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i don't want them to divorce,i want the director to teach people that their will always be ups and down in a marriage
you can't expect everything to go on smoothly like that in a marriage.lets forget about Sergio been handsome or Rodrigo been nice.is it that if she get married to Sergio their wouldn't be any problem?surely their would be problem.
he realized his mistakes so he should be forgiven what if they got issue? i mean kids we would still want a divorce?remember that was the problem maria had, and it affected her children even if they did not divorce but they separated.i really want the program to tech us so many thing about marriage and all the episode have been about how we live generally all over the world it has been totally different from other soap .
very enlightening.

Bukky Wright was right on spot when she paid courtesy visit to our headquarter on love and acting. as always she was frank and unpretencious with each of the question.

Tell us one, what about the lesbian one?
Well on the lesbian one, I told them no problem if they believed I was a lesbian. I remember then that I said it that I wished the writer was a lady so that I could give her husband the chance and see if that man will go back to her. Seriously it is crazy. Now they say I am in love again with Donald Obaseki that I don’t even know. The other one was when they said that Governor Gbenga Daniel battered his wife because of me.

Can you imagine? Over time, I don’t let things like that bother me because I have always said that life is a race and if you want to win a race, you don’t mind opposition. So if you want to succeed in life, don’t let side talks bother you. It no longer bothers my chil- dren because they are grown up. They know me better. Just like the day my son came back from school and he told me that his friends told him that I was broke. This was around the time I actually bought two cars in one day. So, when his friends told him I was broke, my son said he told them I had just bought two new cars. Can you imagine? It is better for your family to know you. That is why when I am not on location, when I am not working, I spend more time with my children. That is why I am more of a private person, even their friends are always surprised that I am simple and friend- ly. We dance Alanta together, do dancing competition and I feel like throwing a party, we just call a few friends, cook food, after which I could visit the motherless babies. I like visiting the less privileged. Those are the things I do rather going to parties.

Was there anyway your being a star has affected your children negatively? I have never regretted being a star for once. But there are times when I went go to pick my children from school and their friends will be asking them; ‘So you are Bukky Wright’s son?’And they will say mummy please don’t come and pick us again. You can’t even get to go and pick your children in school. There are days people would talk to me anyhow in their presence and they would be defending me. Inside me I would be thinking, oh I sold my respect. I traded it for stardom.

Has bad press affected them?
Yes, especially that lesbianism thing, because they knew the girl in question.

So what did they do?
Did they ask you if the story was true? They were just wondering why the fuss. The girl happens to be like my adopted daughter. She was living with me. She is married now with two children. She was like a big sister that my children never had. So when they heard the story, they were disgusted.

What did they think you should have done?
Funny enough, my second son reads the Bible. He is like a pastor, he will just be preaching to you. The two of them advised that I should not let it bother me. Even the girl in question was both- ered. She told my sons that she knew Mummy was feeling bad about the story. (She calls me mummy). She said she overheard that she I want- ed to send me her away and she wondered why?

What are the things you miss outside of marriage?
What did I miss? I have always been a person that wants a home; me, my husband and my kids. Those are the things I have always wanted. I have always wanted a perfect wedding.

Why did you think it never happened, your errors, or your man’s errors?
Hmm. I just believe God did that for a purpose because prob- ably I have been making wrong choices and he has something better for me. Are you thinking of going into another marriage? Am I thinking of going into another marriage? I’ve thought about it.

Is there a new guy around that we don’t know?
No comment.

You know you are well put together, you are beautiful, you are hardworking, and don’t you get pressure from governors or highly placed people?
Well I thank God because if you are not being pressurized, that means you are not beautiful and you are not hardworking, because I don’t think anybody wants to go for a liability.

How would you describe Nigerian men based on the experience of your two marriages?
Nigerian men? They are wonderful people.

(General laughter) There is nothing like all men are dogs?
Wonderful people because even if I decide to marry today, I don’t intend to marry a white man. And I believe there is a won- derful man out there for a wonderful woman.

Could you give ten tips for a woman about to get married?
First, you should be tolerant. Before being lovers, you should be friends. You should be loving and loving of course, is nice forgiving enduring, but like I said, fall in love with your eyes wide opened. It does- n’t have to be because of money but you guys should at least have a bal- ance.

She shouldn’t be richer?
No, even if you are, you can be richer than your husband but you know that your husband is hardwork- ing and has prospects. You can’t say you are rich and marry a lazy man that will just squander your money or does not know how to work for money. It doesn’t mean because the man is not rich, he doesn’t know how to work for money, fingers are not equal. Above all things, look for a God-fearing man because if a man fears God, he would fear you as a human being. He should be a very accommodating per- son. Take his friends as yours and encour- a g e them to come to your house and be accommodating yourself.

