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Am at a critical situation right now and I always feel depressed when I wake up from bed due to some shocking revelations I got three days ago
Am totally confused right now and Am at the middle of the river ,I don't knoe if I should go on or look back.

The single mother of 2 whom i met some months ago who told me that her husband was dead when I first met her in her residence in which I saw the 2 kids one is 10 years and the other is 3 years .

I suspected foul play in her words when I asked her to show me the pictures of her dead husband she told me that she deleted it in other not to remember the past and I believed her .

We have really gone far in the relationship like 6 months now and any time I asked her about her husband she always tells me he is late .
So this last week Saturday I saw her Facebook password where she wrote it and I logged in on my phone without her consent so I started checking the Facebook messages one after the other
..THO she passed the Infidelity test as she always told guys that chat her to stay clear that she had a serios relationship already

So I proceed to check all her other messages and I discovered a conversation between her and her female friend where that one was asking her what happened between her and "SALAYE" which is a nickname of the person she is dating .
She replied in the message that they have departed since that she parked out of SALAYE house when he was giving her problem .

And she never discussed anything between her and someone bearing SALAYE with me before so I kept d secret and reserved it.

Meanwhile on Sunday she asked me for 5000 naira which I told her I don't have she become angry and came to chat me on Facebook asking for

Sammy101111:
Brother use your sense person way done born 2 kids before they test single guy lol
She just tested your brain to know how foolish you are to deceive . And she as seen you finish as a guy you are the one to give woman your terms and conditions not even to talk about a single mother of 2 testing you bro am disappointed in you Nigga .if a woman prank me with that shit it over . As she take test you na so she go take meet someone else give that one higher test follow am go leave you behind . Best thing to do is move one how can a single guy be chasing a mother 2 and she is superior over you dam Nigga you need to think of your life . I guess you are the guy holding the flower in the image

Am also a single father of 2....different baby mama bro

[quote author=donbachi post=123252700]As if she no go still get belle if you continue [/quot

What should I do sir

xpressionx:
For football match wey wan start with 2 goals down she still dey play ruff play.

I don't want to say she dokesn't have sense

What should I do sir

Helo nairanlders I think am getting tired of women now.
If you check my previous posts about this babe of mine a single mother of 2 whom I fell in love with 4 months ago on Facebook who told me last month that she got pregnant for Me.

I travelled to meet her 2 days ago because we were not in the same states .

I have already stamped it in my mind that she was saying the truth Av been preparing how to rush introduction with her family and mine and have told 2 of my closest friends about it and not until yesterday when we were having sex and suddenly blood gush out of her private part inwas shocked and surprised.
She used the tip of her finger to feel d blood from her private part and looked at my face I asked her what and she said she has been faking it to test me if I will be loyal to her or ask her to abort it that I just passed her test that she will love me forever and get married to me ..i was heartbroken why she would do such test on me ...she started laffing and told me she used it on her ex boyfriend that he failed and wanted to see if I.will do the same she said her ex boifrend transferred 30k immediately to her after telling him she is pregnant that she taught I wil do the same that she would just have chop the money and end the relationship that she just belive I love her ...me I don't like this kind of prank am fed up of the relationship for not trusting me despite all av done and sacrifice for her pls I need an urgent advise am so confused

Helo good moring all
I used Samsung android phone A02 though I do notice my files are fully loaded and I do delete some video or galleries at times for my whatsapp to perform daily backup .
But today while chatting I notice my phone went off and after I charge it and on it I discovered all my chat history are all gone 🙃 both messages, pictures, files files videos

I was so nervous and don't know what to do right now am confused please gurus can I ever recover my previous messages itnwas just today messages am.seeing righ lt now and have tried to uninstall and re install whatapp but same thing pls help me out .
Thanks All

Helo good moring all
I used Samsung android phone A02 though I do notice my files are fully loaded and I do delete some video or galleries at times for my whatsapp to perform daily backup .
But today while chatting I notice my phone went off and after I charge it and on it I discovered all my chat history are all gone 🙃 both messages, pictures, files files videos

I was so nervous and don't know what to do right now am confused please gurus can I ever recover my previous messages itnwas just today messages am.seeing righ lt now and have tried to uninstall and re install whatapp but same thing pls help me out .
Thanks All

falcon01:
how Much do you weigh? When did it start? Is it if you lay down after an activity or when you just lay down? Do you have difficulties breathing when you feel it? Do you feel pain?

