₦airaland Forum

drakeli:
You sound shallow minded. Just 1000,000 naira. That’s less than $3000. The amount you can make more than within a month even if you drive Uber in the US. If I were you, I would take the America opportunity. If it presents itself. I might now decided to come back to Nigeria to start a company after making that 1000,000 multiple times

Who are you telling dis one? make more than $3000 a month driving uber in which US state and are you sleeping inside the car? No bills?

Don't be deceived. If e easy like dat to make money here, people like beautyaddy & cococandy would have gone back to set up company for their family or buy house in Ikoyi.

Mightyify:
I followed my gf to a hotel where she went to see another man. I don't know why she would choose to treat me like this, It's really painful to end an 8 months relationship like this. I try my best to provide for her the best way I can. I have broken up after she admitted to it (not without solid evidence and questioning)

This is the second time she's cheating. I loved her so much that I was thinking of marrying her. she has lost weight and always come to my place to cry and beg for forgiveness promising me that it won't happen again. mind you that was exactly what she promised the last time

Her friends have been calling to beg me to forgive, but the thought of another man sleeping with her is too much for me to bear and I feel she might still do it again. Guys what do you think, is it wise to go ahead forgive and marry her?

Guy forgive her, keep focccking her but be looking for your real wife on the side. When you find another girl you will want to marry, make sure you dump dis your current girl in the trash can.

Elder0001:
Who’re they’re cheating with? Goats?

Y’all never seize to amaze me . A Nigerian guy can cheat 50times and expect a girl to marry him but If it’s the reverse he’ll swear blood... I don’t blame them Sha, I blame the girls who don’t have self esteem and see marriage as a must in life.

Dis your comment and the one you replied, watz the connection?

Ladylite:
Hello sir, I speak on behalf of women like her.

You need to calm down.

You are acting like a woman.

When a mad person annoys you, if you reply then it becomes two mad people.

Pls don't divorce her.

She is only sending out msgs that you are not getting.

She is acting out because... She feels you do not understand her.

I know you love her else you would not come here.... So the main question is.... Can I help you save your marriage?
Orrrrrrr

Your mind is already made up?

Dis girl does not look like someone dat have sense Sha
See nonsense comment

Myhusband:
are all your generation living abroad? if no that means they're insane human as put it


how can you be in abroad and still lack common sense. I'm beginning to believe you're in one village in east hiding under your itel phone because you can't be abroad and be dumb, it's rare

People like beautyaddy are wat my guys call akate of once every 5 years, we know dem. Wen people dey move enta naija monthly and come back to Yankee, these ones dat can only afford trip every 5 years will be making noise.

Don't mind her

cococandy:
If you don’t have at least 20 million resting in your account in Nigeria, someone doing menial job here is financially better than you.

Loretta stop embarrassing your parents and siblings.Do any of them have 20 million in their account back in naija?
You talk too much

Toks2008:
In the days of our mothers when marriage had great value and respect, women don't wait to fall in love before they marry any man but they marry first and grow to respect and appreciate the man with full submission...in fact women had no business with feelings of love but only one thing was vital to them....RAISING THEIR CHILDREN and ironically, they rarely depend on the man to help them achieve this and the only basic thing they needed the men for was satisfying their sexual needs even when the men were perceived to be overly demanding for conjugation and polygamous in nature.

Fast forward to the present-day.... Women what to be sure they have feelings for the man before they even date him, they want to be sure he loves them, they want gender equality, a man that will remain faithful to them, a man that can take care of them financially and in most cases, it ends in heartbreak with a resultant negative effect on the children that ought to be their main priority.

What is my point?

The present-day woman has changed the concept of marriage as created by GOD cos they are not ready to submit to their husbands as the women of old did and as instructed by GOD thereby making the institution unattractive. A woman has no business with loving any man or developing any feelings for a man before she marries him...the most important thing to look out for is if the man is responsible enough to be respected and be a father to her kids... in fact many of us wouldn't have been born by our mothers if they did not set their priorities right and if they hinged their marital happiness on their husbands actions or inaction.

