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RomanceRe: .h by saweide(op): 3:59am On Apr 03, 2023
SPRINCE001:
Why not focus on your two kids, Raise them well give them best life and maybe later in the future you can then choose to have a wife.

Why putting your neck into something that will later backfire. 20k each weekend you visit.

Why not spend these money on your kids and yourself growth, Must you Knack for now? If yes why not get a side chick instead
I tot as much ..thanks so much for advise
RomanceRe: .h by saweide(op): 3:58am On Apr 03, 2023
Ynix:
You are mentally not ready for marriage. Since you already have kids outside of wedlock I will advise you push your energy into become a high valuable person.
If you can fix your mind and yourself then getting married won't be a issue.
Focus on developing yourself and not looking for a woman to complete you
Thanks I appreciate
Romance.h by saweide(op):
Nn
CrimeRe: Man Impregnates 19-yr-old Daughter, Threatens To Kill Her In Ogun (pix) by saweide: 6:21pm On Mar 26, 2023
This is an abominable act
He really deserves to die by hanging idiot
It shall not be well with u ..
He is under a spell
RomanceRe: Lawyer Shares Before And After Photos Of Herself by saweide: 6:56pm On Mar 21, 2023
Women change your bad ways ..am sure you are not humble and not making your husband happy or u disrespect him ....if u love a man u won't pack out of the house and you are here bragging about your transformation. Do u kno u could have been more transformed if you are under the roof of man..it shall not be well with you for leaving that man alone ..Oloriburuku oshi
HealthRe: I Am Too Sexually Active And Don't Come On Time, Is This Normal? Pls Advise by saweide(op): 10:22am On Mar 16, 2023
Berrityga:
Lemme not lie I experience same thing, I've lost many good girls cause of it. The worst part is that I nor may get bruises most times I have sex cause of the longevity. My present girl is always scared of my sex. She says I'm always pounding her hard and I don't release fast. I started drinking king sugary stuffs but e no dey work. You see that drink called action bitters God go punish the people wey do am. Two weeks ago one new babe wey I just dey guide cause her family hold bar. Run from my house with her cloths in her hands. She literally wore her cloths outside my house. After she left she blocked me. Sometimes I ask God if my prick is a blessing or a course.
Wow I do take action bitters too...is that the cause
HealthI Am Too Sexually Active And Don't Come On Time, Is This Normal? Pls Advise by saweide(op): 9:43am On Mar 16, 2023
Good moring everyone in the house please I need a medical advise to know if I need to see a doctor.

My name is segun I reside somewhere in lagos.
Please I need advise and no insult please.
I noticed that am too sexually active these days.

I operate a long distance relationship and anytime I visited my girlfriend for like 4 days I noticed I have sex with her moring afternoon and night and most times I go up to 45 minutes to an hour sex after the first come, I find It hard to come on second round and I go up to 45 minutes to an hour before she will cry for tiredness and it causes fight like she will tell me its OK but yet am not satisfied.

I do moring afternoon and night and even at midnight I don't allow her sleep, even my last relationships ladies complain too much of my longterm sexual drive and is giving me concern.

Tho my cucumber is not big is at medium size but if I handle a woman they always scream for help after my long sexual activity.

There was a time I went an hour marathon sex on my woman I nearly fainted that day because have exhausted all my energy.

Please should i see a doctor or there is a pill I can take? I shall appreciate you all for Good advise.

Thanks all.
PoliticsRe: Peter Obi Celebres Olusegun Obasanjo On His 86th Birthday (Photo) by saweide: 8:46am On Mar 06, 2023
mmadu5:
peter obi better is more active and full of life than tinubu . it shall never be well with all of you that voted lifeless dead man


Yoruba people have shown that they don't want the progress of Nigeria nor do they like Igbo's . this election has shown that
It shall never be well with u in this life...in ur whole useless life
Romance. by saweide(op):
Good Morin nairalanders,
RomanceRe: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide(op): 8:27pm On Dec 21, 2016
aameyah:
Oh puhleez! The name is Aameyah. Double A, you olodo.
Now back to you because this is not about my submissiveness or lack of.wink

