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nairalandposter:
I mind my own business instead of watching what other people do in their homes as long as they are not committing a legally prosecutable crime.

All I'm saying is, it doesn't concern me.

Do whatever you feel is good for your kids without mentioning or referencing me.

Low budget Tpia

ifyalways:
I have dievorced Dayo since he stopped taking me to amala joint and changed his name to raumdeuter . How can i enjoy my egunfe knowing my bobos name is ram whatever. I chose my amala over him. Period.

I like that Mercy Chinko nyash o and im happy to know she won although i did not see that coming. I hope that this win takes her off the streets and she becomes a woman of her own .

What about your ex lover r231

Beverlypie:
Hi N’landers.

This is a new moniker for privacy reasons. Pls I would really appreciate some mature advise, well I know it won’t come without criticism or abuse either.

I’ve been in an interracial marriage for a few yrs now(actually less than 5yrs). I won’t give exact figures just to remain anonymous. It’s started as a long distance relationship which lasted for about 3-4 yrs before we finally met and got married. She’s been everything in the world to me ever since our relationship started.
She believed in me and trusted me despite the stereotype about Naija people, peoples comments and what comes up in the news daily about us.

We got married in Naija and few months after our marriage, I migrated to live with her and we’ve been living together ever since then.

But things haven’t been too rosy since we’ve gotten together, it’s always been ups and downs just like every other relationship. Our culture clashed several times.

We are a few years apart with her being on the high side even though u can’t really guess the difference. And that caused a bit of insecurities and false accusations towards me even though there was not tangible evidence against me, as I have always been faithful to her..

Then came in a little bit of jealousy when I got my first job, it escalated into financial disputes and family feud as I don’t really have the best relationship with her kids... but they have a good relationship with their father and they spend time with him always. I never get into any arguments with them or treat them badly.I just don’t have a deep connection with them because in my own word, I find them disrespectful and abit lazy. But still do the necessity for them.

After I got a job, I wanted to save up to repay my loans, to have another qualification and also to establish myself in a foreign land. But with that being said, my priority was my share of the house bills which I was paying about 50% for the 4 of us in the house as the kids are still in school.

The arguments never seems to end, from money issue, to personal issues. Even to the extent that she would call me different names. Called me scammer and all sorts even though she knew I can never scam anybody. She became really abusive and maybe toxic that I went into mild depression and anxiety as she was all I had here when I came. I wanted to end the relationship and move on but I really love her and she’s gone through a lot with me. I didn’t want to give up on her so fast because I know deep down she loves me and wanted our Marriage to work.

My conscience won’t just let me walk out, but there was no progress.... one minute we’re sweet lovers the next minute we might be yelling at each other.

She knows my pay rate but still tell people I was not honest because she doesn’t see my payslips, I felt like most of the time she’s playing the victims card.
She doesn’t support the idea of me having a side savings to pursue my careers or whatever. But she wasn’t against it 100% either

We don’t have any kid together even though we both dreamt about it but unfortunately our chances of having kids is gently fading away....but she never see it as a big deal, even though I explained what having own kids means to us in Africa.

She always tell me to leave the house at every provocation then turn around and say she didn’t mean it for me to leave. I’ve recently moved out just to be happy again, I still miss her and she’s regret her actions and been begging to come back. All the sweet memories of us still plays in my head. But I really don’t know if going back into that house is a wise decision.
She’s got a very beautiful heart but unfortunately her emotions gets hold of her most of the time.

Please people who have gone through separation or divorce, how did u handle living without someone who has been a big part of your life for so long.

This man. So you neva still sabi how to manipulate oyibo wife after all this time
You need tutorials?

joy199:
The truth is that most men who are always coming for me are divorcee, the single guys just want to play around and I'm not ready for that �. Thanks for your advice. I appreciate.

What is it about you that keeps attracting divorcees?

cococandy:
There’s evidence against him already.
If he’s the same guy in that picture, there’s already video evidence against him.
You’re the one basing your conclusion on gender not fact.

Yes I’m a feminist. Is that supposed to be an insult?

Nwanne'm, since when?

cococandy:
As long as they want. It’s a personal something.

I want my second with you

cococandy:
Lmao. Why didn’t she relocate herself to yankee

Are you still in Maryland?

cococandy:
She should have definitely informed him. It goes without saying

Baby you're so sexy when you try to do a quick turn around. Love your mole

cococandy:
Punishing the turkey too?
What did the poor turkey do to deserve this?

What did poor me do to deserve you treating me like I don't exist

cococandy:
Do you know this particular lady and where you there when it happened?

He doesn't but I know you and I know you don't hold grudges, so why are you still punishing me after all these years

cococandy:
Don’t aspire to this Nigerians. It’s inhumane

It's inhumane what you are doing to me. How long will you continue to treat me like a leper

cococandy:
“We are all polygamous in nature”

I don’t know why she wasn’t honest about that to him instead of telling plenty stories.

Why won't you be honest with me and tell me how we became enemies?
I miss you

cococandy:
Pray and submit to nonsense.
Red pant and bra while watching war room.

Stay calm and accept the outside women.

Then calmly collect the outside dickk.

Peace and love.

Must you fight all the time. Leave these people to their foolishness

cococandy:


So she shouldn’t have involved third party when he he was beating her?
The beatings were confidential abi?
Anu

Are you just going to keep ignoring me?