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tesuto1:
How did you visit a lady 9times in a space of 4 months,sorry to ask,are u that jobless??

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Na wetin I wan go eat wey no make me get sense oooo


I gbadun the way she dey give me her back when I enter from d back.
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D tin too sweet my brother

I have never enjoy any woman toto in my life the way I enjoy her toto



Tho she was so nice wen am with her and she do behave gently if not for the issue shortly

Find a loyal girl In ur area make friends with benefits.

Danisbrosautos:
I will give you my opinion and use myself as an example.

First, you are not mature for bringing this issue to social media. I will never and have never involved a third party in my relationship. If he tire me I move on.. don't have time for such drama.

2. I see you ooze some form of pride bossy. She didn't greet you good morning? As what that you are? Lord and savior? If my woman don't greet me we laugh over it and yab each other. I don't even take note. I don't have such luxury time for such irrelevance. I'm discipline but not with pride.

3. You are petty. Grow up man and face more important things than staying idle arguing with a woman over irrelevant matter. You even shared matter she confided in you about going to mountain? Haba! Your partner secret should die with you.... I feel embarrassed on your behalf.

4. Until you learn how to take excesses of a woman, you are not ready for marriage yet. You both are two different people with different thinking pattern coming together.. it takes maturity and understanding with determined effort to make it work. I may be wrong but I feel whatever you are getting from her is what you are giving her. Garbage in garbage out!

Please don't describe her next time with all the tag of a single mom and if you see yourself as doing her a favor because she is a single mom, I will advise you end it and move on.

The problem is not what she did wrong. The problem is that you are broke and cranky and can't manage being broke! Same way people can't manage wealth is the same way alot of people can't manage tough times.

Not greeting shouldn't be your problem now, making money to be able to stand as a man should be your problem. Women love a manly man and not one who sobs and hold grudges around for days. What's there to tell her on phone why didn't she acknowledge the money sent and move on?

This is Month of May already.. almost half of the year. Buckle up and be "gingered".

I wish you all the best.

I really love ur counselling ..pls do me a favour I wouldn't mind getting ur digits .God bless sir

frozen70:
You are not yet stable, you want to add misery to yourself

What makes you think you can survive swimming with out a life jacket

She can't get what she wants from you base on the relationship

I am not talking about money, but you can't fit in

She was polite enough to tell that she is tired

Well I think you can leave those things for her

And move on

If it will work out, you guys will come back

But just respect yourself and end the relationship too

Tell her to sell those things and use the proceed to pay for the solar

If you are still with her phone, go with a friend and drop it for her and say final goodbye

Tho I have build house and I av a business am doing just that I was broke this period due to can scarcity and election period which adversely affected my work...I I av a lot of investment am looking unto...she was just never patient

Collins4u1:
You're not financially buoyant, and you want to take care of two kid that's not yours.

that woman go show u shege.

what do I know sef, I don't even have a gf

Yes but i have investments that can fetch me over 8 million naira in few months

[quote author=samwillyco1 post=122669199]What is your worth that you want to cater for three people from a start .

Reply her by taking your things in her possession and running away

Advice : Never Marry a single mother, she will never be happy with you. [/quote
Why ? Tell me reasons

emmaodet:
Why do you want to marry a single mother of 2 of all people?
Is that how low you are in the sexual market?
Are you that poor with no options?
A single man just starting his life spending his hard earned money to impress not even a single lady, not a single mother of 1 But a single mother of 2
Apooooooorr

Am also a single father of two

lereinter:
You are a funny man

Leave the solar with her, and man will finance it

When she send you phone send hers

Shikena

She has no man in her life...she is a beautiful lady but she has nothing and she vividly told me if she want to do olosho or hook up to survive she would av done it since but she decided not to mess around with men ..and sometimes whhen I visit her she took garri with the kids ...she is broke and even wen am with her she does not receive call from any man

maticar:
as a young man i see no reason to marry a single mother who has her own baggage

you can barely provide the 10k she asked for and you still want to wife her and how will you provide for her children and yours too?

leave single mothers for alhaji and chairmen them oooo

It was becos i loves her so much I don't even love a single lady that way she was just lucky and fortunate

lereinter:
You are a funny man

Leave the solar with her, and man will finance it

When she send you phone send hers

Shikena

Thanks jare

okerekingsley90:
Honestly you are a very stupid man for this question. Na you make me comment. I didn't want to say anything, but you are just so stupid.

