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AntiWailer:
Read the guy's chat to his boss.

Also have u asked urself what kind of persuasion to come and eat and 'rest' goes beyond talking to holding shoulders ?

Let me tell you my personal experience when i was a teenager. I was about 15 going on 16, but I was already out of secondary school and working.

One day, I had closed for the day, but then, I forgot something. It was dark but i had to go get it and i was lucky my house was a walking distance.

When I got to my workplace, I met a young lady, possibly a teenager like me, crying at the front of my workplace. I was a bit taken aback but I asked why she was crying and tried to be nice. She was standing exactly where I need to stand to open the door.

She narrated what happened and I felt for her. I tried my best to console. And i was actually sad that at that moment their was nothing I could do to help her. She didn't stop crying, she didn't move.

It was getting to much. As an Introvert, am emotional most of the time too. So I did what I thought was best: I PLACED MY HAND AROUND HER SHOULDER. I didn't have any sexual intention but to console her.

You know what she did, SHE WALKED AWAY, and rightly so. Would it have been right if she had accused me of rape, even when I was only trying my best to be nice.

If it had gone that way, I swear I would have been sad for the rest of my life. Do you know I have never thought about this since the incident until now?

AntiWailer:
Lol weep for Ur thinking first.

If the maid was ur younger sister , will u believe ?

Ladies who have accused guys of rape have elder brothers too.

franchasng:
First, stop telling people you are an introvert, because an introvert find it very difficult to even start conversation with strangers.


I was an introvert while growing up, and I don't talk to people, even my siblings, only my immediate elder bro and the one before him I talk and play with a lot.....I don't keep friends, even my cousins don't like me much back then because I rarely talk to them or contribute in any conversation.

Back then too, I disliked women, a girl dare not come close to me talk more of raising a conversation with me because it irritates me and I was a known snub that girls in school hated me for it, saying I am too proud and arrogant and feeling like father owns the world when my dad was not even close to rich, just an ordinary civil servant, this is how introverts behave. So stop calling yourself an introvert that go about forcing strange girls to talk with you and even tried to force your hands around her shoulder in an office, for what na If I am your boss and I catch you doing that with your female colleague, I will sack you of course!

But then, the girl is an evil girl, move on, if you are innocent or even guilty and apologized to her right there before your boss returned, she ought to have forgave you, but for her to be stone-hearted, don't worry, she will get her reward from nature, don't fight it, let it go, she will remember what she did to you when her reward comes.

Another advice from me to you is....never you apologize to anybody when you are not in the wrong. You ought to have shouted on the maid, and threatened her that the gods you serve, amadioha, sango, oranmiyan, etc will strike her dead if she dare report you when you did not rape her, threaten her that if she dare it, that you are giving her 7 days that she will die mysteriously! That if she dare lie against you, that you will invoke the spiritual powers to strike her dead, believe me, she will come back to her senses....and if at that point in your total anger and frustration if you are honest, and you pronounced curses on her, take it from me, it works like magic......powers (negative and positive) are handing around the air waiting to be commanded to action, and if you had done this immediately in your despair and heartbreak right there before her, you would have seen or heard wonders happening as we speak. Next time, don't apologize to people that wrong you, it will give them the power to even deal with you more, that's how terrible bad humans are.


Lastly, on your written English, you need to work on it, stop using abbreviations as a professional PA and secretary, it doesn't speak well okay

If you are innocent, you will be vindicated soonest and if your boss call you back, please turn down the offer, don't go back, you won't die, you will get another job....if you are innocent, your boss and the maid will get their reward in varied ways depending on the degree of their atrocities against you, so wipe your tears.


Next time, don't act too friendly with ladies or girls who refuse to be friendly....in fact, be strange to strange women....women have bad spirits hovering around them a lot...most ladies are carrying over anger and frustration and looking for who to pour it on, be careful with how you relate with ladies nowadays if you want to go far, and when next a girl tells you NO respect her no, be it online or offline. Ladies are irrational and wicked, their mind is made of steel, whenever they want to harm somebody, they don't remember mercy and that's why when their life want to turn misery, it always turns so bad too.

All the best

I am an Introvert and I strongly disagree to what you meant by Introvert finding it hard to strike a convo.

There might be some sort of resistance but i find it more easier to start a conversation when I am happy, convenient and especially when the person I want to talk to is "alone".

It was only both of them in that office, talking from my personal experience, being alone with her it's easier to strike a convo.

zzbrodah:
You wanted to try,if not, why would you say you wanted to convince her to eat or rest by touching her low waist.

Wetin be your own if she dey hungry.na ya daughter? Mumu kill u

This is how false accusations start o. The guy said he touched her shoulder, and it has been repeated severally on this thread. But you are accusing him of touching her waist. I pray you don't get this sort of accusations.

etrange:
It was delightful chatting with you, bro. Please, reach out to me if you find any contrary explanation elsewhere.

NB: You might want to see this thread https://www.nairaland.com/3138313/test-h-factor#46145742

I'll check the link out. Thanks.

