₦airaland Forum

MasterJayJay:
Novice will say manual is faster.

There is a reason why ferrari is mostly automatic.

Virtually all racing cars are manual

StylesX:
She was the first girl I ever had amorous feelings for, I was in secondary school then, I asked her out with all the courage my being could muster, and she turned me down, we stayed friends for over 10years, I would try to move on, and it would work for a while and all the feelings will come back all over again especially when I see her, I don't see her often as she lives in another state.

We both did well for ourselves, I concentrated on making myself a better guy, worked hard to make something of myself, she did the same, and over the years we were just friends and I went ahead and dated only 4 girls, I don't womanize, I realized I always looked for her in every girl I dated, and I mostly dated girls that looked like her, I have been lucky with love in the sense that all the girls I dated loved me, I'm currently in a relationship with a decent girl too.

So fast forward to last week, she came visiting all of a sudden, haven't seen her for over two years and here she is, we connected and spent time like best friends, shared and talked about our lives and joked about how she put me in friend zone in the past, throughout her stay she stayed in my apartment, we slept in same bed and everything yet nothing happened, she kept talking about how I am a good guy that most guys will sleep with a girl that come under their roof, sometimes she would change her clothes in my presence and I won't make any move, she said being a good guy was what she hated about me back then, that she thought I was weak, and now that she's matured she sees that quality differently now, I didn't read meaning to any of this as I have zeroed out the thought of anything happening between us for years until she started doing strange things, like kissing me without warning, cuddling at night and pressing me to her Bossom etc,

One night she did that and I got aroused, I lost control and we got intimate, it was intense, but before we could have actual sex I came to my senses and made her stop, it was super awkward, we didn't talk about it because she has a partner and I do too, I thought we'd just pretend nothing happened and move on so we wouldn't sabotage our relationships, then the next day we were alone at home in my living room, she wore my Tshirt with undies and we were binge watching movies, suddenly she started kissing and touching me, and I lost it again and this time we had passionate sex, she left the next day, and ever since then I've been confused and guilt ridden, she told me it was a mistake she rejected me in the past that we can still start something if I want, that she is ready to be with me, but I wasn't buying it, I am confused because a part of me feel something fishy is up, and the other part wanted her but I don't know how to tell my girlfriend nor do I want to hurt my girlfriend, I don't love her like I loved this old time crush of mine, but she is a loyal girlfriend and I can't look her in the eyes since the sex thing happened, and every nerve in my body is telling me to confess and ask for forgiveness or keep quiet and move on with my life, what do I do?

I think she's right , you're a weak guy , she just waltz into your life again after rejecting you and you go crumbling like Jericho's walls.

My candid advice is this - Release your present girlfriend by telling her the truth so that she can find a better guy , she deserves a lot better than you. Also enjoy your time with your old flame while it last , nothing good can come out of this relationship ( if you can call it a relationship ) , bang her to the moon and back so that you can relive those bleeped up memories. Prepare for the worst as karma is a biatch.

obembet:
A young man, @Veremthegreat, shared a iPhone 14 Pro Max he bought via alli express for just #44000. The device had the same shape as an iPhone, only that it was fake. After the phone was unboxed, the Apple logo could be seen on its screen.





@Veremthegreat

Who chop the other side of the apple

1Sharon:
Family affair- Mary J Blige

Also "Family affair" by Shabba Ranks

tobtap:
Well...na only china seem to be on track among dem

What about Germany

Taylor92:
And they’re all better and ahead of Nigeria


Currently Afghanistan better pass Nigeria


What a shame

Well to be fair , Uganda isn't better than Nigeria

ThugCheetah:
I have said it before. There should be a strict punishment for hospital that turn down patients with emergencies. I pray a senators child falls victim like this, only then will someone do something about it. How can you call yourself a hospital when you don't attend to emergencies?

Did the hospital set the rules by themselves to demand a police report Direct your anger to the right quarters

otipoju:
Na wetin dey tire me for Nigeria matter be this. We concentrate on unimportant things and leave important things unaddressed.

Wkat are these important things

BigYash:
Opposite is my case.. but I love it like that.. Forever young ,I wanna be,forever young.. Jayzi

Alphaville you mean

DyingFetus:
Your money no reach


Just stay back and chop your money


Stack more dough like $15M and more then you japa

By then japa go be 25m and the cycle continues

LUAN:
Before you embark on a Long journey travel, what do you eat or not eat so that you won't urinate or defecate before you get to your destination.

I prefer not to eat or drink during the course of the journey , I can only eat when the journey is almost over , like an hour to the end of the journey

Mindlog:
You don't have been rich to be compassionate, he may be struggling as the elder brother but the way he is going about it, is not humane.

How do you know it's not humane , do you know what the brother earns , do you know both their living conditions

You have heard from only one side and you have already judged , we should stop this attitude of coming to conclusions after listening to only one side of a story

Mindlog:
Fact is that OP is his younger brother, assisting him while he is still carving out his own path in life with food and the occasional transport fare is not out of place. When he starts earning something from the phone repairs he is learning, then he can contribute.

