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C2H5OH:
How long ago was this? Sounds like it's still fresh. I can't understand why you would want to give this guy another chance, despite the sad fact that he cheated on you. Someone who loves you would be careful not to knowingly commit treacherous acts that would hurt your feelings.

If courage is what you need, try your best to emerge from this a stronger person. You don't need that cow in your life anymore. Find a better man dear.

Ya its stil fresh, its 4 months bak.
In my mind I know i shudnt bt my heart is teln me different thing. I've heard many people claiming to love their partners & still hurt them so hez also singing d same song nw. Mayb i shudnt evn listen 2 him.

C2H5OH:
my attention ke. wetin my attention go buy you? your breakup sounds rough. sucks when dudes try to rubbish their girls. i'm glad you got out of it. keep your chin up. proud of ya.

Ur attention go buy me courage. Thnx

xqwysyte:
Get a fukking room u two.

Gerrrroutttttt, u r in our room

eyonigger:
How am I flirting?

U not u jus encouraging it

blissieng:
@ Eyo

u tryna cheat right in front of us?

What's with the flirtin'

U beated me into it, was gona ask d same thing.

eyonigger:
I dnt understand.

I tot u said u removing urself from all the temptations?

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=261058.msg4308239#msg4308239 date=1249553235]ok, like i said, i have changed my wayz and i have dumped all the other girls just for u, i can even swear upon the my cat's grave. so what do u say, lets have a fresh start[/quote]How do we go from here?

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=261058.msg4308139#msg4308139 date=1249552176]ok, i no cry again, can we settle this like 2 matured ppl? [/quote]Matured? i think i cn do maturity. Lol!

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=261058.msg4307779#msg4307779 date=1249547960]but i mean it now [size=4pt]_{i think}[/size]  [/quote]U think? dt means u nt sure. Anyway no nid 4 tears now, cnt stand them.

[quote author=na2day? link=topic=261058.msg4306629#msg4306629 date=1249512576]i promise i wont screw it up again, i hereby denounce all other NL babes [/quote]Dont make promises u cnt keep.Lol!!!

C2H5OH:
sexybabes why are you using poster as someone to latch on.  if you wan share your story abeg share em jare.

No dude im not latchin on u, jus wntd ur attention, Lol!!!

illusion2:
The same reason u eat noodles tho' u love ponded yam

What is food got to do with this?

eyonigger:
Lol, but does that relate to relationship?

Not at all.

I will never write all this 2 him, its just 2 satisfy a curious poster.

Dear D

I had the most wonderful 2 years of my life with you. You made me happy in a way that I've never thought
I could be with anyone. We were so inlove and made a great couple together. You made me believe that you
would never do anything to hurt me infact u promised that. Even though we were miles apart I still trusted you.

When you cheated on me my world crumbled and I just cudnt understand why. When you denied it even though it
was obvious that made me more angry and hating. I made excuses for u in my mind that maybe u cudnt handle the
distance but still that was no excuse to break my heart.
When I broke up with you I vowed never ever speak to you again or even forgive you for what you did to me.
But now you keep on showing up at my door step and keep on asking for another chance.
I have been keep up a strong image as if I am coping, a "I dont need you" attitude and it worked so far
but now Im tired of pretending but Im still scared if I give another chance you gonna screw up again.
Truth is I still love you and miss you but cud never let u know,


What a relief!!! Lol!!!
Hope poster is happy!

eyonigger:
I knw u aint crucifying me bro. But you need to understand the fact that If were to be the hardened player I was years back, I would have cheated more than twice be it she being around or not. Though I still count myself as a player having cheated on her twice, but it still cannot be compared to those years. Thats why I said its a procedural step.

Besides, one can cheat and never feel bad about it, I felt bad and I am ready never to cheat anymore after this last time. And I pray that God helps me, cos he nor easy mehn.

Im not a bro, i am a babe. Lol!!!!

ufot:
@sexybabes
You say it is wrong with no explanation. How come it still goes on? Most of these chiefs have been to Europe and America and have seen what goes on , yet they go back home and still continue on the so called wrong path?

U know as much as I do that it is wrong. The reason why it still goes on its only because people are greedy and never satisfied with what they have.

