₦airaland Forum

shozillo:
[color=#006600][/color]Family Planning has been something to take very Serious Because of the fanancial Implication,Busy Schedule of parents to have Ample time to spend with their Wards and Health Implication of having Many Children!!! ;DFamily Planning has been something to take very Serious Because of the fanancial Implication,Busy Schedule of parents to have Ample time to spend with their Wards and Health Implication of having Many Children!!!

There is an African proverb that says...
"A PERSON THAT PRAYS THAT HIS CHILD/CHILDREN WOULD NOT BE A SLAVE(NON-ENTITY) BUT GAVE BIRTH TO MANY CHILDREN THAT HE CAN'T CATER FOR,WOULD EVENTUALLY SEE HIS/HER CHILDREN SERVE THIER MATES"

especially in this era where to nuture a child to adulthood is expensive

[color=#006600][/color]Family Planning has been something to take very Serious Because of the fanancial Implication,Busy Schedule of parents to have Ample time to spend with their Wards and Health Implication of having Many Children!!! ;DFamily Planning has been something to take very Serious Because of the fanancial Implication,Busy Schedule of parents to have Ample time to spend with their Wards and Health Implication of having Many Children!!!

TooNoisy:
People now take marriage like a contract in which - people are not longer allowed to show love, flexibility and common sense.

So if the wife is sick or feeling tired, the man shouldn't help out with house work or even do it all? Because of some silly mindset that people have?

Or if the husband loses his job or business, the wife should continue spending her own money on aso-ebi and owambe. Or she should continue sending money to only her family members at the detriment of her children.

These threads are becoming stale and senseless. If you like, don't support your husband or wife when the need arises. You are only destroying your marriage and your future.

@tooNoisy
u are a fiery,no holds barred kind of person(U say it as it is)


But u would be SHOCKED at d rate at which people destroy their marriage due to selfish(Not Considerate) or Rigid Cultural Reasons!!!

Thanks 4 airing ur opinion on d post

Ursino:
It is the God-given role of the man to take 100% care of the financial needs of the family. But if the woman works, or earns, she can support as in being a help mate. Now, in terms of domestic chores, it is the woman's role to take care of them all. She may ask for help if the burden is overwhelming. Men are naturally egotistic. Most men can spend thousands to get their wives house helps than for them to stoop and help out with the house chores. If you are blessed with a supportive husband, please respect him. And as a woman, if your husband's income cannot comfortably carry the house(the way you want it), and you are working, please support him. That doesn't mean equality. And as a man, if your wife supports you financially and still does her domestic jobs, please honour and worship her. She is a rare Gem Even as marriage is a symbiotic relationship, the head should be separated from the neck in love and unity.

@Ursino,Well Said!!!
I appreciate your perspective eventhough u Made some Generalizations due to d Afrcan climes(things are changing sha).
Thanks dear 4 ur input!

bukatyne:
I do not agree with 50% responsibilities because I do not know how the couple would achieve 50% sharing formula.

However, I understand what you are implying and I will say both of them should pool their resources together to ensure their home runs smoothly.

@bukatyne...U are Right

Smooth Home Running is very Paramount!!!and helping each other in all aspect of the house would go a long way in making life a little bit better!

Dats y they call them MARRIAGE PARTNER

doublex:
yeah,i agree.my daddy does

@Doublex.Yeah,Correct Guy!

My dad also does dat!(Acquire dat Mentality during his Schooling days Abroad).He really does help around the house.

i have seen a couple of Married Men in my Neighbourhood that does that also.

i fink its just been Fair and Resonably Responsible to acknowledge her as an Helping Partner!

With the Advent of Civilization and Western Education which gives equal rights to both the Man and the Woman.

Its common knowledge and Pratice that both the man and the wife Work to support the Fanancial needs of the home.

Men,if your wife #Contribute 50% of the Fanancial Needs of the home...U should both Share 50% of the Household
chores/activities in the Home.

Men,Do U Understand?
Women,Do U agree?

shozillo:
Lwkmd,also
a grandpa sleeping with a gal of 10yrs saying dats what get him up sexually!!!