I can see you are seriously pained that you had to quote me twice (truth hurts). See who is dishing out advice about homes. Do you have a home yourself? Is it not the one a woman is managing to help you build that you are throwing away for a paltry 100k?tongue
Just take a deep look at your sorry life and make amends. Else, na baby papa you go everly be....
aameyah you are one of the disrespectful and nagging woman we are talking about.. If u can abuse someone husband in this forum then it shows how u wud behave to ur husband.. Get life

This story is shared to learn one or two things
RomanceRe: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide(op): 1:16pm On Dec 21, 2016
daniel56:
I think u should send her message, and use another line to chat with her, b4 u start ask her for forgiveness, and tell her some part of ur story, tell her to meet u to get all d story, send that lady away, if u want d lady u love.
Thanks boss
RomanceRe: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide(op): 12:11pm On Dec 21, 2016
aameyah:
You men and kalo kalo (cheating nature).
Just look at you and at how you painted her the devil while you are the angel. angry angry
She is abusive. She nags. She is not submissive. She disrespects your mum. She goes through your phone at night. She does this, she does that. Shuoo. Only you! shocked

From this your whiney post, you sound like a nagging, immature boy filled with bitterness and complaints. It is so obvious you are the one with the issue. Yelz!!

First year, you never knew she was like this. Second. Third. Fourth. Bros, where you blind? Or simply because you have seen a fresh chick that wants to give you 100k (cheap gigolo like you, selling his soul for 100k when your mates are putting 500k into MMM as spare change tongue).

You are in what you claim is a committed relationship yet you chat up random girls after chasing away her own male friends, getting her pregnant and reducing her desirability in a highly saturated love market.
Put yourself in her shoes. Would you fold your hands while she chats a guy who wants to "invest" money in her business? Won't you accuse her of promiscuity? Ehn, broda sege the angel?
Would you fold your hands and watch her sell herself for a paltry change (as you are doing) and watch 5years go down the drain? (Even though you are not worth it, you are still the father of her child and half bread is better than non). undecided undecided

In fact you are lucky she only goes through your phone at night. She hasn't poured you hot water while sleeping and run away with the baby after clearing the house down to nothing. That is why you have the mouth to proclaim love to this your 100k lady. tongue tongue
ameyah or what do u call ursef ?
Am not surprised at all...
Is this how u behave too?
U better change ur lifestyle
A woman who does not submit herself can never have a home
RomanceRe: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide(op): 12:09pm On Dec 21, 2016
aameyah:
You men and kalo kalo (cheating nature).
Just look at you and at how you painted her the devil while you are the angel. angry angry
She is abusive. She nags. She is not submissive. She disrespects your mum. She goes through your phone at night. She does this, she does that. Shuoo. Only you! shocked

From this your whiney post, you sound like a nagging, immature boy filled with bitterness and complaints. It is so obvious you are the one with the issue. Yelz!!

ameyah or what do u call ursef ?
Am not surprised at all...
Is this how u behave too?
U better change ur lifestyle
A woman who does not submit herself can never have a home

First year, you never knew she was like this. Second. Third. Fourth. Bros, where you blind? Or simply because you have seen a fresh chick that wants to give you 100k (cheap gigolo like you, selling his soul for 100k when your mates are putting 500k into MMM as spare change tongue).

You are in what you claim is a committed relationship yet you chat up random girls after chasing away her own male friends, getting her pregnant and reducing her desirability in a highly saturated love market.
Put yourself in her shoes. Would you fold your hands while she chats a guy who wants to "invest" money in her business? Won't you accuse her of promiscuity? Ehn, broda sege the angel?
Would you fold your hands and watch her sell herself for a paltry change (as you are doing) and watch 5years go down the drain? (Even though you are not worth it, you are still the father of her child and half bread is better than non). undecided undecided