The joy and priority of any lady should be herself and her kids but should never be hinged on what the man does with his life. Even if he is the philandering type you can simply switch him in your mind from a husband figure to a booty call without the need of you leaving your marriage to start looking for an imaginary faithful man...(You can do this...its a thing of the mind)

A lady should bring to the world the number of children she can conveniently cater to without the help of the man. And when the kids come, she should focus on raising her kids and make sure she is financially independent to do this without the man's help.

Your main priority as a woman in this one life you have is not to love a man or worry your head over a man loving you or being faithful to you. Your number one duty is to be the best you can be, bring forth and raise a GOD loving generation..If you are a lady nearing menopause and you are still single, look for a responsible sperm donor to have a kid with as long as he is willing to be a father to your kids and live a happy life...that you are a single mum will never stop a man from desiring you...don't allow menopause catch up on you whilst waiting to get married.

Hope this makes sense.

Kai you stupid sha. All this plenty writings and you end up asking hope it make sense.

Mumu e no make one single sense

midnighter:
Hahaha

I am talking what the healthy standard is and not speaking from experience since this guy is looking for comparisons

But u have swallow before sha

MedicH:
Lol oshe baddest. Pocohontas the cheerful giver. Jesus loves you sister...

Fine boy dont pass dat girl front and remain the same

Guest007:
You are right. I am a female and I created the thread for the ladies so men aren't my target audience.
Unconditional love is the goal but we should first work from the ground up... You seem to hold cutting edge beliefs but others are riding lower than that. I am struggling with unconditional love so I can't be a hypocrite and preach it to others, if you can (minus hypocrisy) then thats some leading edge stuff... Well done.

Taking a bullet can be figurative and it can be literal depending on where you have placed this person in your priorities and ranks. In our reality, right now, we have to earn that position sadly because not everyone is equal in their spiritual evolution (for lack of a better word) and therefore we need to display our worth in terms of sacrifice and struggle.

You can't do zero inner work and demand unconditional love... I'm confusing myself, let me stop before I add you join.

Are you worthy or not

midnighter:
I heard it some years ago but I cant remember where I got it from

It should be true because semen has some natural sugars in it

You lie
Is there something wrong in admitting that you swallow sometimes? I know that Pocohantas does

johnmba:
Read my post. We don't care how much he earns. We want our brother back.

Na by force? Leave the man alone

sisisioge:
Dont lose your grace donkey! Now stay outta my mention!

Stay sexy my black beauty

Octopusssy:
See the jagajaga office sef

Shut up. As if you never begin imagine yourself on top the boy

sisisioge:


Oga troublemaker... No let anything stick o. See how easily the matter got resolved

I sha go love to eat you up one day

cococandy:
i think it’s acquired taste so I can’t say it’s not delicious.

It’s definitely not sweet. But Americans seem to like it.

You are definitely not an acquired taste baby. Just one taste of you and I was addicted

sisisioge:
Wow! Sense no go kill you! Why didn't I think of the bolded? OP...see how God has vindicated you at last! Please forgive all my talks...just follow at bolded to resolve this matter. God be praised!

Baby

pocohantas:
What else will I use you for?

MedicH this girl want you, na so she take dey start her hunt for nairaland. But be careful, the number of boys for nairaland Wey don enter in between her legs many wella.

Poco is a cheerful giver, just fine and get small money to show working.

pocohantas:
Bring assurance first, I know you are capable.

No be only capable, see boy Wey una senior dey wear leather jacket of 2.3mil yet you and ornicus will not keep quiet with your change on this nairaland.
Kai, nothing we no go see for here

Beverlypie:
The level of hatred and bitterness from some girls on this forum is highly disturbing, do you know u can read and just follow the thread without commenting if u’ve gat no clue about the subject matter..... u will learn more when u listen more and speak less.....

