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biola44:
i feel u bro cos we seem 2 av something in common and d temptation is there 2!

Lol!!!

sexylogan:

Baby, i've bin single only for about a month some years bak and it sucks.
the pressure of not getting laid can be terrible. to me "single" means
no g/f, no sex, no nothing.

U the only guy 2 say that,

kachiside:
When filing official document, and you are asked to tick ' single' or married, they are asking if you are married or not or divorced. So if you are not married and you are divorced that means that you are single.

Wt does it mean 2 u, not 2 some official document,

Sounds like this gal loves u dearly, U have no reason wt so eva 2 doubt that.

Kelvinj:
Let me make sumtin clear here. Wen u look @ ur dic it says single means wen ur unmarried there4 even if u hv a bf/gf it means u hv a r/ship or ur lovers bt d fact remains dat ur still single & nt married. So dnt get it twisted!

@Kelvinj
U right, that means u are in a r/s & not single. U dont nid 2 be married 2 stop being single.

MRbrownJAY:
some people automatically mix love with sex but this is 2 very different things and should be just that.
romantic love is the emotional and spiritual side of being attracted to someone while sexual desire is the physical part of it.
you may not love a person but if a man is playing with your toto the right way, you will have sexual desires(in love or not)
also you could be in love with someone and have absolutely no sexual desire for them.
the toto isnt fully controlled by the brain, it has a mind of its own and therefore play with different rules. if you get aroused and the toto decides that it needs some company then whatever your brain decides, you will have to get this toto some damn company. either it be with a Love Machine, your fingers or have a cold shower to try a put that demon to rest.
yes it is perfectly normal for a woman in love to have sex with her bf/spouse but there is absolutely nothing wrong if a woman has sex with someone she has absolutely no care for. its about having someone take care of the fire that is between her legs. some women's fire is so light that they can wait until a man they care/love comes along but others dont want to wait and have to get that "magic stick" and still call themselves SINGLE.

As I said that maybe I'm being naive coz I havent found myself in a situation of having to take care of the fire between my legs(wateva dt means. Lol!). To me its either u in a r/s or single(as in being single).

hni:
IT MEANS BOREDOM AND BEING WITHOUT A COMPANION, AM REALLY TALKING FROM EXPERIENCE, AM DYING TO GET OUT OF THIS SITUATION, INTERESTED HELP IS WELCOME AM HNI MY NUMBERS ARE 07037721707(NIGHT PHONE) 08054732185(DAY PHONE) 07025001503(WEEKEND/EVENING PHONE )

Are u single?

izeek:
well its qiute easy for a guy to sleep with a babe with no attachement.
but most cases i have cometo realise that the girls actually have some level of feeling for the guy,
or its monetary concern.
either way, ladies dont gointo something without some level of benefit.
emotional or optherwise.

I dnt knw abt guyz bt 4 ladies its more of an emotional thing. Even if a lady jump into into wit a guy nt knowing exactly how she feels abt da guy bt wn she slps wit him, she becomes attached emotionally. Its kinda impossible to slp wit a guy u feel nothing 4 wn u r a woman & stil feels nothing 4 aftr u hv given urself 2 him. That is why woman always the one suffering & feel used wn a guy ws in it 4 pleasure only coz u like gave him a part of u & hez leaving wit dt part. I dnt knw if im making any sense here.

Seems like the guys r confirming wt i heard that when a guy says he is "single" he doesnt mean he is inactive.
but when a lady says she is "single" she means no partner, no sex, Lol!! but i ges there ladies who does like guys.

@izeek
I still find it difficult 2 undstnd hw u cn 1 be sexually involved wit 1 & stil nt be emotionally involved wit that person or evn hv feeling for.
Mayb im bein naive.

@debosky
The fact that 1 is nt married dsnt make 1 single by default.
U cn be in a r/s & stil u nt married.

I would, infact I did. He used 2 show me his conv when I'm with him wit da gals he ws chtn wit on person.com & he used 2 tell them that his got a wife so i got curious abt wt he says wn im nt around so i guessed his password the other day & boom i was in. Didn't find much though but I did suspend his account & till today he never restore it. But I did find juicy stuff wn he forgot & left his yahoo acct open the other day but instead of being annoyed & angry it was jus 2 funny 4 me. Da gal had send him her pix(if u'd seen them u'd laugh 2).

MRbrownJAY:
being in an open relationship means that you do all the things couples do just without the commitment. a fwb/booty call is there only for sexual gratification and should know that this is what it is. if we only have sex then we definitely are NOT in an open relationship. you should always let a person know what "deal" you are into so that they dont mistakingly think that there is some relationship going on. some women can see some bedroom acrobatics as a declaration of love so better put them at their place very early one and TELL THEM.