In fact you are lucky she only goes through your phone at night. She hasn't poured you hot water while sleeping and run away with the baby after clearing the house down to nothing. That is why you have the mouth to proclaim love to this your 100k lady. tongue tongue
RomanceRe: Thanks All For Ur Advice About My Nagging Wife To Be,,, Now See My Next Step Of by saweide(op): 12:01pm On Dec 21, 2016
3KINGZ18:
If u leave her what will happen to your child
I will never deny the innocent child
I have vowed to cast my responsibility even if we separate..
Schooling and feeding and other daily needs.
She will take the child along with her and I would be paying the money into her account monthly but we need to sit down and agree on that
RomanceRe: Thanks All For Ur Advice About My Nagging Wife To Be,,, Now See My Next Step Of by saweide(op): 11:39am On Dec 21, 2016
LorDBolton:
After reading this part of your epistle, I can't help but pity you.
Yes bro
What advice would u give me
RomanceRe: Thanks All For Ur Advice About My Nagging Wife To Be,,, Now See My Next Step Of by saweide(op): 11:30am On Dec 21, 2016
Treasuredlove:
See, go and sit down. You are no saint. The fact that she begged and agreed with you that she is "bad" might just be because she wants peace to reign. It shows her maturity. A man that can come out and call his woman different names in public without remorse is a stupid man. In fact, I think she should be the one running away from you. How have you even positively impacted her life? Have you tried setting something up for her and she used up all the money for makeup? Have you ever tried getting her a job and she told you she is not going to work? Grass is not greener from the other side. Build a woman and she will help you build mansions. Your case just dey annoy me, I dunno why. I don't like men that always transfer blame and never take responsibility for their actions or lack of it
Brother. Why u talking like this

The job she is doing now am proud to say it that I got it for her.... U are taking the story with sentiment
RomanceThanks All For Ur Advice About My Nagging Wife To Be,,, Now See My Next Step Of by saweide(op):
Hmmmm
Thank thank u all
After going through series of advise on my true life story i really got to know many things,,,,and I learnt a lot from u guys and on this aspect ,and I have realize my past mistakes too.
Nairaland is a very interesting forum and am glad to be part of it.
I personally does not have problem as most people that made a comment thinks
Not that am praising myself am very hardworking, industrious and have long term goals and I don't want a woman that will draw me back.
Due to distractions
I didn't mention the brain behind the 100k from the lady
I only mentioned to start business with the 100k.

This is the fact about it.

We both planned to invest in a particular business
She is not dashing or giving me the money is like am helping her to grow the money which in like 3 months time as we both agreed will yield a high profit

I have already on my own purse put 200k into the business.... And she agreed to give me the money and help her do the same but nevertheless that would also help the business.

The fact that I complained about my nagging wife to be does not mean I don't love her from the onset

I have endured the years due to my patience and humility,
But I took time to study her before I come up with those facts. Remember I said earlier that I have tried to wake her up in the mid of the night to talk to her and I takes her out in different occasions to make her happy but that didn't work




I don't know the other lady very well but still on the study

My nagging wife to be came to me yesterday
She was on her kneels crying and begging she would change.

She held me and her drop of tears fell in my body several times

Telling me she will change that she knows she has defaulted and disobeyed me for the past

She asked me to give her last chance.


She told me all those things she has been doing to me is as a result of spiritual welfare according to her belief


She told me she don't have where to go if I leave her and that she was been jealous that was why she reacted that way.

She even told me she called the other lady back and apologise to her for her action after spoiling the business for me.


Now she told me she was in the church yesterday to see a pastor to pray for her in order to change her behaviour and attitudes towards me


I am been factual that she is nagging and disrespectful which she accepted

Now my last question goes thus

Can I still leave with her despite all what av been through in the past as a result of her attitudes and the shame and languish she has brought upon me?

Secondly if I should count number of times she has offended and comes begging I don't think I wont be ever convinced to continue with the relationship .

If small fresh air enters her now she will continue her bad ways
She was only feeling remorse at the present time that this matter is hot I knew her very well .

