, as they seem to still hold that grudge against her and haven't forgiven her yet.

This include many so-called Christians and church leaders who claim to be of God, yet were still doing everything possible to keep the woman under the bondage and curse of her sins, such as that which was broken by Jesus. But the church ought to be different from the world, and reflect the changes Jesus had made with respect to the redemption of the woman through His death, however they're not much different in the respect of the mistreatment of women, thereby making the efforts of Christ to redeem her to be of none effect in the church.

It baffles me the extent to which many so-called Christian men have no regard for the woman.

They still blame her for every mistake they make, as though, regardless of what she tempts them with, they cannot reject her temptations, and say "NO", as some men have proven to be possible in the Bible which they claim to be the Word of God, like Joseph the son of Jacob in the respect of Portiphar's wife.

They behave like the sexist' Pharisees, who brought only a woman to Jesus and said she was caught in the act of adultery, but couldn't see the blunder in that, as a woman cannot be caught in the act of adultery alone and without a man. John 8:3-5

Hence their sexism and hypocrisy was already clear to Jesus, prompting Him to ask anyone of them who had no sin to cast the first stone, because only leaving out the supposed man caught in act of adultery with her and bringing her alone was a sin in itself, since the Law they tried to use to justify their actions actually commanded that both the man and woman caught in the act to be stoned to death, not just the woman. John 8:6-7

That's the same way most Christian men, including church leaders, behave. For instance, you'd hear them speak constantly and consistently against feminism, but hardly mention anything about sexism which is much more evil and has done more damage to the church and Christian marriages as a whole, than anything feminism ever could.

Women are being mistreated and beaten by many of their Christian husbands among other things, but because of the sexist' mindset and manners of most churches, the men yet feel justified and encouraged to continue with such evils, as they're given the impression that they have all the right to do whatever they liked, while the woman has none and ought not to question them, because as the saying goes, "women ought to submit to their husbands!"

Such oppression is what actually leads to fights for freedom, just it is with racism, so I wouldn't be surprised that feminism in the church is actually a product of sexism in it, as it's one way women are trying to stand up for their rights and saying "enough is enough' for the mistreatment and abuses they've suffered as a result of sexism in the church.

So whatever it is about, it's wouldn't be intended to discriminate against the men or oppress them as sexism is, but to defend themselves and curtail the prejudices they suffer as a result of just being female.

The woman however is not absolved of all blame for her sufferings, because she's also responsible for some of them, and she would be punished for it as the woman, Eve, was in the beginning. But that doesn't mean that any woman who decides to do what's right, should still be punished and kept in perpetual bondage for the sins of another woman, even though she's been set free from it, just because she is a woman.

Jesus said that only one thing is needful, and that the woman who had chosen not to follow Eve's example, but to do things right instead, and place the Word of God above everything else, including men, had chosen that right part, which no one could take away from her. John 10:42

So if the church likes, they should continue being sexist towards the women, but according to this Jesus' saying, once a woman has chosen that right part of God's Word and placed it above everything else in her life, including men, there's nothing they can do to take away that part from her, because that's all a woman needs.

God bless.

jesusjnr2020:
Who Is The Head Of A Christian Home? Christ Or The Husband?

There cannot be two heads of a Christian home, for a man cannot serve two masters. Matthew 6:24

Therefore It has to be one or the other, so which is it?

I have heard some say or seen a written message in some homes, "Christ is the head of this house." On the other hand, i have also heard some claim that the husband is the head of the home or marriage, therefore I would like to know which is really true, since both cannot be right at the same time.

If Christ is the head of the home, then both the husband and wife ought to submit themselves to the authority of Christ. But if it's the husband instead, then the woman has to submit herself to the authority of the husband.

My own belief is that Christ ought to be the head of every Christian home, so both the husband and wife ought to submit themselves to His own authority.

