₦airaland Forum

Missyajoke:
If a parent refuse to train their children later such children will ruin your legacy. I see a lot of parents who overlook their children excesses all in the name of being Gen Z. More parents in this generation will cry in their old age over their refusal to train their child/children properly and raise them well.

most of these parents obviously support their children indulging in Yahoo. Some of these children are graduates without jobs or reasonable job. I believe you know the level of unemployment in the country is a ticking time bomb. These parents are poor. They spend their limited resources sending their wards to school but nothing to show for it at the end

They do console themselves with the fact that our so called government are the greatest Yahoo, embezzling tax payers money, living large, having properties across the globe while billions if not trillions of dollars run in their various bank account. They have dual citizenship for themselves and family. They're one of the highest paid politicians in the world, while an average Nigerians cannot afford to feed.

integrity16:
Serves the parent right. Your son isn't a dry cleaner but he's been bringing clothes to the House and yet you indirectly support his yahoo business.

I believe the same fate await many parent out there who encourage their wards to engage in cyber crimes.

most parents are supporting their children indulging in Yahoo. Some of these children are graduates without jobs, while their parents are poor. They do console themselves with the fact that our government are the greatest Yahoo embezzling tax payers money, living large, having properties across the globe while billions if not trillions of dollars run in their various bank account. They have dual citizenship for themselves and family. They're one of the highest paid politicians in the world, while an average Nigerians cannot afford to feed.

SweetDipBenny:
The consequences. It's not worth it.

we all know there are consequences for everything. But there are true charm that these Yahoo guys used to hypnotized their clients for money.

ecolime:
I am 100%

The truth is one can't have it all. There will always be something missing. It could be money, partner, job, children, etc.

Just be grateful if you have sound health.

Choose to live in the present always, give thanks to God and make yourself happy.

Happiness is a choice

There are millions of people that have it all.

AllahOfBlood:


Humanity is the only religion I know

Jehovah is the only God that I believe and will forever worship.

Jesus Christ is the only messiah and seviour of mankind


Love is the only gospel I will preach

are you a JW?

BRATISLAVA:
Your translation/stand/interpretation, not mine. You stand that they are the cause of poverty in your first quote.

There's nothing more to say about it. You can't explain it better to them. Not when you've both expressed the same stance.

you're still saying the same thing. I said too many children is one of the cause of poverty in Nigeria, while you on the other hand said having excess children doesn't make one poor. In a nutshell, you said having too many children is not the cause of poverty in Nigeria. Meaning, anyone can have any amount of children they wish or desire.

KarisNech:
Please house, I need your advice or input.

Among these universities, which of them have more visa approval rate?

1. University of Minnesota MSc Fully Funded

2. University of Houston PhD Fully Funded

3. University of Alabama PhD Fully Funded

Thank you

PhD fully funded has higher rate of visa approval. I'd go for UA. Please can you share your profile to have gotten these?

BRATISLAVA:
Is there a reason you and kobojunkie keep at this? Any reason you mention the username so many times in one message and have them quote it?

You guys are free to think whatever you want about poverty and children. Whatever translation makes you happy.

It's not black and white enough for people to say that it's because they had children that they are poor today. That is an assumptive fallacy peddled here too often.

But that was your stand. You believe having too many children is not the cause of poverty in Nigeria. I am only reiterating your point to Kobojunkie. Or is there a change of mind to your believe?

SweetDipBenny:
Some people still no wan get sense. Person way wan make u rich, can't he make himself rich first can't he make his own family members rich

are you indirectly saying there's nothing like charm or juju?

Max24:
My brother scamming is an art. It has nothing to do with supernatural powers. A scammer just got scammed.

I used to hear Yahoo plus o. Like they literally say you can't make it out of Yahoo without being diabolical. Ordinary Yahoo may not fetch much money.

Max24:
Police should arrest the pastor that gave him the scam soap and roped the mother's name into it. Both the boy and the pastor are scammers. And the pastor knows he was scamming the boy.

I don't think the soap was scam. He has been able to built a house from the Yahoo proceed. I guess that means he has been doing charm before this one went overboard

Ensa777:
Foolish man blaming the wife If he had done good you'll take the glory but now it's not for good,you are now blaming her for your ineptitude.