She has done this for almost 55 times since we started the relationship.
The most painful and annoying part of it is that she does beg at the critical stage of any argument may be days after keeping malice.. She will never say sorry on the day of the argument.. She is so stubborn hearted



I have told her no going back but it seems that is the truth.

The character is natural in her and that is why she find difficult to change.


I have decided to see her family and discuss the issue of separating with them and I believe they can't force me
To marry her

I want guys to learn from my story

Always Watch before u leap .

.
At this point u want to thank fellow Romancelanders for their time to comment and also to those that insulted.

Thanks all
RomanceRe: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide(op): 9:42am On Dec 21, 2016
Hmmmm
Thank thank u all
After going through series of advise i really got to know many things,,,,and I learnt a lot from u guys and on this aspect
I personally does not have problem as most people that made a comment thinks
Not that am praising myself am very hardworking, industrious and have long term goals and I don't want a woman that will draw me back.
Due to distractions
I didn't mention the brain behind the 100k from the lady
I only mentioned to start business with the 100k.

This is the fact about it.

We both planned to invest in a particular business
She is not dashing or giving me the money is like am helping her to grow the money which in like 3 months time as we both agreed will yield a high profit

I have already on my own purse put 200k into the business.... And she agreed to give me the money and help her do the same but nevertheless that would also help the business.

The fact that I complained about my nagging wife to be does not mean I don't love her from the onset

I have endured the years due to my patience and humility,
But I took time to study her before I come up with those facts. Remember I said earlier that I have tried to wake her up in the mid of the night to talk to her and I takes her out in different occasions to make her happy but that didn't work




I don't know the other lady very well but still on the study

My nagging wife to be came to me yesterday
She was on her kneels crying and begging she would change.

She held me and her drop of tears fell in my body several times

Telling me she will change that she knows she has defaulted and disobeyed me for the past

She asked me to give her last chance.


She told me all those things she has been doing to me is as a result of spiritual welfare according to her belief


She told me she don't have where to go if I leave her and that she was been jealous that was why she reacted that way.

She even told me she called the other lady back and apologise to her for her action after spoiling the business for me.


Now she told me she was in the church yesterday to see a pastor to pray for her in order to change her behaviour and attitudes towards me


I am been factual that she is nagging and disrespectful which she accepted

Now my last question goes thus

Can I still leave with her despite all what av been through in the past as a result of her attitudes and the shame and languish she has brought upon me?

Secondly if I should count number of times she has offended and comes begging I don't think I wont be ever convinced to continue with the relationship .

If small fresh air enters her now she will continue her bad ways
She was only feeling remorse at the present time that this matter is hot I knew her very well .

She has done this for almost 55 times since we started the relationship.




I have told her no going back but it seems that is the truth.

The character is natural in her and that is why she find difficult to change.


I have decided to see her family and discuss the issue of separating with them and I believe they can't force me
To marry her

I want guys to learn from my story

Always Watch before u leap .

.
At this point u want to thank fellow Romancelanders for their time to comment and also to those that insulted.

Thanks all
RomanceRe: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide(op): 11:19pm On Dec 20, 2016
drealaz24:
Don't leave this girl. The girl still loves you and you can change her attitude with this current situation of things.

Firstly, this girl don't know that her actions were wrong. Thank God, u have shown her that several times.

Secondly, this girl loves you so much. She doesn't want to lose you. This is evident in that she can stay up in the night just to check ur phone to see if no one is snatching her husband away. once u start showing her some love and reassurances, she will definitely change.

my verdict: (Threaten her). Take some bold and big step that you are no longer interested in marrying her and be serious about it.

Result Analysis:

This might bring her back to her senses, as she wud realize and question her own excesses. Yoruba adage says "the day a mad man knows he is mad, he is cured that day". So if she value your relationship, she wud change immediately. but remember, change is a gradual process, so be patient with her.

if this doesn't work, leave her immediately, as she is not likely to change in the nearest future.

Mind you, as for the other lady, you might know her other side, and probably she might even be worse, however everything is a risk.