Anything contrary to that is not of God, but of men or the devil, hence it would only lead to dangerous repercussions in the home, as it was in the beginning when the husband and wife both rejected the authority of Christ, even the Word of God that was in the beginning, and chose to listen and heed the voice of someone else.

Although the marriage didn't end up in a divorce as a result, and they wear yet able to bear children, it became a total failure as the purpose for which God made the marriage, which was to multiply sinless children (those born in obedience), was not achieved.

It also led to hostility in the marriage, because the same man who loved his wife and called her "the bone of my bones" and "flesh of my flesh", now saw her as an enemy or a stranger called "the woman you gave me". Genesis 2:23; 3:12

So the authority and head of a Christian home, as God made it to be in the beginning, ought to be the Word of God which Christ is, and that's one of things which was in the beginning that Christ came to restore. Therefore taking that authority from Him and giving it to someone else, including the husband, would only prevent the purpose of God concerning the marriage from being fulfilled, and could also lead to hostility among the married couples.

That's what would have happened in the marriage of Smith Wigglesworth, as the husband thought he was the head of their home, and had authority over his wife, hence tried to use it against her and to prevent her from serving God as she ought to, when he derailed from the faith.

But thank God he had a wife who knew that he was just her husband, not her Head or Head of their marriage, but Jesus, as she'd let Him know. So he couldn't make her do things contrary to what Christ demands of her, because she was meant to be under Christ's authority, not his.

This eventually led to her husband's restoration to the faith, and for this reason he loved appreciated his wife much more than he'd ever done beforehand, because what he learnt from the wife in the process was an invaluable lesson, which had not only helped to restore him, but also made him to be a better vessel for God's use, and better husband for his wife and marriage.

That's what many Christian' marriage stands to lose whenever someone else is put in the placed of Christ as the Head of a Christian home. It ends up more or less as the marriage in the beginning, when God's purpose for the marriage was not achieved.

And once that purpose is not achieved, the marriage become a total failure even if it doesn't end in divorce and they're yet having children as Adam and Eve, because God purpose for a Christian marriage that determines the success of a marriage, not that of man.

So it's up to choose who will be the head of your home, but if it's not Christ, do not expect Him to also act as the Head, because He cannot share His position or authority in any marriage or home with anyone. It's either Him in charge or not Him.

God bless.

Kundagarten:
And the slowpoke of a woman is someone's mother.

Humanoid01:
Won't you blame men for this one too?

southniyikaye:
I didn't ask you to bring gender into this...

southniyikaye:
Why are we Nigerians so terrible like this?
Scammers keep buying accounts just to wreck havoc

Fiscus105:
Don't post on public forum in ur life

Sound Sultan’s wife cries out as hackers take over the singer’s social media accounts.

The wife of the late Nigerian singer, Olanrewaju Abdul-Ganiu Fasasi who is pupolarly known as Sound Sultan has raised an alarm over hackers who took over the singer’s social media accounts to solicit for funds from the singer’s fans and friends.

Mrs. Fasasi disclosed this on her Instagram page, WonderTV Media gathered.

She stated that the singer’s family has no control over his social media accounts and therefore advises his fans and the public to disregard messages from the singer’s social media accounts.

Her post reads;
“Hello everyone,

Kindly disregard communication from all @soundsultan’s social media accounts.

The accounts have been hacked by scammers sending messages to innocent people to solicit funds.
Please the family has no control over his accounts.

Let’s be watchful. Cybercrime is at an all time high.
Thank you so much for your support all the way.
You would be informed when we have control over the accounts.

Farida.”

Fiscus105:
Totally disagree, I know a married woman, not single o, who melt for any handsome guy that comes her way, is that reason too?


Meanwhile, so many ladies sleep with men, just because they want to leave above their means, is the solid reason too?

Aliencraft:
Hello guys.

I remembered a young lady I met when I was still working in the bank, her name was Rita. She was an I.T student and was doing her industrial training in my bank.