That is men for you

JagabanB:
My cousin is a medical doctor in England, my close friend works in a firm in Canada, my friend whom we schooled together in secondary school is in Canada, can't remember what he read in Kogi, my friend whom I knew from ABU is also in Canada, none of them are doing the cleaning job, that is to say they do better jobs, guess what, none of can afford to own a house in Canada, many many workers in Nigeria own houses, none of them own a car, many many workers in Nigeria own cars not a car.
Many of u Iive in f00Is paradise in ur head that's why u end up as cleaners and come online to console urselves for feeling ûñfortûnate.

which many workers own a car in Nigeria?

Meringe:
All I see here is problem of the father. He has no direction for his family. The mother too has no direction for her family too.
With proper planning, they will fix you guys to productive ventures that doesn't require money.
2 sons should have gone for apprenticeship to a successful businessman.
2 boys sent to learn handiwork.
Within 6 years, the fortune of the family must change.

If you read the post then you'd know the mother has been trying supporting her family. A mother Hawking with her children just to feed. What else do you expect? Sell her body for money or what? I guess the aspect of apprenticeship is practice by the igbos and even at that the culture is gradually winding up amongst the ndigbo as most parents want their children educated. Learning handwork is also very good but a family that struggle to feed will find it difficult. A child whose learning handwork must feed and get his/her working instruments which i feel could be difficult for OP family. How OP managed to have his degree despite the poor state of the family and still graduate with good grade need to be studied. How i wish God can bless him with a good paying job just to crown his efforts. He has really tried to be a better person.

pacificom:
He is not your Daddy, so don't expect much from a man who doesn't know you.

LoL
A Nigerian president owe the citizens alot, i mean a whole lot. Go and read your Constitution to get better knowledge. So you think he was voted into the office for flamboyant lifestyle or tourism purpose? If you don't know your right as a citizen doesn't mean others don't

SolomonGrandi:
You that is smart go and win presidential nomination and general election

what is the point of winning but nothing to show for it? From fry pan to 🔥🔥

Layi4real:
tell me one person in politics that love the masses?.... among the blindsone eye man is a king. all of them are the same it just that the strongest of them must win. why is it hard to support Nd let us manage them like that. afterall it wasn't Asif if Atiku, obi or kwamkwaso emerge things would change for better...they are all from same umbrella that started the ruin of democracy Nd later split into 3.

allow Nigerians demand for accountability from their leaders. Those leaders are being paid with tax payers money. Allow Nigerians criticise their leaders. There's hardship in the country, under Tinubu government. Insecurity is nothing to write home about. Unemployment is now seen as a norms. An average Nigerian youths are into cyber fraud (Yahoo) due to high rate of unemployment. Most households cannot feed. Things can't continue like this while the leaders are enjoying living large with tax payers money. It is not done. Obi, Atiku, Kwakwanso are not the president so i see no point talking about them. Tinubu is the president. He cried that it was his turn to be president. He was voted into the office to help ease the deteriorating state the country was. Sadly, it's getting worst as at this moment.

Allow people to talk please. The leaders are enjoying while an average Nigerians are suffering. Allow them air their pain please

Kobojunkie:
A very wicked scheme called parenting among many in Nigeria.

very wicked scheme. They will rather put the blame on government, forgetting they also had their own share.

Kobojunkie:
I never said or hinted at children being the cause of poverty, more does such a line of thought matter to me. What matters as far as this topic is that OP's parents are responsible for the problems he and his brothers have had to deal with thus far. His mother and father, set them on a part of hardship the moment they both decided to have them while themselves mired in poverty.

sadly most of these parents don't see it that way. To them they believed they have done these children great favour bringing them to this world. While the children owe them the duty of taking care of them because they gave birth to them.

truthfinder319:
Ipob, your hatred means nothing



Some people will be pained because they always wish others bad. Ride on Jagaban

Tinubu don't know if you exist. He's ready to sacrifice you and your household for his second term ambition. Stop asslicking all these politicians. They don't care for you and i

money121:
You called him jobless
So president post no be work?
Just try to reach that stage in life

Just know that does people didn't love the masses

Double your hustle and make your money
Shikena

you know they don't love the masses truly and you dey vote for them?

Kobojunkie:
OP is not merely single and poor. He was born into this world by poor parents who failed to provide him all that was necessary to get him the good start he required to establish himself economically. That is why OP is poor. If Op had instead squandered the resources handed him by his parents then we can blame OP but this is not the case at all here.

