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Perfectman91:
Time heals bro, you deserved to be loved too so move on

Her place can't be filled in my heart, I don't want to end up with someone else while I carry her love in my heart...

This is really depressing me cuz I have invested so much in our relationship and I was even thinking of sponsoring her masters in abroad.

My mental health is at stake and I may loose my mind eventually...

alphaNomega:
Allow the girl to focus on her studies.

You, focus in your life and make money.

I understand you but I'm not making her loose focus, I just love her that I want to wait for her till she finish in school.

Good day Nairalanders.


I met this intelligent lady in my final year in school, she was a fresher then, we started off as friends, she gave in after I graduated while she was in 200l.

Our love was going fine but I observed she doesn't call much and hardly respond to messages on WhatsApp, many times, she will be online while my messages will be delayed before she responded, I've complained countless of time to show some real love and affection so I can know she truly loves me, but she's just that type of person that can do 1 or 2 days without talking to someone she loves. She actually loves me and I know that for a fact but she's not just showing it enough and I'm not feeling it enough.

I had the intention to sponsor her business idea which was giving her 200k to start up her skin care products, but we had to change that plan when she was having issue with her uncle's wife, the lady was maltreating her and I wasn't comfortable with the way she was complaining of her treatment towards her, so I came up with a plan to use the money I'm supposed to give her for business to secure an apartment, my plan was, I will secure a mini flat where we can both be staying pending when she will finish school but I won't be staying around often since my job doesn't permit me.
We got the apartment after a month serach and furnished it beautifully to suit her, I thought all of this will make her change towards me and start showing so much care and affection since we both live together now, but it still doesn't change, many times, I face so many challenges in my work but she doesn't care to know what's going with my work or care to know how I'm fairing with work, so I got confused one day and thought is this lady playing me and just wasting my time, I messaged her to tell her I'm fed up of how she treats me and doesn't show so much care towards me, then told her we should breakup if she's finding it difficult to show that love she has for me, she asked if I was serious about the breakup but God knows it's just a mere threat in me and I just want her to plead for change but she took it up when I told her I meant it, now she has left the apartment I got for us and I'm here regretting why I threatened her with breakup.

The apartment I got for us is still there without any of us staying there, and I'm about relocating to another state but God knows I still want her back and make things right with her but I don't know how to win her back and she seems to have made up her mind never to come back, what advise do you have for me after this experience with her.

yuping:
Just go and study abroad forget this country. You can only serve once, is either tiu do it now or wait till you graduate later.

I don't have the funds to study abroad, can i go ahead and do another course while it doesn't affect anything if i didn't go for my service..

Hello Nairaland,


This is a new moniker created to seek your advise, so, I'm a graduate but yet to serve, i studied human resource management but honestly, I'm not satisfied with my studies, i didn't take the course seriously and i felt the whole 4 years was a waste.

I'm 29years old now and i really want to go back to school to study business administration with full concentration so i can be satisfied with my education, all i just want is that satisfaction with education so it won't look like i didn't pass through school.

My concern now is, what will this affect since I'm yet to enroll for my NYSC service and how do i go about this if i decides to defer my service to pursue the new degree?

Note, age isn't my concern at all.