₦airaland Forum

NOW I KNOW THE SOURCE OF THE MONEY IPOB HUSBAND WAS SPENDING. NO WONDER.

Akhagbeni11:
If there should be peace give the Senate presidency to the east..

Who are you threatening? so, if they don't give it to the east, there wont be peace? you forgot that the post is by voting among the senators and not just by giving.

JasonScoolari:
Buhari's clueless squad of old and worn out players will be more better than the gang of thieves and Efulefu's Tinubu is lining up.

NOBODY IN THE HISTORY OF NIGERIA POLITICS HAS ACHIVED WHAT TINUBU HAS ACHIVED. Your statement is born out of hatred.

He is smart not use the word Religions war is his defence of Obi.

1million Nadia can buy half plot land and even compel the foundation in Nigeria. Your definition of decent need to be clarified

Beremx:
Even if the conversation is real, why would someone go and tap it and leak it out? For propaganda? That's infringement of his privacy.

Very wrong

Another Obedient that refuse to learn spotted. You are angry because people now know who Obi really is? Or you are angry that the embarrassing audio got out? You did not show this anger when Atiku was exposed with SPV looting scandal, you also enjoy Tinubu drug scandal. Now you start big grammar on Obi exposure of been a religious bigotry and opportunist and a liar in a single phone call. He even lied against the king Olofa of Ofa kingdom. Why are you Obidients like this?

booksbo0k:
Sorry for the long write up my people, I need advice.

My first son has been behaving somehow in our family, as if he's not part of this family...
You and this boy can be in the same house but you might not set your eyes on him once for a whole day. He will be inside his room through out...

He has been telling me that he is currently working on going to rent his own place and live on his own and that if God helps him and he is able to achieve that, He will not have anything to do with our family again and that we will never set eyes on him ever again :[ ...

I would have not been bothered by such statement if it were coming from someone else, I would take it as a bluff. But this my son is someone that normally doesn't call people to check on them, not even us his parents..

When he was in his previous University before he dropped out, this boy can go for months, that is a whole semester stretch without calling anybody to know how you're doing, except you call him or maybe he wants to ask for money for something or school stuff....

We have five children and he is the first, the second and third children are away in University, he and the two last siblings are the only one's with us.. My husband refused him from going to University in a far place instead he gives him transport money to be going to his own University from home everyday...... He and his father don't even talk again except good morning greetings. He is only 21 ohh..

Let me give you guys small back story so that you can understand how all these things started.

My son graduated from secondary school (a boarding school) in 2017 at 16 years old... Initially, he said he wanted to study computer science as he said that was the course he loved and wanted to study. But my husband refused and persuaded him to study pharmacy because he worked at NAFDAC and he saw the way pharmacy graduates were living at his work place and the salary they were recieving. He and one of his chemist friend sweet talked him into going to study the course and I guess it was because he was young then and could not challenge his dad then that was why he gave in....

He wrote JAMB but he did not meet the cut of mark for pharmacy (but I later realised his score was good for computer science then)... No public University was willing to admit him for pharmacy then because his score was not good for the course but due to my husband love for the course and not wanting my son to lose admission that year , he decided to go the way of private University not minding their school fees...Long story cut short, my son got admitted into Madonna University where we were paying 1M naira every year.....After 3 years in the school and in 300L @18 years old, he began saying he was not interested in the school any longer, that he was tired of the course, that he's body is no longer in the school and blablabla that he wants to go and play football in Europe...

He came back for holiday during the beginning of covid and refused to go back to the school when they resumed, saying that he was only wasting our money by being in that school and he did not want to continue.....This got my husband really sad and angry....My son stayed home for almost two years doing nothing because my husband was adamant that if he would not go back to school, nothing for him, that all the money he has spent for school fees in that school can not be for waste that he can become a footballer after he graduates, saying no one can become a successful footballer without being a graduate, that it would later affect them in life...

But my son refused. I must confess, my son is extremely good at playing football. That was the talent i can confidently say that God personally gave to him from birth. Infact when he was graduating from secondary school, they gave him the award for the best graduating footballer and he was always the centre of attention anytime he plays at our church events. He friends used to call him "nima" then, I think...