I understand

But @BRATISLAVA was indirectly saying OP parents are poor not because of the many children they had but because they are already poor from onset. To BRATISLAVA, children are not the cause of poverty and truly from OP story there was no time things was okay for his family. This mean he was born into poverty, OP and his siblings are not the cause of their parents POVERTY. They had been poor even before they gave birth to them. Even if they didn't give birth to them they'd still be poor. They only brought in the children to take part or share in their poverty.

Should we assume @BRATISLAVA was right about children not being the cause of poverty?

iSense247:
You want to scam people who have been waiting endlessly since 2020 because of 30k. Amount not enough to feed Seyi Tinubu's dog per day.

BRATISLAVA

Too many children cause poverty in Nigeria.

Paracetamol01:
Just get multiple streams of income...
Reduce Your expenditure.that's All

how can someone without a job live?

Lamanii22:
Why not post your story on twitter as well, you may get help maybe a job help, I’m really sorry about everything you are going through, the lord will send you help soon

i think only influencers can do that though

BRATISLAVA:
Children cause poverty, whether one or two of them. That's what is constantly pushed here. People are poor because they have children.

you're getting it wrong

BRATISLAVA:
It's not just children that cause poverty.

But if you think it is, that's alright.

at least you have accepted too many children causes poverty right? But your argument now is that it is not only too many children that causes poverty. Of course we know there are other factors that cause poverty.

Kobojunkie:
Your family is not cursed. Rather, your parents did a terrible job planning for the future of the family they chose to have.

So sad

Almost two life has been lost as a result of POVERTY. This is really heartbroken.

badoh:
Those are exceptions. Only few women are disciplinarian and women in these category do it to the extreme. Nigeria culture system that allows parent to instil discipline on their children or teachers to correct their students is very commendable as this helps in building a better and sane society.This is one thing that the western world lack and causing ripple effect on the lifestyle of their children.

The inmates in all our correctional centres are they all raised by single mothers?

The level of cyber fraudsters amongst our youths and prostitution, are they also raised by single mothers?

The rapist, ritualist, kidnappers, pedophile, bandits etc are they all raised by single mothers?

The armed robbery, street urchins, pick pockets etc are they singlehandedly raised by single mothers?

I can always go on and on

OZIOGU1:
I watched part of the movie and all you pointed out are true, the truth is that this generation women 98% will always wish to have the kids to themselves, the remaining 2% may never exist, the reason is very simple (selfishness).

Most women believe that Thier male child is like a gold and see the female child as either the property of the father or the future husband.

One thing I continue to admonish men to strive to do is, provide for your family, care for them and show them love...the day your wife will try to manipulate those kids your suffer to prove for against you, God will obviously strike with incurable sickness. Research shows that women now prefer to live alone with Thier kids the moment the ma turns 60...men should have an alternative, plan your future.

I disagree completely

Women would want to have custody to the kids because as a man you will definitely outsource the upkeep of your kids at the absence of their mother. Either to his mother, sisters, or his concubines. But women will singlehandedly raised their kids either they chose to remarry or remain single mother

Printme:
The movie was cool. A Nollywood movie I actually enjoyed in a long while.

At the same time, I think it reflects on a very key aspect of life that most people never give much thoughts to.

That is, a male child will always need their father.

Regardless of how much a woman will love the male child, they will always need their father to be good influences in the society.

She gave birth to five children and all their fathers were absent. It's a lesson for women. Once you spoil your life, men will continue to chop and go.

No man will ever want to settle and train another man's child.

It doesn't matter how much you try to manipulate them with the "it's a mistake" or "a real man ought to take care of another man's child"

It won't work. They will just chop you and go and probably add their own seeds since you want to be unfortunate that way.

Also, statistics shows that male children raised by single mothers tends to be the "bad eggs" in the society.

And we all saw that in the movie. Not even one of the children turned out fine for the society. Instead, they were filled with that selfish love that put only their needs into consideration and never the needs of others.

And that's the kind of love women can give their children. Only a father's disciplinary love tells the child that other's needs are important.

It is the father that seeks to make sure the male child, no matter how strong he is, he never used that strength for his own benefits alone.

If she had thought the children to protect others and not just herself, they probably would have turned out fine.

Overall, I think the movie was entertaining but the lessons were still there except you choose to ignore it.

The inmates in all our correctional centres are they all raised by single mothers?

The level of cyber fraudsters amongst our youths and prostitution, are they also raised by single mothers?

The rapist, ritualist, kidnappers, pedophile, bandits etc are they all raised by single mothers?

I can always go on and on