In the future when they are both married and this present issue becomes the root of their acrimonious relationship, na wife whey no know how the problem take start na im dey go dey blame for causing disunity between brothers.

The brother seems to be struggling as well

Offpointng:
Oh wow. Then you should be thinking of relocating to Kebbi state or Plateau state.

You wouldn't have problems living there with the nature you listed up there

There's also the economic and financial benefits I mentioned , I also don't like extreme heat and the north is quite hot. I don't like religious activities and the north is core Islamic and what could be worse than Christianity , you guessed it - Islam

uche87:
There is no gain without pain in life. We must sacrifice something for whatever gain we make. Remember the concerted efforts made by the late pop legend, Michael Jackson, just to be able to shop in a mall in disguise. Inasmuch as relocating to the UK is a life-defining move and experience, it entails leaving behind some vital aspects of your life for better economic opportunities and a higher standard of living. These aspects will always be missed. Let's recount the interesting aspects of the Nigerian life below:

(1) Food:

You can easily get Nigerian delicacies in some cities in the UK, but that local flavour is always missing. I feel it needs the hands of the rugged women within the crude environment to get it right. For example, which Amala in the world can replace the famous Amala Skye in Ibadan?

(2) Social life:

The social life in the UK is either poor or strange to Africans. People in London are stepping it up with events but other cities are still lagging behind. Even when you organise social gatherings and send out invites, most people ignore them and pick shifts instead. This is unlike Lagos where people easily 'turn up'. Remember what singer Banky W said about social life in Lagos, "Ain't no party like the Lagos party"

(3) Women:
Nigerian women are easily accessible as long as you have the money. You can easily see what Lagos socialite and other celebrities are doing with the dream women of people. Even when you are broke and you are organised as a man, you might still have your way. In contrast, the relationship market is different in the UK. It is a very conservative setting that abhors strangers. Ephemeral factors like skin colour, accent, ethnic background and visa status play key roles in who dates you.

(4) Work-life balance:

If you believe the hustle in Lagos is real, then you haven't seen the one in the UK. With the cost of living rising, I have seen people working 24 hours to make extra bucks. I once met a 48-year-old man who confided in me that he had been working 24 hours for 3 straight days. Most immigrants who set unrealistic targets for themselves end up living to work.

(5) Friendliness:

Nigerians are culturally friendly, especially if you are someone of high repute. Even when you are a nobody and you dress well, people easily get attracted to you. These people try to socialise with you. The UK will unconsciously teach you the differences of the terms; colleagues, friends and acquaintances. Most people only relate with themselves either on a professional or strictly needs basis.

(6) Church:
Sunday mornings are lovely in Nigeria. People wear elegant dresses and head to church. The praise and worship session lightens your mood. It is always a moment of expression of joy. But in the UK, the roads are mostly deserted on Sunday mornings. This is because most people are nursing hangovers from the escapades on Saturday. In fact, you will doubt if the Britons actually introduced Christianity to Nigeria via Henry Townsend in 1842.

(7) Friends/Naija vibes:
It is easier to get people together in Nigeria than in the UK. In Nigeria, most people do 9-5 jobs and the weekends are sacred. Over here in the UK, every day seems the same. When you are free, your friend or neighbour is fully engaged. When you are on a day shift, he might be on a night shift. With Nigerians back home 'billing' the ones in the diaspora more than Ikeja Electric, people work throughout the week to send something home.

( Weather:
Nigeria has one of the best atmospheric conditions in the world. The weather is moderate and with technological devices, you can create your own comfort. In the UK, the weather is so cold and unpredictable. Most times, your sense of fashion goes out of the window. You just want to avoid being sickened by the cold, by wearing big jackets. These jackets make you look like Ninja Turtles. The weather remains more unstable than the mood of a woman seeing her period.

(9) Family Support:
When you start having kids in the UK, you will value family support. It is mostly unavailable. Even when your family is here, most of them will be engaged because time is too valuable. In Nigeria, your parents, grandparents, aunties, uncles and other family members will always be available to support you. All you have to do is to grease their palms, no matter how faint the oil is. At all at all na imm bad pass.

(10) Christmas and other festivities:
The Christmas Day vibe in Nigeria is second to none. People cook the best meals and share them in the neighbourhood. Visitors show up at your place for memorable times. In the UK, it is a bank holiday and some workplaces that can't afford to close, lure people to work with double pay. A greedy Nigerian will take the money and postpone the celebration for the following year. At the end of the year, all your memories might hover around depressing moments at work if care isn't taken.

Osahon George Osayimwen is a Journalist and a Psychologist. He writes from the UK.

But all these reasons are the reasons I want to leave Naija added to the economic and financial benefits.