People Killing a Fellow Human being 4 Money Ritual!!!

people burying a live Human being (Aba Obaku) to go an Serve him in d Afterlife!!!

A lover that killed her Partner because of CHEATING!!!(why dnt u just leave her)

businessline:
http://www.politics.co.ke/news/some-africans-are-lazy-fools-only-good-at-eating-lovemaking-and-stealing-donald-trump-2/

This is an Hogwash from the poster..No credible sourcd to back this up!!!

Although going thru this article..there is an iota of thruth about some African being MENTALLY LAZY!! and the System allowing people to plunder their country Resources to stash abroad

AFRICA needs to Wake Up from Slumber and start doing things alrite!

Durentt:
Man bleeping man ynash

Lwkmd,also
a grandpa sleeping with a gal of 10yrs saying dats what get him up sexually!!!

People Killing a Fellow Human being 4 Money Ritual!!!

people burying a live Human being (Aba Obaku) to go an Serve him in d Afterlife!!!

Hello Nairalanders,
I have Seen,Read(past Tense)horrific,Despicable Evil Acts that people try Very Hard 2 justify

let me start with a few
1.A woman that married his own son and carrying his baby because she doesn't want another woman to reap the labour of wat she sowed/invest in him!!!

2.Burning a small gal alive claiming she is a Witch!!!

Over 2 you guys.?

247notire:
Get a life man. Pray to achieve half of what I've achieved in this life before u rch 30, dats if ur not past it already. Ur a stinking nobody!!!

Lwkmd....ok..am nt up 2 30yrs yet....Mr Smbdy.

247notire:
U cannot even write legible correct sentences. And why r u snooping around my profile? Better be careful. Go back to primary school and start learning reading and comprehension.

Ok Sir,thanks 4 d advice...
LEGIBLE.atleast i admit my mistake and am nt a DUMB SKULL GNLD SALESMAN/SCAMMER who lie abt phony/Ridiculous Job Openings!!!

Or a Dim Wit who saids there is nt much Difference btw 1st Class and 2-1.Anyways Enjoy ur fake life.Mr English Professor

sameolg616:
u sound like those bitter grade 14 civil servants....i bet ur running a profile check on this dude already(if u find his number ,i advise u use tru caller to look him up before u proceed to google )lol
just cuz u dont know those u earn such or u probably dont doesnt meant they dont exist....
i know some...besides,the guy may be a robber,ritualist or successful business guy....

u Miss d point Completely...Nobody said ppl dnt earn/make 1M in a mnth...we are talking abt a New Entry frm Nysc getting 1M evry Mnth(which is a Pure Lie)...is dat 2 much 4 ur Thick Skull 2 Comprehend

247notire:
Ur prblm is comprehension Mr man. Read my comment critically.

Hmmm....i have checked u out,u r sm1 to take serious because of some phony threads u have started,No wonder d order person was cursing u out.takie

sameolg616:
chief accountant....is that the issue....whether he earns kobos in 12 digits,,that aint ur problem...
guest u dont know people that earn a million in a month..even some yahoo boys do talkless oil and gas..
the dude just having probs deciding

lolz. U sound Naive
have u worked in any paid employment b4?
If u have which i doubt ,ow many years have u done?

D yahoo yahoo(illegal biz) u r even talking about..if u have an clue abt business , U would know Earnings frm Bizness Flutuates(up n down!)..nt 2 talk of d 1 dat depends on maga...

Sm1 just finish service..Earning 1M is a pure lie.Think!!!

lookingbuoy:
I have a little problem and need some advice on it:

I've got a girl I like. We met at nysc and got along really good. Even today i still remember the first day i saw her. She studied psychology and even though I'm an engineer we could relate and talk a lot about her subject, as I read a lot and kinda have read much on psychology. After nysc we still kept in touch and continued to talk even though i never asked her out formally. Soon i got a job away from her. Our talking continued on phone.

While out of Nigeria on training, I met another lady. She's just as pretty as the other one, but has a great job and is a confident woman. The other girl is still searching for a job; and her psychology degree is no help. I have a great job myself and i earn seven digits in naira per month. The new girl also works with an oil form and earns very well. We have got along these past few months and I really have fun talking to her and hanging out.