I and my husband got tired of him staying at home for long so I went to meet with one pastor in our street who was based in the UK with his family but comes home sometimes for church related matters. I explained my son's situation to him and he offered to help my son travel out to chase his football career provided we have the funds for it. The man was secondary school class mates with "victor ikpe ekong" who was a former super eagles player but currently a pastor in Sweden. To my greatest surprise he called him on a WhatsApp video call in my presence and i was really surprised...He gave me the man's phone number to keep in contact and also scheduled a day to meet with my husband and have a discussion.. I told my son and he was very happy..I also told my husband and he was eager to meet with him at least, anything to solve my sons idleness at the time..

The pastor came to my our house on several occasions and discussed with my husband. My husband kept telling the pastor, saying he would like my son to be going to school while chasing his football career at the same time, a feat which pastor let us know would be difficult as one has to be dropped for the other. Unfortunately, my husband changed he's mind and said he was no longer interested in the whole footballer thing. He said he knew that my son wanted to become a footballer only because of girls. That he, my son knew that if he becomes a footballer, all the girls would like him, that that was the only reason he wanted to become a footballer, and that if football was his true destiny, he doesn't need to travel out for it to manifest, that he can be in Nigeria and make it from here.....That was how that chapter close like that. Pastor left for England few months after.....

After years of my son staying at home, my husband got tired. One night, he hired some Street thugs to come take my son away and beat him up...my son stayed with them for 2 weeks. When he returned, he said he was ready to go back to school. But my husband told him he won't be going back to any private University again. My son wrote jamb again to study computer science and was admitted into COOU. but my said he would not allow him go to any University that is not in the same state we are residing. Now the problem here was that all the public schools in the state we are staying will not accept you to study computer science unless you did chemistry in jamb. And my son did not do chemistry in jamb because he is not good in chemistry. If he was to study in the same state we were staying, he had to settle for another course, which he did...Now another problem arose. My husband refused to rent an apartment for my son around the school because the school is considerably far from our house, instead he decided to be giving him money (2000) everyday as transport fare to be going from home. This did not sit down well with my the boy and he again, said he was no longer interested in schooling again sef that he can't be going such far distance from home to the school everyday to study a Course he does not even like siting that it would be stressful and affect his academics and that it was unwise to be paying 60k a year as school fees while you spend 2k everyday as transport..My husband got angry and called on our estate CSO to come pick him up. They beat him so badly in public that when he got back home later in the evening, I went to check him in his room, his buttocks and back where scarred and red with huge marks...

Ever since, he has been going to the school from home and he has become very distant from us especially his dad. They don't talk again in the same house except "good morning sir"...

My son has turned into something else. He can stay indoors from morning till night. I would have said he has started keeping bad company but he does not even have a single friend, not one..Nobody calls him, and he doesn't call anybody...I have five children and he is the first. The second and third already gained admission this year in a private University and are in school currently, so he and he's last two siblings are the only one's with us now..

Why I'm writing this is because I'm scared..I'm beginning to fear that my son might commit suicide, he's beginning to show that kind of attitude.. And the plans he have to leave us forever to go and stay alone, I don't like it ohhhh...

Nairalanders please I need your advice.

Its as if you are telling me my own life story, the only different between your boy vs the family is that, in my own case, my mum is not with us as she is separated from my dad and my dad married another wife which makes my case a bit difficult than your son's. Yes, suicide is very likely one of the options your son may be considering because I actually attempted it, and woke up after 4 days in coma, thank God for an angel in human form. My marriage will be 7 years this coming weekend and that wedding venue is the last place I ever set my eyes on my dad or any other member of the family, in fact, I logged in hotels if I have a reason to sleep over in same city where my parent leaves. I tell you my experience for you to understand every details of my advice to you.

WHY YOUR SON CHANGE IN BEHAVIOUR:
I want you to understand why the boy changed and start staying alone and avoiding everybody, this is mainly caused by FEAR, that house alone will look like leaving in hell, as in he feel like he is going to hell each time he has opportunity to travel and coming back home. Sometimes I pray for safety whenever i am about to enter our compound gate in those days. You can imagive how bad the fear has consumed me. Your buy is not really dealing with hate alone but mainly fear caused by hatred. I want you to believe me, even though the boy don't like what he has passed through from those beatings and the trauma of the disgrace from those that beat him and also everyone in that house including you the mother, he dislike everyone in that house for the role played or for the role not played. he is likely expecting you the mother to do more than the effort you have done, he may not even tell you that but believe me, he has a place in his mind that paint you black. That is the reason he did not consider how you the mother will feel when he is gone.