Shut up

YorubaSamurai:
thunder fire you there..

animal

U be mumu

YorubaSamurai:
stupid op..
out of all the single girls around, na single mother with 2 children you see.
ode

What's your problem..wats wrong in single mother is it a sin? Oponu

efficiencie:
Ma guy this is a defining moment. This is the point where you become a houseboy till death do you part or a husband till death do you part. You did right by telling her you don't like it when she hangs up and you did right by not rushing to beg her like a fool, women hate men that do that and use their head like tissue paper.

Guy say nothing. Maintain your absolute silence. Collect all your belongings from her and return all her belongings to her. She will try to make you talk, maintain absolute silence. Block her everywhere but don't block her calls and text messages. If you act in this manner she will understand that you are not docile and subject to any female shenanigans.

Women have this secret respect for such men and often return to them but know this bro; people often lose what they are afraid of losing and people often gain what they are ready to let go.

Keep your feelings and passions in your pocket for now and be a man. You have done well by telling her what she can do and what she can't do so what you must do now is maintain total silence with respect to her, return her stuff, take back your stuff, block her on every social media and live your life. If she is yours, she will submit to you but if she refuses to submit to you let her go.

I really do appreciate this great advice. Bro that was my tot also once I start to act weak she will take advantage in the future..I allow the man in me to remain

Sbfplus:
In my opinion, she might be putting you through a test. You can only pass the test if you're yourself.
Visit her and try to sort things out with her.
In relationship, you need to define some dos and don't earlier. This will be a guarding manual to the relationship.
Best of luck!

Thanks bro

priceactionx:
Don't reply her again. If she calls, don't pick it too. If you eventually pick, don't reply her the way to make you look weak. After that, cut the phone on her. You are the boss. You are allowing her to boss you around. It will get worse if you marry her. The signs are there.
If she insists that you should come and pick your items , collect them with all gladness and return her things. Any woman that you even test with small things, and not appreciative will do worse soon. Let her source for her self .
By the way , did you ever found out what killed her ex husband? These are the type of questions you supposed find answers to before bulging in any relationship with a married woman...If not, I pity you eh...they do love is blind there until it leads you to a journey of no return. Just saying though.

Thanks a lot .that is it ...when i asked what killed d husband she just told me it was an attack

Should I reply the message or just overlook it pls advise

Benjaniblinks:
What a shame 😪😪

Shame as how

Gboom:
Single mother without reasonable means of livelihood is a burden to the man dating, cohabiting or marrying her.

I know a man presently; he is confused because he allowed a single mother of 3 to be cohabiting with him and he has done some things for her to leave but she is adamant. The guy in question is also afraid of dragging her out forcefully because, the lady's father is an herbalist.

@OP, your situation is even better than the one I stated above, please try and do away with her to have peace and as per you've done for her, just count them as a loss

Tanks but pls ...how should I react to her
Mesages

suckmedownthere:
Leave the phone or anything to her that's not your problem if she ask, try to give her sometime or breathing space and she will either come back to you or forget about your love, the love has to be 50 50 or you will be taken for granted....... E go be like say love they shak you...... And try and go to places you find other nice and beautiful women then she will be in 10th place fighting to be first place like she used to be.......

Thanks I really appreciate your advice

Queendera:
bros no mind this one o.

Please go and collect your things. Not showing gratitude is disgusting regardless of the gender.

Your mama no born u to slave for another person. Please go and collect your things and lock up

Thanks sir

harqinhola:
What question did you ask her to answer ?