Alphafeezay:
You are overstepping your boundary here calling someone dear, you like to dey overstep your boundary and also the lady might be a victim of rape so the trauma still hunting her.


Learn to mind your business and keep space from strangers.

Funny enough, ladies use the word "dear" mostly for men. Why don't men see this as overstepping boundary?.

etrange:
Short Answer: Words that start with "H" are not always pronounced like they start with vowels. In the examples you gave, they both start with the consonant sound /h/. This can only be omitted by people with the popular H-factor (explained below).

Long Answer:
First, like I said it's the first sound that matters and not really the first letter. We use "an" if the first sound comes out as a vowel and "a" otherwise. This is regardless of the letter.

Now, let's address the examples you submitted. When a word start with the letter "H", it either silent or pronounced.

Scenario One: Silent H:
When "H" is silent, the next letter after it determines the sound. Example: "honour"(pronounced /ˈɒnə/), "honest"( pronounced /ˈɒnɪst/), etc. In these examples, you use "an" because they both start with a vowel (/ɒ/) as the first sound and the letter "H" is silent.

Scenario Two: Pronounced H:
"H" is said to be pronounced when it maintains it's own distinct sound (usually pronounced like a free flow of air from the mouth). This is usually the case when the letter is found inbetween two vowel sounds in a word. Example: inhale (pronounced /ɪnˈheɪl/). Notice that the letter "H" is pronounced as /h/. In many cases, this pronunciation is also adopted when a word starts with the letter; unlike in the first scenario where the next word determines the starting sound, the /h/ sound is actually pronounced here. Examples: house (pronounced /haʊs/), horse (pronounced /hɔːs/), etc. Notice that both words start with the the consonant /h/ sound (it is not silent) unlike the first scenario where the next letter would have determined the sound. Therefore, we use "a" as the right article before these words.

*H-factor:
This is a Nigerian expression used to describe the linguistic concept where people whose original languages don't have the letter "H" tend to treat all starting "H" as silent. This is why some mistakenly say "an house". Even those who rightly say "a house" sometimes feel it's awkward cause they think the first "H" is supposed to be silent. But no, it's not actually. This concept is a form of Mother Tongue Inference.

Good Morning.

Good Morning.

Thanks for the explanation, it was enlightening to a certain extent. Hope to do further reading on it.

etrange:
No, bro. It starts with a vowel sound /ˈɛ/. It's the sound that matters not the letter. You say "the word 'man' starts with an 'M'". Notice you don't say "a 'M'". Also notice that it is acceptable to say "a European" cause even though it starts with a vowel letter "e", it also starts with a consonant sound /j/ (pronounced like the "y" in in "yam").

H is a consonant but words starting with H are usually pronounced like it starts with vowels. You can't possibly say an House or an Horse, for example. How is this different?

kestolove95:
U withheld the surname you den release it, mumu

I was going to type this. Can you imagine?

etrange:
"A MSc."?

You people will not kill me.

Being that it starts with consonant, I think it's right.

kurupt1:
The guy is a big fool , actually I used to really like him but this his move is very dumb
Mr P of p square did a similar thing and now he is loosing relevance very fast

On a contrary, you only have a problem with Mr P's marriage because you are a tribalist. And it shows the kind of mentality you have in that region. Tueh.

sotall:
There is nothing Islamic about the Islamic republic of Iran.

Recent events in that country has shown the anti-islamic attributes of it's leaders.

Soleimani was assassinated and his body wasn't buried till at least five days later. This clearly against Islamic laws.


They shot down the Ukrainian plane killing 176 people and they denied ever shooting the plane.
They had to own up when real evidence was coming from everywhere.
This makes them liars, another action against Islamic tenets.


That country should be renamed and Islam removed from it's name

You are not exactly right.

Michdear:
are you minding him,hence forth any post concerning akeredolu wilbe treated accordingly,enough of lies and deceit ,akeredolu is the worst governor we ever have,too much of lies and is quite irritating,the same Mimiko he is trying to use to garner second term votes,this guys don’t know their work atall,they are debranding the more they try to castigate Mimiko administration.

I'm originally from Ondo state and I'm privileged to have studied there. If i haven't been living their for the past 4 years, I wouldn't have thought all those lies were the truth. Thanks for countering them with facts.

BeccamoreEmpire:
All I can say is most state owned higher institutions are no longer affordable to the masses, I noticed the so called leaders are trying to monetize everything,all we keep getting are hikes for under the par propagandas, well I don't see any difference from the governance of old.. I prefer investing in myself as do you every other Nigerian than wasting my time reading what ever pet projects they try to use mask their insolence.
God bless Nigeria, If you do well, fine/if you don't, you answer to your creator and conscience..
Fellow Nigerians, our pride is in our human resource, Let's get to make best use of it..
God bless Nigeria!

No one should ordinarily be again the hiking of the school fee but it was the manner in which it was increased. Do you know what about 200% increase is. A lot of student dropped out. There are still some student that hasn't paid there school fees since the increment and are now in 300 level or so now, with no hope to ever pay but just attending lectures. Gradual increment should have been the best way to go about it for a Governor who has his people's interest at heart.

