bukatyne:


Is there anything wrong with a man spoiling his gf /wife?

Absolutely nothing.
i just wouldn't want to be treated like an invalid because i'm menstruating . Maybe i shouldn't have used the word "spoiled"

RoyalRoy:


Lollz. Have no fear dude!!!


But in all fairness, let's give it to the ladies here.
This thread is more eye opening than any life experiences I thought I had on this issue before.

Never knew most of the stuffs mentioned here actually go on during the PMS days.

I know better now than to be expecting her to do some things during this period.


Quite an eye opener!!!!

That would be spoiling her. It is no disease. It shouldn't stop anyone from going about their normal duties.

Yoruba- where communication is most succinct

I'll be paying to have them taught English in school anyways so why not maximize my owo iyebiye and save myself the stress

One of mine used to be to pose nak€d for an artwork.
Now,I'm not sure I'm ever going to. Don't ask me why.

rebella:
Go scuba diving - will soon do that
Go sky diving- still loading
Walk into the men's bathroom and see if they actually compare sizes while doing their business- done that
Visit maldives- will soon do that

Do they or did they? I'm curious.

coogar:


i doubt it!
if a very attractive woman like agbani darego or genevieve claims to be a virgin then one has to respect them cos they must have fought thousands of temptation to preserve their virginity.

however, these ones?
i doubt they have had more than one toaster in their entire life - if there's no temptation or pressure then their chastity wasn't really tested. such cases don't impress me.



they are very pretty.
the one on the right side is so pretty she would win miss world.



Jesus hasn't!
women still feel pain when they give birth - the curse still exists.

more women go to church than men cos of their many issues. actually, 90% of the women you see in church are looking for husbands.



nothing can be done - we should just be careful about which virgins we celebrate. the ones who fight men's temptation constantly deserve gold medals......but the ones in this picture deserve nothing more than 2 pieces of puff-puff each.

Haba!
You are just a wicked person Coogar.

Though you might be feeling dissapointed right now,this is one period when your daughter needs you support the most so you do need to set your feelings aside a little.
I'm certain she won't be feeling too proud of herself at the moment so there's no point adding salt to her injury.
The best you can do is accept the situation.

I think you should let her have the option of what to do with the baby. Abortion,adoption or keeping the baby... while also making her understand the realities of whatever option she chooses to settle with.

Try get to know what kind of person the man who did this is and if his continued presence in your daughter's life is to be encouraged.

Whatever you do,be positive. That's the one thing that can help you manage the situation. All the very best

coogar:


slimyem, you are a man in a woman's clothing.

Yep !
I know

My days are like every other day.
I do not exhibit any unusual attitude nor does it affect my relations with people or situations. Maybe my hormones just agree with me.

sademola:


I think we are leaving the subject matter ---- how to get this young man off the hook of his sickness. Let's focus on that for now.

Maybe you should bolden your post and probably increase the font size so some thick skulls can get that the thread is not about them or their stories that do not touch.

Busybody2:



What gives Myself and Naijaking1 are the ones talking about the deplorable manner LUTH handled his case.

I have chipped in my two cents that he needs his blood pressure to be monitored/needs to state the symptoms he can remember...Dr Naijaking1 has asked the OP for details of tests and scans done so far...this is both to narrow down the gentleman's diagnosis which like Dr Naijaking1 said can be pinpointed with 90-95% accuracy...neither of us mentioned anything about him being better off at home...


A lot of people on the thread have recommended UCH or LASUTH to the gentleman which he is contemplating..so thanks for your carping, sniping sparky comment. NEXT

I made my comment along the lines of what I had read on the thread and in the understanding that the op is presently at home.
My comment was not meant to beat yours or any other person's opinion of Luth. You just got yourself riled up for nothing as usual.

The thread is about a sick man not me or you and the focus is that he gets well against any odds. I hope you get that.

Regardless of what Luth has or hasn't done to help DJDOLA's case,I think the last place he should be right now is home. I hope those who have had contact with him and/or following up on this case would advice just that and if I know as much as I know about hospitals in Nigeria, a teaching hospital is still the best for a condition as sensitive as this.

I pray the good Lord heal this man and open up more hearts into helping him in this needy time.

I regard most women in these situations lazy,thoughtless and ambitionless women whose husbands get to ride on that and they in turn make an excuse of it.
No one can robot you if you don't let yourself be roboted and I really would not agree it has a lot to do with marrying a man above your level. Even ladies who are married to less educated men still let themselves be strung into such situations. It would shock you that some of these women even enjoy it and only cry foul for it's sake or when things are going wrong.
A colleague who recently got married to a barely educated businessman is secretly hoping and praying that her husband would demand that she resigns her job. If it does happen, won't her story just be "My husband doesn't want me to work"?
..."giving a dog a bad name" is what it is in the most cases I've seen. I say no one can stop you unless you want to be stopped.

