₦airaland Forum

Kilishihunter:
Don't worry. Be getting ready to become the cover picture of Shiloh's 2035 magazine. Shey almost every important news crosses nairaland. Till then

Shut up. Not everyone lives life just to be a wife. Dumbass

Dapcity007:
Until you learn that by nature;


Men are polygamous
Women are hypergamous

Then you can understand what it means for a man not to cheat , and for a woman not to cheat by keeping her Hypergamy in check

Men cheat because u ladies refuse to understand or acknowledge our nature of polygamy
Women cheat because they have to meet up with their Hypergamy


The solution LOVE from both parties these alone will destroy that polygamous instinct

Women should be submissive these alone keeps her Hypergamy in check

I stopped reading at "by nature, men are polygamous in nature"

That is the lie y'all tell yourselves just to be promiscous.

DMerciful:
Seems you support paternity fraud. The fact that women have no way of hiding it means by nature they are not supposed to be sleeping with various men and mixing paternity. You end up damaging the kids when they find out.

But don't worry, very soon China will make a portable device cheaper than mobile phone that will be able to perform paternity or DNA test. Paternity fraud is in its last days!

And you don't damage kids when you sleep around? Oh please!

I don't support anything, but don't do to others what you wouldn't want to be done to you.

Skseries:
lol how many women in relationship are financially independent? Are ladies who come out to shout broke guys never ashamed? How often do ladies give each other money? Do girls never feel ashamed? U went to the uni same way the guy did, and graduated same way he did, Infact when it comes to job opportunities u get it better than the males.

So a girls claim she is just a friend with a guy, she goes to visit the guy and expect transport? Do u expect transport when u go visit ur fellow female friends? Girls generally always want the easy way out using their body.

You say a guy is broke bcus he can't get u something, samething ur father cannot get u?

From beginning of time ladies have always use their body to get what they want, and Na guys wey dey desperate for sex they fall for stuffs like that

Na only guy wey no get sense will be bothered with the statement you are a broke guy. I work for my money, and till I get married my family comes first. There are millions of girls in the world looking for different things some money some love, and like they always say money doesn't guarantee happiness.

A well trained girl who is thought to be independent and work for her money who has respect for herself will never call a guy broke, cus she has self worth.

So any girl say am broke? Sure am broke am broke to whoever I want to and not broke to who I want to. Afterall when she's busy sleeping after the night sex am at work struggling to better my life. After all it's her body and it degrades faster than one can say Jack Robison

I personally don't care about anyone's money. If you think you'd be comfortable as a broke dude, go ahead and be broke.

Godoverevery:
**Men have been impregnating other people wife's*** like they rape other people wife and get them pregnant??

please help understand your point because I don't want to assume you are .....

Why you sef as a man will go after your fellow man's wife?

Aderr:
The bolded is the difference.

Another difference is that the man who has been deceived would have wasted his time, emotions and resources on another man's child. The deceived woman is spared such pain. So you see, there's a whole world of difference.

If you know you won't get revenge from a woman, don't bother hiding your bastard. Because her own revenge would be dangerous

Poloyanabo2:
There is difference shortyy, does the woman cater for the man's kids?
Does she ever connect with them emotionally as her own kids?
At least she's sure that they're outside her home and will forever remain there, all the kids in her home remains her blood.

That's what I'm telling you, don't hurt people and expect them not to retaliate.

Have you heard of the saying.. Hell hath no fury as a woman scorned?

That's her way of getting back at you. Deal with your mess!

You're still saying Nigerian mentality, if this was America, you'd be behind bars right now!

Imagine using your mouth to put yourself into trouble.

I'll continue to say this, women are not and will never be your problem.

Y'all have been crying all over this forum because of DNA, why? Lol, it sucks being played, doesn't it?

Now let me tell you, this thing didn't start today, men have been impregnating other people's wives from time immemorial, even other women's husbands impregnate other people's wives, it's been happening. It didn't start today.

You'd be surprised to know that the man you call uncle, isn't really your uncle but your grand mother's bastard son whose father is another woman's husband. E no start today, and men have been the pioneers of it

So I'll suggest you preach to your fellow men to stop taking advantage of poor defenseless wives, but try their best to take care of their own families and put their third legs in check

Even if she comes to you, reject her! After all, you are a man, or aren't you?

They will kill you before your time.

Let me ask..


If the tradition forbids women from cheating, does it forbid men also?

tinktanker:
I bet ur dad must have been as poor as a church rat when he met ur mum.

No, my father wasn't a church rat. He was a businessman based in lagos, whilee my mother was a teacher.

Next time, don't just involve people's parents in a harmless conversation, it makes you look dumb.

The only thing I'll say here is that men are very manipulative, they'd rather die than lose. (No pun intended)

He probably saw that he had lost, and resulted in this cheap publicity just to ridicule an innocent woman. May his soul rip though.

