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Camelo:
Why is that only guys complain about their girlfriends and relationships here something is really wrong somewhere.Guys pls be a man and handle it relationship issues or u workout.I believe relationship is pure scam is better to sleep around when u are ready to marry u look for a wife and settle down,Abeg na who get strength dey do relationship.....

Haha quite funny.
Thanks for joining the conversation

Ningen:
It means she's only TOLERATING you.
It also means you're wasting your time.

Invest that energy into empowering yourself.

When an “apology” is one-sided in a relationship you should know that you're DATING YOURSELF.

Thanks for joining the conversation. Feels happy reading your mature contribution. It's invaluable

spyg1:
Getting married to a 18years old is already a mistake, my brother.

She will be 22 years in the next four years. Which is ok by me. Her age notwithstanding, she behaves older than her age

lanibi:
She seems young and naive.
Op calm down and go see her. Keeping a LDR can be draining.

Truly draining. Thanks for your wonderful contribution

Sammy07:
Na wa oooo.
Pls, is it too hard to quit in a relationship

Never at all. Thanks for your contribution

Shellsploit:
They are all confused like the picture below!

Lol

ifex370:
Piece of advice. "Stop wasting your time on girls between ages 16-23"

Thanks for joining the conversation.
I would like to marry at 28 and I'd like to marry a lady younger than I am. One important thing to me is that I need to spend some years (2-4) in a relationship to ensure I make the right decision. Can you pls strike a balance between this sir?

Good morning everyone.
I am in a relationship with this young girl who is six years younger than I am. I intend to marry her In the next four years.
I'd like to give a little about the relationship for clarity purpose.

I am a 24 years old graduate (BSc) and completed my NYSC last year November. Even though my parents are financially doing ok, I stayed back in my state of service trying to establish myself and find something to do because I love to be independent and think well for myself. In fact my girlfriend loves me for that single attribute.

Until this pandemic, I was doing some little job (teaching) while seeking the greener grounds. I had to return home to my parents in my state (also her state of origin and residence) because of the COVID-19. The pandemic has really affected my hustle.

Even though we don't stay in the same location, we have a house in her own area but we only go there when need arises.

I promised her that I will come visit but each time I try, it fails due to one thing or the other. The Lockdown in my state made things worst. The road is opened only at weekends (Friday through to Sunday). I have made several attempts but it failed.

Last weekend, I scheduled to go down to where she is (it was all set 100%) but before the weekend, she told me that she is in town, a little closer to where I stay to look after one of her sick uncles. I asked how she passed the security personnel on the road she said they lied to them that she is sick and are going to a big hospital.

When it was time for me to honor my words of going down to her I asked her where actually she is and she told me that she is back home so I can come over . I sensed that she was lying to me so I asked why she had to lie to me about that. And she said she wanted me to feel the pain of turning someone as I was doing to her. I apologized because I am quick in saying I am sorry.

I still insisted on the lie she told me and I pleaded that she should be more straightforward to me because sometimes she doesn't talk straightforward and she'd later come and say she was joking. it caused a big problem for us. In fact I reminded her that I have never lied to her for once. She was angry and never wanted to even hear sorry. I left her for the night. The next day I called her again and we talked normal but with reservations.

Yesterday we got talking and she told me this and I quote..." I can take anything from you now but if I change my mind, it will be difficult" I asked why she said that and she insisted that she doesn't say things anyhow.

Please note that I have been the only one saying the I'm sorry.
No apologies from her.

I do not want to make mistake about my marriage. This girl seem unforgiving. And my own heart is a simple one I say sorry even when I'm not at fault.

Your advice is needed pls.
Thanks in advance.

Dear OP,
I completed my NYSC in Nov last year, still no work.
I'm in need of some cash to acquire a skill online. 3K will be enough sir.
I'm willing to send my acct number.


Thanks

oazeez1991:
It appear dey both are introverts. So, been d guy in d relationship, he av 2 be d one 2 dictate d tune. He is responsible 2 paddle d canoe of such relationship affair. In as much as I don't support relationship of Introvert + Introvert been dat both parties r socially awkward, I wudn't rule out d possibility of it workin out, but d guy just av 2 be d one 2 do much of d work. Like, tk d bull by d horn.

I'm also an introvert thou, so I cud understand d boringness part. D advantage both parties just av is d fact dat, dey wud tend 2 understand each oda dan any oda.

If d guy still went on 2 option 4 an extrovert, d extrovert also wud later find him boring in d long run. Best bet is just Introvert + Ambivert, so he shud develop his instinct 2 be dat of an Ambivert so as 2 be able 2 flow well in d relationship.

My opinion thou!

