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"all, I think all the Ladies here offering congratulations and advice are all married, so how come you guys think they are jealous. Na wa o.
And to all the single ladies on this forum, after you people would say that in Africa or Nigeria rather one thing one thing, your fellow lady is indirectly putting you gals down, translating her words, if you are single, u have no value to anyone. ewwwwww. So much for women rights.
Congratulations Poster, Save some honey for when the bees are in hibernation

@Cleanman
I am African, but I would rather dedicate my hatred outside the continent if need be .

I don't know if most of you guys on this thread really understand what others are saying or you just choose to be the typical short sighted,dim witted BLACK folks people think you are.
As for the comparison between Miss Nigeria and Ghana, if there is any such thing as fake or inferiority complex then both of them are it because none of them has their real hair or clothes either.It don't matter none that Miss Ghana is mixed, that aint her hair and they both should be weaning a little piece of plantain leaves around their b00bs and behinds. mschew.

Stewpid Africans doing what they know best, tearing down each other.

@The-one
Bros na lie. Blacks and Arabs are unbelievable.It must be something to do with their brain make up.

I am ashamed of all you tribal fools on this thread.

Some men just came to this site and instead of offering advice,they are all blowing hot and cold, how dem wives would be licking the floor on their homes and how they don't help their wives in the kitchen.Don't fool anybody here,you know the truth when we are not there. OP is trying to put his home in order and you guys are here pretending to be Men in your homes.We know the true men by what they write not by their dreams, U wish ko,U wish ni.
OP,i trust you to sift the advice here and apply to your wife,nobe every you go follow oh if not gbese oh,proper one.

@Geosegun
I wonder sef sef, how hard is it to say sorry?
But on the other hand, some ppl like to be on the receiving end always hearing it and never saying it. Lord help us.
@Poster,please don't fart in her mouth or stop licking Labia oh,please abeg. But if you mean it as a joke ,you can fart into her mouth sha. Wonders shall not end,married ppl dey see somtin sha
@Debrief, sorry about that.
But I hope you did not just divorce like that.You mean you did'nt something terrible before you left him. And I am not joking, I mean something he would never forget.He damaged your spleen? Lord knows what I would do to him/her. I am a Christian but I know how to  return an eye for an eye in this kind of case.Anyway,good thing you found someone else you happy with.That's all that matters.

@Cold, very correct Principle I tell you so long as you do not mind the loneliness when you grow old.

@Debrief, I am sure that there was nowhere in my statement where I said divorce is never an option. I said he should stop flashing divorce as an alternative. I am a Christian,not even religious.And while the bible says Adultery is the only reason to put one's spouse away I still know that the Good Lord expects us to use our head when it comes to certain issues. No one should ever stay with a physically abusive spouse,i.e Man or Woman, but excuse me an insultive husband is not a reason for divorce,quote me anywhere.You can work at it even if it means seperation but yes if you got married in accordance to the Bible ,you are bound by it,no matter how much you try to justify your actions.Yes,quote me. I personally cannot stand an insultive or rude wife/husband.Lord help me,but then for me marriage is a one way street.In or out, and please don't misquote me,if there is abuse,leave the home.Lord help us all.
I don't know if you are male or female and if you were a victim o physical or emotional abuse and if you were the one who wanted the divorce or you were th eone who was shown the way out,so I cannot speak for you.But either way,my dear in his case he cannot be looking for a divorce cos his wife never says sorry. Shuo!!! All these Westernization sef

@Geosegun,are you saying a Man should never apologise to his  wife.That makes him a Man? Oloun maje. Lord help we all.
@Poster,You sound like a nice guy oh. Blessed is she who found you. For your wife,she sure does have some issues,lack of a job is not enough reason to break a home.She's gotta learn to deal with it for the time being especially as you sound like a thoughtful husband. You have kids and you are still licking labia.God bless you jare.

And also, NEVER use divorce as a threat to put ur spouse in order,trust me it always goes downhill from there.Ask other divorcees

Nigerians, The country's greatest enemies.
I don't know a lot about the bill, to be frank I know next to nothing just that the bill seeks to elongate the presidential tenure and make it one term.How long is it for? Let's say 5 years Maximum.
You are telling me you guys cannot see any benefit from it. Let me tell you what my non political eyes sees.It sees an end to all thos Presidents or Governors who start planning for second tenure in their second year. Be back later with more

Is there a format for girls younger by 3 years,just add 3 years to that format

Oh I see,something is paraphrasing my words,lmao. So what is the synonym for v.ag.i.na, joypot?

What is joystick again, and bottom licked?

@Sexkillz
hahahahahaha.Now I know ppl that did not do NYSC.Rivers indeed.
You see God is very wise as the Creator. However He choose the order of creation,He had a reason for it.Women first oh,or men first. And on a lighter note,there is no rule that says that the first to be created is the superior.There are homes where the first born is uselesser than the last born. . I said in Africa,and Nigeria we are most of the time just concerned with whether our wives are submissive or not and we donot even know what submissiveness is. Just in order to Lord it over someone you are stronger than,everyman whips out his weapon of instruction(be it Bible or Quran)and start refering to all the places where it says women shd do this or that,taking everything out of context.