SOLUTION: There could be many possible solution to this issue, but i will only suggest one that i know could i have me from attempting suicide and also make me forgive my family easily.
1. YOUR HUSBAND HAS TO FORCE HIMSELF TO BECOME HIS BEST FRIEND AND PUBLICLY SHOW PEOPLE THAT HE IS PROUD OF HIM. I know this task will sound crazy or stupid but I believe strongly that your son need only his dad to forgive everybody that he is angry with. IF MY DAD CAN JUST CALL ME ON PHONE NOW, AND JUST TELL ME THE WORD (I am sorry). I am sure I will melt into water and cry badly. My anger with my dad alone is what makes me distance myself from every member of the family and one way or the other find fault in what other people in the family has done to aid the suffering I went through. IF YOU DONT WANT TO LOSE YOUR BOY FOREVER, ACT NOW, TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND TO CORRECT THE DAMAGES HE HAS DONE. You will be surprise what the sincere words I AM SORRY can do.

Ogun state will always trail behind due to bad roads.

HeartlessMan:
Tinubu is the first Nigerian President to face criminal charges in the US.

so also all all good leaders of in record time. From Jesus to Mandela to Tinubu.

BrotherShade:
😎

Point of correction, APC accused Peter Obi, not FG.

Fixed 😎

So is Lai not the spoke person of FG or he is now the spoke man for APC?

Sonicroyel:
Den why isn't it proscribed??
Abi shey axemen fit dey host event inside school for broad daylight?

Ordinarily by the mode of operation and existence, they are not supposed to be classified as cultist, but 99.9% of them now belongs to other cultist group or the other and in fact some kegite group are corrupted themselves to become a dangerous group.

FAYEMI DESERVES GOOD POSITION UNDER TINUBU BUT I CANNOT SAY IF FOREIGN AFFAIRS IS BEST FIT FOR HIM

MostImportant:
It's is pasted just above. Thank you as you are led by the spirit to assist.

Just 2k sent. just manage it. Dont stop helping people. it pays.

Miracood2:
This light green no too make.

that green is the best for me.

MostImportant:
I have noticed that some Nigerians have a way of putting all the blames on politicians as the ones destroying the country when they themselves are equally contributing.

A fellow job seeker turned back and do evil to me for the good intention I had for him. I was only trying to be a human which of course I always try to be no matter how tight it is with me. Not as though I have but I would share the little i have when I see someone so in need.

I met this guy in an interview venue and we got talking based on job search experiences, how we got to hear about the very one we were at, about the company, tips we can use to perform better in the interview and all that.

I think we were more than 40 in that place and interview was based on first come, you pick a number based on your arrival time and wait to be called in.

So the guy went in first before me, and came out to meet me waiting. On coming out, I tried to ask him to hint me based on some questions asked inside. The interview was scheduled for 10am but it started way late, around to 12pm. So not long after which he came out, he started complaining of hunger. I told him I am hungry too, and truly nothing entered my mouth that morning, so I was seriously hungry too. From hunger, he brought in the issue of how he managed to get to the venue due to lack of transport fare. He then asked me if I can assist with any amount to pay his way back. To be very open with him, I removed the last N500 that was with me and showed him. I told him I am the same. We are all struggling as we don't have a job yet. In fact, why I have N500 in my pocket is because I woke up early enough to prepare which I partly trekked to the place just to save some expenses. Just because I saw frustration in him and the humanity in me won't let me be, I wanted to give him N150 from the money while I keep N350 for myself. From our conversation, my distance was even farer than his.

So I wanted to go out with him to go look for change but just then, it was my turn to go in for the interview. Already the money was in his hand, so he said I should go in for my interview while he goes out to look for change and come back. I thought I was dealing with a human being, not knowing I was making a mistake. Leaving him with the money was the mistake I made. I'm only human after all, and I have learnt my lesson but it won't stop me from being good.

To cut the story short, that guy ran away with my only N500. That was all that was with me in and out. I mean home and abroad, all with me was the N500. Account balance looks like a radio frequency - 87.9. Laughable. So nothing was reachable any where else but even after telling him, he still decided to pay me back with evil.