She sent me a message to pay for d solar power for that week and she did not greet to say Good morin .so I ask her why she did not greet me ..that was when she sent the message

Even 3 days before then ..she ask me to send 10k I told her am broke and I manage to send her 3k ..she never say thank u or acknowledge the money till now

Good afternoon dear romancelanders,
My lover girl I met on Facebook just 4 months relationship of knowing each other sent me a shocking message to me on Facebook last night .
She is a single mother of two who lost her husband 3 years ago and when I met her I let her know that won't be a barrier that I will marry her with the 2 children and she agreed. Tho it was a long distance relationship and since we dated have travelled to meet her 9 times while she visited once and when she came she had to drop the children with her elder sister.
Three days ago we had little misunderstanding she cut phone on me I called her back never to try such on me and after that call she never call me for 2 days unlike before she calls regularly and I never call her too and she sent this to me last night what should I do ?

Though have not replied her or call her since that yesterday night.

Please someone with wisdom should advise me what to reply her ..tho I love her and I don't want to loose her ..but she offended me by dropping phone on me and she never say sorry before sending me this screenshot message

I bought easy buy solar for her which we are paying small small and also her phone get screen problems and I collect it to repair for her and I gave her my second phone Samsung to be using and is still with her that was what she meant that I should come and collect all what I did for her in that screenshot mesaage


This is someone that told me she has been going to the mountain to pray for husband that will stay in her life for the past 3 years ooooo

Please define what u mean by real man?


Are u a real woman too?

bonnez:
You no get ya own house? Why are you always in her own house?

I tire o

She only came once..she went to drop th children somewhere and she said is not convenient for her

MrBrownJay1:
does she hide you from the neighbor's wife too?

Yes she does

MrBrownJay1:
does the above happens when ANY neighbour is around or just that man?!

It was 4 flat but she and the neibor in that compound

zed7:
Are you a toddler? Only toddlers are easily deceived.

How sir

Patented:
if you value your peace of mine. you either demand to be introduced to the Man as who you are or you should just walk away.
my inner mind says walk away sha

Thanks sir

UnusualEmissary:
Do whatever you can to make her open up to you about the REAL reason why she hides you from that particular man.

Or try finding out through other means

Ok thanks for your advice like which means can I take

Good afternoon romancelanders .
My name is segun am 39 years old in relationship with a 34 year old lady living far from me in another state in South West here
She is a single mother of 2 and she is a widow ,she lost her husband 4 years ago and am a single father of two as well so I met her on Facebook and she told me all about her and we both accepted to date each other since I met this lady she has been so caring and romantic and all that but what is giving me concern is that there is this her particular neighbour leaving In her flat in the Same compound.
The neignor is a married man with 2 kids and living with his wife but he live upstairs while she stay downstairs so whenever I visited this lady and the neighbour Is around she will shut me up and tell me to be talking silently and moreso if i want to make calls at times and am talking she will run to where I am and cover my mouth with her hand that she don't want her neighbour to hear me that she does not want them to know that she harbour a man in the house .
I felt so worried and concerned so one day I sat her down and ask her if there is something BTW her and the man she said no that even the man is a pastor that she just don't want then to see her with any man now and I ask her why she said if I Bleep up later that to bring another man again to the house will be a shame for her and that is the only reason but I find it hard to believe and it kept me wondering.
Because sometimes ladies might be funny and what amazed me most is that the people beside her shop around that area already knows me with her as her fiancee but just this only one neighbour she is hiding me from and this last weekend I went there ,we both hold our hands and strolling out on the street when she sighted her neighbour car coming towards us she immediately drop my hand left me and run to hide beside a tree .I was like what's the meaning of all these that are they the one feeding you..she said no that she just don't want them to see her with any man for now and she have vowed to me that there is no relationship BTW her .am tired and am suspecting something funny but I need advice should I stop this relationship for now till I found out or I should continue am so tired and disgusted about this attitude please give me good advise and no insult plsss

Weknowbetter:
You can't raise your kids but want to raise somebody else's? You'll regret it

How? Pls throw more light