Abasi Mbok!!! Help us eeeeeee.
As a woman why shd I submit to any amn who isnt my husabnd and as a man does having a Penis automatically make me think i deserve to be ass-licked

@sexkillz,Otondo is a pet name. And I would never fight a war with someone I cannot see. So you can start a fight if you want .
Black Men forever talkin gof submissiveness,look at where we are in the world today.Mschewwww.Just another ego war.

@Sexkillz
Otondo. A husband is the head to his wife and not men to women.There is a difference

OP,I came here to insult you.You are silly, you are looking for fresh milk.
After 13 years of marriage ,its now that you are remembering she was not a virgin. Ewu,nama, Otondo.


Looking for how to escape,imbechile

@Golusch, the only problem is that there is no dates attached to your plans. Or are there dates. What I mean is,do you have admission already and have paid your fees. Do you have a job start up date. If not,all you are doing is hoping and it's possible that even in 5 years time you still on't have a job or an M.Sc, God forbid anyways. Personally I think you are still too young to be getting married. At 24,I would be.That is ur major fear and don't tell me its not so,if not I see no reason why you would want an M.Sc before marriage,off course i understand about the job. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Shut up harakiri! Otondo

Are there no women on this thread? They all ran away ba. And the men are here saying divorce divorce,not even one person questioning the truth of the matter. NO smoke without fire, husband and wife.Go and arrange your marriage and all of you quoting bible here,the bible didnt even say to divorce a nagging wife, at least th elast time I read it, abi has it been edited?
Come fellow men n women,marriage is not for kids,stop looking for excuses.

I don't know what is wrong with men and women of nowadays,the Western culture has eaten deep into us abi?
Why wouldnt you run for the divorce option? And when you marry the next one with her bad mouth,you will pursue her again. It is so easy for ppl to come to Nairaland and say stuff that they never tell their spouses. You should seat your wife down and talk to her like the woman you married,yes the same one you said I love you and for will be with you till death do us part. Are you a Christian or a Muslim? Marriage is till death do you part,no be me make you go talk am.In as much as there is no violence /adultery in the marriage my friend sit down there,you are not escaping anywhere. Adultery is even forgiveable but if she beats you,pack ya load. So Bros,no divorce for you. As for insulting your Mother,it is a disrespectful thing but it is not a grevious offence.Knowing as our wives are the mother's of tomoro,I can comfortably tell you without mincing words that Your Mother is not without blame. Except your wife is raving mad,I can bet my last pound your Mother said/did something wrong.


After all said and done,I have no advice for you,lol, just to tell you that stop looking for a cheap way to escape and marry someone else and make your marriage work.From ur description of her,she is not a complete devil.

@Cuddlemii,
I am not even referring to the age difference at all. Let's say they started dating at 20(highly unlikely),its been 4 years now and in 5 years hopefully after the good job and Masters when he is ready she is 29. She aint exactly a spring chicken. For me its not even the age I am considering its the whole story in the light of his basis for his decisions

@Cuddlemii. the OP in question is saying his estimated plans for the future not anything definite so your response though reasonable,is not exactly in line b/c he has no date. He is saying he estimates it to be btw 4-5 years. What if he gets a job today tomoro? Why can he not get married? Who says married people don't do Masters. i.e husband and wife self. And like I have said again who says a Masters would turn his luck around if he didnt have a job.If he had a plan like he already has admisiions and funds et al then we can say do this ,do that but my guy is just estimating. As for doing small thing for the girl,that's utter crap.If the girl in question cannot wait,why tie her down again. And I assume you are female,and you are telling a girl to hang around with a "Nigerian" guy for 9 years. You serious so?
After all said and done, we can only advice,the convinction comes from you.I try to limit my advice giving,infact I try not to give advice just point out th epros and the cons and allow th epersn in question to decide.

@Toba,how do you know she is not God's choice for him? For some ppl, their wives are the good things that open the way for them. Note that I am not advocating marrying a jobless man o. Oloun maje

Otondo,Just 24 and you are complaining. Better Repent

Well, You sound like an M.Sc or M.BA would give you a job, fa fa fa fowl!!!! Don't even let that thinking deceive you. What I can tell you is that off course without a job it would be difficult to manage a home because of course money runs the home and nextly because we don't want you killing our sister just cos she got a bigger/better job than yours. You should concentrate on getting a job first.Blimey,there are lots of married folks doing their postgrad,infact I know a good number that were newly weds as in 1 month after kind oh.
@Toba,truly only God is irreplaceable but we don't want him to start afresh looking for a good girl after this one leaves,the devil he knows is way better.So my fellow bros,mbok firstly get it out of ur head that a Masters degree will open the job windows.

Finally which one is get a job and specialize , you sound like a commitment phobe. Stop pushing the "evil day" forward.

What is it with you and Indian chicks sef?

So because Messi no come ,una dey feeling funky ba

Thanks@Ericology.
It's a shame, the whole story eh. But more so the shame is just reading people's comment here and knowing that it's really gonna be a while before we have people thinking and acting properly in Nigeria.

And where do you all get this jist that these folks are Igbo. Ever heard of the tribe called Ikwerre in the Naija Delta?

tit for tat