But most times, we need to keep emotions aside and tackle issues very thoroughly before concluding.

Saccharine:
There are cheating men that are very good fathers and even good husbands.There are cheating women who are good mothers and excellent wives. Why should they separate if they don't want to?
53.3% stat shows there's a lot walking round and doing under gee while maintaining happy homes o.

My own is let her remain not because of fear or lack of money but because it's what she wants to do, if she's arranging sidey as part of the package, so be it. If prayer is her own master key, good for her too.

A lot of people have this arrangement without being totally aware.

I understand perfectly.

His point is the woman should accept the fact that the man is the "man of the house" as he is a provider and the lady is the receiver, (which is the African setting of every marriage) he is allowed to do whatever he likes, while the woman isn't.


That is what I'm countering

RisenPhoenix1:
You still don't get my point. Having a profession or a career as a woman is ok as a hobby or a side distraction. Telling her to give it precedence over her family so she can walk out whenever her husband(s) 'messes up' is a recipe for disaster. And no, they are not happy. Their children are wayward, barely even communicate with their mothers and the women are getting old and none is even living in the same house with her current husband, I kid you not. Yes, they have money, go for night parties when they like and are renowned for sleeping around. Is that a woman's recipe for happiness in her advanced middle age?

A woman keeping sexual partners while married is a fraud. With DNA tests soon to become mainstream, they will stop getting away with this thievery. Look at the mess this redditor's mother made for the entire extended family as well as herself. You call this happiness?:

And a man keeping sexual partners is not a fraud?

You men really think this world revolves around you. Lmao.

As long as men continue to cheat and store bastards with different side chics, women will continue to live as they please. You can't eat your cake and have it.

RisenPhoenix1:
I know a family like that. Four women. Like you, their aged divorced mother (whose husband left her to raise them by herself) has always maintained that women must be financially strong so that they can opt out of their marriage when they feel like; and she raised all her daughters to think this way. Currently the youngest daughter is in her forties and all four daughters are either divorced or on their second or third husbands; if memory serves me correctly. And their scattered children are all over the landscape, and none of them is close to his/her mother. What kind of life is that? Better to remain unmarried.

My point is, if instead of teaching a woman patience and submission to her husband, you stress the importance of financial independence and career of a woman over raising her children, so that she can opt out of her marriage when the going gets tough; she will definitely opt out one day; and keep serially remarrying and opting out. And it will affect her life, her kids, and her happiness.

You're the one who's assuming it's affecting her life, the woman is probably having the time of her life wherever she is, but here you are thinking sje gives a fvck about your opinion!

The children will grow up and understand why their mom did what she had to do.

If you're not comfortable where you are, you move! That is the law of life. Only a poor and ignorant or weak woman will stay with a cheating man, hoping he'd change or stop.

Let everyone do what makes them happy. Simple.

Saccharine:
By enjoying the body of another virile man while being submissive and meek at home , smart ones use protection of course to avoid stories that touch. What do you think is responsible for a thriving happy wife that's married to a community preeq?

Some choose to fast and pray, others choose to ignore, some treat infections forever, some turn to lesbianism, some concentrate on the kids.

There's no contract you signed to be faithful to an unfaithful man, you are not bound under any oath to uphold a contract he has breached. You're already managing uninspiring preeq that doesn't even stay in one place and you're expected to chop it forever plus any unexpected craw craw, tuehhh.


Make money so you're bold.Once you have money , your options become bigger and you can objectively view the relationship for what it is. Useful or non useful.. You choose and judge based on your own criteria..Financial independence is key.

Things hit different when there's money in the bank.

Only a fool cries or fights over a cheating man these days..too many fishes to fry.

Those that can be faithful should stick to each other, those that can't should be free for all.

Applause!!!!

Nanaborga:
See the kind useless thread wey man dey create , now watch how this vaginal puppies insult and downgrade us , guy we need to flog you .

Ladies know guys don’t cheat with emotions so that’s not a threat to their relationship with their husband , we cheat because we just want to taste a different soup or sample a new wine not because we are in love , but the reverse is the case when women cheat . Moreover some of our spouse are already with the mindset that men are polygamous in nature .

Abeg don’t create this type of thread again , these are the type of thread that sow evil thoughts in their heart, I take GOD beg with

Just look at your analysis. You sound like a toddler! God forbid!

Whatever the reason you have for sleeping with another woman doesn't matter!

Cheating is cheating!

sinaj:
By getting pregnant for another man and pinning it on the husband.

Lmao I don't know if I should support or condemn this

Most of them will know what their husbands are doing but because :

1: husband gives them money for hair and pedicure and takes them on Dubai trips, they'll turn a blind eye.