The bad thing about the male colleagues in my workplace is that they can sleep with anything as long as it in skirt.
Most of them seem get there ways with the female colleagues, and they even go as far as passing them down to other male colleagues. Which was very bad, as they saw it as a game.

One day while in the cafeteria eating, Rita came in the microwave her food. She asked if she could sit close to me, I agreed and we started talking. It was then she asked me the question that made me burst into laughter. "Why is it that all the men here cannot think of anything other than asking me out?"... It was so bad that not only did the head of operations ask her out but also the branch manager who promised to retain her even when she finishes with her school.

Not only did she decline everyone of them, but even when I asked her to try to play along with them in other to eat their money, she also refused. I was so impressed with her that we became so close to the extent that my colleagues started calling me her boyfriend, and were even asking if I could give them the charm I used in getting her.

When she finally finished her I.T, I congratulated her for being so chaste all through and told her that her man will be very lucky to have her.

BadNews:
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The actress, who has been open about her body enhancement and even documented her first procedure on an LITV show, revealed she has had two liposuction surgeries so far.

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tishbite41:
Madam, your husband is your crown

Half bread is better than none

God forbid, na when that man go die, you go know hin importance

DEMZEE:
But wen women work in the career world they are not equal to their male bosses but they want to be equal to their husbands

How does this makes sense, women will rather be career slaves to male bosses than submit to their husband's authority

kestolove95:
a lady must win this year bbn and that lady is liquorose

BadNews:
Update From . COM

A Nigerian pastor, Felix Onuoha and his wife have welcomed a set of twins after 13 years of marriage, Reports.

Pastor Onuoha, from Owerri, Imo State Who Notified On Whatsapp Chat, Shared the good news on Saturday, August 7, 2021.

Facebook user, Okoro Promise also celebrated with the pastor;

"JOIN ME AND CELEBRATE OOOOOOO. MY PASTOR MY HEART IS FULL OF JOY AND HAPPINESS AFTER 13YEARS OF CHLIDLESSNESS GOD VISITED HIM WITH A TWINS BOUNCING BABY BOY AND A GIR" he wrote.

See Photos As Obtained By Below:

Source: BLOG

AreaGovo:
Greetings to you all. Let's have a small family meeting.

Based on my course of study, I have mapped out plans and strategies (blueprint) on setting up my firm where I'll do my private practice once I'm stable economically. By God's grace, in the future, I see government and even private firms coming to seek my services as a technocrat cum consultant in that field. But my woman (fiancée) is saying those who didn't serve and receive NYSC discharged are not regarded as graduates even though they've exemption letter citing discrimination and even example coming from her uncle of how people were disqualified from appointment for not having NYSC discharged. Please how true is that submission of hers? Does such discrimination actually exist in government and private organizations?

Below are my reasons for not desiring to serve. First, I'm above 30. Second, not really freak about the NYSC of thing. Third, at the moment, I'm unemployed but applicant. Fourth, I don't want to waste another one year when I should be hunting "cool cash" instead of 33k. Fifth, even if I want to start going back to do all those age forgery stuff and the rest, like I said, a jobless/applicant like me can't boast of 70k (or even more) to start running all those stuff but she's hell bent I serve. Is NYSC really such a big deal?

What advice do you have to offer? I'll appreciate.

Adadioranma79:
If she had gone to the police, it would have made all the difference I guess. People might give her some benefits of doubts. As for that @Saphiere or whatever she chose to call herself, she is either mentally deranged or an orphan with no one she cares for, so she doesn't have anything or anyone to lose. I pray she finds peace, cos her thoughts are obviously from someone without a healthy mind. I pity those close to her. Cept of course if all these are for clouts

Funflipper:
Could this be a case of different strokes for different folks? How come you want chidinma freed and the soldier face the firing squad when they both commited the same crime with chidinma's case even worse because she stole her victim's personal belongings? Do you have any explanation for that?

DWJOBScom:
I just hope she is saying the truth
I just want the truth known

Funflipper:
How about Jennifer Ugadu? does her murderer deserve justice too?