N101:
hilli666

I don't know where you got your version of the Bible from, but there are holes in your statement:

(1) God never told Abraham to cheat on  his wife with the househelp.
(2) Although Solomon had lots of wives and concubines, what was the end result?  They led him astray.

"Man must spread his seed" my foot - I know of a man with 10 wives, he's HIV positive; I heard of another man with 2 wives who raped a friend's daughter.  It isn't about "spreading seed" but exercising self-control, that's what distinguishes us from animals.  ANYONE will cheat if given the opportunity, like everything else in life it is a choice and people decide to do it or not, hormones or testosterone don't make us do anything. 

If cheating is so acceptable, is it that when people cheat they always feel terrible when caught or when they've done it (and sorry, you can't blame religion for this)?

Just because you know no faithful men or long term faithful marriages doesn't mean they don't exist, you need to broaden your horizons a bit.  I had a friend who worked as a sexual health educator, he said to me that he could never understand why men are so willing to chase sex "when AIDS is killing us like chickens" (his words).

If someone chooses to make cheating and having multiple partners a lifestyle choice they shouldn't complain when it bites them in the behind at a future date.

Thank you for clearing that one up. People turn to interpret Bible in a way to justify what their own deeds.

eyonigger:
Let me try to clear myself out here once more. I was a player for years until I met  my current bf in who I found a different kind of love, so I decided to stay clean and never to cheat on her. If you read my second post on this thread, I speculated that I have only cheated on her twice, the first time there was no remorse, but this second cheating made me feel bad.

Now you can see that Im going from bad to good, but on the verge of completing myself as being a good boy, to attaining self control was not that easy for me since its a procedural step, I made mistakes twice, of which one of the mistake brought about remorse. So I say its a stepping stone for me to go beyond what I crave for (cheat-less relationship).

I am quite confident that I am not the only guy that has gone from bad to good regarding what the post is all about, and this is to the people crucifying me for the mistake I made. Yes MISTAKE I SAY, Every1 makes 1.

Let me make something clear to you. The fact that you cheated only twice doesnt make you a less cheater. You cheated, you are a cheater just like the one who cheated hundred times more its still the same thing.
There is no going from bad to good here, you still the same person you were six years ago when you were a player according to you.
And YES everyone makes mistakes(im no saint myself), the difference is DO YOU LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES & NEVER REPEAT THEM. If you gonna keep on that statement you still gonna make mistakes and claim they are mistakes. If you say cheating is a mistake, you cheated on her 1st time that should have been a mistake and it shouldn't have happened again.

And I am not crucifying you!

ufot:
Hello all, we all have perceptions and ideas about relationships and how it should be managed. Personally, i think the environment u grew up in shapes these ideas and perceptions. In Africa, we all know that our chiefs still marry multiple wives, is this right or wrong? who is to say. In the developed world, that cannot happen. I think people adhere to what they do not understand just because the society says it is right.
@ thor
He is a free thinker and I admire that.
In concluding, you have to understand yourself first. Be open to your partner or wife because if you keep cheating, he or she will catch you in the act one day and then yawa go gas!!!!! Peace

I say its wrong.

sweetmadam:
What has love got to do with it?
Just because you love doesn't mean you have to be faithful!! I could love Ferari's but could still hire a porsche or a benzo from time to time. That doesn't mean that i am not crazy about Ferari's.

What cars got to with this?

All this talk about "I love my gf but just wanted a shag" makes me sick.
Sorry if im taking it personally just that i had it before and its just BS.

eyonigger:
Confusion leads to frustration dear. Do you know u might be unconsciously frustrated? I am telling u. Go and check ur PB.

Im not there yet trust me.

eyonigger:
Poster, u dnt know what u want. You are a little bit frustrated. Get your mind right, and im sure you'll know whats best for you to do.

Little bit confused maybe but frustrated, NO!

segzi cres:
i think this babe like him and she looking for a reason to hate him. so you guys should give her one.

Why dont u give me one?