2: If they leave him, loneliness will kill them. Very pathetic lol

3: if they decide to leave what becomes of their children?

4: The mentality that all men cheat, so manage the one you have. Spits.

5: They believe they're in love. Love conquers all

6: Society has rendered most women useless. They believe they're meant to stay married no matter how promiscuous their husbands are. A divorce is never an option. Stay with him and die because he's a man.

RedPhoenix:
You are on the right track. You'll find what you seek along that track.


But also, visit the pastors not just the churches. They know their children better


I'm. Wishing you luck. If you don't mind try Catholic. They train their ladies to be modest, decent and godly.

Don't visit any pastor. Make your choice yourself.
Most of these pastors are not real men of God.

Don't be deceived.

Hmmmm

Yes, I lived in Ebonyi for a while, I'm in support of you going there. Their women are hardworking, industrious, and humble.

As your story is a quite pathetic one, you'll need someone that will give you peace of mind, not stress. You have gone through a lot, so you need to drink water and drop cup.

I strongly advice you go to Ebonyi, I swear if I was a man, I'll marry an Ebonyi woman i went there and I was awed by their strength and humility. Just lodge yourself in one of the hotels, go to their famous markets and observe things. Go to their churches and observe too..

But don't just walk up to someone and propose marriage immediately o if you meet anyone, just be friends with her first and see how it goes.

Good luck.

SkinyGirl:
I have apologise and all..but he's still bent on me moving on

SMH. What's stopping you from moving on too?

Get productive with your life, please. Stop downgrading yourself.

WhiteIverson:
It's just like the medicine we take when sick. We obviously hate it but at that point, we can't do without it.

I'm telling you, if anyone I'm dating tends to be dramatic, I'll leave him in that relationship.

Some of us actually prefer peace of mind.

WhiteIverson:
What is life without drama?
I've come to realize that humans cannot do without drama. It defines our existence.

Lol not me. I abhor it.

Hmm. The worst thing anybody can experience in life is being with a toxic person in the name of a "relationship".

That's why I prefer singlehood. I swear I do not have the strength for anyone's drama.

Then she's not independent.

Google the definition of Alpha female, Boss lady or and independent woman.

This one na bambiala forming independent

First of all Bobrisky isn't a woman.
And no woman should take him as a role model.

If you decide to use your private part to make money, in the end, your private part will suffer it.

Rather, use your God-given brain and talents and liberate yourself from poverty. Don't deliberately become a liability to people and yourself.

You have something in you, use it. Not your private part.

TruthHurts1:
Please keep your ignorance about Christianity to yourself and stop living in deception.

You dey mind am.

DasaintHope:
Even as a Christian you can both marry. The relationship is too distant. I would advice you to jokingly breach the matter to your Mom, and watch her reaction. I've experienced such a dilemma.

Please I don't know the kind of Christianity you're practising, but this doesn't apply to mine.

The grandfather of the guy is the great grand father of the lady. They're very much related please! The blood is there!

Poshvector12345:
Thanks so much for the contribution.
I'll try that Nivea, as for adding weight that's impossible, I eat like a whale but highest na 60 kg top, if I slack for eating it comes down to 54. I de even fear to workout for fear of loosing the little I have. I am one of those pple that school go close resume I still de the same size no change.
I will try that press up and I have started following all this male fashion pages on Reddit and Instagram.

That's great.

Good luck

Poshvector12345:
My questions are;
1. What brand of body spray is good for men? (I have never bought anything like this before, I just use my mom's and sisters perfume sparingly)
2. Can I continue to use my nicoderm mixed with Vaseline and soulmate?
3. Whats your advice on shoes? ( I am not doing for the girls perse but I know of peacocking and obsession of girls to shoes, shame )
4. No matter how I try my clothes are always sloppy, what can I do to look sharp in my clothes?
5. Do I need to ditch the skinny look? Can I look clothes in shirt without being buff? (I hate working out and too much muscle)
6. How can I decorate my man cave?
7. Is there any online space or PDF u read about this in practical terms.

Lalaticlala, mynd44, forano Dominique abeg move to front page or the appropriate section make I help my life abeg.

Lol.

You have sisters, tell them to help you, or if you have an elder bro or cousin bro, let him help you out.

I'll suggest men Nivea for body cream and spray, I'll suggest a little push up every morning, to get small packs, not much.

About your choice of clothes and shoes, enter the boutique, once they look at you, they'll give you what you need. If you need a stylist, I'm available, but it will cost you.

Skinny isn't bad, but try to add a little flesh. You'll do this by adding a little weight and working out at the same time.

Decorating Your room, just go online and see some room patterns for guys at your age, you'll know how to go about it.

All in all, try being yourself. You really don't have live to please anyone.

cristy149:
her boss at work would have oceanic her breast finish

Shuttup