I hear guys usually forgive each other these things and move on like nothing happened...??
I think the most important thing is your babe is handling it and you should leave her to conclude it. Confronting the guy about it is unnecessary.

freecocoa:
That woman is definitely not alright in the head, some men just dey use their hands kill themselves.

Btw, na that man wey I dey see him pishure be every woman's dream? Hmm.

she probably meant to say every Isale eko hairdressers' dream

SAMBARRY:
not only deliverance. Mental rehabilitation. Yesterday when I went for a manicure. I left that saloon in anger. I didn't even finish my nails. I pulled everything off . those ladies were so disgusting. They were arguing among themselves that having srx with your father is cool. In fact the one that provoked me that I couldn't take again was the one saying with all boldness and pride that "her dad is better than her boyfriend in bed".before I vomit. I said don't finish the nails. I am tired. The woman tried convincing me to stay, I gave her my palm and she immediately got the message

Why do I find this story of yours hard to believe ?
I'm not saying it doesn't happen but girls discussing their father's pehnisis comfortably and openly in a salon ? You don add pepper and salt Kulyie!

I haven't seen or met one Nigerian woman who does not desire to have her own child or children. That desire is ingrained maybe by God himself and reinforced by our society. I can't speak for women in the western world though....

aisha2:


Ehnn so why is the image of a successful man quite different. He must be in suit with a big car?

I'd think you mean to say the image of a "hard-working" father -one who labored over his children as it a pointer in the original post. It really isn't any different. It is perceived the same way mostly.

aisha2:


True lovely story great morals but my own na why must the image of a mother always be a suffer suffer one? Tu- sh moms no be sweet moms abi?

Maybe because manual labour and/or "dirty" jobs is what is generally judged to be HARDWORK in our society and especially since it takes a toll on the body physically,it's easier to relate to and acknowledged.

One CHM 314- Alicyclic, Bicyclic and Terpenoid chemistry. Bullshit all the way!!

Adedoks:
I always feel so sad when i hear Stories like this.... must we cheat as men,must we!!!!.ma u need to be Strong.draw close to Jesus he will help you through dis trying times...

Things have already been resolved and all is we'll..I hope.
Thread's over 2 years old.

neoapocalypse:


Not so true my dear , lots of men have been found to be faithful ( with evidence ). True we all get tempted , quite a number have been able to overcome this temptation and live guilt free and faithful lives with their wives

What evidences?
How has anyone been able to prove them? I can speak of a few men I know have never cheated on their wives and would probably never do but the question I'd be asked is "How am I certain"? and thing is it's quite easy for anyone to shred my certainty. As they say,one can only speak for oneself

My own problem is why is anyone handwashing anyone's clothes in 2014 when washing machines are so affordable?
If the oga himself or the oga madam had thought of getting one, the sister would not have been overwhelmed, would have had no reason to think lowly of oga and wouldn't have gone to the op in the first place. This thread would not have been created

Unfortunately,there's a lot of evidence to support the fact that all men cheat. There is hardly any to verify that not all men cheat. This otherwise cannot be proven and even when it is..is never believed. Even men that claim they never cheat have their friends discredit them to their face. One sad tale!

Do all men at one point or another or even constantly get tempted to cheat? Yes,I would say!
Do all men cheat? No! I disagree they do.
It is an untrue stereotype-a myth I wish would die..one that has continuously let men off the hook for cheating, a ready excuse and defense for irresponsibility and total lack of scruples.
All men do not cheat. All men are not the same!

I would shoot the dude if I ever crossed him in real life. That's how much I dislike him. Nothing he 's said or done in any of his movies has ever made me laugh. He does tries too hard and it's so glaring.

Lmao@ her friend owns the ATM . Schizophrenia!

Dygeasy:
I hope he's been castrated.

...doubtful!
It is the most appropriate justice for crimes such as this and one I'd solidly support . The pen1ses of sexual criminals should actually be hacked with a meat cleaver and without anesthesia.

What are you really concerned about op?
The aso-ebi craze or the fact the exploitation?
Generally speaking, there's nothing you can do about it but YOU can choose not to join the craze and refuse to be exploited. No one can force your hand if you are not interested.

Basic human response that does not just apply to marriage. You give all your best in a relationship with someone,the person takes you and whatever you give for granted, you realize there no point and save your energy or channel it towards something else..for most women ,their children after all regard has been lost for the husband.
To every action/inaction,there's usually an equal/opposite action/inaction