I have always wanted an independent woman as a wife, a woman who can stand by herself and who has prospects for a huge career. I'm career-minded myself. But now, I'm really confused who to plan my life with and settle down with as a partner: this independent lady who I believe I like or the other unemployed lady who I seem to have a more relaxed, longer friendship with.

Note: I've not asked any of them out formally. Please help.

My Big Brother,U r hereby Crowned d Best Liar of 2015..

U earn 1Million Every Month...please Ow many years of Experience do u have?
(bearing in mind d drop of crude oil prices in d Intl Market)

247notire:
Pls graduate with ur set and go, thrs really no big difference between a first class and a second class upper, unless ur fixated on 1st class.

my dear..there is a DIFFERENCE!!!...
pls let us try and be Specific in our answering?
E.g Yes with a reason or No with a reason nt beating around d bush

@poster..Get ur 1st Class if d system allows an extra yr 4 it

pretydiva:
I love d fact dat oyibo's r working under her ..nor b only us sabi work under dem

lol.they said chinkos nt oyinbo(Europeans)..abi u knw who oyinbos are!

BecaciaBarbie:
As thing as the dog is, the selfish cat still wanna suck the dog up dry. Smh

barbie,u Need 2 pay more attention 2 u Grammar and do less of Make-Up.Trust me it wd help u.cheers

amonah:
Still Available.

Wow,Nice interested because of the screen size! Thou,i ve sn 4 50k..may urs is expensive because of d FINGER PRINT FEATURE!

adellam16:
Wait toolz can't believe she is getting married? So marriage no dey ur agenda b4? Na showing off of ur Cleopatra shape dey ya mind for life?

CLEOPATRA SHAPE!!!gal u Err!

U compare sm1 dat luk like a bag of beans with Big poo house with a beauty Goodness!!!

Gal,u knw noting abt beauty!

forix4u:
Sometimes I want to regret going to school because arguably I still fail to see the reasons or benefits of going to school. Yesterday a friend of mine whose parents took him to learn electrical on cars after primary school, went to withdraw 1.5m to purchase a jeep. His story building is near completion, married and blessed with 2 wonderful kids. We all know what it takes to have a story building in Lagos. This my friend barely reads a simple sentence.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not envious of him rather I'm happy but today, I'd to take a seat and remembered how he convinced me to join him in learning this same handiwork that has made him the prospective landlord and car owner that he's today while I chose to go to school to acquire a certificate only to have graduated and served fathers land without a job to even make boast of. I also have some friends who dropped after secondary school, today they are all married and living good...

It's kinda annoying and I don't know if to say regrettable for going to school because it has not even paid off. The annoying aspect self is most jobs today can't even foot one's expenses and bills due to the hash economy and almost every job you get today is contract base, so one begins to think what is the purpose of spending several years reading without any tangible benefit awaiting stresslessly.

Truth be told i have also thout like dat...infact was telling a friend that wen i left secondary sch at 15..i should have ust learn a marketable skill then...fast forward 10yrs after,i shd be a succes in dat trade!!!

EDUCATION IS EXCELLENT(maybe 4 a political appiontment 2morow or if u r Prof who can set up Private pratice) but is GOOD 2 have a marketable handiwork with it!...all in all
Start ANYTHING U WANT 2 DO EARLY!!!(Schooling,business,sport etc

Cutehector:
yh.. Most gurls like words, dats why dey get hurt. Even God dat is love himselv came down from heaven to die for us. So I thought that if a guy loves a gurl, his selfless actions will speak for himself

lol.Ur own God came Down from Heaven 2 die 4 U!!!
Hmmm...

Vision4God:
@mysticgal
Lemme ask u a question. For a man to marry honorably, and begat children d ryt way, and/or
Sleep around, give birth 2 children here & der, which is better.

Mind u d bible say he hu finds a wife obtains favor frm d lord.

Der was a man hu nvr had anything, buh had faith in God, got married & a well paying job located him about 3 months after his wedding!

