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LivelyMandem:
Guys in the house, what is your experience like dating single mothers.

I recently met a beautiful young lady who has never been married but has a daughter with a guy who isn't taking up much of the responsibility.

I have a good job and can obviously take care of the basics. The issue started from when I started giving her some money randomly not for any particular purpose. She called me recently and said her daughter's school fee is due and how much am I bringing.

In my head, she is not my child so why do you want to push the responsibility on me so fast. If I ask about the dad, she'll say I shouldn't worry because he's irresponsible.

We're not intimate yet because she said no sex before marriage, na that one we still dey fight about.

My question is, is it ok for her to ask me for her child fees just because we're dating or am I supposed to automatically take up the girls upkeep because I'm dating her mother?

Are you ready for that responsibility for her needs and that of her daughter.

But her entitlement mindset is a red flag

nokia1000:
I am fully regretting marrying my wife. She is always right and doesn't take corrections.
She doesn't have sex drive. Prefer sleeping alone that she doesn't want someone body to touch her.
She is not serious in anything that can generate money.
I have made a lifetime mistake. Sometimes I feel like committing suicide to get free from regretting. I am seeing myself going down slowly.

From your opinion, do you think she loves you?

Good job.

But ques need to be asked.

What's the quality of road he is going to deliver.

Why is he doing it now that election is approaching?

What about the governor of the state?

Pierocash:
.People like you are the reasons young Nigerians don't think they can make it in Nigeria.

What Agbaje pointed out is nothing but the truth. How will a bank executive resign her position and relocated to become a health care assistant and all you could do is to justify it by saying she earns a decent pay. What kind of life is she living there and how much does she earns? You are talking of fulani herdsmen and Boko Haram, those people running away from Nigeria are not even in there region of bandits and Boko Haram,these are Southerners using Boko Haram as the excuse to japa only to end up with lower standard of living,while those who are directly affected are not even considering japa as an option.

People tend to use exchange rate to measure wealth,but you are wrong. Exchange rate is not and indices to measure standard of living. You measure standard of living using what is called PPP(Purchasing price/power parity). That is what is used to determine standard of living not exchange rate. There are people in Nigeria here who have never touched dollar or pounds in their life ,but have higher standard of living that so many of their counter parts abroad.

Quit this your japa mentality and build yourself here,there is honey and gold in Nigeria here. You can't convince someone like me to japa,I will rather go there to invest and return home just to spread my business nothing more.

I stand with Agbaje.

People don't just relocate for economic reasons. Security is one, health care is another even education and self identity.

In Nigeria! Unless you have money, you are nothing to even a lout o police man. Not saying it doesn't happen abroad but here, is insane.. the abuse, oppression and intimidation is crazy.

The health care is terrible. Also most who migrate do so not for themselves but to give their children the opportunities they never had. Opportunity of another passport that gives access to opportunities.

Segun is in the 0.5% of Africa. He should move around Lagos to ikotun,ijegun,okoko then decide if people need to leave.

A person works in a bank for year with little to she for.

Zonefree:
Ada Igbo with a fan.




I just want to let y'all know that Igbo Amaka.

Identify her first as a Nigerian. Cos Na wetin oyinbo use know am.

Ezewuzie01:
You didn't include Dream FM Enugu? That should be numero uno on the list as far as the affected properties in Enugu are concerned.

What right do they have to seize it.


Government just like media attention.

AstraDroid:
Still so clean?

Na part of the ones person bury for ground them dey release gradually.

STARGREEN:
Lack of close supervision

You just like to find fault.

If you no get solution. Keep quiet.

Shuu...

Registeredguest:
I'm a lady in my mid- twenties, I got married aged 22, (always wanted to marry early) on the second year of our marriage we were blessed with a baby, parked to our house and things were rosy. I have always been a workaholic due to that I have never lack as a young lady in terms of finance.

I have always helped him in his house projects, might not be much 100k, 50k, 20k when need be. I never siphoned my money to myself, as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head, (3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)

Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together, I told him no, I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it, (just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller.we did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.

After some weeks, I decided to dig around his phone then I discovered that the account I sent the 600k to, refunded 200k back to my husband, woke him up instantly I demanded for an explanation.he story no make sense. I was heartbroken, for months I was hurt...the two families got involved and settled the issue.money I no see...

Ever since this issue happened,the home has not been peaceful, fighting everyday. I find it so difficult to forgive him. I insult him, he insults me, he broke my phone, I break his door...I was demanded for an apology he says
"I'm his wife, no be today man dey collect him wife money, he say woman go build house for him husband no ear no go hear" those things hurt me more... everyday was fight, I parked out,I went to my sister's place,he didn't call, he didn't reach out.