Yes it makes my breathing somehow I weight 68
Yes I feel pain but later it will subdue

I i lie down I will be feeling incomfortable In my chest like they put load pls what's wrong with me

I have a solution and am very 100% sure it works immediately....have u heard of spidex 19.?

That thing is an infection the spidex 19 will brutally kill d infection...message me now on calisterjames2018@gmail.com

This sudden shock happened to someone I know
He was very hale and hearty and he went to bed after the normal day stress and activities but an hour to his sleep he started fighting for breath and was gasping till he breath his last breath ...

His death has left many of his friends and families in deep shock


There was never an health issue or complain till he died on last Thursday and his body has be deposited at the mortuary.


Please doctor in the house what causes sudden death of a health love ones ..we need more enlightenment on this for many people to learn from it

Some few weeks ago I posted here how my fb love a single mother of two and a widow I met on fb living far away from me had misunderstanding with me and seeking advise on what to do after wanting to return the solar and phone I gave her .
I was totally shocked when she called me about three days after I seek advise here that she fell sick and went for for pregnancy test and it came out positive I was shocked .
Now she is telling she want to flush it that she can't live it pls what should I do?

This is a lady that usually take postinor after series of sex with her but I don't knoe how it all happened she said she miss the dosage of the pill.

Pls I need a good advise what should I do

tesuto1:
How did you visit a lady 9times in a space of 4 months,sorry to ask,are u that jobless??

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Na wetin I wan go eat wey no make me get sense oooo


I gbadun the way she dey give me her back when I enter from d back.
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D tin too sweet my brother

I have never enjoy any woman toto in my life the way I enjoy her toto



Tho she was so nice wen am with her and she do behave gently if not for the issue shortly

Find a loyal girl In ur area make friends with benefits.

Danisbrosautos:
I will give you my opinion and use myself as an example.

First, you are not mature for bringing this issue to social media. I will never and have never involved a third party in my relationship. If he tire me I move on.. don't have time for such drama.

2. I see you ooze some form of pride bossy. She didn't greet you good morning? As what that you are? Lord and savior? If my woman don't greet me we laugh over it and yab each other. I don't even take note. I don't have such luxury time for such irrelevance. I'm discipline but not with pride.

3. You are petty. Grow up man and face more important things than staying idle arguing with a woman over irrelevant matter. You even shared matter she confided in you about going to mountain? Haba! Your partner secret should die with you.... I feel embarrassed on your behalf.

4. Until you learn how to take excesses of a woman, you are not ready for marriage yet. You both are two different people with different thinking pattern coming together.. it takes maturity and understanding with determined effort to make it work. I may be wrong but I feel whatever you are getting from her is what you are giving her. Garbage in garbage out!

Please don't describe her next time with all the tag of a single mom and if you see yourself as doing her a favor because she is a single mom, I will advise you end it and move on.

The problem is not what she did wrong. The problem is that you are broke and cranky and can't manage being broke! Same way people can't manage wealth is the same way alot of people can't manage tough times.

Not greeting shouldn't be your problem now, making money to be able to stand as a man should be your problem. Women love a manly man and not one who sobs and hold grudges around for days. What's there to tell her on phone why didn't she acknowledge the money sent and move on?

This is Month of May already.. almost half of the year. Buckle up and be "gingered".

I wish you all the best.

I really love ur counselling ..pls do me a favour I wouldn't mind getting ur digits .God bless sir

frozen70:
You are not yet stable, you want to add misery to yourself

What makes you think you can survive swimming with out a life jacket

She can't get what she wants from you base on the relationship

I am not talking about money, but you can't fit in

She was polite enough to tell that she is tired

Well I think you can leave those things for her

And move on

If it will work out, you guys will come back

But just respect yourself and end the relationship too

Tell her to sell those things and use the proceed to pay for the solar

If you are still with her phone, go with a friend and drop it for her and say final goodbye

Tho I have build house and I av a business am doing just that I was broke this period due to can scarcity and election period which adversely affected my work...I I av a lot of investment am looking unto...she was just never patient

Collins4u1:
You're not financially buoyant, and you want to take care of two kid that's not yours.

that woman go show u shege.

what do I know sef, I don't even have a gf

Yes but i have investments that can fetch me over 8 million naira in few months

[quote author=samwillyco1 post=122669199]What is your worth that you want to cater for three people from a start .