This is priceless.
Can you give more light to being an Ambivert?

lilmax:
your relationship is boring till you have children that's when you will appreciate her, she won't give birth to nairaland women type of personality

Hahaha
Which one is nairaland women type of personality again??

jawalis:
That relationship if not broken now won’t end well if you guys proceed into marriage. Cases of Introverted individuals who got married were reported to breed phlegm. You Guys should first get you SWOT analysis rights and stop this risky assumption of personality. That same lady you think is quite might be so stubborn to another guy

Wowww this is deep!

The young man is afraid his home will be boring. Both of them seem boring to each other.

Hello Nairalanders, someone sent this to me. he needs counsel, I'm sharing this on nairaland with his permission but I promised to keep his identity private.

"I am 24 years old and I will want to marry at age 28. I graduated from the university and I completed my NYSC Nov last year.
I am in a relationship with an 19 years old girl. The relationship has been fine and okay.
The problem I have is that I am a bit of the melancholic temperament, quite reserved and quiet.
The 19 years old girl I'm dating is as well a quiet and reserved person. Even though I talk to some extent more than she does but I'm afraid. My relationship is very boring, I can only imagine how my home will be if I finally decide to marry her.
I love this girl and she loves me genuinely but our relationship is very boring

I have other things I need counsel on but this is quite pressing in my heart.
Can you please advice me sir?

Thank you so much"

FECOSON:
The Reproach

1 and 2: My people, what have I done to you
How have I offended you? Answer me!

1: I led you out of Egypt,
from slavery to freedom,
but you led your Savior to the cross.

2: My people, what have I done to you?
How have I offended you? Answer me!

1: Holy is God!
2: Holy and strong!
1: Holy immortal One, have mercy on us!

1 and 2: For forty years I led you
safely through the desert.
I fed you with manna from heaven,
and brought you to a land of plenty; but you
led your Savior to the cross.
Repeat "Holy is God..."

1 and 2: What more could I have done for you.
I planted you as my fairest vine,
but you yielded only bitterness:
when I was thirsty you gave me vinegar to
drink,
and you pierced your Savior with a lance.

Repeat "Holy is God..."
II.

1: For your sake I scourged your captors
and their firstborn sons,
but you brought your scourges down on me.

(Repeated throughout by Choir 2)

2: My people, what have I done to you?
How have I offended you? Answer me!

1: I led you from slavery to freedom
and drowned your captors in the sea,
but you handed me over to your high priests.

2: "My people...."

1: I opened the sea before you,
but you opened my side with a spear.

2: "My people...."

1: I led you on your way in a pillar of cloud,
but you led me to Pilate's court.

2: "My people...."

1: I bore you up with manna in the desert,
but you struck me down and scourged me.

2: "My people...."

1: I gave you saving water from the rock,
but you gave me gall and vinegar to drink.

2: "My people...."

1: For you I struck down the kings of Canaan.
but you struck my head with a reed.

2: "My people...."

1: I gave you a royal scepter,
but you gave me a crown of thorns.

2: "My people...."

1: I raised you to the height of majesty,
but you have raised me high on a cross.

2: "My people...."

Today was my first time hearing the hymn!
I came across the station of the cross on AIT by Catholic Church and truly the song is heart touching

AdaNonye:
MAN OF SORROWS

1 Man of sorrows what a name
for the Son of God, who came
ruined sinners to reclaim:
Hallelujah, what a Savior!

2 Bearing shame and scoffing rude,
in my place condemned he stood,
sealed my pardon with his blood:
Hallelujah, what a Savior!

3 Guilty, helpless, lost were we;
blameless Lamb of God was he,
sacrificed to set us free:
Hallelujah, what a Savior!

4 He was lifted up to die;
"It is finished" was his cry;
now in heaven exalted high:
Hallelujah, what a Savior!

5 When he comes, our glorious King,
all his ransomed home to bring,
then anew this song we'll sing:
Hallelujah, what a Savior!

Hallelujah! Hallelujah!
What a savior

AdaNonye:
REDEEMER, SAVIOUR, FRIEND

1) I know you had me on your mind
When you climbed upon the hill
For you saw me with eternal eyes
While I was yet in sin
Redeemer, saviour ,friend

Chorus
Redeemer, redeem my heart again
Saviour, come.and shelter me from.sin
You're familiar with my weakness
Devoted to the end
Redeemer, saviour, friend

2)Every stripe upon Your battered back
Every thorn that pierced Your brow
Every nail drove deep through guiltless hands
Said that Your love knows no end
Redeemer Savior Friend

3)So the grace You poured upon my life
Will return to You in praise
And I'll gladly lay down all my crowns
For the name of which I am saved
Redeemer Savior Friend

This is powerful but I don't know how to sing iy

Chidimercy:
1. When I survey the wondrous cross
on which the Prince of Glory died,
my richest gain I count but loss,
and pour contempt on all my pride.