Michdear:
you are not saying the truth ,doing the administration of Mimiko “free shuttle bus” was completely free it was tagged free for a reason,maybe akeredolu now charge students.
How do you expect hospital to be completely free man? Price was heavily subsidized,I heard akeredolu hike the fee,akeredolu is
the real scam here ,making the media feel he is working ,list akeredolu achievements
Here let the world see it ,even most of the dualized roads and urbanization in his hometown owo was done in Mimiko administration

Even the guy you are replying is being paid by Akeredolu. We hear thier stories before I left Akungba recently. Imagine a governor that came to school for a function that the student populace didn't cheer for, not even the indigenes did. Only one former student rep, who has a reputation for being partisan made a banner to welcome him with his dozen of hungry supporters. Anyone that says that man is doing anything reasonable in ondo state is either an Apc supporter that's not based in Ondo or those that her paid to launder his dirty image.

MondayOsunbor:
IF IT IS NIGERIA CAN ANY 0NE GUESS WHAT THE POLICE WILL DO TO THE PROTESTERS

Same Iran government that kills it's citizens without pity. Make further research, they worse pass naija.

anochuko01:
Do you know Vivian miedema of Arsenal?
Asisat dey learn work yet the girl never even smell balloon sef.

I support Arsenal. I like Vivienne. Asisat has been consistently good, which is evident in her 4 awards but people like you only exist to undermine people's achievements. How does Vivianne has to come into this. SMH

KosiGee:
What tribes are Tunde Adelakun and Osasu Obayiwana?

Who did they vote for?

If you were going to attack the person, attack because of gender bias but you just have to show your tribalistic nature. There was not a mention of Igbo or Yoruba in the comment you quoted.

modsfucker:
One of the quiet countries in the middle east

But overthrowing your father from throne is just unimaginable sha

Na why him sperm no produce na.

MetaPhysical:
Since you know they will steal your IP, why not bait their blog site? You can arm your source header info to cause damage on that page. Dont stop them from stealing your IP. Drop a malware on the freaking blog. Give them something to deny access over the weekend.

How can I do this, please?

Idaraobong5:
not surprised....
Nollywood actresses don't want to be tie down by any man for long.

Obviously, you did not read it. She would still be tied down (according to you) if the money was still flowing in.

victorian:
I'm not surprised.
I was expecting it anyways

I'm surprised they lasted this long!

.when a carefree woman is overly controlled in an aristocrat marriage, just to please everyone in the marriage especially the parents of the man. Just give her some few years, all hell will let loose if the parents of the guy, do not wear off their hold in the son's marriage.

Red flag I saw : She cut off her dada, that one alone ehn? It's finished in that marriage. Even though she agreed to cut it off. One huge part of her died already on that spot but the husband will not know the damage he has done to her inner being, just to please family and look the ideal wife in the eyes of the public.

Then making her a full time housewife? When she's a busy bee? So someonelse will not snatch her from him? I laugh.

Wasn't she snatched at the end? She couldn't even wait to be divorced properly before dating another guy, whom I believe will be a free spirited guy.

All I see here is a free spirited woman who has set herself free from bondage called marriage. She thought she will be free like when she was single. She didn't know she will tied to all sorts of rules and regulations by the family. What a shock for her!

She's not going back to that family again she's gone for good.

Everything is not all about money.

Guys, she knows everything because she's their house girl.

HITdemUP:
Ronaldo never respond to any of his attention seeking jibes. That shows how matured Ronaldo is. He does his talking on the pitch.

But Ronaldo and his families are not matured when it comes to Messi. Lol.

pocohantas:
Including this creepy one?

Love it best.

UNCL3:
Funny how the name of God is used in vain

Did he put God first before having multiple baby mamas?

Oga David I like your songs but you lied on this.

We all know the atrocities the original David in the bible committed but God still called him "a man after my heart" but here you are judging.

Are Nigerians illiterate or is it just on Nairaland. The article isn't about tithe, but those people up there are whining about it. Y'all hate Christianity this much?

naptu2:


You can easily tell those that read the last post and therefore they know what a coat of arms is, from those who did not read the last post.

Nice job sah!!! I enjoyed it.

salbis:
This is ought to be a norm in every house of God and not a seasonal thing. This looks like a drop in an ocean when compared to what the church receives. Nevertheless, good one from them.

I know for a fact that Churches do this all the time. And I'm not even a Christian.

MrHistorian:
Are Nigerians deliberately dumb or is it just the twitter users?

Being a feminist basically means being an advocate for the belief that women should have the same rights and opportunities as men.

How does the above stop the woman in question from engaging in sexual relationship with men?

The trolling is justified if she's a proven man-hater (misandrist). Even at that, you can't be too sure if the pregnancy wasn't a product of artificial insemination.

But then. . .what do I know!?

That makes you dumb too, except you aren't Nigerian. The reason why she and others like her are called feminist is not far fetch. They "claim" to be Feminist whilst promoting "man hating.