Yhooo, & they still agree?
I wudn't,

agathamari:
single means not in a relationship whether it is a gf/bf or husband/wife

having sex withsomeone you are not in a relationship with is not single it is a LovePeddler/manwhore, slut, skank, hoe, harlot take your pick

Lol! Isn't that harsh? They call them friends with benefits,

biola44:
maybe, cos it's a 2 way thing
someone not in a committed r/s and sexually unactive is single(my idea of being single) and
someone not in a committed r/s but committed 2 "whores" also single

This your definition is too funny especially the highlighted. Lol!!
How can be commited 2 LovePeddler & still be single?

Ben20001:
It simply means one is not an Hermaphrodite.

Now that the word I think i shud google as biola44 said, Lol!!!

MRbrownJAY:
being single in my book means that there is nobody important to whom i have to answer to. so all the lovers/booty calls wouldnt count.
having some bed mates that you dont answer to is like being single just without the sex starvation and the occasional outing.

izeek:
to diff pips diff meaning.
to me its simply being not in a r/s but yes can have sex partners.

Guyz why not say you in an open r/s.
BTW do the sex partners know that they are just sex partners or they think they are in a r/s with you?

biola44:
not being in a commited r/s,

But in some kind of r/s?

Missy B:
No husband. . . .B/f. . . .'Bed mate'!!

Do you know why I'm asking this?
This other guy said being single to him means he is not in a commited r/s but he does have sex partners.
And I realise that most people will say they are single but not really single.

Lol!!! I wanna knw wt it means 2 u,

Is there a such thing as being "Single" ?
Does it mean No bf/hubby, No sex, No nothing
Or Not being in a commited r/s but still sexually active?

sexylogan:

@sexybabes,
hope u know what u'r doing becuz same thing happned to me some
years back and i didnt know what to do. i didnt take her back tho she
tried really hard and now im dating someone i'm not sure loves me.
whatever u decide to do, i hope it works out well for u. keep us posted
on new developments.

I wish I knew what to do. He has ask me out to dinner this evening, haven't agree though but I think we need to talk things out & see whr we stand. I think I should go.

009kk:

@sexybabes
i really appreciate ur mature post. bt she is not refusing my goin with her. she even wants me to be in camp with her but i told her dat is not possible. all the same by next week we shal see what happens cos i am still xpecting my boss reply about my 3weeks off which will be deducted from my annual leave

Since u said no more comment, i will reserve it. But if she wants 2 go with her then go maybe she likes it when u around. And plz just trust ur gal alwayz.

Ben20001:
you can't protect your girl that way, just give her enough condoms.

Do you want to kill the poor guy?

009kk:
@ThoniaSlim @sistawoman @bluespice@ puskin
pls i only asked to know if it were possible of shagging gurls in camp[color=#990000][/color]. she has cheated on me b4 and i don't want that to happen again because i allowed it happen that was in 2005. a friend of her was her bday batch when we were stil in skol. my gurl asked me to come with her but i refused. reluntantly i told her to go and that i will meet her up.later that evening i picked a male friend of mine and we headed for the party. on our way, police stoped us and that was when i knew i forgot my drivers liscience. u knw the normal thing, i gave them money. on getting to the party i met my girl chattin g wit a guy and when she saw me , she came to us and we were together. because i was tired i decided to go back to skol cos i had no cash on me again to lodge after the party which was my earlier intention. 2 days later after lectures, she did not get back to the room on tym cos we live 2gether not knowing she slept with the guy i met her chatting with when i got to the party that day. i did not knw she was the one that used her mouth to tell that she has not been hersef with the guilt in her conscience. i forgive her and after since then, i don't like letting her out of my sight.

As much as I understand where you coming from but let me tell you something. You cannot baby sit her 24/7, you have to let her be free and be responsible or learn to be responsible on her own. She needs to do things on her own and discover if can fight temptations without your help. The 1st incident happened not because you didn't go to the party with her or not because you left early or whatever, it happened because maybe she felt something for the other guy only her knows what was that. You say you forgave her but to me it seems you haven't forget it.  You say you guys were staying together and she went and sleep with the other guy after lectures, you see that was a very little time she got to do that. That should tell you that no matter how much you can follow her around if she wants to cheat again she will even if you can follow her when she goes to pee and you being clingy could push her into cheating instead of preventing it. And for both your sake let what happened in the past go.

009kk:
@ sexybabes
i know it hurts badly but just have to take it like that. my advice is that if your ex is sincere that he wants you back and you still love him,go ahead. but if things does not workout well move ahead with life and when you come across another guy don't expect 100% from him that he will not cheat. good luck my dear i really feel for you.the moment my girlfriend agreed that we start dating, we prayed together that evening commiting the relationship to God so please be prayerful because that is  one thing that has sustained my relationship for the past 5yrs is that we pray together for the relationship and by His grace we will get married soon.
Cheers!