[quote author=Da_archer link=topic=303804.msg4289644#msg4289644 date=1249288083]@poster, maybe u're insecure, y not check urself first? I have a friend hu ends his calls wit i love u to almost anybody! It always made me laugh especially if d caller isn't so close to him, i've warned him but its already a habit, MAYBE ur EX is like dat, callin a gal BABY doesn't really mean anything, i call my younger Sister baby too, n u say he has a lotta girls around him its normal for some guys, Eg ME! Maybe u've neva trusted him cos of this, I'm not defendin him but from ur explanation u still love him but u didn't give a chance,[/quote]Ya he is like that, calls every gal baby even his sisters, my sister too and even my friends, his friends galfriends, etc. That i know but from what happened before maybe I can't seem to trust him again. The guy cheated on me before.

chi21:
I am 20 years old but tomorrow i will 19

Nyc 1. U growin up or u growin down?

Naturez:
Yes ma!!! But I can't find picture on your profile nah mama. I wan see how beautiful you are

I will put it just 4 u. When u online lemme know so that aftr u'v seen i will remove it, Lol!!!!

ezinne1212:
@ Poster, don't bring your past into your future. He doesn't want you back and from the looks of things doesn't respect you at all. Please[b] stop trying to figure out his twisted mind and just move forward with your life.[/b] Embrace the pain cause it will fade with time. If he ever calls you again, tell him thanks for calling but you'll pass on the get together, even if he's downstairs. Shut that door for good!

His mind is twisted alright, now he wants me 2 apologise for banging his car door, Lol! Saying that he calls everybody "baby" even my friends he calls them "baby" and that doesnt mean his going out with them.
MEN, I give up on them.Lol!!!

hackingisfun:
Find yourself another guy!

That's not a bad idea @ all. Just that now I'm not ready for any r/s.

chidipupay:
sometimes, women just get themselves into difficult situation. It very simple to break. you said both of you broke for 4months and now he is back. What was the coz of the breakup if i may ask?

I found out he was cheating on me. We were in a long dis r/s and he decided 2 move to my city 2 be close 2 me and when he was here apparantely he left a lot a angry women behind and they started stalking me on my fone so i broke it off with him. Ofcoz he denied it and he still do.

@poster
Just don't agree in marrying anyone and see if he sticks around.

ravenzord:
Methinks d guy's still coming back cos he thinks U're still susceptible 2 his charms, n if U guys ren't ving sex at d moment u soon will if U're not careful.If u dn't wanna sign back in2 heartbreak hotel I suggest U tell d guy off n delete him COMPLETELY,word.

Am planning to do that believe me. What I don't understand is why he keeps on bothering me. When I start 2 forget him, there he is again.

skfa1:
From my own point of view, i think he is just using u for sex. I tell you what yeah, the guy is got different gurls. I do not know him but from what you said he definately has different gurls. You said this guy is ur ex right? ok fine, trust me this guy only need sex and after a short period he will find excuse to break it up again. Be wise sha.

Am not sleeping with him well not anymore.

This is an ex of mine. After breaking up for 4 months, he told me he miss me blah blah blah, after considering going back to him I met with him and his fone rang twice and it was a lady, I don't know what she said but I cud make it up from what he was replying that he can't come out right now and he would see her tomorrow that maybe she wanted to see him. After that i decided not to go back to him even though I love him so much. But we kept in touch, tonight he came to see me,  called me & tell me his downstairs and  I went down, I didn't even finish 10min in his car his fone rang again and it was a lady again, from what he was saying i assumed she was asking where he was coz he was like I'm just checking something online(he was with me hey) and at the end of their conversation he was like "nice one baby thnx for calling". After i heard that i just repeated what he said last and then stormed out of his car and bang the door.

This is the guy I risk everything for including my career and now I don't know why he keeps on coming back if there are these ladies in his life, I mean the name I saw on fone screen when this one called is the same as the last one.

I don't even know why this is hurting so much coz i thought I was getting over him.

Naturez:
I will be your first born

Gud Boi. Now obey!

galatico:
Ladies coup!!! You Ladies say Men are dogs. Why do you Ladies still chase after them, and crave to be held by them, why can't all ladies practise Lesbianism then, Men ain't dogs, Ladies are bitches rather!!!

U see? Guyz shud stop calling LADIES names so that LADIES will stop calling them dogs

Now pple wana be old, Lol!