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ikswiss:
Took out time to read the whole tread and is bitter to see how other people talk down on someone emotions.

I’m going through the same thing right now and I know how hard it hurts,most especially mentally.

I was so madly in love with her that I was gonna move to her. How do I know I was in love? Well she was all I could think of, I cut off other girls I was dealing with and while in club with the lads I was so sad that she wasn’t with me and easily irritated when other girls makes advances.


After much discussion we decided that it would be better for me to move to her due to her work, mind you we both are independent and was about getting a mortgage together. I’m Nigerian raised in Sweden while she is from Cameroon but raised in Canada both met in New York.

As the matter don rich, applied for my visa and paid 15k dollars for my visa application (student visa for masters) things got soured.

I was packing for vacation with my friends to santorini in August when she called me crying and telling me she didn’t want to do this anymore. At that moment I thought she didn’t mean it and my anxiety level elevated to the ceiling not knowing she was down serious. Finally landed to santorini called and she literally told me she made up her mind, and when I asked her why she wanted to path ways now that I made huge sacrifice for us both and all she could say is that we argued and I said mean stuffs to her which I apologize and moved passed

Honestly I have been trying to get through this and it doesn’t make sense, she told me she was happy in our relationship and no we didn’t argued all the time. But arguments was undeniably forthcoming provided that we both lived in different countries and coronavirus didn’t help as well,but she said boldly she made up her mind and I should give her some space.

Mehn that was the hardest of it especially breaking up from a distance and not able to reach her due to the pandemic �
I couldn’t stop messaging her, in fact it felt like my thought was constantly going from one moment we both shared together to another,I was thinking what could I have done better. I kept texting and we could talk for hours and at one moment I asked her if it was just the arguments and she said yeah.

So this is the thing with her, she hardly speak or talk about her she felt about something. Prior to this breakup I always asked her if something was bothering her she says no she is fine and each time we have misunderstandings we apologize, not knowing she had grudges towards me and me on the other hand was forging ahead trying to build a future with this lady.

My friends all gave me different advices towards the situation. Some said maybe she met someone over there which she said no she didn’t. While some of my friends said she got cold feet, some said distance in this pandemic is never gonna work, while some said maybe her family which I met probably told her to move on and not be with me,while some said she didn’t love me the way I did. I settled for the last cos if she loved me she would have told me how she felt and we would have worked it through.

I got so confused thinking where I did wrong or what could I have done better �

Well last last she blocked me on her snap,WhatsApp and took me off her Facebook and insta,And the reason is that I couldn’t stop messaging her.

So am bound to move to Canada sometime next year hopefully soon when the pandemic is over and hopefully I might bump into her while in Canada.

To the guy that made this post, bro am in the same shoes as you. It’s so hard for a man to fall in love but the minute we do, we make it count and give all we can. I’m still trying to get over mine and the early morning anxiety is the worst of it all. Hope you read this and understand you not alone going through this.


P.S: the pic was earlier this year when traveling to Toronto to visit her.

Wow. Thank God I'm not alone. Everyone keeps saying I have a problem, that I should let go. But they don't know how hard and difficult it is. Mine blocked me everywhere too because I kept calling and messaging him. My mind has wandered so many places thinking of what I could have done to deserve this. Even when we were together, I'll always ask if there's something I'm doing wrong, or if there's any particular way he'd want me to act, he always replied "no, you are OK, you don't need to change anything" then i was baffled when he just ended things abruptly. It hurts on God. I still cry over him, I lost my job because of this, lost everything. Now I'm just trying to get back on my feet, and it's not easy at all. People think I'm overacting, but they don't know how I feel.
I'm just glad I'm not alone. We will get through it.

FeloniousFelon:
The sooner you realize that women are not capable of love like the way men are they better off you will be.

God did not create them like us.

They have been programmed to fall in and out of love with ease.

Their love is very superficial and the only time you really get a woman to truly love you, know that God has blessed you.

Nothing you do or say can get her back.

The more you hold on to hope of getting her back the worse you will be.

Free yourself from that woman.

You're wrong sir. I am exactly in the same shoe as the OP. It is not a gender thing. Mind you, my ex isn't rich or anything. It was just pure love for me.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Shortyy, where are you based?

Abuja ma.

Ssmart96:
A real estate and properties agency located in Ikeja, Lagos is opening a new office in Epe, Lagos state due to the demand of land and properties in Island, is in need of a respectable, competent and experienced person fill the post of a Secretary/PA to the Contactor/Manager.

Age: Between 23 - 30 years
Gender: Preferably female
Salary: 45k
Qualification: Minimum of OND in a relevant discipline
Experience: Minimum of two (2) years
Location: Must be a resident in Island
Skills: Be proactive, smart, polite and good in communication skills.

Interested applicants that meet up with the requirements should submit only their Cover only indicating phone number(s) and address to ssmartholdings1996@yahoo.com before 30th September, 2020

Good morning, I'm interested in this job, but I'm not living on the island

Help me Get a job please Nairalanders.

DrTims:
Okay. Just sent you an email

I've replied Sir

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DahLegend:
Send me a direct message.

Good morning Sir, please check your mail.

DrTims:
Can you relocate to lokoja?

Yes Sir

DahLegend:
Send me a direct message.

Sir, I have already done that. Please check your mail.

DahLegend:
Send me a direct message.

Please check your mail Sir

DahLegend:
Send me a direct message.

Sent Sir.

Nairalanders, I'm really in need of a job. Please, administrative, secretarial, logistics, customer service. Etc. I don't mind the location.

Nairalanders I really need a Job. I don't mind the location.

Charx122:
Those boys are very creative ...I'll include them on my new movie..

Are you a producer? I can write you a story.

kingsvictor2:
interested in working as a personal secretary for my commissioner, monthly pay is attractive

Yes Sir, I am. Can I DM you?
Please Sir I really need this job. Please.

kingsvictor2:
How's Enugu? are u a computer literate?

Yes sir

WiszyFraud:
are you in Port Harcourt?

I don't mind the location. I'll come PH sir.

Ngozioma:
Cook Job available, if interested , Dm.

Location?

Nairalanders I need a job please. I don't mind the location.

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Nairalanders I need a job please. I don't mind the location.

Hmm

obonujoker:
I understand... It's not easy to close a deal... One has to waste data upon data, and yet no security or assurance... One needs a stable job, and use realtor as a part time job...

Don't worry God's gonna do it.

Thanks so much

obonujoker:
Wow beautiful...

How's the realtor job coming??

Not good at all

fait10:
wre re u based?

Abuja Sir

studM:
Hw good r u wit computers? Can u work as a sec in lag

I can sir.

Rawhumper:
If You have someone You Can stay with in Abuja, i Can employ You in my business cos i dont have extra accomodation for You.

But You Need to be careful with The rate of rapes and killings, You Are ready to travel to Work in strange places?

I May not be the only Nice guy here but u have to learn from other Girls mistakes, i know This is falling on deaf eyes.

As for my Business,its real but You cant have it, if You dont have where u will be staying.

Am employing two More People then am good to go.

OK sir, what role will that be?

Nairalanders please I need a job. I don't mind the location