Apart from every other thing, you should be homely because if you are a kind of person that always wants to be on the street, you don’t ever see anything that will want to make you go back home, it is not a good quality for a woman, that is why you should make your house as comfortable as possible so something drives you back home. You should also have the spirit of togetherness. And one thing, don’t separate your rooms. Make sure you have one room so even if something happens, you will still sleep together in that room and somehow you still get to talk about it. And you’d get to fin- ish it. Don’t sleep over quarrel.

Why do you think Nollywood marriages crash? Is it because men can’t stand stars?
One thing that I’ve noticed again is that a lot of Nigerian men are not confident enough to marry successful women. Success doesn’t have to do with wealth. Most Nigerian men are not con- fident enough because if you are so confident you will believe that no one will take your wife away from you.

Is it true that most actresses are unfaithful to their partners?
I don’t believe that. Are you telling me that journalists are not faithful to their husbands?

I think it is an individual thing.
Exactly! I want you to answer that question yourself that is why I asked you. It is just an individual thing. It is just the fact that we are out there in the public. Are marriages between lawyers not breaking? What about doctors and nurses?,

(Cuts in) , But it is faster in Nollywood.
That is not true because these are the people you see, that you hear every day. So that is why you think so. Just like when they say too many artists are dying but because almost everybody knows almost all the artists. Do you get it? Everybody in Nigeria knows them, so if anything happens to any one today, they know. But a doctor that is living even next door you don’t know.

They said people in Showbiz don’t take care of their health; you guys just work until you break down on set.
Are you telling me that you have not heard of a doctor that died in the hospital taking care of other people? So what are we talk- ing about? It is just an individual thing. Are you trying to tell me that no journalist has been heard die on the job?

No don’t come to our own area.
(Laughing) Why not?

There was a time it was happening; now it is no more hap- pening because we were not conscious we are all now conscious of the fact that we were not all taking care of ourselves. We were not; we were having editors dying in their offices.
I know it is just an individual thing. Yes, but it is just an indi- vidual thing. We don’t know how many people are born today and we don’t know how many people have died today because we are the mail that travels faster than we the carriers of the mail. We thank God they are not saying the young ones are dying again like they were alleging that they were being used for rituals or whatever. I just know that whatever it is, it is not my portion.

Can you act nude?
No!

N10 million, N20 million?
No, not even for $1 billion. But it doesn’t mean someone else can’t do it. Just like I said, it is an individual thing. I may not have the guts, but somebody else might have it. If that is the role that has to be played for people to know what they are talking about, so be it.

Omotola said people’s body moves if playing romantic roles. Have you had it to that physical point with a male hugging, kissing on set?
I don’t even feel it because before I even go on that stage, I know what I am going to do. So it is a pre-meditated thing because you have read the script. Except you have some- thing else in your mind. So I don’t. It is funny I might work on set with some people and don’t see them until we meet on another set.

So what your the highest fee?
My highest fee is millions, my lowest fee is thousands.

Which set is this?
You know it is dangerous in Nigeria to disclose such thing. So you want to act for the rest of your life or there is a retirement plan? Really, I don’t intend to retire until I am tired.

So there is no retirement plan? What do you spend your money on, considering that you won’t always be able to have this beautiful face? What are you investing in for the raining days?
That is why I am tying my money down on other businesses. You know about a salon in my beauty line and I have a studio.

Are you into sports?
Yeah.

So what will be your advice for young actresses coming up?
There seems to be too many people coming to act these days. What is it that they will need to have? They should have the ability to diversify and the ability to stay focused. They don’t have to come into the industry because their friend is into acting. You don’t have to come into the industry because you want to be known. You don’t have to come into the industry because you want to go travel out. No, that is when you won’t do it the proper way and that is why you would wither away because you have a motive for coming into the industry not for the love of it. But if you so much love the industry and you really love what you do, against all odds, you would stand out.

What about the sex for role thing?
Just like I said, things like this depend on the individual. Adoc- tor can ask a nurse out, if that is not your motive or your intention in the industry because I believe if a man sleeps with you today and lets you play a major role, that means for you to act in every movie, they have to sleep with you because that means you are not sure of what you have. You are not good enough. But if you are good, you meet more producers, your job will always speak for you and you will always get good jobs. And I would always tell people when they say they’ve not been seeing me in many movies these days, I tell them I can’t just be acting.

