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I do the hug mostly.It speaks a thousand words.

Shollypopzz?

A guy shamed a virgin? That's news. I wouldn't have been surprised if it was a girl who did.
Virginity is not class. That's a moronic definition for class.

How could he not have known?
How long did they date?
The lady's family kept it from him too? That's unfair?
Will I cope at all? I dunno. it means I might not be able to depend on him physically,emotionally or even financially.I would feel trapped . I would hang in there for sometime and try to honour my for better and worse and but eventually my coping strategies would give way and I would break.
Mental illness never goes away. I don't think I would want to help a spouse manage that for the rest of. my life.

I don't get why you are complaining since he obviously has always been this way and you've been okay with it all the while.

What exactly are you looking for now? Someone to chitchat with or a connection with him?if it's the former your husband certainly doesn't sound like he'll be it.You have acknowledged him for who he is then be comfortable with that.


Do you derive sustenance and strength from your relationship with him,do you feel seen ,heard and valued as a wife?That's what important..I believe. Communication is not just talking away . You can say a lot to each other without saying anything.
If you can identify you have this with your husband or something similar to what mutter has described,please be content and be happy.

It isn't wrong or shouldn't be wrong provided the husband is aware and supportive of the decision.

I've seen Nigerian men have a big problem with this and I've seen it tear families apart. it threatens their masculinity and their old-fashioned need to subjugate their women.

Damn!
The madness remains the same still...
How do y'all do this consistently ?
Does it never get old?

Aystarz:
Is that u slimyem? Is that really u? Where the hell have u been?

Been on the same planet as you...

lmao....
No right thinking person should fall for this.
Advance fee fraud. It's old.

Coincidence....

coogar:
what about the NL's latest fad? the lack of örgasm?

It would be an interesting topic to address. You'd agree it's a new angle.won't you?

maybe he's dumb but what's he meant to do? go through a divorce and impoverish himself? the woman's christian background lured him into a false security. he said she originally wanted to become a missionary - that was why he married her.

he should suck it up. identify with women who have been through the same thing he is going through.Go for counseling,hit the gym and get sexier for her,find out what he hasn't been doing right ,or where he got it wrong and fix it.

but without an empirical evidence, what could you have done about it? besides, there are extremely troublesome & rebellious women who aren't cheats. the 2 traits can be mutually exclusive.

at least,it wouldn't have caught me by surprise.This man was totally oblivious and the shock's hit him more than the act which is why he's gone this irrational.

that's exactly the point.
if he wrote an article about it, we won't pay attention cos there are millions of it already existing. however, this video blog is a fresh idea and this is why it's gotten our attention.

trust me, the video will help some people.

have you not seen many caught in the act videos online.Those ones are more arresting than this.You want me to post you links?

besides,it's the disgust and total rubbishing of what a family should represent in times of downs like this that has caught mine and a lot of other people's attention not the sensationalism.

crackhaus:
It takes a certain kind of intuition to mentally recognize the really good women from the overwhelming multitude that hold a first-class degree in pretense and deception.

l can say the same about men . It applies to both sexes.don't limit it

coogar:
perhaps he is warning other book-smart husbands like him to be more vigilant. your "women have been cheating forever" sentence made me laugh. that's not what we have been led to believe here. the general perception here is nigerian women are saints. they never cheat & when they do, it's in vengeance or retaliation of their hubby's infidelity.



how could he have suspected?

the general perception is.....

•wives don't cheat until their husbands start cheating.

•wives only cheat when the husband is twice her age.

•wives only cheat when US-based nigerian men go to nigerian villages to search for brides.

•wives only cheat when husbands are poor or when husbands depend on wife's income.

so my dear, this is a new twist & an eye opener.

Well.. I have not been one to sway with general perceptions and I do know this.. nobody needs an excuse to cheat and no excuse is valid enough to defend cheating...

How could he have suspected? Really? All those rebellious acts of hers weren't enough to make him indefinably aware? c'mon, just say it. He's dumb!
If my wife exhibited half the signs she did,my senses would have responded to them as potential danger.

...and no,he didn't have to make a video to warn other book smart husbands .There's a whole lot of stuff on the internet and out there that's warning enough and it still won't change the world. Totally unnecessary..I'd add again.

coogar:
he's not.....
initially, i felt like you did too. when i saw the video, my opinion did a 180 degree turn. he married a she-devil. anyone that tells you the devil is in hell is lying to you. satan resides in the belly of mrs rosemary.....

Satan resides in the belly of many other women and men alike. Women have been cheating since forever and it isn't about to stop so what's the big deal in the story that he had to make a video about? there's no twist,no particular scheming of any kind. Nothing surprising or exceptional about it all. Just a load of regular rubbish he could have spared us.



This revelation makes him the silliest of men, a weakling and a dumbo. To think that he never suspected her and also didn't believe her confessions of infidelity at first makes him the more so.

coogar:
oluwaslimyem, na your face be this?

yup!

Coogar,is this man not a disgrace to men like you?

This man is such a sissy!! This is so beneath what a grown man should do. Very juvenile. If all women that have been cheated on all make videos like his,www would probably have shut down long ago.

As it was in the beginning.....


He just needs to suck it up and move on...!

100Cents:
That man don cross 40 but the girl no send.

It is now obvious what motivates most ladies about choice of who to marry is not how young the man is but how popular and the size of his pocket. How comfortable he can make her..

Does the woman in that picture look like a "girl"to you?
and how do you conclude all that you stated was her motivation to marry him?
Did you even read her profile and how quite well she's done for herself?
Na wa for you o. Milking every chance you get to thrash ladies even when there's no basis for it.Only God will be your judge.

That first video is over an hour long..
how did y'all watch it?

This man's action makes no singular sense. what's news or peculiar about a woman cheating on her husband? Na today nyash don dey back?
...and did he say he wanted this to serve as a lesson to people out there? Where's the lesson?
he's just made a mockery of himself,his wife and their family names.
He sure is pained but this is certainly no way to heal.

The man does not look anything close to a billionaire....
....some things billions cannot do ...

I'm glad he's finally made a choice.
An over-eligible bachelor for so long....
I'd never stop wondering how he managed to remain single and not stumble all these years with his ministry and status.
Happy married life to him.

alutacontinua:
I say sorry to my wife when I have to

liar lair...pant on s fire

Women are more invested in maintaining harmony in relationships and also more in tune with people's feelings than men are.
Men mostly have a different understanding of what calls for an apology.Has more to do with their
psychology and make up I suppose...
Doesn't mean there aren't men who say the words when they have to and even when they do not have to. I'm sorry is like morphine to the soul..

It is one word that should be a part of everyone's vocabulary in their relationships with people regardless of their gender or marital status.

Work is a lot of things but I'd prefer to the definition as a physical and mental effort directed towards "earning money" regularly. Otherwise,it's mere activity/chore that alternatives could be found for.
this has been overflogged.

....Much ado about nothing...

...only if the woman knows how many other women wants what she has.
I would relax and enjoy it if it were me as long as it is not affecting his major duties as a husband .

I don't know why culture and morality has to come in here...

My life is too real to be a dream and I can't change anything that's happened.No point entertaining thoughts of change

Why is the man enduring ?
Why has the unresolved issues remain so?

the husband's concern sounds like that of a boyfriend who doesn't want to be "mugued" than that of someone who wants a real solution to issues plaguing his marriage..


Do they both even understand what it is to be married or why they are married to each other?

SirShymex:
Apparently, most Nigerian women walk around with smelly VJs.

this is an unfair generalization and you know it....