2. Forbid it, Lord, that I should boast,
save in the cross of Christ, my God:
all the vain things that charm me most,
I sacrifice them to his blood.

3. See, from his head, his hands, his feet,
sorrow and love flow mingled down!
Did e'er such love and sorrow meet,
or thorns compose so rich a crown?

4. Were the whole realm of nature mine,
that were an offering far too small;
love so amazing, so divine,
demands my soul, my life, my all.

This hymn is powerful ma!
I love to sing it

In a lockdown,
COVID-19 cannot stop us from remembering the journey of Jesus on the cross for our salvation.
Drop the lyrics of your favorite hymn, it might encourage you and as well encourage someone today.
For me, my favorite hymn is JESUS, KEEP ME NEAR THE CROSS (by Fanny Crosby, 1869)

JESUS, KEEP ME NEAR THE CROSS

Jesus, keep me near the cross,
There a precious fountain;
Free to all, a healing stream,
Flows from Calv'ry's mountain.

Refrain
In the cross, in the cross
Be my glory ever,
Till my ransomed soul shall find
Rest beyond the river.

Near the cross, a trembling soul,
Love and mercy found me;
There the Bright and Morning Star
Shed His beams around me.

Near the cross! O lamb of God,
Bring its scenes before me;
Help me walk from day to day
With its shadow o'er me.

Near the cross! I'll watch and wait,
Hoping, trusting ever;
Till I reach the golden strand,
Just beyond the river.

Yes is your leg o. Handling the machine is also risky.
You can click the Facebook link above, it'll direct you to the guy's post on how the machine works. Just a minutes video

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In a bit to reduce the risk of contracting the Corona Virus disease, the Bennie Agro tech, a Jos based Agro/Automobile company created better and safer machine for washing of hands. It is a foot match dispenser. With the foot match dispenser, your hand will not have to switch on the tap, all you need do is to press it with your leg and the soap, water or hand sanitizer will be dispensed to your hand. It has three sections each with their leg pads: Soap, Water and Hand Sanitizer.

See it in the image below.

Video of Jerry Mallo, the CEO of the company showing it's usage can be watched on his Facebook via the link;
https://www.facebook.com/100002922170016/posts/2790470927726952/?app=fbl

Also recall that last year, the company displayed the first Nigerian Made sports car called Bennie Purrie.

Let's encourage this young man
Let's share it

In a bit to reduce the risk of contracting the Corona Virus disease, the Bennie Agro tech, a Jos based Agro/Automobile company created better and safer machine for washing of hands. It is a foot match dispenser. With the foot match dispenser, your hand will not have to switch on the tap, all you need do is to press it with your leg and the soap, water or hand sanitizer will be dispensed to your hand. It has three sections each with their leg pads: Soap, Water and Hand Sanitizer.

See it in the image below.

Video of Jerry Mallo, the CEO of the company showing it's usage can be watched on his Facebook via the link;
https://www.facebook.com/100002922170016/posts/2790470927726952/?app=fbl

Also recall that last year, the company displayed the first Nigerian Made sports car called Bennie Purrie.

Let's encourage this young man

Share if you can

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Spark2:
Does any one know why the other flag was there?

Does any one know why the other flag was there?

garyaustin:
Try YouTube and also search for Helen Ibeh. Helen has some very good Guitar tutorials on you tube.

Thanks a lot bro. I'd do that

onward4life:
I try da tin once

E be like learning

How to pick stone rice online

What do you mean pls?
Was it helpful?

Hello fam!
Please who can help me?
I have a guitar since two years now but I've not been able to learn because of lack of time and dedication for it.
Now that I have to stay at home all day because of the COVID 19.
Please can you help out in any way?

Thanks

Please I need your advice.
I am 24 years old and I have dream of going into lecturing.
While serving last year in Kano, I applied for MSc at the Bayero University Kano. I completed the service last year and I was as well Lucky to get the admission. I am still in Kano now looking for what to do. I for now teach in a primary school where I am paid 20k per month. I have as well dropped application in my undergraduate university where I graduated the best in my class. There's hope for me as one of my professors promised to follow my application up for me as he'd love to have me back in the department.

My Dadd agreed to sponsor the MSc but I am quite confused wether to accept the admission (which is closing this week) or not.
I feel that if I accept the admission I will suffer because I'd have to leave the 20k job I'm doing.
Why will I at this stage depend on my Dadd, If I accept it, will it be proper for me to be asking for little money from parents?
Don't you think I'd suffer as it might demand much money?
Why shouldn't I forget the MSc and look for a job?
I need advice as I have only today to decide.

Thanks

Loop1:
*one less competitor to worry about .thank you village people* .

You'd be shocked. I've sent them a mail to cancel my application. I will start a fresh application with a new email. I'd be ready for the worst

I submitted my application to a wrong position what can I do to correct this please?