3 weeks after I parked I discovered I was pregnant,and informed him immediately through text.i stayed at my sister's place for 2 months no word from him... I decide to rent my own place,I rented a place and went to his house to park my remaining stuff,I meet him home,as soon as he sees I came with a truck to park my things he knelt down and started begging me...I was like,na today I commot for your house why now? He say he think say I dey play, he no think say I serious like this,for good two months you didn't say anything why now...with enough dragging I parked my things to my new rented apartment... since the day I park till now this man has not allowed me rest,his family members has been calling me to come back home, his dad came from the village to plead on his behalf.


My dad is insisting I should not go back...I'm now 6 months pregnant ,I need a father in my children's life.im finding it difficult to forgive him,I'm struggling within myself to forgive and trust this man again.

How can I let go of the past and move back with him...I decided to pay him a visit on Friday,he was happy I came,he did everything possible to show me he has changed but that feeling of betrayal and hurt is there.i left there this morning with querrell,I know I started the querrell,but I can't just seem to forgive him.please I need your help and advice on this pressing issue of mine.

No insult please, I have cried enough.

Conclusion: your lack of forgiveness is what scatter your marriage.

Learn to forgive... If you had forgiven him and moved pass the whole ish..

You won't be here writing this.

My own take is learn to forgive. Forgive yourself then forgive your husband.

Whatever happens after that, Na between you and God.

Shalom

meobizy:
Okay. Madam motivational speaker.

Everyone dey give advise now.

Afamed:
Only half- baked IPOB believe the news in the first place. That is the reason they believed their Pandora fraud employed 60% of Anambra population in the brewery

Why post a doctored picture. It's very clear and it's a poor job

We are watching.

toobusy:
Nigeria is in trouble,does the country has the capacity to curtain this environmental hazard?

No

Mechanized division and you can't fight bandits or set those kidnapped free.

Shame!!!

Pinkyposh:
I didn't ask you... I asked those who chose to marry nurses

una dey fight before?

Diligent1:
A business guru

Yahoo boy na business guru oh

Divay22:
A Tech savvy
I'm not clingy so i don't need someone who is clingy

Whats your profession

DIVINEEVIDENCE:
Nurse or nutritionist.

Need a woman who'll have enough time to keep home, who'll return from work before I do and whose job wouldn't put her under unnecessary pressure to commit adultery.

And I reason it was food that was your motive when I read nutritionist.

Nice

siofra:
A billionaire in Kuwaiti dinar

Be like you wan lose all your right as a wan and individual.

sharone21:
I guess he is the owner of that car company which was featured in Zlatan's musical video( Pepper Dem).

This one Mercy dey swear so( lol).... I know say she cannot swear that if she has dated married men before make thunder fire her etc( lol)...I believe these girls just pose with these cars and return them, directly/indirectly advertising the Car company and in some cases get money for dating the owners.

This IK's 19 years ( some said 22years) abusive marriage led his wife to frustration to committing indirect suicide by lighting up herself( she set the house ablaze and in the scuffle, he pushed her inside and absconded).

Someone will be abusing somebody in marriage then person go stay born 5 children? How?...
Even 1 pikin don tire me, na running away plans with 1 pikin go dey my agenda.
RIP to the dead.

Sad.. people will forget the woman and the man will carry on with his life.

