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LeView1:
Have you ever cheated on her?

sorry but that's not important on this issue..

why should his "fiancee" be communicating with her ex, to me it doesn't make sense...

if the op doesn't love her I don't think he will go as far as engaging her.

op, just sea ther down and talk to her and if she is not ready to cut of communication with her ex, then you might as well call of the engagement.

LeView1:
Have you ever cheated on her?

sorry but that's not important on this issue

Oyind18:
Take your trophy

where is his trophy captain
meanwhile, op can't bargain, 10k for this recession, i bet you someone paid half the price for that

would rather remaun single n do my stuff than to be in a relationship where cheating is allowed, so nor cool

ZarZar:
Lol, no comment.

aii captain will do as you demand

ZarZar:
No, please don't or I won't see you the same way again if you did. Be cute from afar is how I prefer it

lol, I guess if the beast had stayed far away from beauty, she wouldn't have given him the kiss that made them live happily ever after.

ZarZar:
No, I'm not a Nigerian, why would I lie about that? I picked up more than a few words on my time here because...

wahala grl, hop u don't mind if i send u a pm

ZarZar:
It's a bit chilly but nothing a blankie can't fix. I actually came across NL by chance while googling something else. I saw a thread bashing SA, so I immediately joined because I like wahala

lmao, trouble maker. you r not a Nigerian are u?

ZarZar:
I've never conducted a study so I wouldnt know.

ok so how s s.a n how did u come across dis forum

ZarZar:
I was actually talking about what makes or breaks a relationship, not the attraction stage. But since you're taking it there, I know ugly girls that got guys fawning over them, so it's not entirely up to looks

i stand to be corrected bt there are just few cases that a guy would actually get attracted to an ugly without a "banging body"

BiafranBushBoy:
Listen to yourself!!!

Why didn't you ask that ugly girl in your dept out.

She was loving and caring, but yet you went for the curvy girl in Nursing dept!

*Just a fictitious question to counter your point*

i think you are confusing me for someone else

ZarZar:
True dat! Hence I don't bother myself with these kind of things because at the end of the day, you either click or you don't & looks have nothing to do with it. Lol @ you love boobs. Go you!

i disagree with u on the looks, facial appearance attracts the opposite sex but attitude keeps them..n yeah i do like it alot, infact told my ex after we broke up if i could keep them, she kept laughing n said am crazy bt if I really need it then no p.

ZarZar:
From observation, that's how it goes. A few months ago one girl on FB posted a picture of a girl that "stole" her BF. The girl had no ass & she captioned the picture "Who needs a FLAT to rent?", expecting a few laughs. But instead some people, girls, wrote in complaining about "shapeless" girls stealing their men. Here in SA we call them FRIDGE MASTERS because they can't seem to keep men.

hmm, to me i feel attitude is the key thing a guy looks for in a girl, every other thing is secondary.. although my love for boobs is top notch.

obviously she is wrong, a wise and respectful girl wouldn't leave her date to talk to a total stranger.

what am i saying, most naija Ladies don't know the true meaning of a date, some will come with their friends or family members all in the name of security.

Emeka on the other hand was angry and acted based on his emotions but he should learn to control his anger, cus the best decision n action a person takes while he or she is agry will turn out to be the worst.

ZarZar:
Lol, not pained at all because I've lived long enough to know that a big ass attracts a man, but doesn't guarantee he'll stay. I actually had a friend with a body similar to this one. All they guys wanted her but all those "relationships" never lasted more than a month. Consequently, she became jealous of my relationship & told the guy lies about me.

so your point is that ladies that are endowed, their relationship don't last cus guys just want to hit it.hmm

CarolineOlawale:
I love my first name and surname thats why I use them both. What's ur real names?

that's my name n iyke

CarolineOlawale:

this one u used your both names lol, yoruba n so much names

DrinkWater10:
guy I dey see home 1-3 and yes what do those codes mean?

it means, the hom team to score 1-3 goals not below n not above

CarolineOlawale:
This one that's using cheap tecno phone that can have 3 square meal is even talking about giving girl money. Smh!

savage u r

Eghostwriter:
I got chatting with this guy after he sent me a DM on IG. Voice calls, video calls, pictures exchange and things started getting emotional (or so I thought). He started inviting me over to visit (which he had done from the first day we spoke), but i was busy and couldn't find time. We continued chatting and after some time he invited me again and we finally fixed a date.

A day to the planned date i was so excited and had already packed my things. I was daydreaming about all the fun things we were going to do together but I was also worried about the fact that he hadn't mentioned anything about sending me transport fare. Now this is a journey that will take about 15+ hours so you can estimate the price. Even with the long distance i was willing to travel by road for just a 4day trip because i really liked this guy.

The night before i was supposed to travel i asked him if he was going to watch me pay the bus fare. His reply really shocked me. '' I'm surprised you're asking for transport fare. We'll chat when I get home''. He called back few hours later and we spoke like people who couldn't wait to see each other, but to my surprise he still didn't mention anything. The next day I was ready and waiting for him to call to ask for my bank details so I'll just go to the ATM before going to the bus station. He called later that afternoon (after i had gotten angry and unpacked), what he asked left me angry and confused, '' babe how far, hope you're already on your way?''. I just laughed and dropped the call. He sent me a message on whatsapp and I told him I wasn't coming because, one, as a student i can't use such amount of money to travel to see a guy. Two, I was going to travel all that distance for him and the least he could do to be nice and show we were in this together was to pay the bus fare. Three, he invited me over.

