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udoji2021:
I just come across a thread about this topic and felt like contributing on it.

https://www.nairaland.com/6703059/struggling-hard-money-hasnt-come

Guys, I will not beat around the bush, getting married when you are not financially bouyant is the greatest mistake that can NEVER be corrected, infact, it's a sin and against natural laws to bring someone's daughter to your house when you are struggling to take care of yourself and consequently starts laying foundation of poverty that will last for generations if not forever.

WHY?

Experience is the best teacher, I'm a victim of such circumstances and I know what I face in that type of marriage and is still facing. When you make such mistake, you will start sleeping abnormally which is the first sign of things to come, it will then lead to over thinking and depression. Forget about family members, no one will be there to help you when you needed their help. Begging to feed or meet your financial obligations is even worst cos first, the insults you will receive can make you commit suicide, and if you start this begging, people will always give you fake promises, the time that you would have used in doing productive something will be on moving from one place to another or staying online to reply people. Forget about all this motivational speakers cos you will only see another motivational quote from them when the sh*t hits the fan.

Secondly, the saying that someone obtain favor from Whatever God when you are Married is also false to some extent, God don't pour manna from heaven this days as was reported in the Bible (don't know if this is even true), get married and sit at home waiting for favor from the Lord and see if you didn't die of hunger within days.

Most painful part is that, you may end up suffering for another person children ignorantly, HOW?

Let me give an example, I went to one politician for help and this man told me to back later, he later sent someone to call my wife and start telling her to sleep with him (heavy pregnant woman o) before he can help. I was lucky that my wife told me about it with proof of what the man was doing, that was the day I stopped calling him. Now, what if she agreed without telling me and continued after she birth?

Guys, hustle and settle down first marriage and thank me later.

Lastly, all this girls will keep telling you that I will manage, I will manage, but if they finally come and stay with you, they will not manage again. Infact, that is how some women have finally taken over their houses and start maltreating the husbands for been weak.

In a nutshell, I'm of the opinion that a guy should hustle and have money, hustle hard again and have more money before he can start thinking of marriage.

Candidlady:
Haba


You guys will just open your mouth POROPOTOPOROPOTO

lalasticlala:
Princess has been evicted from the BBNaija house.

Just before leaving, she revealed to the housemates that she has a crush on Cross and not White Money.

saphiere:
Facts.

I know some men who did not amount to anything but as soon as they got married they are now doing well. Two of them are landlords and all of them are car owners.

Indeed women are blessings.

CharisEleos:
Nope but they use it here on earth for the propagation of the gospel.

The sound system needs maintainance, it naira they use.

The church organizes programs and print fliers. It is naira they use.

The church pays light bills, it's this same naira they use.

You get it now?

CharisEleos:
If you have, give. If you don't have, God understands. There's no need to feel somehow and it shouldn't discourage you from going to church.
Go and give your dance and clap offering to God.

Shalom.

specie103:
Praise God... As I no get offering today, choir can you please play me DORIME. Man shall not live by offering alone

seyi360:
It has never been an easy feeling the times I had none to give Awkward and odd was the feeling ,to say the least. It should always be a thing of joy to be able to give cheerfully to the God who gave us all things. I love to always give to the Lord.

BadRadio:
Is there a perfect approach to end a relationship without hurting a partner?

Maybe the relationship gets too boring often or perhaps u both are not compatible in anyway or perhaps u both want desame thing but in different ways and style.

Maybe u care about this person but u dont want to hurt their feeling and you know it is best that u both parted ways.

How do u go about it?

SLAP44:
Fulani herdsmen again.

The bus might be dodging a herd of cows driven by one illiterate fellow.

Father4all:
Oga get away from my sight. I don't deal with nuisance like you. Do you know what it takes to buy a phone for 200,000? For your information Samsung is not for riff raff like you. The person that will buy it is the person that knows value of Samsung galaxy phones. "by the way" Samsung isn't for poor people. Rubbish

Father4all:
Hello, I have a brand new Samsung galaxy s10 plus for sale. The phone is not up to two months old. It just fell down from my hand and the screen break. I'm just giving it away for 50, 000.The person buying it will enjoy it very well. Neat and spotless. Interested buyer should contact. 0.8.13.2.9.7.9.7.8.9

Happened:
This picture was captured this afternoon in ... Amawbia , Anambra State.

Some one said na 600 Naira for Awka , Capital Of Anambra ...

How much is it in your area ..

Cc lalasticlala

missionmex:
This thing go reach 6 oo

seanwilliam:

Carry Liverpool wins or draw over 2.5.







Anyway well your PayPal/skrill funds and gift cards to me

Ray07:
una man no wan repent.
No ball distribution up front.
Leeds don chock midfield

seunny4lif:
No mind me joor
I no sabi spell am well

StonedLex:
Are you sure she's not 103? She looks out of this world already. Damn!

I'm trying to picture him on top of her... Shit!

seunny4lif:
You know Man UTD need someone like Ididi

richmond500:
which one is bad review?
Before I wrote my application letter, I didn't see anywhere it is written "vacancy in a company where staffs are at[i] longer heads[b][/b] with each other and manager is irredeemably sadistic"[/i]

seunny4lif:
I hate this Fred and Scot always in the mid
We need proper DMF
Pogba needs to play is CMF not always Ole playing him like a winger

CharisEleos:
Lol... .

People with different problems. Excess of everything is not good.

It is well.

Richy4:
That man is lying to you when he tells you that he was not attracted to any other woman ... The attraction will always be there... (except if he has body odor that only the wife can tolerate)...The key thing is self control and the ability to always remember the vow...
When a man does not have self control... he can easily forget his vow... even when he loved the spouse...(In such situation, it is referred to as loving but cannot respect the spouse)

Some married ladies will understand what I'm talking about because they got tempted all the time and most of them have self control.. not that they did not find the man tempting them appealing but they control such sexual urge because they have vowed to stick with baba Jude