I so so much love my privacy and don't like get togethers or meeting people , I abhor parties and look for the slightest excuse to avoid parties or get togethers.
I'm not a big fan of "okele" and feel more comfortable with jollof , white rice or fried rice , as long as there's meat I'm good to go.
I'm an atheist , I think this is self explanatory and I don't think I need to explain my disdain for the church , like I also mentioned earlier I don't even like any form of gatherings.
Only the weather might be a little problem , while I actually hate the heat extreme cold temperatures can do more damage than extreme heat.
Family , friends and acquaintances , did I mention that I try to avoid human contact as much as possible , my sister has described me as unapproachable and people usually get the vibe that I try to avoid them when they notice I respond to messages more than 3 days after in some cases ( family included )

KanwuliaExtra:
After all their own children have japa'd?
Interesting!
They should sit there and rule themselves abi?
How many of their own children are in Nigeria?
Especially Remi TIefnubu;s the hypopocrite?

As for me and my family. . . JAPA has benefitted us immensly.
Tief-Tiefnubu can never be my president.

If you don't want to be ruled by TIEFFY-NUBU and his Agberobcracy Naira Marley government, just JAPA JEJE!

Oh my , this lady is still on Nairaland with her numerous funny monikers

Omoawoke2:
Ronaldo Messi Ronaldo Messi
Zidane
Okocha
Nwankwo Kanu
T. Henry
Maradona
Drogba



The list is useless when I didn’t see Drogba and Okocha.

I can count more than 50 players there these two are far better than

We Africans reject this useless list

What about Eto

obinna58:
Death sentence

Life is b!tch it can fvck you at any time

This isn't life , this is self inflicted

Airlord2030:
https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2023/9/two-nigerians-arrested-in-drug-buy-bust-operation-in-the-philippines-2.html

Very likely they'll get the death penalty

OneCandleAway:
So how did you feel when Leon gave usman that headshot ? I saw his soul leave his body.

Of course I felt bad , even for Adesanya I feel bad as well as they are both Nigerian born but I always had that fear that Adesanya would meet a better fighter sooner than later

Adesanya never struck me as an elite fighter , maybe it's me though but I was never convinced about his superiority in that class , his fighting style showed a lot of loopholes but I was always happy at the outcomes so I never bothered. Usman on the other hand , I had a lot of trust in him and I honestly thought he'd hold his belt longer than Adesanya , anyways , as they say - You win some and lose some

Zyxsc:
I'm a software engineer working remotely from Nigeria. I earn a 7-figure monthly salary.
With my salary only (at an average exchange rate of 850/$), it would take me about 6.6 years to save up 100 million, provided I have zero dependents and had to cater only for myself throughout those years. It's quite a naive way to project this though because a lot of things can happen along those years. But it still gives an idealistic comparison base.

So my question goes to Nigerians currently living or have lived abroad. Can you tell us the country, the job title, and how long it would take to save up to NGN100 milliion, assuming you have zero dependents and have to cater for only yourself. Do remember to factor in taxes if any and other living expenses for yourself alone

The reason for my question is not far-fetched. I'm just wondering if it's worth it to sell ones' properties worth milliions just to JAPA and go start over again. Please, refrain from dragging the country's situation into your answer or any other reason to JAPA. Kindly focus on answering the question as best as possible.

Thanks.

Oh that's nice

justli:
why not? are they not real women?

There are certain rules and requirements by FIFA that would make it impossible for them to play as women , surprisingly though each Federation have their own rules which might make a transgender play in their tournament but FIFA organized tournament , no

Sepukku:
Speak for yourself.

I'm guessing you're speaking for yourself alone too

justli:
A sharp country would have featured 75% transgender team

Not possible

phemmyfour:
At least one of them should get the QF ticket. Especially South Africa

Rooting for 2 teams to get to the quarter finals

WannaHowzit:
But Nairaland didn't push it to front page even though there were 2 threads on Banyana Banyana (the African champions, mind you) reaching the group stages for the first time ever.

But I understand there's rivalry 🇿🇦vs🇳🇬 and some people are pained😝

It's not a rivalry bro , we love South Africa like we love every other African country

Bribri:
If only our girls finish group winner. This England team is no small feat.

I dey fear for our girls pass Morocco and South Africa too , that England team is no joke o

WannaHowzit:
Lol, when the African champions South Africa qualified yesterday it didn't hit front page.

It was all over Twitter and TikTok though

NaijaBookings:
HISTORY!!!

The first time Africa would have three teams in the R16 at the #FIFAWWC   

Well done Bayana 🇿🇦
Well done Morocco  🇲🇦
Well done Super Falcons 🇳🇬

#ESP
#JPN
#NED
#USA
#NGA
#AUS
#COL
#FRA

For the quarterfinals. 🙏🏾

#FIFAWomensWorldCup #FIFAWWC

We aren't at the quarter finals yet and I posted a thread of this before yours , let's see who's thread hits the front page

Curse777:
African women are making us proud

I dey tell you my broda , the win sweet my belle