They said it is because of you that they are buying.
I was coming to that, if you feel you want a Bukky Wright and you can afford to pay her, she would be on your set. And for you to want to pay Bukky Wright such huge amount of money, you should know the kind of script you have, you should know the kind of people you want to have in your movie and you should have a projection for that movie, because you won’t just want to spend money on that movie and throw it in the garbage.

So how much is it going to cost me to put you in my movie?
The only compromise I would have is when I read a script and I can’t drop it. I have a script here. It is written by Mamod Ali Balogun. These are the kind of movies I want to do. I don’t take a script because I want to be everywhere. I don’t just take a movie because I want to take so and so amount of money. I have a name to protect. Bukky Wright is brand that needs to be well kept and preserved.

So there are certain scripts you won’t touch?
No no!

Not for any amount?
Not for any amount. There are lots of scripts that I even hike my price for it because I know they cannot pay and I want them to go because I don’t want to do it.

Someone said you should not have fallen in love with someone like Bolaji Basia?
It is my past and I don’t want to go back to it. But I will just tell anybody that wants to fall in love, they should fall in love with their eyes wide opened with a pair of glasses

Okay, who is your ideal man?
My ideal man should be gentle, hardwork- ing, honest, God-fearing loving kind and hum- ble

Not a womanizer?
Of course not!
But Nigerian men do something on the other outside
Well it doesn’t mean he won’t, as long as I don’t see, I don’t want to know.

If you see it, what will happen?
I don’t know. If he must do it, he should keep it away from at least that gives me a lot of respect.

Are you going to try and be a mother again?
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so a female must not be too close with another femael?they will be seen as lesbians.STUPIDITY

i can be a distributor
you can email me
shyzyshezy@yahoo.com

when my ant.came from UK with his kid,on their way home he saw molue with smoke
he started shouting fire inside the car fire mum call 911 pls our car is beside it i don't wanna die plsssss'

happy birthday to my namesake
when are you getting married now?usure say that thing dey work

switch47,seun is your grandfather so you don't know your papa papa or maybe your mama papa
shame on you

feelgood:
Great stuff, theblessed, ferdii, ndipe et al,

My brother claims their quarrel was the usual couple's stuff which was settled by a friend. He then went out for a drink with the same friend to allow tempers to cool down. A couple of hours later, he came home to find that the wife was no where to be found. Days later, after making frantic calls to her folks in Kaduna (they didnt confirm her whereabouts to him), someone called him that his wife was seen in Kaduna. When hto confirm based on thee called new info, the wife's folks ignored him. They only told him to send money for her antenatal, to which he refused as he wanted to know the clinic.

H[b]owever the lady told me that my brother beat her and she ran away for fear of her life. She also said that when his mother was smitten with stroke, her mother flew down to see his mother en route to her brother's house in Lagos. My brother claims the mother didnt come to see his mother but to mock/laugh at him. And why didnt she bring along his wife? Also stated that when he mentioned his mother's state to the wife for her to come back, she wondered whether the mom was not dead yet - an accusation the wife denies. Claims and counter claims. [/b] To the poster who wanted to know what the girlfriend did to help my brother - she helped to clean the old lady's mess and give her a regular bath amongst others I will not mention here. Taking care of a stroke patient is no piece of cake. Where was the family? Good question - but no good answer to that. I can't venture any either.

Anyway, the burial is monthend, and I will discuss with my brother with a view for him to forgive his wife and give her a chance.

You can imagine a husband beating his pregnant wife,no matter what he shouldn't have done that best thing is for him to work out.well he may be the cause of the miscarriage

she is not black and can never be black ,she is a white girl noting can be done to change the blood running in her veins
like people saying Lagos is no mans land,what can they do to change the language,life styles.when you are black you are black when you are white you are white so stop all these African-American,black British of a thing
liking a Continent does not change anything so because she was born and raced in African has change her identity of being a white woman?what a statement.let the Truth be told and stop all these sentiments

@Bighead
Pls I choose UI as 1st & 2nd choice and score 266 in JAMB going for Guidance and Counselling and Economics Education with this my O'Level results

WAEC GCE 2002
Eng F9
Maths C6
Bio C4
Acct A1
Govt C5
Agric C5
Comm D7
Econs F9

WAEC GCE 2005 Eng C6
Maths C6
Bio B3
Acct C6
Agric C6
Econs E8

Please what is my chance of get admitted

it does affect me a lot especially food and some other goods as well e.g their was a day i wanted to buy facial powder on which i have a specific one but cause i saw Angelina jolly picture on another i decided to buy both .
up till now i haven't use that particular powder.