Abo oro lazo fun omoluabi, ti Oba denu e. A Di odidi.
Good one bro
Thanks
RomanceRe: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide(op): 1:51pm On Dec 20, 2016
Thanks to you all for ur candid and matured advice
Am still expecting to get more before I conclude
RomanceRe: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide(op): 12:49pm On Dec 20, 2016
post=52098225:
You have only told us her demerits there must be some merits or if not you for done leave her since ... abi she jazz you ?
Her merits?
Well she is a teacher and she knows how to teach and she can properly take care of her child
That is the only merit I can say about her
RomanceRe: She Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide(op): 12:47pm On Dec 20, 2016
How would I convince the other lady
It seems she felt in love with me too
But u never disclosed my past to her
Before my nagging wife called her on fone telling her to distance herself from her husband
I really like this lady not becos of the money but naturally and by her character
She is humble, submissive, jovial, honest, Godly and which other qualities I can't find in my so called nagging wife

Pls can anyone advice me on how to convince this lady?

Her last word to me was that I should never in my life call her if I don't want to see the wrath of God
RomanceShe Goes Through My Phone When I Sleep, Now See What She Caused. Advice Pls by saweide(op): 12:05pm On Dec 20, 2016
Hello All my name is Saweide segun. This is a true life story am about to share. I really need a sincere advice from matured minds and no abuse pls

I am not Married but with a girl child. All plans to arrange my marriage with my gal is slated for next year. But I noticed that my wife to be and I are not compatible at all

Ever since I met my wife to be in the year 2011. She has been so nagging and rude to me. She never obey me for once. We always quarell

Right from day one till this present time we have been living a cat and dog life. She is a nagging woman. She can't say sorry if she is right or wrong and she is not submissive she disrespect my mum anytime we pay her a visit.

She is not hardworking,and she doesn't have any future plans.. She has never for once encourage me in my career


I have tried to call her several times that she can change and she will promise to Change. But later she will put up her attitude again

She had a daughter for me out of wedlock and that has been holding me from chasing her away of my life

She is living with me presently

The first year I met her I was in Abuja and she was in lagos

She keeps a lot of guys before but that has changed. She no longer does that cos I fought it

Sometimes we quarrel and it attracts neibors that comes around to settle our fights and this has brought Shame to me

I told my mum about that and it gave her a lot of concerns

I told her am enduring the relationship
And that I have made up my mind to quit the relationship and let go that All plans by her family to for introduction and engagement ceremony has been cancelled that am no longer interested

Something happened last month between us

I noticed she has been monitoring me and she always go through my phones whenever I fell asleep
She will check my messages with my friends especially girls

There was this lady we do chat always. But she was not my lover and I don't flirt with her on chat but since we always chat, she suspect a foul play and unknowingly to me she has copied the girl number and saved it only her phone in the midnight while I was sleeping
Sometimes in the mid of the night I would wake up and caught her going thru my phone

She has done that several times and I later password my phone but little did I know despite passwording
My phone she still have access to my chats and data

I don't know how she hack into my phone despite passwording my phone

So I woke up one day and I found out that she has changed my profile picture on whatsapp to her own a pics taken together by me and her holding ourselves, I asked her who changed the dp but she denied it...

So last week Friday I had a meeting on business with a lady I do normally chat with which the lady promised to pay me 100k to start my business
I so much like this lady because of her nature and for her intelligence which my wife to be never had.
Tho I never discuss anything about my past to her before... But I didn't tell her I have someone in my life

My wife suspecting that I had a meeting with this lady called her and told her to desist from me that I am married...
Before I know the lady who promised to give me 100k to start my business blocked me on my whatsapp

And I called her she told me someone called her to leave her husband alone that in my life I should not call her again, I tried to explain to her but she cut off the line and hang up the phone on me


Now the business is over and that was how I loose the 100k. Up till now I have not called this lady

Pls what should I do it seems am in love with the lady but I want to call it quit with my nagging wife as I always call her.


How should I contact this lady and convince her

Pls I need a good advice.. Thanks all for your time

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