God's hand of favor is wat we al nid

funny thou,u r quoting the Book of proverb..when Solomon dat wrote it married 700wives.dats wat we call Double standards

ECOTERRORS:
Tinubu is now the Oyomesi of Yorubaland. I laugh my yoruba friends Who allowed a fraudster and drug peddler to desecrate their land.

Ur own region is far worse!!!..
1.are u not from the people that abducts their own governors?
2.the region that produce corrupt 5 senate presidents in 8yrs
3.the region where a fraudster rigged election to be a senator!...better concentrate on your Gully ridden land b4 hunger pursue all ur inhabitants from their homes!

Zi:
I'm gonna advice you not because you may directly use it, but because someone else might, and someday, you will be able to advice others.

So you got married at 19 or at most 20? Nne, why the rush? I saw your picture before you put it down and you are a pretty girl, very pretty.
You are 21, undergraduate, with a baby and married?
Didn't you have sponsors, parents, family, loved-ones, good advisers or did you get married to unburden your sponsors?
If you ask me, I'd say：Poor choice!
Yea, from your picture, you looked very matured but at 19, you don't know much about what it is being married, you hurried into it. Little wonder you are taking solace in a male relative, and already thinking of "taking a walk".

Anyway, seeing that the deed has been done. My advise for you now is stop begging for it! You are even too young to have yourself being drilled like that? What will you use at 30, 40, 50 With possibility of pushing out more babies before 30? Calm your nerves, I know its not easy because you have the exposure already, but keep talking to yourself. Get busy! with school work, with baby, with business, with family, with your hobbies, with church. Develop yourself. Get busy!

Something else I wanna point out so you will expect it is that: Later on in life, maybe in the next 10, 15 or 20 years, you will still be young and with a lot of urges but hubby may have lost complete and genuine interest in you, not because he do
esn't love you anymore, but because you will be too wide, giving him little or no sensations. Its not an excuse for cheating but it may likely happen. So better start sparing yourself some more. Lol

And lastly, disassociate yourself with your hubby's cousin. I hope he doesn't tell him latter on to blackmail you.

A big hug to you and baby!

lol,if truly u are studying abroad I.e assuming it's Europe or USA..... then its a shame ow u fink!!!!
1.Using age to determine the #Rush into marriage not her level of preparedness..A 20 year old woman for that matter!

2.Telling her in d next 10-20 yrs her husband may not like having sex with he due to a wide vagina means u lack knowledge on vagina tightening exercises and routine....
Cheers!

DrGroove:
op,see question.
a girl who is not ur wife is giving u her body,u want her to also give u money n buy u gifts? Mehn! that's witchcraft!!

this is a F****d up mentality!!!!
Gave me her body as sacrifice or Collateral to collect loan!!!!!


WHO THINK LIKE THIS IN DIS 21ST CENTURY?

Liability:
ashawo everywhere.....no shame

it takes an ashawo 2 know an ashawo!!!
As if u dnt sleep with guys u r nt married 2.F***ing Hypocrite

What A Combination[/color]Nollywood actor turned politician with prof. Pastor turned politician campaigning.....

Naija Consistution,If u r old enuf 2 vote 4 sm1,u r old enuf 2 be voted 4.nufin wrong with d combo.all Nigerians frm evry walks of lyf are wellcome as long as u r 18.Dn't dull

TO ALL THOSE WHO INSULTED ME, LIVING TO SEE THE END OF JANUARY IS NOT UR PORTION

TO ALL THOSE U VE INSULTED NKO...DO U DESERVE TO EVEN SEE 2015 AT ALL.:-P

shinechinedu:
May God never allow me to come across any lady like you! Gosh your heartlessness is on a new level. What more can I say? Too much of hollywood

wisdom is profitable 2 direct!
Y can't accept that ppl are different n unique....ppl leave their spoues 2 Focus on Ministry,Career,Project,Biz ventures evry year all over the world..
Sometimes u Need all Ur Energies 2 focus on 1 thing!!!
y can't u be tolerant of other ppl decision instead of Been Childish!