Thank you. I am very happy for you and your gal. My ex seems to be sincere for now, i don't know how many times he called and text me this evening alone. But only him knows his intentions, if only a person's heart was not a secret the world would be a better place for all of us.

009kk:
@ sexybabes the mom is damn right. most married women even know that their hubbys cheat on them sometimes but they still continue to love him becos he never shys away from his family responsiblities. i have a uncle in one of the higher universities in the south south. we all know he cheats on his wife and i strongly believe the wife knws that too because his name was pasted in a website that he sleeps with female students alot. but i tell you he does not joke with his family

But still it hurts and very hard to accept.

009kk:
i believe both of you should know dat not less 75% of guys in a relationship do cheat on their gurl friends. the fact that they do this does not mean they dont love their gf. most guyz in a relationship give 80% to their gf and 20% to the gurls they cheat with. and i think that is fair enough. likewise girls, they also have guyz whom they love and give 80% and at they same time they give 20% to the one they cheat with. i am in a serious relationship for 5yrs now and i do cheat on my gurl friend ones in a while but the truth is that i love her 99% and any other gurl is 1% to me at least until we get married. so let me tell you dat it will be diff to get a 100% man.
cheers

When i was so angry at him & a friend of mine told me what her mom said to her when her bf cheated on her that 95% men cheats & 5% is taken. I felt like screaming, imagine that coming from a grown up woman like that.

Guy always pretend that they dont get jealous as if its only us who get jealous.What used to happen between me & this guy I was with is he used to receive calls from female friend and when I react, he will say i'm over-reacting, they just friends, blah blah blah until this other night I got a call from a male friend. Lol,  I wanted to spite him, i even walked out of the room to answer it somewhere else and as I was walking out he followed me & grab the fone from me & he was like to this guy who called "why are you calling my wife this time of the day and don't call this no again" I wanted to laugh but the way he looked at me I didn't even start. Since then he stoped receiving calls in my presence after saying he wud not mind. It was very funny!!!!!

dyabman:
Sorry guys , Hope i'm not too late for my hearings,

what have i done actually?

,

2 late, u alredi bn crucified. Lol!!!

GEW:
devil is devil and always diabolical so in my book no devil is good.

True, but is there a saint in this world?

@izeek
I gave this a lot of thought and still haven't come up with a wise answer. I don't know, maybe i will be making the biggest mistake of my life or maybe it won't be that bad but how will i know all this if i don't give it a try. Do i listen to what my mind is telling me or do i listen to what my heart is telling me. Its a lot of maybes, its not a sure case. Life is full of trials and errors and the is never a guarantee so are relationships, one just have to hope it works for you. And to answer your question he doesn't know that i dated someone after our breakup.

jamace:
Haba, why should you prefer a known devil to an unknown angel? Generally, there should be no comparison. A devil is devilish and an angel is angelic. You should rather say "A bird in hand is worth 2 in the bush" or "The devil you know is better than the devils you don't know ". Think about this.

If you can not find an angel better remain with your known devil, because the devil you know is better the devils you don't know. Chikenan.

I think you putted it better than i did. Coz even the one who seems like an angel turned out to have baggage that is too much for me to bare.
So you are so right to say the devil you know is better than the devil u don't know.

@190
I take it u the FBI(Female Body Inspector)

@sexylogan,
jus notice that our name both start wit sexy. Lol!!! I am scared 2 that he might cheat on me again, 1 of the reasons why im takin this long 2 4give him. My head is teln me this & my heart is sayn different thing. & the experience i got aftr thinking i cud 4get abt him hasnt help me @ all.

@iice                              
I ges that say "u dont know what you have until u loose it" is very much true.
     
@IFELEKE                          
I only knew about baby mama when the guy was stressed after finding out that she moved in, thats when he had to tell me everything.  
Maybe u right about not getting love right that's why its confusing me. But i wish r/s cud be not this complicated.

Kelvinj:
@poster
u get luck say na ur ex dat na 1, 2 be say dem even call u customer care. Wat if na 'unknown' dem use 4 nko @ least u dey care 4 am or u no care again?

I dont why hez stressing also coz he care. Lmao!!!(sori man). My ex appear as "unknown".

Ujujoan:
Your story sef dey somehow

Meaning?

Guys cheat bcz they are guys. No other explanation, only them knows what's going on in that dirty little mind of theirs.

Tranngirls:
Romeo4real
    I am not a man so dont know why men cheat to a degree so if you have more insight on that please share because i am glad to learn, i dont want my man to cheat on man but if we lose that emotional connection then anything can happen. Personal i think all a guy needs is a girl that is there for him when he is down and f**k his brains out, cook for him (if he cant cook),celebrate with him in the days joy comes into his life, if he likes sports watch it with him and give him space to have fun with his friends who were where before you (the girl).
Well this is my opinion and what i do, what do you do??

If he wants to cheat he will my dear even if you do all those you mentioned, no guarantees.