Girls wont send his past.
They will still date him

Who be the IVD sef

Condition001:
There is a difference between a quarrelsome girlfriend and a Destructive one. During the time i was dating this my ex, i couldn’t count the numbers of my shirt she Torn. Any small argument like this she will lock up my shirt that i am going nowhere and if i struggle to leave her at the spot she would tear my shirt. She sometimes go into the kitchen and pour the food i’m cooking for both of us into the kitchen sink or break plates in the kitchen all in the name of quarreling with me which i think is very normal in a relationship She doesn’t cook most of the time she is with me in my hostel. I would be the one to cook majority of time and she always said she enjoyed my food that i cook so well. Thats how much i endured this girls wahala because i loved her then and she gives me good sex and not over demanding. If i no get i no get ni that time and she didn’t because of that cheat on me. I guess thats why i still held on to the relationship then. Fast forward to 2018 december when we got a break in school i went to my home town and she also went to hers. I was thinking that the everytime quarrel will reduce since we were not together at that time that we were on break but it got worse. If i don’t call her within 5hours i’m in soup she would nag nag and nag on the phone which i also endured because i knew she missed me thats why she was acting that way but it got to a point that i got tired and couldn’t focus on my hustle again then because of her over demanding attention so i was pushed to break bonds with her noting to her that the reason i want a break up with her is because of her everytime wahala coz a day won’t go without us arguing or fighting over something and she usually initiate them. She was begging me not to leave her that she would change but i’ve made up my mind already and couldn’t change it. About two weeks after she called me and told me that there is a ritual she has to do pertaining her departure from her Egbe (Emere) and the guy she dated last must be there for the ritual to go well, she even said her dad was aware of it then that it wont hurt me at all but i refused to do that with her because i was scared and moreover i felt like i have broken up with her already why would she want me to come to her again. I faced my life after then but noticed that in the Freelancing job i was doing then and also Gee that i was doing wasn’t paying, not that i don’t usually see the opportunity to hit big but they always turn out to be failed no matter how hard i try. The only money i do see is small change to eat and do small big boy. I was so backward academically, lots of carryovers but still moved on and hoping for better days. My thoughts then was that, who school help i just wanna graduate with any grade and face my life squarely after. Moving on with my hustle i realized that anytime i want to hit big money or i smell something big is coming my way from the way i update my clients, i would just wake up with wet dreams maybe a night or two night before the supposedly Big hit reach my hand and everything will scatter that the client will block me or get into big argument with me and won’t eventually pay the money. I used to think that maybe that money isn’t meant for me that what will be will be…Fast forward to last year, things got tougher for me financially that no day will go that i wont beg people on my contact list money to eat, Although i had graduated then but still have some courses to clear because of too much carryovers then. I continued with my hustle with lots of Mercy Soaps (Ose Aanu) from My Alfas but still yet things didn’t change, anytime big things is coming my way i will always have wetdreams a day before and thing would always flop at the end of the day. So last month i went to one new Alfa and he revealed to me that there was a girl i dated some years ago that she is the one behind all my predicament and tough luck hitting Good money from the Work i’m into, he even went further telling me that i’ve been using some (Ose Anu) lately that they are working for me but anytime the work want to show that this Powerful Emere girl will always hold it down with her Tragic Powers that if i noticed that anytime something is coming up i will always noticed a strange thing on my body like Wetdreaming or cobweb fly on my body when i’m outside and on a broad day light. The Alfa told me that i need to appeal to this girl because she has registered my name in her Group as her Earthly Husband and i won’t be able to move and inch to success in life if she doesn’t forgive me and she reveal somethings to me about the then ritual they were going to make for her pertaining her departure from the group. The problem now is that the girl doesn’t want to grant me an audience one on one but rather chatting and i don’t want be chatting with her with stuff like that. This is not fictitious as i am not looking to trend on NL but rather to find a solution to my life.. Anybody with Candid advice?

Nothing prayer can not do.

Will suggest you post this in religion room
There are people there that can guide you. But firstly, have faith in God.

He will run the Battle for you.

phemmyfour:
last loot? You need to go back and read the article on the agreement between Kogi and Dangote....It goes beyond financial gains

As long as there is financial gain.. that can be his motivation

Six wives is a lot.

Nlanalyst:
There are no Village people in Manchester.

Greenwood's problem is lack of self control.
May he rot in hell.

Village people dey Manchester, if not for village people, Pogba won't have gone to meet. One Alfa to avoid injuries.

The Alfa was to helps avoid village people after his career.

phemmyfour:
He's not a presidential candidate
He's served two terms as a Governor
He's not begging Dangote for money

It's never too late to right the wrong done to your people especially when you have the power to do it.

It could be his last score before leaving office. Last loot or last available money to steal

Use tax payer money dey dontrips for selfish interest.

Na wa...

phemmyfour:
Is there a motive for doing the right thing

In Nigeria: Yes.

Why is he doing this now? He has spent over 6years so why suddenly is he fighting for kogi people.

What's his endgame, is it personal or not.

And with Yahaya track record as governor that doesn't care about the welfare of the Citizens, it's safe to have doubt about his Intentions.

lhordspy:
A new subject 'Religious tolerance' should be introduced and should be compulsory right from kindergaten to senior secondary school.

And it should continue in tertiary institutions as a GST course.

Christians will see this as nothing, to them it is mere rants by muslims over 'little issue' .
No matter how you see this or from what angle you are looking at it. This is an extreme religious bigotry by the polaris bank supervisor and the muslims have every right to stand against it.


Scoot Howard Phillips once said, and i quote: "You can't pick and choose which types of freedom you want to defend. You must defend all of it or be against all of it."

The right to practice and defend my religion is non-negotiable. We can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity which is my right to worship my God.

Personally

I believe in staff obeying company policy. But for a country that bigotry on both religious divide exist. I thing a provision should be available for religion.

Same way banks should stop assigning Christians to work on Sundays.