To think he is a job seeker and he still behave that way, I won't curse him even though he succeeded in making me trek for more than 2 hours, going home with an empty stomach.

May he reap whatever he sows. I'm sure he won't come back to the place even if he's called up for the job, which I doubt though. And I pray I am shortlisted for the job, to bring joy to me.

Although a sad one for me but I pity his life.

Drop your account number, let me compensate you with just a token.

FalseProphet1:
Nigeria, a country where one man sits in his palour and decides who rule and who doesn't. And the improvised masses who should speak our would be silenced by indomine and spaghetti.

This I have seen.

YOU REMAIN THE FALSE PROPHET AND HELL IS YOUR FINAL ABODE SAYS THE BIBLE ABOUT FALSE PROPHETS.

G00DHardDick:
Damn!

Modafucker about to make some dope money. I still wondered what his crime was when we have the likes of tinubu, ikpeazu, and other criminals working freely. Modafuckers everywhere!

I want to tell you something before but then, i sighted your name and i realise i will be wasting my time talking to someone that will not be able to think.

DMerciful:
These guys never learn. They continue their gangups until Obi is sworn in

hahaha. SEVERE PAIN HAS MADE YOU TO START REASONING UPSIDE DOWN. NOT ONLY WILL OBI WILL BE SWERN IN, KWAKWASO TOO WILL BE SWORN IN. ONIYEYE

Pwettylinda:
Thiefnubuu is a big disgrace to SW

Mumu post of the year spotted. How did Tinubu name take enter this discussion now, children of hate?

Sonicroyel:
Kegite na cult group?

NO, NA POLITICAL PARTY. JUST THEY PLAY.

kcnwaigbo:
God did not make obi to lose the elections.INEC did.God does not however listen to prayers of dubious people like you

So flying a Muslim Muslim ticket is not a religious war to you?

You then don't understand the bible and who you claim you serve is. God is the maker of all kings both the good and the bad kings. You did not read about that in your bible?

Revolution2022:
Like Buhari like tinubu equals to failure.

Whatever you wish is what you will get.

kcnwaigbo:
What exactly is wrong with the request?.

I think the anomaly here should be the leaking of a very private phone conversation.
Oyedepo never made secret his support for Peter Obi

The fact that he call presidential election a religious war does not mean anything to you? I am a Christian but not a stupid Christian like Obi and Oyedepo that has abandoned the project God gave to all humanity. I am forever grateful to God for making Obi lost that election, May he never win even if he contest 100 times. Amen.

IyaebeTheGreat:
They should detain him and charge him to court.

Let him go and get some sense. He must be one of the Obi supporters with no political sense

Felabrity:
how much you go put?
Una no reach 50 wey go protest

. We may want to confirm our numbers by trying to stop the handling over to Tinubu. You will now our figures with feelings and not data

God1000:
Here we go again, this is why our leaders feel too important, our people make them to feel that way

If you will ever be future president, learn to make people love and want you, and they really do, they will make you feel important.

Felabrity:
Kerosene governor want japa with Abia money

You blame the sharer and not the receiver. All the contestants shared something and citizens collect all. Why is it that we only criminalize what did not favour us.

Agboogashi:
This apc govt is all out to suppress. Why fine the tv station for what a person who it did not have prior knowledge of what he had in mind to say. Why not go for the person who said the alleged volatile statements.

You definitely don't understand how tv station work. The have the power to cut and control what is actually seen or heard on t.v. if you also read the act surrounding broadcasting services in Nigeria, You will understand better.

Channel tv alone should not be sanctioned, they should sanction all actors that make senseless statement that can cause war. From Mc Oluomo, to FFK, to Kayemo to Obi and Datti, to Atiku and to Arise tv for always looking for ways to creating war and troubles.

atiku4President:
Who will fine FG for wasting tax payers money in conducting disastrous Elections?

One of the best election in Nigeria. The fact that it does not favour you does not make it disastrous election. Yes, thinks are not perfect in some aspect, but that is the most competitive, keenly contented election Nigeria ever have. Democracy is fast growing in Nigeria.

yarimo:
PDP should suspend ATIKU, DINO MILAYE, tambuwal and SARAKI these are the people that contributed in killing PDP from 2015 and still killing it

Fact. You get sense