Why do you have to be so hateful of someone u know nothing or little about because of their choice of a partner ? Isn’t it about time we learn to respect people’s decision. I’m beginning to question the age bracket of most girls on this forum..... if u have so much hatred for your Nigerian men then marry a fellow woman abi?
Unfortunately most of these girl can’t even hold a meaningful convo for 5 minutes in real life.

I have read people saying I don’t have control of my wages or she doesn’t want to have my baby and shits like that. Where in the write up did u read that.?

I have female friends from other African countries and I can honestly say their reasoning is abit different

I’m not trying to disrespect anybody, I respect the few hardworking Nigeria ladies out there. Who are good wife, partner and mothers...

Most white ladies will choose to keep a pregnancy from broke boyfriends or even a one night stand and become a single mom. Whereas some of u ranting here have aborted several times for your Alhaji, chiefs, yahoo boys,pastors and even long time boy friend just because u hoping for a richer guy or because u don’t want to suffer with him. Only a tiny proportion of white ladies will do that. And that’s why we still appreciate their honesty and would marry them anyday.

When I met my wife, I was a struggling final year University student. She loved me for who I was and not what I had. Whereas my long time Naija babe had just broken up with me because of a 2k BBM subscription. Today by the grace of God, I can give out a car without thinking twice and do u think I have any regret about the decision I made several years ago?. Absolutely ‘NO’.
My advise to fellow Naija brothers is to be smart and go for whatever is more promising.

I’ve picked up my answers from the meaningful comments...,, and thanks to everyone who had taken the precious time to say meaningful things here.

Baba don vex. See leave these chics and do you, try to sort out your home. Nothing dey hapen

sisisioge:
Hmmm...sounds cute.

The other time a certain jakande who openly fought with people and even created a thread about beating his gf to stupor liked me. Now you, the town square trouble maker is liking me. Hmmm...dont you think I need to especially pray about the kind of guys that like me? And I am well behaved o

Change your ways for the kingdom of God is eminent!

sisisioge:


Biko no start with me o...I no get money, neither am I showing off. Military schools are government owned thus cheap.

Had nothing to do with your comment jor, just felt like singing for you
I like you, I really like you.

sisisioge:
Well...if I were you, I would enroll her in a military boarding school. I can't fit shout biko. Whew!

Sisi ego, sisi owo,
promise you'll never leave me alone,
I am for you as you are for me ahh ahh,
Promise you'll never leave me alone.

yeyeosoronga:
Nigerian women wear hair whether braids, natural afro wigs, oyibo hair wigs, dreadlocks etc. They do it to
1. Change their looks depending on their mood- rasta today, braids tomorrow, oyibo hair next, afro wigs next or even their own natural hair. They are generally highly fashionable and explore different styles. It becomes a problem only it you must have oyibo hair/wig on you. Our foremothers have been using thread, wool on their hair since time immemorial
2. Wigs are protective of your hair, and allows it to rest from the braiding, carrying it natural and combing/styling it everyday etc.
Those are really genuine reasons Nigerian women wear different styles.
Other reasons which are stupid imo
3. Peer pressure
4. Self hate because they feel their hair is not beautiful on them. These ones will rather die than be seen in their natural hair. They can't even allow you see their hair plaited under the wig.
5. etc

I wish we could continue this discussion, but I really have to leave NL now. It can be sooo distracting and I have a lot to do right now...

Lol, see how you are coming up with reasons trying to defend self-hate in women. My dear self-hate manifests in many different ways.
The naija guys you ladies are laughing at for doing what they have to do to get their families out of poverty have nothing on the majority of naija girls and women who want to behave, dress, talk, and act like whitey.
All of una Na the same boat & hypocrisy is explaining away one gender while making fun of the other.

Vyolet:
Meanwhile, OP, this just made fp, awon team foreign women

Try comot for your village and come out here make you see enough naija boyz rolling with sexy white puccies