Babatunde Fasola and Funke Akindele (a.k.a Jenifer)

No2Atheism:
@OriginalPoster

At the end of the day the decision is still yours, however please note that:

- Love does not always show up in the form of jealousy, some women and men can love their partners and show their love in the form of tolerance, quietness, saying nothing or perseverance or openness. While at the same time some others might love their partner and show that love in form of emotional reaction to perceived wrong doing. Hence it is obvious that Whitelexi's advice is assuming that all women react with jealousy to perceived wrong doing, yet the reality is that some do and some do not

Hence that she reacts to your staged flirting and assumed cheating does not mean she loves you. Instead it can actually mean 2 things:

- She really does love you and got back to her senses

or

- She really does not love you at all, but she does not want to let you go for one reason or another that is not love e.g. financial reasons or pride(considering that all human beings are pridefully possessive to a certain extent, hence her reaction might just be a primeval reaction of not wanting to lose her catch).


Once again, @originalposter, the decision is still yours to make as you see fit.

sometimes i dont understand guys
i have this same problem in my relationship,having male friends does not mean she doesn't love you
in my own case,he told me to stop any friendship or relationship I'm having with guys especially the once i am close to.
i stopped this friendship with guys you wouldn't believe that this guy is still feeling unsecured
this is a serious issue in summary

@poster
for her to stop her friendship with those guys once wouldn't be easy but she can stop if she really meant it, at list for her sake you stopped talking to your ex so she too should try and understand
the most important thing is for you to trust your partner and tolerance is very important in a relationship.

sistawoman:
LOL

What and ever. . . . talk to the hand.

He always invites his friends over to sample my dishes. And smiles so proudly when they are licking thier fingers and singing my prasies

sisterwoman are you part of nollywood stars?

una too like nollywood show for una house

pls where can one get the film in Nigeria

[quote author=amebo no1. link=topic=274785.msg3901392#msg3901392 date=1242913906]you are dumb

say thank you aunty amebo


what nonsense[/quote]why are you like this?
you are not a gentle lady
you don't just talk to people the way you feel like because they need your advice
if you can't give any,is not a must though i know you are trying to help but be calm with your words

hollandis:
@poster
doughting or doughnut
Having said that I got to eat doughnuts
Cant you stand up like rihanna?

tpiah:
so you mean doubting.

sorry for that .it was a mistake and that doesn't mean i shouldn't express myself
thanks for the correction

JJYOU:
cant believe common sence is not common to some people.

tell him to bring his friends to beat you some more to show him how much you appreciate him being God sent in your life. foolish love. does she know what colour love is? u wan pour sand for her garri? dont you know her life depends on this guy beating? marry him quick. if you need wedding gown we can help with one from oxfam

the last statement was this ''kindly advice on what to do'' thanks this is yours che?is appreciated

luxoire:
tell him - you are not about to lose your job to his jealousy and insercities - come to think of it - WHY ARE YOU PLANNING TO MARRY A MAN WHO DOUBTS YOU ON NO EVIDENCE?

WHY ALSO MARRY A MAN THAT BEATS YOU? surely of of these are signs that you both take a step back and reasses your relationship and why you are really getting married? is it because you ar eboth 'comfortable' in the relationship? you might think love - but LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH REASON TO BASE A MARRIAGE ON. it is imprtant just not th ONLY reason.

thanks very much.we have to talk things out
i even told him maybe i will change job,even if i change how am i sure it wouldn't be worst?
your advice is really appreciated

sisterwoman pls what do you have to say

hello fellow Nigerians and friends
i work in the same office with my fiance but he meet me their.since we've started our relationship,he has being doubting me about a particular co-worker of ours though i was very close to this man infact i new this man before i started working in my company,he knows all my family,we are from the same state but different home town.
have told my guy nothing between me and this man that we are just close friend,i like him as a mentor,we discuss issues together before you came in.he is married with kids,i know his family but i have never being to his house before but he still insist that their must be something going on between the two of us.
i don't have free movement in the office again with fear that he might be thinking of something else.if he is not where he is seen me,their must be trouble that day.
their was a day we were discussing before we started our relationship,that i prefer male Friends to female Friends then,cause I'm always scared of female Friends and that married male Friends are better than single cause they wouldn't;t disturb you not that i have any married male Friends excluding this man in my office and is because we are in the same office and we new each other before i came in through my uncle and his daughter.
he capitalized on this that we are having an affair which i must stop.i told him what do you want me to stop?what has never existed or i should stop talking to him in the office? which is not possible cause definitely something would bring us together again .
he has being maltreating me on this issue,i have tried my possible best to make him believe we have nothing together
infact i stop discussing with this guy expect on official issue despite all this I'm still a LovePeddler.because of this ,i get to the office late these days just for him not to meet only me and that man in the office or he must have being in the office before i get their.
their was a day he beat me cause of this issue later he apologise through message that he was sorry that i know the cause of everything
though he is a very nice guy and i know he really loves me,if a guy loves a girl you will definitely know that.i know he loves me and he is very caring,his family are very nice as well but this issue in my relationship is killing
pls what can i do?i know you all understand more than my explanations
and don;t mind my English pls we are all learning
I'm really in love with this guy and i don't want to loose him