Reply her by taking your things in her possession and running away

Advice : Never Marry a single mother, she will never be happy with you. [/quote
Why ? Tell me reasons

emmaodet:
Why do you want to marry a single mother of 2 of all people?
Is that how low you are in the sexual market?
Are you that poor with no options?
A single man just starting his life spending his hard earned money to impress not even a single lady, not a single mother of 1 But a single mother of 2
Apooooooorr

Am also a single father of two

lereinter:
You are a funny man

Leave the solar with her, and man will finance it

When she send you phone send hers

Shikena

She has no man in her life...she is a beautiful lady but she has nothing and she vividly told me if she want to do olosho or hook up to survive she would av done it since but she decided not to mess around with men ..and sometimes whhen I visit her she took garri with the kids ...she is broke and even wen am with her she does not receive call from any man

maticar:
as a young man i see no reason to marry a single mother who has her own baggage

you can barely provide the 10k she asked for and you still want to wife her and how will you provide for her children and yours too?

leave single mothers for alhaji and chairmen them oooo

It was becos i loves her so much I don't even love a single lady that way she was just lucky and fortunate

lereinter:
You are a funny man

Leave the solar with her, and man will finance it

When she send you phone send hers

Shikena

Thanks jare

okerekingsley90:
Honestly you are a very stupid man for this question. Na you make me comment. I didn't want to say anything, but you are just so stupid.

Shut up

YorubaSamurai:
thunder fire you there..

animal

U be mumu

YorubaSamurai:
stupid op..
out of all the single girls around, na single mother with 2 children you see.
ode

What's your problem..wats wrong in single mother is it a sin? Oponu

efficiencie:
Ma guy this is a defining moment. This is the point where you become a houseboy till death do you part or a husband till death do you part. You did right by telling her you don't like it when she hangs up and you did right by not rushing to beg her like a fool, women hate men that do that and use their head like tissue paper.

Guy say nothing. Maintain your absolute silence. Collect all your belongings from her and return all her belongings to her. She will try to make you talk, maintain absolute silence. Block her everywhere but don't block her calls and text messages. If you act in this manner she will understand that you are not docile and subject to any female shenanigans.

Women have this secret respect for such men and often return to them but know this bro; people often lose what they are afraid of losing and people often gain what they are ready to let go.

Keep your feelings and passions in your pocket for now and be a man. You have done well by telling her what she can do and what she can't do so what you must do now is maintain total silence with respect to her, return her stuff, take back your stuff, block her on every social media and live your life. If she is yours, she will submit to you but if she refuses to submit to you let her go.

I really do appreciate this great advice. Bro that was my tot also once I start to act weak she will take advantage in the future..I allow the man in me to remain

Sbfplus:
In my opinion, she might be putting you through a test. You can only pass the test if you're yourself.
Visit her and try to sort things out with her.
In relationship, you need to define some dos and don't earlier. This will be a guarding manual to the relationship.
Best of luck!

Thanks bro

priceactionx:
Don't reply her again. If she calls, don't pick it too. If you eventually pick, don't reply her the way to make you look weak. After that, cut the phone on her. You are the boss. You are allowing her to boss you around. It will get worse if you marry her. The signs are there.
If she insists that you should come and pick your items , collect them with all gladness and return her things. Any woman that you even test with small things, and not appreciative will do worse soon. Let her source for her self .
By the way , did you ever found out what killed her ex husband? These are the type of questions you supposed find answers to before bulging in any relationship with a married woman...If not, I pity you eh...they do love is blind there until it leads you to a journey of no return. Just saying though.

Thanks a lot .that is it ...when i asked what killed d husband she just told me it was an attack

Should I reply the message or just overlook it pls advise

Benjaniblinks:
What a shame 😪😪

Shame as how

Gboom:
Single mother without reasonable means of livelihood is a burden to the man dating, cohabiting or marrying her.

I know a man presently; he is confused because he allowed a single mother of 3 to be cohabiting with him and he has done some things for her to leave but she is adamant. The guy in question is also afraid of dragging her out forcefully because, the lady's father is an herbalist.

@OP, your situation is even better than the one I stated above, please try and do away with her to have peace and as per you've done for her, just count them as a loss

Tanks but pls ...how should I react to her
Mesages

suckmedownthere:
Leave the phone or anything to her that's not your problem if she ask, try to give her sometime or breathing space and she will either come back to you or forget about your love, the love has to be 50 50 or you will be taken for granted....... E go be like say love they shak you...... And try and go to places you find other nice and beautiful women then she will be in 10th place fighting to be first place like she used to be.......

Thanks I really appreciate your advice