Then he started accusing me of not wanting to see him and acting Irresponsible. Out of anger i just replied yes. And that was our last conversation. What I don't understand is why he acted the way he did, because he's doing well financially to afford even flight tickets. Three weeks after and still no 'hi' from him. I hate when situations leave me confused.
Advice please.

sincerely i think the problem here is you, why do i say so, very simple.
1. if you had told him from the on set that you had no money on you before agreeing to embark on the journey, am sure he would have either sent you the money or not, that way you will know what he is capable of.

2.there are guys who always use the t.fare strategy as a test just to see how far a girl can go just o be with them, so if its a test then u probably failed in that aspect because you don't know what surprises he might have for you.

i just hope you have learnt one or two from this event that happened. next time say your mind from the on set.

I would delete my account, good thing am not a fan of that platform

misspicy
what i like about her is that she is nice n sweet.

what I don't like, is that she over reacts n gets pissed off easily during discussion n argument

Bumbae1:
Its for me toknown you to find out

haba there is ñtn there except u don't want me to buy asoebi

KennyID17:
No worry bros, am already proud of her, very smart girl .

lol bros carry youf wahala they go..
bumbae1 is that true, is he the one?

Aderola15:
Loooool... I understand you but then our emotions shouldn't always get the better side. I still stand my ground that having a date with a friend of the opposite sex has got no harm except ones partner has always wanted to cheat. Date or no date, cheating will take place if that's what you want.


And about them hanging out with her bf, what if the bf isn't in the place with them?

I don't have problem with my bf going on a date with a friend, trust him enough to make the best out of whatever situation. If you all are getting worked up because of a date, where is the trust which happens to be the foundation of every relationship?

is good to trust but is better not to.

even the bible also made us know that, one shouldn't trust anyone not even your bestfriend or your wife. Micah 7:5

Nelgenius4me:
My guy you have just lost your babe, it's only a matter of time the hand writing will be everywhere. I suggest you request your girl to allow you to pursue other babes. If she agrees then you can excuse her to go out with the intruder.

sincerely is only a matter of time before things unfold, that's exactly what led to my break up with my ex in school n ever since then i learnt something..

it is never the intention of a good chick to cheat on her guy from the on set but due to the fact that ladies are emotionally unstable, there will come a time in her life when she will cheat on u with the guy she is most comfortable with or attracted to.

so never let your girl b to comfortable with another guy cus you v lost her already.

Aderola15:
Might be the beginning and the end of anybody's relationship but definitely not mine except have been dating the wrong person all along. Jealousy and mistrust will set in because of a date with an old friend? This is quite amusing, do you know she could have just told the friend to come over to her house and they will catch up on old times but they decided to pick a venue because of the respect she has for her bf. And you talked about her about having ulterior motives for informing her bf about the date... Boys, how are we supposed to satisfy you ehn? So going without telling him would have been better abi

obviously you are failing to accept reality here, how long do you think she will continue to seek her bf permission whenever she wants to go out on a date with this same guy for example?

see lets be matured in our reasoning and consider our partners feelings..i tell you, 97% person of partners that cheat didn't have the intention to cheat the first time thy sad hi to the person, all they wanted was to be friends but you can't deceive the flesh, we r humans n so long there is blood in this veins emotions will continue to have the better side of us.
lets just be realistic..

see i v a best friend in uni then, we were so close that people thought we were dating but we where nt, even when she had a bf, we would all hang out together n b happy, i would gladly hang out with hr when her bf is around just so he doesn't feel jealous cus i v no interior motive..what stops this guy from knowing her bf n all three having a good time, afer all they r just friends.

Bumbae1:
All this yeye talk of respect
If the lady actually respected her guy ... she would not have already chosen date how is that respect
She was going to go whether or not .. this one she doing is just for back up plan incase somebody see her with the guy etc ... yh my man knows about it ..

If its harmless why not invite ur man .. make una laugh together if its just friendship shioor ... dont be deceived we are very smart ..
ask her if u can spend sunday with me n see her face
Tomorrow she ask u if she can spend the night hotel already booked ..that's so respectful

Kimbra wey u at ... some and see something .

God bless u for this comment, I don't know who u r dating but he should b proud he is dating a smart person.
most partners that cheat today didn't just find their self in the arms of another, obviously it mut have started from hi hi to spending time with each other, to emotions building up, comparison between the new person n your boo, then eventually the thought of trying something new with the new person n befoe u know it, sex is in air..
except one just want to act stupid or foolish by deceiving him or herself with love craps but whn u see that things are going the wrong way i you don't address it that initial time then forget it.

Aderola15:
No biggie, I have no issue with how he decides to hang out with his friends just like I wouldn't want him getting worked up because of my date with an old friend...

smh, sorry to say but that's the beginning and the end of the relationship..call it all u want but lil by lil jealousy n mistrust sets in and before you know it quarrel will start, whose arm do you jink either partners would run to? obviously the nw person they find comfort in, which would eventually lead to cheating..
have been there n i know what am saying, stuffs like this would only drive one's partner closer to the new guy or girl, believe it or not.

LeView1:
The comments on this thread show what a perverted generation we are. Why can't 2 friends hang out and catch up? The fact that she considered your feelings by letting you know of her whereabouts shows she has respect for you. This is a case of low self-esteem on the part of the op. Or a guilty consious on your part op because you are a cheater and expect the same treatment.

that's a big lie.. I don't v a problem with her going out on a date but asking for permission is the most silly thing to do, infact it shows that you don't respect your partner at all.
how would you feel if your bf comes to u n tells you he wants to take a girl out on a date n he do drop her off from work, what wll be your reaction?

Aderola15:
So sumbori cannor hang out with friends again because she's in a relationship...

really, how will you feel and react if your bf tells u he wants to take a girl out in a date?

lets call a spade a spade n not a walking stick.