kindly advice

switch47:
First   of all   if you want an intelligent answer go to barca thread------or an incredibly stupid response go to chelsea thread!!


CHELSEA HAS POSTPONED THEIR DEMISE AND BURIAL long enough--------THIS IS TIME FOR CHELSEA TO DIE!!   a team that conceeded seven goals in two consecutive games does not deserve to win anything!!   BARCA TO ELIMINATE THEM!!    AMEN!!


the good thing is that the more the fake victories the higher the high hopes and the BIGGER the disapointment chelsea will fall big time with nothing to show at the end of this season!! AMEN!!

why do you hate chelsea so much?
hope you are not like this generally
what if they win will you die?

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are you a conductor?

[/quote][quote author=Sonye link=topic=231649.msg3569355#msg3569355 date=1236632116]What everyone expected to watch was COMEDY!!!!!

@ Bishop
I know that was your opinion about the movie but i must agree with a few others here. With all due respect, i don't feel a sense of humour here.

I don't ever watch Nigerian movies because all i see are people like Genevieve wearing beautiful clothes or living in the village with perfect make up on;
Omotola showing her voluptuous body and rolling her beautiful eyes;
Rita Dominic smoking and seducing men with her red lipstick

We have been waiting for Nollywood to introduce a real actor. someone that will release RAW talent, someone that would not mind looking ridiculous and still deliver, all in the name of entertainment.and i must say, Jenifa (whatever her real name is) did a very good job. and has reconciled my heart with nollywood.
I am not Yoruba, but i found it hilarious, my white friends find it incredible. think a bit positive.

PS. Mr Ibu is quite irritating

i have being expecting these .thanks for the explanation you made
she is good in any role just like faithia balogun
the both intelligent
Bishop take it easy we would get there our technology has improve unlike before

nigerians u na go copy die
do you know why hoollywood is called that name?
because the land was full of holly trees.so is the nigeria nollywood full of nolly trees?
stupied set of people.
i prefer reasonable yoruba films to those love in cup,love is mad,love and crazy,ho my love, i love him,the war
of love films from nollywood

server34:

the case, your money will be refunded immediately while the bank tries to retrieve the same money from that other customer. So u could ask your CSO to check this.

@ shezy, ur sister must have withdrawn that money and she's forgotten, or one of her school friends knows her pin. We had several cases about this, I have seen several friends of customers using the friends ATM. Dats y we always stress never give ur PIN to any1, even ur Mama.

we went their together, we where told that it was withdrawn from the internet through a card purchase by all this yahoo boys .
why can't they find solution to this?

20,000 was withdrawn from my sister's account .the money was part of her school fees
they sent her a mail that 20,000 has being withdrawn from her account on a particular date
through her e-banking which she doesn't even know how to use talkless of having one
it was from this "happy customer happy bank"of a thing,
we are yet to pay her school fees and she just got admitted to unad.you know the implication if we don't pay when we where suppose to.she will forfit the admition God would help us

how do you feel when your woman is in charge of your responsibility as a man,excluding some
circumstances and you woman how do you treat your husband when it come to dis

davidkanu put your picture now to see who is talking.
you can tell she may be the queen of your life,the bone of your bone

fellow nairalanders,kindly guide me on how to make money btw now and dec.15
any means of bus fraudulent excluded
thanks

pls what is the total cure for staphylococcus?

with dis discussions,i feel like having a baby.

Their will surely be something that attracted both of you together be4 going into marriage
may be that thing is dead,do you believe you can still breathe new life into it?do you believeimmediately divorce set in,your childrens'life is at stake.
pls try and rethink b4 any step.

to build a nation starts from the family,what do you expect from your son in future.
retribution will surely transpire.please don't stop go ahead.and gud luck

Pls is the cutoff on oau site for jamb or post jamb.if u know just alert us,to know the next plans

thanks man helping each other is the best.
i'll surely check the site as well.please i'm finding it uneasy to write out the web site just like the one up their.
just tell me how to do it.thanks
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